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Does this make me a stalker?
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I go on ex's social network sites (facebook myspace) a lot and check out their profiles. I have even gone so far as to create multiple accounts so I can be in different networks and check them out like that. I dont do anything bad or even act on it: i just look at their profiles, status updates, pics, wall-posts and so find out about them. I am just curious and I dont send them emails based on it or contact them at all. Does that make me a stalker? I read all these definitions about stalkers and they say that they turn violent and can cause physical harm but i would never dream of doing that - it is more like...I miss them or so and so I look at their profiles.

So, does that make me a stalker?
Do you think it's normal?
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Comments (24)
cruelintentions (10923)
2008-10-20 22:14:59
no not stalker, why cant you remain friends and talk to them normally. Advice get a hobby or a new love interest.
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gono666 (16993)
2008-10-21 07:55:08
this just makes you a person with too much time in your hands, do something more productive.
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shadow1004 (16901)
2008-10-28 22:37:56
no that does not makes you a stalker just makes you look like a person who does not work or does anything in life...
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P00LTOY (15451)
2008-10-28 23:10:48
your normal. but try not to be so pathetic, and you'll do great. good luck to you.
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IkeBroflovski (16259)
2008-10-29 01:07:06
Facebook stalking is very common.

Anyone registered there that claims they haven't peeked at profiles of exes etc are liars.

As long as your not reading their profile on your smartphone, whilst sitting in the bushes outside their house. With you know, your pants down...
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Renly808 (17573)
2008-11-10 08:47:21
No, this makes you nosy. Find a hobby.
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promises (17158)
2008-11-17 11:34:01
No It doesn't. I did the same thing last year when I broke up with my ex. For me I felt lonely and missed him so i wanted to know if he felt the same about me. Was he missing me as much as I missed him or had he found another girlfriend kept on going through my mind. All you have to do is do something that takes your mind off them and makes you happy.
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snootyfox (18192)
2008-12-03 10:52:16
I do it too on myspace... just found out my ex had a baby with his new wife. Which is cool,

My other ex keeps his on private so I cant see pictures of our son, cuase he's a douche.

I wish people could get along after a break up so this sort of thing would happen.
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teehee (19010)
2009-01-01 14:41:10
@: IkeBroflovski
lol! sorry that was funny.

but being serious, i'v done it too.. but on my normal account and looked at exes pics and female friends and what he's said to them but only to see if he's still the same..

its healthy to be inquisitive!
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TripleN (19494)
2009-01-18 14:41:23
They put themselves on facebook.

Its fair game I suppose.



As long as your not showing up a their homes at 3:30am armed with a steak knife and a jar of Vicks vapor rub you should be alright.
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spyderr (19660)
2009-01-25 20:52:56
creep yes, stalker no ;)
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Baitgator (19927)
2009-02-02 03:18:47
Hell, I do it too, it's not a huge deal. Just like Ike said up there, as long as you aren't in the bushes it's normal.
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cjwright79 (20324)
2009-02-17 13:45:15
You're only a stalker if you make someone feel uncomfortable. All these things you do just mean you really care about the person, which is good!
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ShiraSenju (20526)
2009-02-24 14:58:56
No, your not a stalker. A stalker is like my lab partner at college he's freaking me out. He wants to go out with me. He puts his arms around my waist, calls me baby, calls me a lot and even though I already told him Im not interested in him, he insists.
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shann311 (21423)
2009-03-30 14:25:51
I totally use to do it....I thinks it normaal human nature.
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pubeknight (22787)
2009-05-15 00:50:32
I do that too!!
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FryKid (23033)
2009-05-15 02:26:32
I think it's normal. I think you're just curious.
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CalvinNHobbes (23209)
2009-05-19 18:12:11
If you are not trying to harm them or interfere with their life, you are probably just upset because you don't know what you did wrong that made them leave you. I bet you are too posessive or move too fast. If you can't talk to them in person, keep a good photo of them and leave them alone entirely. If you can reconcile with them to be platonic friends, in person, do that, but if they would freak out if they saw you in person, leave them alone!
You should go to councilling or visit with some friends who are successful in relationships. Find out what you are doing wrong, whether its you or the girls you pick. Good luck.
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roadrunnerxo (21317)
2009-06-02 15:06:57
I think this is very normal. I mean, I think knowing their passwords and looking that way is an invasion of privacy, but if your just looking at their page, that's fine, that's what the pages are their for I think.
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Bisjac (25261)
2009-07-08 17:48:59
No, that doesn't make you a stalker lol. I used to do that with my ex because I missed her. But you'll get over it, just find another bf/gf.
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bobbita (25557)
2009-07-20 23:39:33
kinda creepy, but i look at myspaces too. I havent gone as far to create fake accounts but i have thought about it many times. I actually tried but got too lazy to carry on. not to weird tho.
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D0llick (26348)
2009-07-30 15:25:28
I think its normal. I feel the same way too, sometimes.
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toodleoo (27674)
2009-08-27 00:52:17
Perfectly normal. You can rest easy tonight.
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paaaandora (30956)
2009-11-08 14:29:48
You're normal. A lot of people do the same on social networking sites. I've done the same, just looking at exes profiles and such but I don't miss them, just curious about how they're doing. The interwebs is addicting.
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