Compulsive liar deserves what?

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Not normal. Maybe you should find a similar person to settle down with, then you can lie to each other all day long.

liar.
u can't be satisfied to be called like that for the rest of you life. I honestly think you need some kind of therapy to control yourself.
Live better.

"I live a normal life but everything I say is a lie..." So you are not normal. You like to trick people and hold them in contempt. You have no integrity. You are inherently untrustworthy, so no one wants to connect with you. And you must be clueless that as a liar, you aren't getting what you deserve.

Obvious fake.

I didn't believe a word of it.

i don't think it's fake, and i think it's more normal than you would think. I can't stand lying or liars... i had a girlfriend once that was super cool in every respect except she was a compulsive liar. I didn't realize at first, but as time went by i started noticing more and more... eventually i started trying to catch her in lies and setting her up in situations where she would lie just so i could call her out on it... it progressively got worse, and we split up... i got married to another person for five years and then when my marriage ended up not working this girl contacted me after the divorce. it turns out she really did have very strong feelings for me. despite all her lies she really loved me, but she couldn't control herself, i don't think she even realized how much she did it. she made things up to feel better about herself, not to hurt other people. she realized it was driving us apart and couldn't stand that, but was unable to control herself. she knew it was ruining her life, but there was nothing she could do about it because it was an unconscience habit to her or something... like when a smoker knows they are killing themselves but can't force themselves to stop smoking or when a person can't stop over eating... that was just a part of her. i think you have a real problem, and i think it will be just as hard stopping as it would be for an addict. you just have to catch yourself whenever you do it, and try to stop... try to tell the truth even if it hurts someone or whatever... (do i look fat? Yes, yes you do.) make it a sense of personal pride that you tell the truth, just like when you see a person that quit cigarettes-- they always have to tell you they don't smoke anymore, and when they stopped ... it's an accomplishment for them that they feel very proud of.

Wow! You REALLY need to get laid.

everyone lies but ur one of those mofos tht u cant trust how do u live with ur self why dont u just rob a bank next and blame it on a dog!

I think I may be doing the exact same thing.
No matter how emotionally connected I am with someone, I lie about pretty much everything.

how do we know you're not lying now?

I can say I used to do the same thing with white lies. It was completely mundane inconsequential things I lied about. I mostly edited things depending on who I was talking to. I think, for me, it had to do with feeling my regular life is boring as hell and if people knew how boring I was I wouldn't be able to make any connections or have any type of relationship. It's a subconscious defense mechanism. I used to do this a lot when I was younger because a pretty traumatic childhood (who doesn't have one of those?) and it just carried over into my early adulthood. I'd honestly talk to a therapist. Hell, every one of my friends and I have one.

At least, since you're aware and concerned about your behavior, I can pretty much tell you you're not a sociopath.

My best friends is like that
I think it's just a part of who she is, and I've accepted that about her
Although she lies alot, me and her are still able to be very close
I think she knows that I know, and dosen't do it around me as much when it's just me and her, but I can't be sure
Though I think it would be MUCH better for her if she got professinal help
I think you should too, not to be mean, but because this could really effect your life in many bad ways.
I see her cause so much drama and trouble in life because she just keeps lieing, and I wish more than anything that she wouldn't
hope things work you for you

Exactly - not trustworthy. Liars are arrogant about this & just fool themselves. As Josephene Tey pointed out: criminals are arrogant.

neither do i i think its just another one of there lies

i dont beleive you

I think i have the same problem as you. I have lied ever since I was a small child because it would bring me attention, yet I had a pretty normal life. Lying quickly became a habit, to a point where I didn't even lie for the attention anymore, it became part of my personality and saying the truth felt awkward. I didn't think about it either that much, just I would open my mouth and the lie would pop out, an impulse. I never felt real remorse for it or even pleasure for the deceit. Like you said, it just made things a little better, but the possibility of every being caught in a lie would terrify me.

I had never given much thought to my lying until I started a serious relationship last year. He was a very honest and hard working person who I admire more than anyone. Just being around him made me aware of how sick and stupid my lying is. More than that, he didn't deserve to be lied to. We broke up about five months ago and I moved away. Since then I have been determined to use my new beginning to quit lying.

I have to admit that I have lied at least 10 times since, but that is really a lot of progress considering I used to lie more than that per day. It has not been easy, I have to be careful and think of what I say. Sometimes I have the impulse of lying when talking to people, but then I stop and say, "no, wait, that's not right" and correct it.

Slowly, telling the truth is becoming easier. I have realized that I don't have to tell amazing stories or exaggerate my personality to make friends. I realize how much my lying alienated me from people. I have a very long way to go before I have a normal life and real friendships, but already I feel much better. I no longer have to stress about being caught in a lie and I am slowly becoming more comfortable with my true self.

I know some of you might not believe me, but I guarantee you it are true. And I know some of you might be disgusted by my behavior, and I have to say that you are right in doing so... it is a sick and horrible habit. But if any of your friends ever confess to you that they are compulsive liars, before cutting them off of your life, please consider that admitting such a thing takes a lot of courage and if they are doing so it is because they want to get better. Behind those lies there's a lot of insecurity and pain (at least in my case), not necessarily bad intentions. A little before and after my ex and i broke up, I went through some serious depression as I realized that my whole life had been a huge lie and I had no real connections to anyone. I hated myself for it, sometimes I still do.

But there are always new beginnings, so if any of you are compulsive liars trying to quit, I wish you the best of luck and lots of strength