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Dating my Cousin
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The readers digest version of my story is this...my cousin & I were very close growing up, until we were both in our teens. I had a super huge crush on him, but never said anything because of the whole taboo thing. The family had become estranged, and it had been about 20 years since we talked.

Recently we re-connected, and all of a sudden all these feelings and emotions have re-surfaced, but 10-fold. We talk all the time, see each other when we can, talk of a future together & are very much in love.

So I know its "normal" to have these feelings...we aren't going to have kids (as he & I are both sterile) and we just want to be together.

Here is my "Is it normal" question: Is it normal that we are even considering getting married? I would love to spend the rest of my life with him, and I know he feels the same because we have talked about it. The only thing holding us back is my parents....I don't know how to tell them (even though I am grown & out of the house).
Do you think it's normal?
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hotchickie81 (24721)
2009-09-13 17:35:30
I heard it's totally legal to marry your cousin in Canada. Good luck with telling the parents... that part might suck. But if you're in love and happy, that's all that matters!
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-09-13 17:57:49
No it is not normal. Come on. You are cousins. Get real. The rest of the family is unlikely to accept this. Why not just accept that the 2 of you get along, and that what you have is special, but that you are lacking in other people in your lives who you feel the same or more about. You are using the safety of your families and subsequent relationship to avoid dealing with your lack of connections elsewhere. IMO
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Shady_Waffle (20640)
2009-09-13 18:55:26
All that really matters is legality, but in a general view point, when you look at all societies, cousins marrying each other isn't abnormal despite the North American (and probably other Western countries') --cultural opinion--. People have married and even had children with their cousins for centuries and people still do in our society and in others.

If both you and your cousin are willing to put up with the stigma that you will face in our society then I would say go for it. If neither of you can't and don't want to risk creating possible rifts with family and/or friends then I would say hold back. It will be hard and it will likely stick with you two for the rest of your lives.

I hope whichever choice you make for yourself that happiness will follow in turn. Good luck. :)
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sidknee (27963)
2009-09-14 01:46:29
At least you're keeping it in the family, lol. It isn't normal, and society will never accept it. But if it makes you both happy then go for it.
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Bisjac (25261)
2009-09-14 11:29:45
You're weird, and your cousin is a perv. Nuff said.
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GuyThatHateYou (28476)
2009-09-14 12:05:10
i hope your children doesnt come out with web-toes
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justlikeheaven (28229)
2009-09-14 14:08:58
what's with people and cousins?
i don't mean to be rude here, do what you want, but i really don't understand that. it's your FRIGGEN COUSIN.
maybe the both of you being sterile is for the best. have you never read about what happens when you have children with family members? sick.
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AAAbattery (28455)
2009-09-14 15:36:48
NO FUCK NO
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JaiHo_YouAreMyDestiny (22923)
2009-09-14 15:42:06
I do not find this normal/ I now many people who like their cousins/relatives, but you shouldn't get married. Your parents would not approve. But, I'm not one to judge, so; do as you please.
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emmyems (28370)
2009-09-14 18:50:52
i'm guessing you're both sterile because your respective parents were cousins too.
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emmyems (28370)
2009-09-14 18:51:15
@: emmyems
or maybe even brother and sister.
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4w04se (25055)
2009-09-14 19:19:57
One thing I didn't like about marrying cousins is that there's a possibility that the kids might not grow v healthy.. But, since you're both sterile as you said.. I have got nothing to hold against marrying ur cousin whom you've always loved. I don't know why would your parents disagree.. cause he's a member of your family and that is way better than bringing some stranger (Like how they view it)to your house.
I say Go for it ..there's nothing wrong about that. Goodluck! :)
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