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Can't remorse
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I'm the go to person in any group of friends that I've been in. I'm the person who won't tell you you're an idiot for an idea, I'll tell you how to improve it, etc. I'm usually very attuned to people's emotions aswell, I know when someone needs to be encouraged or when they are mad without them saying anything.

One problem: I can't express remorse for people (I guess would be the wording to use)?

Like someone tells me their cousin died. I know how I'm supposed to feel and I do, but I can't show it.

My grandpa died and the only thing I could think of to say to my mom was 'Are you alright?'

Seriously. Its not even with just death its anything bad that's happened to someone. The only thing that comes to mind is "Hey! That sucks!" :D

Its not like I try to make light of the situation either. My mind instantly moves to something else.

Now that I really think about it, I don't even feel sorry for myself. I consider myself pretty down to earth, but even so shouldn't I dwell on things for a little while?
Do you think it's normal?
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Comments (7)
Fuhad (17617)
2008-11-12 05:58:42
Emotion is always hard to define and each of us have a built in mechanism to stop us from breaking down (emotionally) It sounds as if you naturally defend yourself from feeling emotion.

I would try to spend time thinking about the situation and what has happened, also try to imagine what the other person may be feeling.
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turnstile43 (9189)
2008-11-27 01:11:01
im the same way.
when it comes to trying to feel sorry for someone, like if a person died, i dont know what to say or do.
or if someone gets hurt, i dont know how to comfort them
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Apathique (18114)
2008-12-02 14:37:16
I'm the same way, but I'm unemotional all the way around. Are you the same? I think that it's just a defense mechanism, you know? Like, some people hole up when someone they are close to dies, while others need to have people around them, sympathizing with them. Your defense mechanism is just to put it out of mind. I like that much more than those people that get all blubbery and make everyone else uncomfortable.
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Moonlit_Heart (20326)
2009-02-18 17:22:21
Don't worry about this. You are not emotionless or anything, because no one is emotionless. One day you'll see through another's eyes and you'll feel sympathy.
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outdoorsky85 (23831)
2009-06-03 21:34:38
I'm the same way. It's hard for me to feel sympathy for them. I think I have a mental block about it, ever since my mother suddenly died in 2004.
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coconbus (20750)
2009-08-10 18:30:32
hahah i feel you on all the line.
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JaiHo_YouAreMyDestiny (22923)
2009-09-14 15:50:06
It can be normal. Maybe you just take a super long time to processes it or are jut REALLY opptimitic. I think it's also a disorder.
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