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Can't stand this little boy!!
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I love my boyfriend.. he is the perfect man..but, I hate his child.. my boyfriend has custody of him and there is no way I could picture myself living with this child.. he is impolite, annoying and he looks just like his mom who I cannot stand.. she is a drug addict, alcoholic and a big looser... I've even asked my boyfriend to see if he could give his child to his parents to adopt him, so we could have our own family, but this seems to be impossible because, his own family "likes this little boy", but will not stand living with him.. i do not know what to do, please help!! my boyfriend has made so many plans for us to have a family together, but this is the only thing which is stopping me from committing to him, no matter how much I love my boyfriend, the feeling against his child goes beyond everything... what to do, what to do?? my boyfriend even thinks he might not be his child but he loves him so much that he will not want to do a DNA test, because he says this will not change his love for him.. I think the best thing for me to do is to forget about this relationship and move on because we have been together for 1 1/2 yr and nothing has changed regarding my feelings for this little rugrat...to be honest, it is not that I hate him, it is that I just want him out of the pic.. I could spend a day with him but not 11 yrs of my life which is until he leaves to college...gosh.. why things cannot be perfect, why live has to be so f*&^&*% complicated?
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Comments (6)
buriedalive (16071)
2009-02-17 01:39:56
I agree, you should just move on. I don't think it would be good for either you or your boyfriend and DEFINITELY not for his son if you stayed together, as having the child around will just put too much pressure on the relationship if you hate him that much. Even if you did manage to make your bf give up living with his son (which you don't really have any right to do) he would resent you too much for you to carry on happily. I do sympathise with you, I feel that way about almost all children, but unless you find some kind of mutually agreed upon middle ground with your bf I don't see how you could continue.
Oh yes, and btw, 90% of children are annoying and impolite, and even more so when they come from broken homes. The child will most likely improve his behaviour if your bf provides stability and maybe some outside help if the kid has anger issues or anything.
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estheregut (20306)
2009-02-17 15:58:18
@: buriedalive
Thank you for your advise and time.
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P00LTOY (15451)
2009-03-21 21:20:59
i agree with buried. if you can't stand the kid, that's how you feel. but it isnt fair to you, your bf, or the kid to stick around. its not a workable situation.
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leakepeter (23008)
2009-05-14 14:12:31
if you love him you will understand what he feels maybe you have to take some time to think it through,because the love he feels for this child is a love of a father and thats why he lives with the child even with all the flaws the child has, so if you cant accept that or overlook it and have more kindness in your heart
to see what that child must feel like, i mean put yourself in his place having to deal with having a mom that left him for drugs whilst having a instable life, and to make it worse his only mother figure which is suppose to be you hates him!!! if i were him i would be pissed off 2 put yourself in his place.
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spidzeedoo (24649)
2009-07-15 11:57:16
that boys life will be ruined if you stay in his life. especially if you marry his dad. his life probably sucks already, he needs a loving and supportive stepmom. you'll just turn him into a serial killer. best to move on.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-10-10 06:37:03
"I think the best thing for me to do is to forget about this relationship..." You are absolutely right to put this father's relationship with his son above your relationship with him.

You may want to step back & get some good help around your jealousy & hostility toward this child. If that turns your feelings around then it may be different.

But otherwise, leave, for the sake of this child, father & yourself. Just make a fresh start & be happy that you've had the courage to be honest with yourself & everyone else & to do no harm.
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