Can't decide on my attractivness

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Yeah, I look good in the mirror but I look awful in pictures.

I am the most attractive man in the world, but other people just can't seem to see it.

I think this ranks high on the list of MOST NORMAL QUESTIONS ASKED.

Yup, all the time.

i think it has to do with lighting.

I'll walk past a window or a mirror and say either:
Dammmnn Lauren looking hot.. Wonder if anyone else thinks so?(;
or...
Fat ass get back to McDonalds, 'cause that Ronald McDonald statue is the only thing that will look at you and smile.

Both of those statements are true...Sadly the mcdonald's one..

story of my life!

Same here, and I also think sometimes that a look super freakin ugly in pictures, but in the mirror I look pretty hot, lol im totally psycho :P

yes it happens to me too. :) some days I think I'm pretty, some days I think I'm fugly >.>

Why do people stare at me so much??? I think I'm pretty in some ways but in other ways I think I look very different from other people. I get a lot of attention from men and I actually don't like the attention so unfortunately I'm very shy and anti-social.

I think some people think they can walk all over me and when I blow up in their face they do not know what to say. I think some people think I'm more social, talkative, flirtatious and when they discover I'm not they don't know how to react.

I really could careless about my attractiveness. I feel so distant from other people. Like I'm not normal, but sometimes I want to be just like them. I wish I knew how to fit in with other people.

the same thing happens 2 me. 1 day, i think i look pretty. & then the next i feel lik i'm ugly. it's weird & i don't get it.

Its the mirror.

All the time!! But it's okay, because im sure ur beautiful!!

yeah its normal i go through this 24/7 i think im ugly one day and the next day im like damn i look good lol im 19 and i still do this but idk its weird sometimes it happends by weeks instead of days i think i am really ugly i hate pictures i think i look wierd lol idk what else to say because im a boy and i still think like this i seriously think im hideous but every body tells me im gorgus or hot or beautiful so dont worry about it it is something you will grow out of

so normal. the important part is to not let those thoughts decide your attitude on life for that day.

idk lol i mean that happens to me... but i constantly try t convince myself that im pretty. and i always get yelled at for not taking compliments very well.... so.... it makes life easier to believe ur always pretty. :)

Yeh it's normal because our self-esteem and confidence always changes. And there are so many variables to consider such as how much light is in the room, how good your skin is that day, how clean your hair looks, how much make-up you have on, what you are wearing, how you are feeling at the time, current mood etc.

Of course I do, everyone has good and bad days. Most of the time I feel way more attractive than I actually am, it's just some sort of defense-mechanism.

You know those people that say they never look good in photos? Or people that are surprised by how good they looked? Well, that's because in a photo they're confronted with an undistorted and unfiltered real image of themselves.

When looking at yourself in a mirror, the brain interprets the data and basically modifies it to fit your idea of what you look like. The same mechanism comes into play when judging other people's appearance in real life. Negative thoughts, low self-esteem and depression among other things make you think that you're uglier than you really are, and vice-versa with narcissists etc. If that makes any sense.

yea thats normal, some days i have about 28 pints of lager then look at myself in the mirror and i find myself sooooooooo attractive, so i rip it off the wall and fuck myself in the mouth

That totally happens to me too!!! Sometimes I get all dressed cute and look great before going out, and then when I go to the bathroom at the club, I'm like 'whoa, hello', and sometimes the opposite happens, I leave the house like 'uhh, I look blah', and then later I see myself even in a photo or the bathroom mirror and it's like 'whoa, hellooo!!!' ...I think it's probably how you are feeling at the given moment, sometimes you feel good, but sometimes you don't!!

Whenever i get a compliment from somebody saying that I look good, i think they're just trying to be nice. I hate the way I look. ABSOLEUTLY HATE IT. Im glad you have confidence. =]

You are perfect! Just the way you are.

Happens to me everyday. I wake up and pass the mirror and think "Damnit! Another damn homeless person breaking into my house again!" then I take a shower and do my hair and say "DAAAAAAAAMMMMMMNNN MAMA! LOOKING GOOOOOD!" (lol, I don't really say that....sometimes. ^^)

of course its normal i go through this everyday lol

YES! And also, I can't ever really grasp what I actually look like, even though I spend tons of time looking in the mirror and at pictures of myself. I just feel like I always have a biased opinion even though I try not to.

Our looks change on a daily basis depending on how well rested we were or what we have been eatinv (you are what you eat). So eat well and sleep well and you will be pleased with your reflection in the mirror every day

don't worry there is nobody as ugly as you and nobody and hot as you either

When I look in the mirror I see two ugly people. Side by side. One of them slaps the other so hard that his shoes fall off.

Im Always drop dead gorgeus

its normal...I go through the same thing

It is normal. When you are down, feeling low or tired, everything looks a little bleaker and any flaws one has seem a little more glaring than usual.

Get over it. You are great because you are YOU!

The Divine Ms. O.

am fookin sexy lyk

i fancie some girl in class but i somtimes think im too unfit

Same here,
I know when I'm hot, I know when I'm ugly.
Even people spot my good days or bad, and I always agree :)

It all depends on your mood and energy. Attractiveness has much less to do with looks than it has to with self confidence and positive energy.
A person can be really hot looking as far as societies ideal goes but they wont get far if they dont carry themselves well and have a good attitude.
Superficial appearances may get you a foot in the door so to speak but if you are flaky, rude or boring etc etc you will be shown the exit pretty quickly.
Those time you feel you look great are probably also the times when you are feeling most confident. People are attracted to confidence like bees to honey.

NORMAL! this happens to me all the time. One day, i will get ready and then look in the mirror and be like "dayummmm i look good", but then days later i will do the same thing and think "why do i bother to go in public?".

I'm glad so many people think it's normal because I do that too.

yes :) but u probably look fine to other people, nobidy notices what u look like most of the time coz they busy worrying about how they look lol

i happens to me all the time...
i blame the mirror

Thought it was just me LOL

I do it allll the time, normaly depends on how close i am to the mirror tho. Lol

It's a perfectly common thing for people to do, I've never in my life, met a person that doesn't.

I am just like that! It's normal. Some mirrors have better lighting than others, some days you are in a better mood, and some days you look more tired than others. Most likely, you still look the same to everyone else.

you need to just chill the fuck out, because who cares!!

hahaha ... a mirror never lies. I find looking at videos I get a pretty consistent idea of myself because its like looking at you from the viewpoint of another person. But looking in the mirror I can never figure it out. Best not to look too much fyi.

Also everyone has different ideas of what is attractive or not. You could be fighting over different ideas of what a person's perception could be. People who don't watch too much Miss Universe would see the beauty in most people. I personally have been surprised by some of the people Ive been attracted to!

Totally normal. I can look at my self in the mirror one minute and think that I'm decent and then, like, an hour later I look again and think, "omg, what happened?!"

I ate Taco Bell a few hours ago.

Tomorrow I will be ugly.

Yup, I can't stand the feeling of looking ugly one day and good the next.

no i always think im ugly :(

i always think i look ugly but if a girl calls me cute or something i think about it all day

I do that! I always get called pretty, and some days I look in the mirror and think 'Aw, maybe I can be pretty' buts that's only when I've made the effort, and there's other times I look in the mirror and pick out all the things that bug me, like...
I have an odd shaped noes
My teeth are stupid
My hair is disgusting
Why can't I be barbie...
You get what I mean?

Yeah, i get it all the time. I especially get it when I haven't slept really good and I get that blue looking color under my eyes. I hate it. But when I put cover up on there, it disappears and I think i look much prettier. What do you find not attractive on those days?

those fun-park mirrors can be confusing. Do you work in the circus?

Sometimes I wish I wasn't attractive. Or that I was at least born into a family where being attractive isn't cause for ridicule.

I think my life would have been so much easier if I was ugly. Is this normal? Or is my depression getting worse..?

If you have doubts you are probably ugly but "fuckable." My recommendation is to stop worrying if it is normal or not. Make yourself skinny and sexually attractive. That's what guys like me want. Also, you have daddy issues. You should get that checked out but send me your number first.

i have'nt had it personally with being hit on by guys but i'm lead to believe that people generally do think i'm Gay, and i dunno but i think it's only because i'm not all macho. it sucks

You must have a face like a camel's scrotum

You probably have depression!

drinking too much maybe

Some girls look ugly without their make up.

It never happens to me. I always know I look good.

yeah, same for me!!
i think, when you take care of your self it happens more and more.

WAY normal. I do it all the time. My facial hair hasn't really started growing but I hate the little hairs! I think it makes me so unattractive!

why is this listed under 'our favorites'

I get exactly the same; mostly with the whole without makeup situations. Sometimes I feel I like good without it, others I just have to put loads on to make myself feel even half appealing.

I believe I am insecure about my appearance and every person gets like it. I mean sometimes I feel like the ugliest person alive and want to just shove a bag on my head and be done with it.

:) At the end of the day, they say its what you think and not what others think, but when you feel like that; everyone else must be thinking it too.

yes its normal i hate when it happens though i want to look good all the time but sometimes i think i look like bad it sucks!

yes.

YEAHH!!it s the fuckin truth, it happens to me all the time... in sum picz I look really ugly and I hate myself, but I ve got others uploaded and I get comments from hot girls giving me lots of compliments, so I really don t know... I just think it this way: if supermodels or hollywood actors were that good looking why would they need like 10 people to do a photosession or people to edit their photos??, and even more impressive, is that they don t look for regular people to do that job, they look for people with degrees and studys and excperience and all that stuff...

Blame your mirror

same..

I get it all the time!

Don't worry, you're hot!

yea this happens to me all depends on your mood at the time

You're NOT crazy. I also have ever-changing view of myself. I think that it's normal. ;)

It happens to me always.

My opinion of myself fluctuates.

Absolutely! This happens to everyone with no exceptions. It could be because of what someone told you, your mood at the moment, or even just the lighting in the room that makes you feel different about your physical appearance.

Most definitely, however it doesn't fluctuate based on the day but rather the time of day as well as other factors. My clothing, my hair, my skin. One minor blemish can change my entire opinion of myself, and if someone calls me attractive that makes me feel even more unattractive until I reflect on the compliment many hours later. Sigh, I hate my insecurities but they keep me from being arrogant about my average looks.

Depends on whether or not I've got make-up on or if I've done my hair.

Post pics and then we'll all say you're ugly regardless of what you look like, just to be pricks.

Lol this is pretty much the story of my life :D~

I do that all the time

All the time ;-0

alot of people go though this i mean you could just be having a bad day

EVERYDAY!!

Yes.

Everyone goes through that, that's life

Yeah I feel the same. It like depends on how you feel. If your glum, down, sad, or depressed you have a frown and your features sulk. If your tired, you might have dark circles under your eyes. (on me I was born with dark rings under my eyes!) If your happy your features are perked and hotastic!

Yeah this happens to me lol

Same here.

Yeah I usually think i'm pretty good looking but sometimes Im just not, especially when I look at myself in the mirror when I'm beligerant at a party somewhere...

yes, me too, however, I also have the reverse- I look in the mirror and think I look really good but then I feel like others dont really view me as attractive as I feel that I look!

THAT IS MEEEE

everyday

exactly the same for me, i cant stop looking in mirrors to see how i look. and each look fuelling the next as im dissapointed how im looking =S its horrible.

yes its just your insurcuritys happens to me all the time. but dont let it try and fool you.

All the fucking time but I usually think I am like vomit

yes! i usally try to trick myself though and say hey maybe i do look pretty and i convience myself its true but its notxD and im sure your gorgeous so dont worry about it;]

Yh alot of the time lol :)

ha more like every few hours

I do that too lol some days I feel fat some days I look different it's pretty normal

That's the story of my life. Some days I feel gorgeous and confident with my appearance, and other days I just want to break all the mirrors in the world. So yes, you are normal.

definantly i do that all the time(well kinda) sept i normaly dont look at my self like im pretty i acually think im quite ugly :p

Yea.... that happens to me too, i dont know why though

Believe me for someone who has never seen you, you're probably Ugly..

But your eyes are use to seeing you, so they may think your hott or somthing

Everyday of my life.

I noticed when I'm happier I look better and when I'm depressed I look like a fat hog. It's all in how we perceive ourselves which is bull spit cause we won't ever really know what we look like to other people.

:)yes me too

I deal with this problem a lot.

It doesn't matter how much or often someone else tells me I'm beautiful or attractive, I still do it. There are days when I feel like I look amazing and I'm full of confidence, and then other days, I feel like I look terrible and there's nothing I can do about it.
I've always had issues with self-esteem, so maybe that's the cause of it.

I often wonder what other people see when they look at me, like when I'm having conversations with someone or interacting in crowds.

Everyone questions themselves sometimes, just try to make it look like you dont. Thats the secret ;)

When u don't see me I'm alil bit of everywhere

It happens when you dont feel too confident

normal im the same way haha today was a pretty day

100% normal

i have been feeling hideous this week

You appear to have the Drew Barrymore syndrome

Normal normal normal!

A MIRROR NEVER LIES!!!!!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dismorphic_disorder

when i have make-up on and i look in the mirror i think i look quite nice as i have a heart shaped face ie. rounded with a pointed chin, niceish eyes and good jawline. then i see some of the photos i am in and i think GOD I'M GHASTLY. i think its something about my nose or my skin colour..
i don't look good in pictures straight on and i have pale skin so in some photos my nose and cheeks can look pinkish which is really attractive (!)
i have pale eyebrows because i have strawberry blonde hair and pale eyelashes too. my features look bland when i don't colour them with liner or mascara. wish i had dark eyelashes!
camera flash is my enemy. black and white photographs are so much more flattering. i wish i lived in the age of the black and white camera.

important thing is whats inside

I am the same way!

All the time! Sometimes I think I'm pretty and others I just think I'm really ugly and fat

Yep. Its so frustrating. I start feeling really low on days I think I look hideous but on days I think I look good im so happy and confident. Not sure whether its a mental thing or what?

hahahahah it happens to me all the time haha!! sometimes im like. yeah i look irresistible!! and then, who would like such an ugly guy lol

It's normal, I think 99% of people do it... apart from truly butt ugly people.

Yeah, it really kills your self confidence, because you always think other people see you that way, too.

All the time. Sometimes I think "wow, nice hair today...or my eyes glow or whatever." then the next day ill go, where did my nice hair go? normal honey .

perfectly normal. i do that all the time.

i totally agree with you! some days im like " i am NOT going out today" others im like " OMG! u look so good ur hair is great ur clothes are awesome! lets go flaunt it!" so yea normal

omg ! yes , like i absoloutltey hate it when people are like omg ur soo sosooosos pretty or guys r like ur hot ! . like no i think that i am hideously ugly , but other people say that i am beautiful :( . i cant decide on what to think i am !

Most of the time I think I look ok. I've never thought of myself as pretty or beautiful but average. Sometimes I do think im ugly, I think it depends what type of day you had.

It depends on my mood. If I'm angry or my hormones are playing up I think I'm fat and disgusting. Other times when I'm happy, obviously, I think I'm gorgeous. My self esteem and self perception depends on my mood.

But when it comes to pictures - well they say the camera adds 10 pounds. Let's hope they're not lying because I look obese in full body shots when I'm not that fat in the mirror.

Same here

That excact thing happens to me too!!

Same

The same thing just about happens with me! In the mornings I spend ages in the bathroom, looking at myself in the mirror because I look so attractive but once the sun comes out the lighting affects the appearance of my face, when I'm in certain rooms, looking in certain mirrors or in certain lighting I feel like crying and having a breakdown. I've had minor acne in the past, everytime I get a spot it always leaves a mark, I didn't really eat healthily or treat my skin well in the past so I'm left with a slight pigmentation on my cheeks which is visible in bright light. However I refuse the believe that I'm ugly, I have green eyes and long eyelashes with full lips and I get meaningful compliments on my eyes and smile from time to time, besides everybody is beautiful in their own way. I hate the word "Ugly" anyway, it shouldn't be used as an insult towards people, it's such a hurtful word and the people that use it don't even realise it. =[

Yeah . I do it 24/7 ! I don't know why, but it's just something that happens

Yay! Someone like me! I'm just really excited because I finally took a good photo of myself. I think. Tomorrow I'll probably hate it. I think part of it is brain chemistry, and part is lighting, and part is styling/clothes.

This happens to me always.It seems really crazy, but if on a certain day I feel like I look pretty and I go out and take pictures, I will love all of them and think I look great in all of them; even days or months later I will think I still look good, because I remember that day I felt like I looked pretty. the exact opposite is true for days I feel ugly. I think it's psychological to be honest.you can have your bad days but no one goes from ugly to pretty so quickly.

OMG.. i do that all the time. At the beggining there are comments talking about how people feel they look better in the mirror then in photos. Execpt for me, it's reverse. I think i'm very photogenic, and if i try to look bad/funny in a pic then i can be extremley un photogenic. My friends say I have the best faces. Back to the original topic, I agree and it's confusing. Most of the time when I have makeup on though, I feel pretty, and when i dont, well thats when I feel not as attractive. Which is pretty lame to admit

i do that too!like one day i'll think i look bad and the naxt day i think i look great and its soo weird.i think it might have to do with the lighting.

I feel the exact same way I feel ugly when I compare myself to someone so pretty and how I wish I had their eyes or nose or hair but then I think what is wrong with me I get compliments about how pretty I am and clearly I'm not ugly but I just keep comparing myself to others...it's very frustrating

I'm the same way

It seems that you're looks and based on your self esteem.

I truly believe that everybody looks worse in pictures that aren't well-lit and professional. Normal lighting is just way better than the flash.

I'm the exact same way <

yeh i look different eveytime i look at a mirror its like i change ...

yea, some days i look in the miror and i say " Wow i look like a complete dumster fire." and other days im like "Damn im sexy." its normal

Some people are completely egotistical and always think they're attractive...

Some think they're always unattractive and have poor self-esteem.

........

It is better to be versatile.

Come to terms with what YOU think you are; don't compare yourself to others, but just look at yourself from another perspective (;

I'm the same way, it's like some days your face morphs to look ugly, and some days to look hot.

Yes. With me, it's a day by day thing.

Yep

sometimes i look in the mirror and feel awful. Then when i go out and someone compliments me on my looks i check the mirror again and feel pretty again :D

I seem to look better at night and when I have nowhere to go, but in the morning and when I have to go somewhere I look like a damn wreck.

I get like this all the time.

It's like, sometimes I wake up and my eyes look really bright and big and I have smooth skin and my hair is tangle to fuckery and my fringe is all nice, and I'm just like, aah. *content sigh*

then SOME mornings I wake up with chinese looking eyes (no offence), severe bags, and I look like I've been dragged through a bush.

I think its just because sometimes we look too closely at all the details and watever and others dont see that. or maybe were all just fucking disgusting.

3 out of ten

No 2

I get why you can't decide this is hard!

Ok ok

Zero out of ten

When I look from afar, I see that I look not so attractive than when I looked from close up.

It's OK. It's not an abnormal problem. To be more exact, it's not a problem at all!

We overanalyze ourselves.

cover the mirror my girlfriend did that and got rid of these issues, it is all mental

You don't need to look good when your vagina is 8 miles wide.