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Drive people away
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Ok, so I have a wide group of friends. But nobody to call a true friend. Before I thought it was them but now I think it's me. When I get too close to someone I pull away. Without even knowing I'm doing it. It's really playing on my mind all the time, I wish I could stop but I dunno how to because I can't realise when I'm doing it. I do think it's normal to drive peole away in the fear of being hurt. But how do I stop??
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Comments (9)
JoeyAnne (21868)
2009-04-12 05:14:24
theres no solution on "how to stop" its just, stop. stop pushing them away. be sure they're the most genuine friend you have, then you'd have no reason to push them away. good luck.
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HARRYPOTTERNUT (21677)
2009-04-13 14:18:06
@: JoeyAnne
But what if their not genuine?
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EndStreet (21946)
2009-04-14 07:57:50
Just think of them differentlyy , as people u need everyday . If theyre not genuine then it probably wnt be hrd pulling away here but be sure ur comfortable with them .. U knw ? See ur actions as if ur doing or saying te same to urself then hopefully ull know ..
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UchihaSasuke (23430)
2009-05-25 12:56:25
i suffer from the same problem, a lot of people in the past wanted to be my friend but i just back away. :( i want to stop also but it's hard. i feel your pain.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-06-11 15:05:02
Stop pushing & just trust yourself give your relationships time so they develop naturally. No one likes to get close to an overly anxious and critical person.
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w00dchuckz (27800)
2009-08-29 15:17:18
It has to be a conscious decision. It's good that you've noticed when you start pushing someone away. Now, when you see youself starting that process, consciously force yourself to keep in contact with that person or even do something nice for 'em.
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funkman (27767)
2009-08-29 16:53:45
I do the same, I have been doing it for years.

There is obviously some intense hurt under the surface that you dont want to face in yourself, and others bring that up. You need to find a way to resolve that within yourself. When you are totally happy and comfortable with yourself, others will naturally connect with you anyway. Concentrate on being your own best freind for a while I would say.
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Intoxicality (28132)
2009-09-05 17:44:29
I do precisely the same. Just try to relax around them and try to spot someone whose interests are close to yours and you can easily relate to. You should be able to get into easy conversationg with them and hopefully become good friends. :) Friendships just happen, you can't really look for them unless you do what I suggested.
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HARRYPOTTERNUT (21677)
2009-10-25 12:20:49
Thanks everyone*
xxxx
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