Clash of Religion

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Tbh, if you wanna be with this guy long term it could be really hard to make it work. Witnesses (or at least the ones I know) tend not to associate too closely with 'worldly' people, and so his family aren't likely to accept you very easily unless you are planning to convert. It would mean strictly no sex before marriage as well, which is probably going to be more difficult the longer you stay together. The reason he's mentioning religion more often now could be because his family are pressuring him to think about the long term, as in marriage and kids, which he's probably going to have to do with someone of his own religion or someone who would let him raise children in the religion.
That said, if you really like him or love him, you should keep tryin to make it work. Just tell him you don't want to argue about his faith anymore, and that he should respect your views on it.

just dont disagree with him when he starts talking about religion just nod your head and space out for a bit,

I am also an atheist. I would NEVER date a religious person. It might seem ok at first but the how would u raise ur children, ect... I would just put it off..

become agnostic, its the same but ur focused on logic and not god or any Religion, tell him u have no interest in the matter of any Religion right or wrong, say u will die and i guess ill find out then...

im also an atheist if i ever got into such a situation i think we would filp a coin for the first child and then alternate belief systems so if i won i would get to teach my first child the wonders of non belief and she could teach the second one religion

you are right though its not a simple solution for that reason but some people seem to make it work.

what really scares me in such a religious country is if i ever got divorced she could just go into the custody hearing and if the judge was a religious fundamentalist appointed by a republican governor such as huckabee or bush i could lose the rights to have or even see my children based on my lack of faith.

sorry poster i dont know how your going to make this work. I wish you luck however

Anyone who argues about religion is simply broadcasting their ignorance.

The greatest minds in all of recorded history have been arguing this question for thousands of years to no good effect, so it seem pretty pointless to expect a casual argument between two relatively unsophisticated people to settle it (I know I'm making a big assumption there, but no insult intended).

You see, you too have a fundamental difference in your standards of belief: You demand evidence and reason to justify belief; he thinks that truth is "revealed."

It's an aesthetic choice, really. You might think that life is a wonderful accident, a rare brief moment in time. And you might hate the idea that it's something inflicted on you by a god that really should have been able to better.

Who knows what your friend thinks, but he likes his feelings of certainty and purpose, and he would probably say that without god, life has no meaning.

If you keep it up, you both might become quite good at presenting your arguments, but you will never settle this question.

Interesting, isn't it? You seem able to tolerate the discord, although you're getting a little bored of it. You friend and his family, however, seem to feel genuinely threatened by your existence.

lie to him and tell him u believe everything he sais now and you saw the light then on his deathbed tell him it was a lie so you could stay with him....lol joke sorry couldnt resist.

Nope this is a relationship that will never work unless you decide to convert. Please end it and look for someone else. If you fool yourslef into thinking you can change him you are very wrong.

omg!!!!im a Jehovah's Witness to...just try to understand...i had an Atheist teacher and me and her didnt get along too well..but ask him to show to some scriptures to help you get a better understanding of where hes coming from...that works every time...trust me!! hope i helped!

well, depends how much you want to be with him, If you do then forget what family and friends say....

Religious people are kooks, find someone else.

Those people are motivated by guilt, fear and shame.

I'm an atheist too, but my boyfriend is a Christian. I haven't told my parents or anyone that I don't believe in God because I'm afraid of how they will react, but my boyfriend knows, and he doesn't care in the least. I think you should find someone that accepts who you are. I'm sure you can find a great new guy! :)

Go for a Catholic the are the better ones. Avoid the Muslims, and Just be a decent Human being. who loves other living things around them.

Hmmm... You should probably end the relationship. I hate to sound too harsh, but it is essential, in my experience, to have common life goals to make a relationship work. It just seems like this is a disaster waiting to happen. Everyone is entitled to have their own beliefs, but when you are dealing with a religious person, a difference in those beliefs is usually something they will not be willing to overlook from my experience.

I would say some religious combinations can work it out. I am Christian and I married a Hindu and we are ok with it. We have kids and are teaching them both religions and they can pick when they grow up. We both believe in God so I think this is our unifying factor. I would never have married an atheist.

The Jehovah Witness/Atheist I don't see that as a combo that can work. If you ever marry and have children it will be expected that your children be Jehovah Witnesses. If it ever gets to marriage.