Flattered when a gay guy hits on you?

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yea i get hit on by gays all the time and im straight, after a while the wird will get around and they dont go all out and ask you out

oh yeah, perfectly normal. I am gay but you have to remember most gay men are simply attracted to male beauty and for a gay man to hit on you just says you are probably exceptionally attractive as a man. But, it doesn't mean YOU have to act upon it (react upon it, actually) Think of it as a compliment and not some reflection on your sexuality or sexual preferences.Do you normally get angry when somebody pays you a compliment? In my book, handling it with grace, a shy but appreciative smile and being honest to your flatterer makes you just a cool straight guy.

it's flattering when it happens.

@smoothmikey78 yeah, I thought that the guy being gay meant that he would have higher standards of attractiveness, I guess I just never thought about myself that way. I was just worried I was somehow giving off a gay vibe or something. I must be getting more and more attractive because recently women I'd never thought would look twice at me have been flirting with me almost as soon as I step out of my house... Wierd...

Maybe you are somehow just more comfortable in your own skin, so to speak.
Self confidence in the way one carries one's self is usaully where I find the change has come that brings this flirting.

It is normal. just keep in mind though, if you are hit on by a gay guy, you might be doing something to make him think you gay. Im sorry but someone had to say that.

errr. i hate it, it makeme think i'm the kinda guy gays like and girls dont :(

Yeah, its totally cool. I mean you must be some kind of hunk, me being a gayhave a seen alot of attractive guys have never seen one that has made me go up to them compliment them and face the chance that he may injure me. But u must be really something, I mean i always belived that gay men were better at admire the attractiveness of guy than women are, and that was a very bold move of him, i mean i've complimented men on their looks before, just not to them, out loud at all, only in my thoughts. but yeah there's nothing wrong with that, totally cool.

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Understand that I am not judging a homosexual person[s] but just the unnatural and immoral habit itself when I say that I could NEVER be flattered when a homosexual man flirts with me, although I guess in some strange way I can understand why a man would be. And as far as your statement that queers have higher standards than a lot of women, dude, that's totally INCORRECT! I mean, come on. Homosexuals might have higher hygiene standards overall but higher standards (values), never.

I vote normal, but it's probably not considered "normal" by the average male.

Many straight guys may tend to be homophobic (I'm not saying you are), and when they are hit on by a gay guy, they tend to feel insulted, thinking "this guy thinks I look gay" rather than feel complimented and think "hey, both sexes find me attractive, I must be damn hot!" And when a man feels that his manhood has been insulted, his first instinct may be to defend it. It is common to think that your first reaction might have been to "punch the guy in the face". Perhaps many men picture the scenario as demeaning, because they have witnessed the way some lewd guys may hit on girls and end up getting smacked. If they picture gays as deviant and lewd, guys probably think that they'll get hit on the same demeaning way, and a simple "I'm straight" wouldn't be enough to restore a damaged ego.

I'm going by the perceived generic straight male mindset for this, and it is still only my opinion, which is that of a fence-sitting female, which is why I threw in a lot of probably, perhaps, and maybe. ^^;; So, uh, take it as you will. Anyways, kudos to you for being polite to the guy and just telling him you were straight.

Honestly it sounds like you might be gay.If you didnt mind him hitting on you as well as you might be the type that never can face the truth.People can say what you will but this is the first steps to realizing that you are gay,cmon why would you post this in the first place think about it....

Kudos to you for being so cool about it. I have nothing against homosexuals but if that happened to me (as much as I'd hate to admit it) I'd be scared shitless at first. Lol

I dont mind if it just Flatter, they have even called me like "hey man lets talk" and have whistled me and all that i think is:

"DAMM I ROCK even the guys look at me" i smile and keep walking, as long is just with words its ok, but if one of them try to put a finger on me or try to be beyong funny i beat him up.

I think you SHOULD be flattered. I mean to be attractive enough to get the girls AND the guys? Hehe consider it a compliment.

Definately a compliment! I would have been flattered too if I had been in your position:)

its a good thing hunn...i get it all the time. take it as a compliment.

u could be bi or not

I agree with tmberman. From what I have seen, gay guys have lower standards. Simply because they have fewer men to choose from, than a woman, and because they are more motivated by sex than a woman.

Ive been complimented only once by a gay gay, who said that I was cute, and I felt flattered. So no, it's not wierd. :)

nooo womans standards are waayyy higher than gay men because there are more guys to choose from if your a girl (there are more straight guys than homos)

a gay guy has to guess weither the guy is straight or not, mabey you had the "voice" of a gay guy or were just acting like a girl

i'd punch him if he didn't leave me alone.End of story.

HAHAHHAHA Really normal :)
Same thing happened to me... many times.