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Caught in a dry spell and depressed. Please help.
I'm a 22 year-old guy and I'm going to school right now. It's been over a year since the last time I've had any sex. I've had a couple of relationships but they were short and rocky at best. I would consider myself at least not-bad-looking, lol, and I'm really not bad with women. I can walk up to a girl and start up a conversation and maybe walk away with her number. I've gotten several numbers and I've taken several women out for coffee. The only thing is, I'm having NO success whatsoever with bringing my aquaintance with a woman to the next level. I haven't had sex with anybody (not even casual sex at a party or what have you) and I haven't had any signs of getting involved with somebody that I'm attracted to. The semester's almost over with and I didn't get one smidgen of luck. It's killing me. I'm better with women than I've ever been in my whole life, yet nothing's happening. I'm so frustrated and sometimes I just feel like giving up on it. Is it normal for guys my age to be in this situation? If so, I'll take any kind of advice at this point. Please oh please help me out.
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Before you have success, there wil be failures. That's just the way it is. There is a way in which you can find out why you're not getting any success: join a dating website. I'm not saying this to imply that you're desperate. In fact, that's hardly so. Dating websites present the harshest of environments when it comes to finding a mate. It feels like a meat market sometimes and people make snap judgments on you like how you will do the same to others. But this is where you will learn about women and yourself and where if you fail, you can easily pick yourself up and move on. I've learnt lots and I hope you do the same.
You said you've thought about just giving up... Instead, just take a break. That's the best thing to do, and it keeps you from trying too hard.
When you decide to take some time off, it's easier to make female friends, and it's pretty common for male-female friendships to become more in time, but it's easier when you're not trying to push it there.
I'd say take some time off, get your head clear and don't worry about it. Make some more friends, study hard. Everyone has dry spells, and taking a break from trying will give you a chance to see things from a fresh perspective.