Family should not talk or joke about sex

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It's better if no topics are off limits.

It's just awkward, really, even if everyone around you seems comfortable.

just try to switch the topic around, i guess

Maybe I need to stop getting naked in front of my sister then. Never mind, she would probably stop to.

I agree 100%
family should NEVER talk about anything sex related lol

It's blatently obvious, teehee, that you are extremely embarrassed by the topic of sex. AND, it is very appartent that you haven't built enough trust with your family to get over issues like these that NEED to be addressed.

Your friends will come and go, family knows you best. Sex doesn't have to be something that's wrong, it's how you were made, it's what drives you. If you can't be mature and talk about it with your parents you'll never be mature enough to handle the real situation (properly).

Yeah your parents should discuss sex with you, its natural and healthy, and frankily it should be explained by someone you should trust, not your teacher in sex ed.

i mean if your parents aren't going to explain sex to you, who is? your friends who might not know or might be dishonest?

You're weird. Sorry. Sex is as natural as breathing and eating and sneezing. You're a prudish asexual American, arent u.

I completely agree. I think that in a family situation that sex should basically be something that basically doesn't exist, not thought about, not spoken about.

The hypocritical thing that I find highly disturbing is that the parents brought their children into the family through sex.

I totally agree... I was really grossed out about my dad talking about his gigantic pubic hair. GROSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

True that there are some things that are just TMI, but you just sound like an uptight person with a stick up your ass.
My mom and I are pretty close and we talk about everything and anything we want to. If something is wrong we tell each other.
You obviously aren't that close to your family.
I don't know, maybe I'm comfortable with this because I'm an open person. That being said, you come off as a prude/narrow-minded snob.
I say this because of the way you said (typed) your opinion. It's fine with me if you think it's wrong, but it seems like you would say something like, "EW you must be into incest or something," to anyone who was open with their family.

If you hear any reference about sexual activity and get REALLYU uncomfortable then it's your insecurities showing through, not anyone else's.

The family should handle an honest type of relationship about any topic. Friends are just there to have fun because they can more easily blackmail you or tell when you fight and your family is less likely to betray you.

I personally think that sex shouldn't be taboo between anyone anymore. People who make it normal are doctors and pharmaceutical people counsellors or nurses, people like that and it doesn't sound weird when they talk about it.

I think people in general should just talk about it more freely and then it wouldn't be so taboo.

It's why we exist for crying out loud. Your Dad put his pee pee in your moms vagina and cummed in it and you grew inside of her for 9 months and you came out of you vagina, (it's the first thing you touch... your mom's vagina).

Just accept it, get over "it" and get over yourself and move on.

there is nothing wrong with families discussing sexual matters if they are comfortable with that. going into details is another thing, particularly if you don't want to know about it. Would it be possible for you to ask your family not to discuss these things in front of you because it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you ask them kindly they may show you that respect - hopefully - I don't know what they are like.

def agree the fu..ing incestual british people on here do their thing with family members but just keep being normal sex and family dont mix

If you're talking about sexual jokes and teasing, that's just your humor. But you shouldn't be trying to run from sexual information and advice. Not knowing is ignorance. Easy to learn your way out of ignorance. Ignoring is stupid. Running with your eyes closed. There's no such thing as Too Much Information, only Inefficient Data. Just information YOU can't PRESENTLY see a use for. Most people have urban myths and other misinformation about sex. It put male urology twenty years behind from not talking about it.

Well you wouldnt even be here if mom and dad didnt have nasty sweaty sex to make it happen, and neither will you have children without it, and neither will thier children. GROW UP, maybe thats why dad always winks at mom when he calls you his little aquirt?

wow. I totally agree with you! I think it's very innappropriate. Just a couple months ago I went with my boyfriend to his little brother's friend's parents house...ha. K, so they were totally talking about and making jokes about sex, the parents that is. I was so uncomfortable I asked my boyfriend if we could leave..and it had only been 10 minutes. But, personally, they were white trash hillbillies..they really were. So, that could've definitely added to the situation. I was raised differently, probably similar to how you were raised.

LOL, I used to be so embarrassed by discussing sex with mom but now that I'm married we joke about it and talk about it without issue. I embarrassed my sister in law to the point of leaving the room once because she heard me joking with my dad about my husband and I making a sex video to show him how it was done properly. I threatened to bring him a tape. He and mom seemed to find it funny.
I noticed that after I became sexually active all that prudish embarrassment disappeared.

Um I'm pretty much open with everyone and everything. As long as nothing is described painstakingly graphic or descriptive detail (describing each others genitals, describing graphic sex acts they've done etc.) Why not?

If you can't be open with your family, who can you be open with?

I think families should discuss sex or anything if there is a need to but not to joke and have fun with this very personal subject.

Sure - if its explicit & graphic.

I'd say the same thing as teehee. And I'm NOT embarassed by sex. And my family knows me about as well as a person I've seen once on the bus. ¬¬

now that was rather rude wasn't it?

They can talk about the birds and the bees and have "the talk" with their kids about safe sex etc, but only when/if it is felt that it's necessary. I don't agree with the joking either. I think it's gross and uncomfortable.

LOL I agree!

I think the way you feel is normal. I personally disagree. My family is all very close and there is nothing sexual that is off limits. We are, and have always been, that kind of family. I think it depends on closeness. I grew up in a house where sex became something accepted and something my parents wanted me to be educated about. So, in my large family, we don't keep anything off limits. It differs from family to family.

It depends on how inappropriate it is.Why would it be better to speak to a friend than a family member

i don't think there's anything that u should be limited to talk about with ur family. at the end of the day they are ur most fundamental and nuclear social network so why let something as simple as sex get in the way??? maybe u should change ur way of thinking about sex, or ur family...or both? but that's jus me...

I think it completely depends of the family. I personally am a big fan of open discussion. I am SO grateful I can talk about my sex life with my mom. But that's the way I was raised - she didn't want to me to be a victim of false shame.

Because let's be honest, being embarrassed about sex in a world that has sexual liberation coming out it's ears is false shame. This is, completely, an unnecessary and redundant social norm from the distant past.

However, if your family is comprised of people that don't feel comfortable talking/joking about sexuality, that's completely okay too. As long as that family doesn't push their needs, thoughts and comfort zones on others :) (of course, it's the same the other way around)