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Creepy cousin
I've been struggling with this issue for sometime now. My husband and I have been married for over 2 years and I keep having difficulty accepting his cousin will always be possessive of him.
We met through her (though we never became close friends). She introduced us and then wanted to know more intimate details of our relationship. It didn't stop there. When she continued to direct us that we needed to move near her once we married, I let her know that we will move wherever we find jobs and wherever we are comfortable. She was not happy with my response. She begged for me to "please don't take my cousin away from me." (She would frequently joke that the motive behind introducing us was to get him to move closer.) We stopped talking shortly thereafter (roughly 2 years ago).
I had confronted my husband on the issue at the time and he said that they were never close, they only met a handful of times as children and each was a brief meeting. He was happy with the way I handled it.
She did attend our wedding and wore a white summer dress, and other family members had warned me that she had always been possessive of him but he was oblivious. In my stupidity, I naturally thought her possessiveness would end because 1.she was married (since he and I married she is now divorced), and 2.she has two very young kids. My husband says he is uncomfortable around her and he knows that I am uncomfortable around her.
We were told that she wouldn't be at a recent family gathering and she was, and family kept coincidentally leaving us in the same room with her. Over the last two years, the other family members kept telling me how upset she was with me. She is 2 years older than him and 1 year older than me. When we saw her at this last gathering, she hugged him longer than others, followed us around the party, and when in the same room she kept walking near him (back and forth). I don't want to be on the defensive and neither does he, the long hugging was unexpected. What is our best course of action for dealing with her?
We met through her (though we never became close friends). She introduced us and then wanted to know more intimate details of our relationship. It didn't stop there. When she continued to direct us that we needed to move near her once we married, I let her know that we will move wherever we find jobs and wherever we are comfortable. She was not happy with my response. She begged for me to "please don't take my cousin away from me." (She would frequently joke that the motive behind introducing us was to get him to move closer.) We stopped talking shortly thereafter (roughly 2 years ago).
I had confronted my husband on the issue at the time and he said that they were never close, they only met a handful of times as children and each was a brief meeting. He was happy with the way I handled it.
She did attend our wedding and wore a white summer dress, and other family members had warned me that she had always been possessive of him but he was oblivious. In my stupidity, I naturally thought her possessiveness would end because 1.she was married (since he and I married she is now divorced), and 2.she has two very young kids. My husband says he is uncomfortable around her and he knows that I am uncomfortable around her.
We were told that she wouldn't be at a recent family gathering and she was, and family kept coincidentally leaving us in the same room with her. Over the last two years, the other family members kept telling me how upset she was with me. She is 2 years older than him and 1 year older than me. When we saw her at this last gathering, she hugged him longer than others, followed us around the party, and when in the same room she kept walking near him (back and forth). I don't want to be on the defensive and neither does he, the long hugging was unexpected. What is our best course of action for dealing with her?
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like cabinet said ^
maybe move or put a restraining order on her if it gets worse...
dont know.
But in all seriousness, you need to be direct and just call her on it or she'll never stop.
With your husband beside you, tell her straight up. And have your husband tell her that she's creeping him out. Obviously, we have a case of Delusional B***h, here.
And then move. At future family gatherings, do not mention where you moved out loud.
Get a Restraining Order if you need to. She has issues. It is not uncommon for a cousin to like another cousin but just consider it kind of like a psycho ex-girlfriend or a stalker.
She Is Totally Crazy,
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