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Do i deserve to be in this world?
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I have a really bad past, my parents treat me like crap. I had an abortion when i was 18 years old, my whole family looks at me like "Your a very bad person" and it hurts me how they treat me and i know what i did was wrong but i don't think they should name call me. Sometimes i feel "Why am I here" should I be here? I would like to know my perpose of life? Everyday i hit my self and the pain will calm me down. Can you help me??
Do you think it's normal?
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buriedalive (16071)
2008-11-05 14:25:05
of course you deserve to be in the world, having an abortion doesn't necessarily mean you're a bad person, regardless of what your parents say. they have no right to judge you like that, regardless of what you've done, you're their daughter and they should stand by you, especially now when you obviously need them, and the fact they're not is more of a reflection on them than you.
as for the purpose of your life, that's not set in stone, it's somethin you can only really decide for yourself. live your life the way you want to and it'll come to you.
is there anyone you feel close enough to discuss how you feel with? sometimes it's enough just to talk to someone who'll listen to you to make you feel a little better. if you think there's any chance you could have depression or an anxiety disorder though, you should talk to a doctor, it's not something that goes away by itself.
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Xerxes (11901)
2008-11-07 02:12:08
I'll have to say No to all of this.
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MapleSyrup (17767)
2008-11-17 00:52:52
Yes you deserve to be here hun. Everyone makes mistakes.
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elite6884 (17873)
2008-11-21 14:16:30
no, no one deserves to be here but it is the gift of God.AKA Jesus Christ. for every one has sinned and falls short of the glory of god. jesus died for us and he deserves our love and respect. the only way for you to come close to repaying him is to worship him in all that you do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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smile_alot14 (17901)
2008-11-21 20:41:43
personaly i dont think abortions are that bad......
so yes you deserve to be hear and fuck them
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B_CaptivAte (18553)
2008-12-23 02:31:48
Well, your parents should be the first ones to support you, they shouldn't treat you that way, that's wrong, why don't you just speak up and tell them how you feel? and if they don't listen then... try telling them that you'll leave maybe that might change their minds, it's not that im encouraging you, don't get me wrong, just try it, tell them that, they might come to their senses
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nancygonzalez (19035)
2009-01-02 01:19:47
You Do not need jesus christ. I do not believe in God and I don't need him to make me happy. Your parents must be crazy to treat you bad. Personally I don't think I could have an abortion but that doesn't make you a bad person. I'm sure you had your reasons. But you are young and have so much ahead of you. Just ignore all those negative people in your life and focus and what you want to do. Find a passion and don't give up.

Don't waste your time with god. There is no purpose in life. God does not have a plan for you. You make your own destiny. Dream big and work for it. It's America, here you can do anything. Just be thankful you are not in extreme poverty or dying of aids. You have so much to look forward to.

Good luck! =D
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solikeyeah (19213)
2009-01-07 00:38:36
Man I hope this is a joke post. If it's not, call Child Protective Services (found in your phone book) and get out of there. It is not your fault. You are surrounded by cruel people and your parents are the ones who don't deserve to live.
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lurvejazz (19190)
2009-02-05 06:41:34
It is wrong to engage in sex and even get yourself pregnant when you are still so young. Of course your family will look at you in a "different" light, but, no way will they hate you. Simply because they are your family, they will still love you for who you are, and will not hate you for what you've done wrong.

Show them that you are really sorry for what you've done, and that you'll change.
Think positive, i'm sure your family do care. Do not try any means to hurt yourself, your body is very precious.

You definitely deserve to be in this world, since no one could define whoever deserves and whoever don't deserve to live in this world.
You are here for a reason, and for that particular purpose in your life, you will have to be strong and continue living, and discover what exactly is wating for you to accomplish!
Cheers :)
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-04-18 07:49:24
You are an adult now not the child. Distance yourself from these toxic relatives - at least for now while you heal yourself. Talk with you family Doc about counseling. Make some friends. You are not a bad person for having to make a difficult decision - not at all. You deserve to be in this world and you deserve to be happy.
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teddybug (22718)
2009-05-06 13:02:07
forget about what they say
you deserve to be here
i think you should leave them for a while and find yourself. if its that bad that u dnt think you should be here then u got nothing to lose.
and u never know they may realise what theve been puttng you through xxx
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insertcreativeusername (22284)
2009-05-11 18:17:01
NONONONO NO. NO. NO. You actually have a soul and realize it was wrong. You're fine. Of course you deserve to be in this world. And if you feel this bad about it and know it's wrong and your family still treats you like that, they probably don't deserve to be in this world.
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Chooseyourweapon (24449)
2009-06-20 18:41:26
If you know what you did was wrong, and are determined never to do it again, you will be forgiven. You can make yourself feel better by helping others.
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iamyummy (24941)
2009-07-02 09:10:39
you do not deserve to be treated this way because of your actions in the past. no one deserves to be put in this world we are just a few of the lucky, btw abortion can be right and wrong depends on your belifes.
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arshi (25050)
2009-07-04 09:56:37
ofcourse u deserve to live..!
you are living coz u have the capability to live! and everyone have problems n tensions and one day they will get over... have a positive attitude I know its like not possible in ur case... but atleast u can try... n hopefully u will succedd... my wish wishes...
All the best...
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andres9301 (26425)
2009-07-31 23:59:06
never let anyone tell u that ur bad person or a anything they say if u belive in ur self and want to change u can ive done it before
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toodleoo (27674)
2009-08-27 01:01:41
YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON. I'll be undergoing an abortion Friday and I know it's because I cannot provide for that baby the way I want to or should. It's a SELFLESS decision, don't let anybody tell you otherwise.

If you really feel bad about your abortion in your heart, then that's fine, too. That makes you a good person.
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Failed_the_Turing_test (28786)
2009-09-21 15:33:09
You deserve to be in the world.

>Everyday i hit my self and the pain will calm me down. Can you help me??

No, I cannot help you - you need profesional help - please get some.

>i know what i did was wrong
How do you know this?
Because your family says so?

You are not bad - but your family is acting badly.

My advice:
1) Get counceling - if you are feeling self-destructive, do it NOW
2) Don't give a damn what people who do not care about you think - you can never be good enough to satisfy them anyway. Any "family" treating you the way you describe is not worth the room you are giving them in your brain. Tell them to f-off and live their life, not yours.
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bigthings84 (29908)
2009-10-16 14:28:40
I believe that there are no such thing as bad people. I think that what you do makes you who you are for the people that you meet. Good and bad are defined by the person that judges it. The only things u can do is do what you believe is good. That will make you a forever good person. Stop trying to change the way you act to make people believe that you doing good things. That wont happen cause people decide on their own terms what is good and bad. U cant influence them. So i believe that if you think what you doing is good then you will allwayz be a good person.
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BirdyMojo (35244)
2010-01-21 13:21:20
We all make mistakes, my family is sucky too, the only person in my family whom I really value and love is my momma. But an abortion shouldn't cause your family to hate you, it's their loss.
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Babyjojo (36138)
2010-02-06 13:39:16
Its normal to feel this way after what u hav been through.the truth is u do deserve to be in this world,but u may not feel that right now.i recommend some counsellin esp regardin the abortion and distance from ur so called family of emotional abusers.time is a great healer,and as u come to terms wit ur past,u will find out ur purpose in life.kind regards,good luck in ur journey.
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