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Feel like I'm missing out on life...
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Hey, everyone. My name's Mickenzi. I'm 21 years old, I'm just starting college, I'm (unfortunately) living at home because I can't afford my own place and I'm currently single. I was wondering, do you ever have days when you're stuck at home with nothing to do because all your friends are working? When that happens (which is too often for me) I feel like my life is just wasting away. I mean, everyday I feel almost obligated to hang out w/ one of my friends just to get out of the house and to get away from that feeling of rotting at home. I don't have a huge circle of friends, and almost all of them would rather play videogames than go out to public places and be social. I would do it myself, but I don't really know how to just get out there and start building a good social life for myself. All summer I felt like I've been missing out on all the things people my age usually do. I could easily be blowing this way out of proportion, but it's kind of hard to not feel this way. Anyone else out there feel the same way? What do you think?
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been there! Still there!
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Barnum
Wow... this is pretty much the same exact situation that is happening to me, right now!

Yeah, exactly, a lot of my friends are doing the same things you've mentioned. I'd love to get out there and do stuff, but now it's all about video games and other shit. So i value the times where we actually do fun stuff and get out there and do stuff (besides video games etc!!)

And I also have the same problems with summer etc. Like, there have been just days, when I don't do things with friends, cuz they are either at work (like you said), or doing other things. It's like I enjoy my summer vacation, but it's a drag sometimes. So yeah i hear ya, I feel like that lmost every day, feeling that "oh, I gotta call him/her up to do something before it's too late"..that kinda thing, cuz I don't wanna miss out and all. And I am starting college soon as well (first year). And no, I don't think you are blowing this way out of proportion. I'm sure a lot of people surprisingly feel this way and are in the same exact situation. Hope it all goes well, hope this little rant of mine helped lol :)
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Pretty normal... I'm 21 as well, and have days when I'm hanging out, doing stuff, and having a good time, and other days when I'm just sitting at home on my computer all day because I have nothing better to do. Lol. As you probably know by now (since you're in college now), once you hit college, you won't have time to breathe, even if you're not socializing. If you're feeling really, really isolated (probably just boredom), then get yourself into a short-term class, maybe learn a foreign language, or take up dancing classes - you'll meet a lot of interesting people, and who knows, maybe even your best friend forever (at least you know that person shares something in common with you through that activity. lol.) good luck!
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get a job or a boyfriend. if that doesn't happen, get a vibrator and a cat.
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violent10dency
LOL.
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i think you must be some what kind of introvert. if you try to get some friends you ll surely find them somehow....be as much good in ur behavior that people like it. i suggested you this coz same happened to me a year ago and i took almost a year to recover!!
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Hi Mickenzi. sounds like you're just bored. i used to have much the same problem when i was young until i found that all i needed was something constructive to fill my time with. try taking up a craft or hobby; there are so many things to do. you could do some research online about all sorts of different things that you can do, things like leather craft (maybe you could learn how to design a purse or handbag that all your friends will want), or art (there's more to art than just painting.) try checking out some craft stores for ideas. some good ones are www.dickblick.com, www.brettunsvillage.com, www.joann.com, www.michaels.com.

there are way too many to list here but i'm sure you can find something to do when not with your friends. who knows? you may even find that you like doing something so much that it becomes a business enterprise. good luck.
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me stuck in the same shit homme

i mean,rotting at home is what i do,playing nfs mw or carbon or max payne or some other bloody game on the laptop, and not studying because it BORES ME TO HELL

i don't have a gf,hell i don't talk good with girls actually i mean just by being myself i sort of woo them away. so i can't be someone else to have a girl,but i want a girl too.

and yes i don't have a great friend cirlce too,just 3-4 guys regular at college and on phone.pen pals,u might say,by email,and orkut and facebook

i don't do drugs,alcohol,or resort to prostitutes to vent out my frustration.
fuck! the society is made in an anti-me way

now i don't even know what am writing...fuck!
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violent10dency
Yea why don't you get a job, then maybe you could get your own place? You could meet other people too. duh!
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flikr
i am like this a lot of the time
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get a job that will provide you the money to get out of your parents house and socialize a bit.get a boyfriend,find new hobbies,and instead of writing stories here,if you can do it othes ways,meet friends over the internet
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honestly-try doing something youve NEVER done before, or something you wouldnt normally do. try it out by yourself first. its hard to get the motivation to do it, so try reminding yourself on monday, tuesday, wednesday, and thursday, on friday (a day you know you'll be bored) i'm going rock climbing at this place, get a reservation or something like that. after, youll feel better you did something productive and new. if its not your thing, try something else-one of those things will be exactly what you need right now and it will be worth it. regardless, its always nice to feel good about finding a new route for yourself, on your own! (:
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Well... I believe you could first begin by learning some social skills. There are serveral ways you can do this. Why don´t you try a course in learning how to begin relationships or how to be a good conversator. I guess there might be classes or workshops about it near where you live. The other thing you can do is to buy a good book about starting relationships, there are serveral in bookstores.

DEFINETLY you have to do changes in your life. The only way your will get different results than the ones you get right now is to do some things in a completely new way. Get into a club of something you like, learn to play a musical instrument, begin to practice a sport, go to the gym or get a job. BE IN PLACES WHERE YOU HAVE TO INTERACT WITH PEOPLE. You are still really young and have a hole life ahead of you... go for it. Also, look for a poem of Walt Whitman... CARPE DIEM...

Well, that would be my advice, and yes... I have been through the same.
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you need a hobby
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Pretty normal...I would suggest making some new friends who are more social than your current ones and hanging out with them for a change.Relax,plently of people feel the same way you do.
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thats summer for yah!
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well just practice something , take up guitar, something to round yourself even more.
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cline1986
Oh my God you and I should hang out. I personally know your pain. I started to find people on Craigslist just to do different things with, because I don't get out much either. I can totally understand that whole video game thing. My friends used to do that to. So boring.
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I feel that way all the time. I mean I'm 22 years old and still living with my parents, never had one girlfriend, and never have friends to hang out with. I stay at home all day everyday and it bores me to death. There's a lot of people out there who have it a lot worst so don't feel bad.
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Let us all be friends! Where do you guys live? I'm from Uptown Chicago.
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lol jintaiyen777, that sounds really.... weird, maybe that's why i'm missing out on life
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Yes it's normal.

But,

Not only are YOU missing out on life, your parents are missing out on lives of their own because you're still there.

You'd be surprised how quickly time flies. Keep your head down...do well in school, and move on!
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DuDE! start reading: 'happyness for no reason' by marci shimoff, 'awareness' by anthony demelo, 'stop worrying & start living' by dale carnegie AND 'The Art of Exceptional Living' by Jim Rohn. that;s all you need... trust me!
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It is a symptom, normally known as BOREDOM.
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MisterGee81: you're an idiot for saying something like that
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