Confused. lesbian, bisexual?

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Sex can get old really easily, no matter what kind of relationship you're in and alot of people are really inconsiderate. And alot of girls feel like they don't ever want to date another guy again after a bad relationship. You're probably bisexual, but you don't really have to define yourself. Just be who you are, dat who you want to date and do what makes you happy. Too many people pass over people who could very well be their perfect match because of gender.

its possible that you are a lesbian or bisexual, but that doesnt mean you are not "normal". theres nothing wrong with being either and you shouldnt feel as if there is.
dont worry about it and explore your feelings if you can, just be yourself.

i don't know if you ever saw the movie Prayers For Bobby on Lifetime, but basically it was about a guy who came out gay to his family & they didn't approve of it because of their religion & Bobby ended up killing himself because his parents didn't accept him. I think that if you turn out to be bisexual or lesbian, that you shouldn't tell your parents until you're 18. That way, if they don't accept you, you can just keep them out of your life...but PLEASE don't let them run your life & please don't let them make you end your life either.

all girls think they're are lesbian or bi then they grow up and get married, you'll be fine.

I am in the exact SAME situation..i feel protected with guys but i am sexually attracted to both..i hate men because alot of them hurt me in the past..maybe it has something to do with it ! but hey who knows..just try to be sexually comfortable with girls before getting into a relationship cuz first times relationships can seam ackward ..

Im a 30 yr old lesbian...i dated men till i was 24...when u meet the right girl u will know and u will have ur first girl sex.lol

everyone goes through this stage eventually they figure it out gay or not u will get through this dont rush urself if u are religous pray if it helps u to talk 2 people seek counseling but remenber 2 enjoy life in general maybe you dont really want a relationship right now or maybe u havent found the right person

I think it's hard for you to judge just yet. Date a girl see how it goes, date another guy just in case. After that examine how you feel.

check out Foucault on the subject. Basically this sexual identity or sexuality - I'm gay I'm straight I'm lesbian doesn't exist. There are just acts you perform with other people. He contrasted our view with the Ancient Greeks who cared about moderation and self control. To them a moral person was one who could control their lusts but in moderation they could screw men boys or girl. Your parents are right. Homosexual acts are sinful.

well, let me tell ya, you are young. let the time decide.

From my experiences with my friends' emotions. It sounds like you're into girl more than boys. However that is from what I can tell over the whole story. It really sucks being in that spot. I know people who have both side of having parents support them or not. It is a good idea to wait until after you're out of the house to say it to your parents. If you're really worried why not talk a guyfriend who you feel you can trust. There is a type of dating that involves one or more partners dating in order to hide whats really going on.

I was in a relationship for 4 years with a female (I'm female) before I finally realized that it wasn't what I wanted. That whole time, we kept our relationship secret from friends and parents. When I ended it ,I knew I had to tell my mom the truth about us because my partner took it really hard and my mom didn't understand why she was being so dramatic.(For all my mom knew I just ended a friendship nothing more). It was hard to get the words out and I was so scared of her judging me but in the end she was happy I could finally tell her the truth. So, in conclusion to that rather long story I just want to say, I think you should try dating a girl and if it's right for you..tell your parents and you may be surprized and really relieved.

It sounds like you know that you are bisexual and that you feel it necessary to pick a side! you cant help but be who you are buddy. so i think do what you want...or do who you want and its completely up to you who you share your personal life with. date a woman and who knows maybe you will find out your the percentage of people who really dont need sex but a deep personal relationship with someone caring!

Coming from experience, I knew from a young age I like the physicality of a man and a woman. My parents were very accepting of my sexuality and so were my friends. The only problem I found was that other people (mainly men) were a bit...scared I guess about a woman and a woman being together in front of their face but were fine with watching girl on girl pornography.
Back to the subject, be who YOU want not what everyone else thinks you should be. Look at everything around you what do YOU perceive it as, forget everything you have been told about it and think about what YOU see it as. If you see a heterosexual couple walking down the street hand in hand, that is seen as acceptable by most people because that's what they have been taught, but to someone it may be completely wrong and disgusting.
You are you. If you don't find men all that appealing after having a 11 month relationship with a man, then go for a woman.
If your parents love you as much as they should say they do, then they have a duty to accept who you are and what you are. If they don't and you are happy with what you are, then be happy and if they want to be removed from your life let them have their way. Just be happy. Think a about you and what you want, not what everyone else wants.

Sooner or later you will return to the johnson.

you just want a good guy. not one who's a jerk or ignorant. you don't wanna be used or treated badly. you want something/somebody better. keep looking. people are people. i think guys once they're gay they're done. but girls it's different.

i like females, too. but i'm male.