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Fiance won't tell family/friends about our wedding!
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My fiance and I are going to married in 7 days.
He has yet to tell his family and friends that we are about to elope.

-The ceremony is private (at my fiance's request) so it's just going to be him and me.

-I know he's not ashamed of me or embarrassed. I've met all of his family/friends and we get along fine.

-I ask him why he's keeping it secret from his nearest and dearest and he can't give me a straight answer.

He tells me and acts like he's committed to getting married and has shown that he is EXCEPT for telling his family and friends.

Why the secrecy?
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Comments (6)
Ollieo (19003)
2009-07-05 03:51:46
OK - you know he is not ashamed or embarrassed.

Insist then that he TELL his family etc. as a declaration of his love to you. Speak up for yourself here - you don't need a formal family ceremony - but you also don't want eloping to be secretive. Let him know that this is your position, period.

My bet is that he is not telling because he will be pressured and would have to stand up for himself.
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spajerr (25181)
2009-07-07 12:49:14
maybe his family acts like they like you but they really dont

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sandmansgirl (24120)
2009-07-07 20:22:50
No, this is NOT normal. If I were you, I'd hold off on that wedding until you find out what the problem is. You might just be in for the surprise of your life. Had he been married before and maybe the divorce is not final? Perhaps he has a gay lover that only his family knows about and you don't? Perhaps he's got a shady past that you are unaware of? Please pulls the reins to a halt before it's too late....you need to know what's up. A marriage built on this type of foundation will surely crumble!
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nothing2 (29013)
2009-09-26 20:56:50
they might be real weird or embarassing. or you know. maybe he's not serious.
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JavaJones (30482)
2009-10-29 04:01:39
Isn't the whole point of eloping that you get to avoid the mess and interference that family sometimes can bring. Maybe he just wants to wait til after you elope to tell his family, so that there is absolutely no chance of him being talked out of eloping and into a big wedding.
Who asked who here...did he ask you...?
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Audacia (30528)
2009-10-30 12:19:29
@: sandmansgirl
Sounds about right....

It's not normal
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