do your parents never want you to move out?

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if I were you I would wait, I wish that by putting up with my parents I could have been able to afford school but sadly it wasn't the case, I had to work on bad jobs and save money to go back, its hard to do it on your own but its not impossible.

Get a job before you move out then when you feel like you can handle it move.

dah ya i guess it just sucks having to put up with parents to save a buck, and i have a job, a pretty good job...well a fairly good paying part time job lol
i guess staying with the rents you just have to put up with all the criticisms, annoyingness and constant questioning about where you are and what your doing...ha even though i'm 21 its real fun! (not) lol

My parents were expecting both my bros to move out as soon as they finished high school and i will too. Ask them about moving out, you may need a student loan, or ask them for a loan and even say you will pay back in full.

It's actually a pretty lucky thing for you. Stay with your parents and find a job after you graduate. Then, you can save a good chunk of money while also spending more than you'll be able to AFTER you move out. What it basically does is let you move out on your own terms instead of asking people for money, living the spartan life, etc. Embrace it. You like your parents and they're willing to really help you out with this next part of life.

that's actually a little strange in my opinion, most of the parents of people i know have practically packed their children's bags for them the moment they turned 18 or were done with school. if you're an only child, or the youngest, maybe they're just worried about how much their life'll change when there's no kids around.
that said, if you can stomach living with your parents for another while, you should. as the above comments said, you'll save a shitload of money, and it'll set you up better for the rest of your life.

omg this is happening to my bro right now i live in cali but in a house and im pretty young(18-25) and my brother is gonna turn 19 but my parent dont want him to move out cause he may get involved in gangs or get killed etc so wat could he do ?.....i keep on telling them dat sooner or later he will have to move plz help me how can he do it with out turning our parents against him???

pls help me

thx
caligurl14

Finish school then move. Get a job if you can now and save some cash. Make sure you are in a position where you dont need their help once you move out. Don't want them to control your life? Share less, and spend less time at home. It will make it harder for them to have a say.

I think a lot of people are forgetting something called ECONOMIC RECESSION??? A lot of people are losing their jobs and homes here and everywhere around the world!?!?!? U should be lucky if you have a place to live and food to eat. People in their thirties and forties don't so. This has NOTHING to do with age. Get over age people we're living in bad times hopefully things turn around sooner than later.

hahaha my parents are convinced i'll never move out.

Maybe this thread is too old but I completely understand so I'm gonna post anyway. I felt the same way. I was 21, going to school and ready to move out for the time I was on break. I couldn't figure out how to do it without hurting my parent's feelings and losing the support that they obviously provide. Fortuitous circumstances enabled me to move out and it is the greatest feeling ever.

Basically you have to be able to support yourself with housing, utilities, and food to make it on your own. If you can't do these things until you're out of school then you're just stuck until you graduate. But the tragic part of the story is that just because you are out of school doesn't mean you are automatically able to do these things either.

But when you are ready for it, you just gotta take the leap without worrying about what your parents want. In the end it is your life and you have to do what's best for you. All you gotta do is say, "hey, I found a place in __ and I'll be moving out on friday, wanna help me pack?" They'll go along with it.

Good luck!

It may be on a more financial basis for them. Until you are 24 and as long as you are attending college, you are their dependant and they probably enjoy claiming you on their taxes. If you drop out of school or turn 24, you are no longer a "Qualifying Child" on their tax returns and they will probably have to spend more in taxes.

HOWEVER, I doubt thats it. They will probably be sad because their child is leaving and you are a huge part in their lives.

BUT, if you cannot afford it on your own, then you have no right to bitch and how could you afford to move out? Just listen with a grain of salt and ponder if what they are saying is worth something.