I have been having sexual fantasies about my mother for several years. Am I the only mother loving pervert out there or are there others? And is this just a phase that adolescents sometimes go through? Am I normal. I would never act on these fantasies of course but......
longjohnsilver
The only other mother loving pervert I can think of is that Bates guy from Psycho.
Sigmund Freud
you might find some interesting stuff if you read about him
I jsut HOPE your theo nly one in this world that does that...
Im sorry if this doesnt help or anything but. It is NOT normal at all. Get osme help.
Better yet. Tell your mom and I bet she freaks out and get your dad to whoop your ass.
We are attracted to people who are similar to us. If you want empirical evidence of this, all you need to do is look at siblings who are seperated at or near birth and then later reunited. These people almost always describe a feeling of sexual chemistry (assuming the sibling is a gender of their preference) to this long lost family member.
There is a thought which states that family bonding and family interaction creates an emotional dynamic with our parents/siblings which de-sexualizes this person. Because these formations never took place, so the theory goes, the siblings do not have the emotional bonds which places each other in that perspective.
In most cases, people who find themselves having desire to a parent usually have it for one of several common reasons: 1. The parent has attributes which the person desires, but has been unable to find with their peers. 2. The child-parent bond is too weak for de-sexualization to occur. 3. The person's peer group is small or virtually non-existent, and the mind is seeking out gratification from something.
So, having said this...here are my suggestions. First off, forget the damn therapy. You don't need it. Secondly, try and get out more. Interact with others and find new friends. The more peers you have, especially of the opposite sex, the more your likely your fantasies will move away from familial relations. Third, if you are estranged or distant with your mother, work to become closer to her. This might sound counterproductive, but the more you can strengthen a parent-child bond the less you will sexualize her. Finally...stop worrying about it. It happens, more often than the uneducated crap on this board wants to realize.
And I think it is very obvious that many people are attracted to others who are physically similar to their parents. just look around to see who gets married to whom, who hooks up with whom, etc.
say eeew all you want, but this seems to be a fact.