I know having a crush on your teacher is not a big deal and that it happens to a lot of teens. I wasn't that shocked when I first found myself having a crush on a male teacher, but I've discovered that through out the years I have developed crushes on more than one teacher (all male). Honestly, I'm just confused. Why do I keep developing these crushes? It has not been on every teacher that is male. Physical appearance is a factor with me but I'm not shallow when it comes to looks.
Is there a reason I crush on my guy teachers that I'm not seeing, and is it crazy for me to expect someone out there to have the answer I can't even find myself?
Guys my age are so insensitive, brutish and loud - they don't know how to treat girls right. When you have a close contact with an adult man you discover that they are mature enough to look after you - they have years of life experience under their belt (lol) and they aren't as afraid of being themselves.
Liking older men IS normal - girls mature faster than guys and you having crushes on teachers just show you are a mature human being :)
I had a crush on the gym teacher (30ish) in 2nd/3rd grade.
I had a crush on a substitute (27ish) in the 4th grade.
I had a crush on the band teacher (30ish) in 6th grade.
I fell in love with my history teacher (35) in 9th/10th/11th grade.
I fell in love with another history teacher (41) in 11th/12th grade.
I had a crush on an english teacher (24) in 12th grade.*
*Though, I have to say every single girl in the highschool fell in love with that english teacher... He's gorgeous and completely amazing, so that one doesn't exactly count.
I think, for me anyway, having crushes/ falling in love with older men stems from the problems that my father and I have relating to one another. We often get into fights and for several years, I felt as though I didn't really have a father. I think I began at an early age to attempt to replace the relationship between us with a relationship with an similar adult male figure. Obviously, not a paternal relationship, but it filled the void.
Maybe this is the same for you?
But, as others have pointed out, older men are sexy for their intelligence, experience, maturity etc.
I find that it is easier for me to strike up a conversation with a 30 yr old guy than a fellow 18 yr old any day.