Confidence,self esteem, making new friends

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Hey this is a question not an insult, but do you feel like your dumb and stupid aswell, or there might be something wrong in your head because of the way you feel?

Or you think there might be something wrong in your head because of the way you feel?

i posted this, and reply to Turdburger, are u being serious or taking the mick?

I was being serious.

Put yourself out-there, that's the way to go. The best way to gain confidence is to have experience. ur way to self-conscious, verging on paranoid; Just try not to care what other people think, even though it's probably the hardest thing for some people to do.
You will get dickheads who'll brush you off, but there are others out there who'll convo with u

if you know your pretty and have a good personality then talk to new people. get over yourself

hey, im looking for sumone to talk to aswel add my msn if ya want, n4th4n-09@hotmail.co.uk

nathan-90****

ok, i dont feel dumb and stupid.
sometimes i feel awkward but not dumb and stupid

Footfan90
thank you for the advice, il try it.

Well, there isnt much you can do apart from Live life and just take the risks! Whats the worse that could happen?

Hey hon, hear me now and chill.

Some things to remember - You are 15, and going through a lot of changes, and no I don't mean just hormoanal and physical... Look, *I* remember how it was, I was feeling gawky and geeky and like second best all the time - in relation to my friends; who SEEMED popular, prettier, more experienced with boys and generally Better than me.

Here's the thing, (and I didn't learn this until Years later) most of them were going through the Exact same thoughts, feelings, worries, gripes and desires that I was. One of my best friends, a girl who I thought the sun rose and set on - she was so "Perfect" took her mom's gun and blew her brains out through the back of her head. - Turned out SHE was feeling depressed and lonely and upset because she PERCEIVED (spelling, sorry) that othrers were talking bad about her constantly behind her back. (Nobody was either, so far as I know.)

And boys... At that age, most boys are even MORE nervous, they just cover it by acting like complete retards, sometimes.

Point it, when you are out and about with friends, it may help to realize that, in spite of how things look To You, MANY of them are Just as nervous and scared about life and suych as you are.

Be yourself, poster, the world Needs more people like you!

Tobra

I understand how you feel. I am a guy and I am only starting to attract attention at age 34. I have always been too timid before and girls have seemed to want to shun me or ignore me in the past, but now, for some funny reason they are having conversations with me. I just wish I could keep them going. I dont feel Ive changed but the way they treat me has (I never thought it would happen). Keep talking to people and I think you will get more confidence as time goes on, which will make them respond to you better. I have not got to the point where I can get people to go out with me on dates or be my girlfriend, but I feel that will happen soon,

That is a common problem as most have stated above.

I am 19 years old and I still feel gawky sometimes. There has never been a day in my life where I haven't questioned my beauty or intelligence.

But you have to project confidence. I'm not even kidding when I say that confidence is the thing that will pull you through.

I knew a girl in my high school, she was down right ugly (no offense to her). But she always had an extremely attractive boyfriend. Why? She thought she was the shit and projected an overwhelming confidence.

Sometimes though it can be precieved as concieded. But that's what you just might need.

I talk to strange people for a living and sometime they chase me away and other times we get along great. If you're not lying and you are good looking and friendly you should have a healthy hit rate. Out of every 10 people you'll approach you'll be able to have a good conversation and become friends with like 7 (I guess). lol. But you're going to have to get kicked in the shins every once in a while. And don't worry. People are like that. Some are great and others are sh*t. F*ck it. And if they get too sh*t you throw sand in their eyes, punch them in their stomach and kick them in the face. Easy peasy.