do i love him enough to actually get married????

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Point 1 If you even have to as this question then your not ready

Point 2 You are only 19 you havent lived enough yourself yet. Is there something you really want to do in life like travel somewhere. Dont think youll be able to do what you want when your married because you wont. you are definately too young for marriage and I suspect your BF is too

19 is really young. I am not saying that it is too young, but these days 50% of marriages fail. I have seen a lot of relationships and marriages fail in my lifetime and I would hate to see anyone else go through it. I would suggest giving it more time. If he really loves you (which he does) he will respect your willingness to wait. Take this time to build a solid foundation with your bf. When you are ready, consider marriage counseling with a church leader. You will be amazed at some of the things you can work out before getting married. There are so many issues you should deal with before getting married. Plus the longer you wait, the more time you have to plan the perfect wedding. You only get married once (or hope to) so do it right! Good luck and God bless.

Old school.

There are still girls out there who get married young and they have children at 21.

My mom got married at 16 years old and had first child at 17.
So you're no too young I assure you..

Sweety,

Go look up TOM LEYKIS and listen to him before you destroy your life.

And ask yourself this,

Does he have a career? Not a Mc donalds job.

Can he provide a stable place to live that is good enough for you and any kids yall may have?

After a year with him, do you know what type of person and what type of father he really would be to your kids.

These are just a few things you need to ask yourself.

Also, If he really loves you, He will wait and take this time to make sure these things are in place before marrying you.
Marry him now and get a $100 wedding or marry him when the time is right and have a real wedding and your own place to go home to after the honeymoon.

You can always break off the engagement. though just a year seems early. Say not yet, in my opinion. Don't let it hang over you either. Just say "I love that you asked, but I don't feel ready, can we wait a couple years? If it feels like too long of a time, then how long would the marriage last?"

You don't know = no - don't accept.

19 is waaaay too young. You will be surprised how much you change and grow over the next few years. Especially if you have lived a very sheltered life. You guys don't have break up but don't getting married. I met my husband when we were 18, married him at 23 and have been married for almost eight years. I don't think we would have made it if we had married at 19 though.