Hello,
Yes I'm new on this site I'm needing others point of view. I'm an older black woman 44yrs young who met a younger white guy who is 27yrs old on a internet program. We've met and have been intimate with one another but he is not sexually experienced to my liking but I have come to really love and adore him and with that said, I'm willing to deal with it. I know men do it all the time but society seems to feel it's not normal for an older woman to deal with a younger man we're called cougars ~~rolls my eye's~~ on top of things he is white and I am black but I look more like I am in my late thirties.I really am in love with him but he is now struggling with the age difference, so can I get some point of views here? it would be great to know if this is normal
Yes I'm new on this site I'm needing others point of view. I'm an older black woman 44yrs young who met a younger white guy who is 27yrs old on a internet program. We've met and have been intimate with one another but he is not sexually experienced to my liking but I have come to really love and adore him and with that said, I'm willing to deal with it. I know men do it all the time but society seems to feel it's not normal for an older woman to deal with a younger man we're called cougars ~~rolls my eye's~~ on top of things he is white and I am black but I look more like I am in my late thirties.I really am in love with him but he is now struggling with the age difference, so can I get some point of views here? it would be great to know if this is normal
I still miss her sometimes so I understand, I think you are fine.
So you may need to talk it through to get at his specific concerns. Be open minded & respectful, and prepared to accept that some of his concerns may be things you just can't do much about. Or may have nothing much to do with age at all.
Anyway - I think this "cougar" crap is insulting and sexist. So ignore that & just try your best. I hope it works out for you one way or the other.
I guess it is normal as long as it's only a thought and that you wouldn't attemp tp kill a dog.
I can find it very annoying when dogs are barking but I go elsewhere or listen to music. Sometimes I try and see if the dog barking can keep rhythm with a song!
~Midna
It might be a good experience for the young lad, but in the end you just can not compete with a 20yr old.
Just dont' be the boss of the relationship but instead try to be 50-50 on everything. Also, realise that you do have more experience than he does but don't hold it to his face when it suits you. If you do, you will only ruin the relationship.
will say I hope u have forgiven her,plus what goes around always comes back around for people to learn from their mistakes in God's timing. Thank u for ur comment it meant a lot coming from someone who has been there and back, you make an excellent point about not trying to be his mother because in our arguments that has come up from him feeling that way and it was never my intentions to make him feel this way and I have told him on numerous occasions and he understood but let me give u a little more in debth of our relationship he has two small girls who is 3 and 4 which he had to get custody of because the girls mother was around his age but she was not ready to raise them and now he and the girls mother is divorced, I'm divorced also but have no children but I'm willing to be with him despite our differences we have with one another because I truly do love him and I'm very picky with who I choose to be with and so when we met my spirit was at ease and we met twice now which this last time when we saw one another it was strained because what I didn't mention he is in a different state from where I live also, so on top of things we're in a long distance relationship etc.
So we do have a few things against us among some other things but again I truly love him for various reasons too many to mention on here but willing to try and make it work but the ball now is in his court! I will not force anything because if something is meant to be you wont have to force the issue.Plus I love his daughters and they do need a balance mother in their life's. I really appreciate ur feedback and appreciate if you all have more to add on, from the additional information I've given it will be appreciated? thanks
Thank you and I am glad I helped.
for years to come! :)
Sure anything is possible, we all tend to believe in fairy tail endings or at least hope. But reality has shown each and every one of us that fairy tails aren't real and no matter how hard you dream or wish, human tendencies win out every time.
She is trying to give her life a fresh start by going young and going white and the kid is just doing what young males do, look for more and different types of women to lay.
If she knew anything about relationships she would not be a sinlge 40something yr old woman. People are single for a reason. This is going to take the typical path and end in break up...just hope he does not get her pregnant. His life will be over before it even started.
Just for the record I am an Atheist, so please don't point your God at me...LOL.
You are right, all anyone can do is guess. But "Judging" from your comment about sex and him not being "experienced" enough tells me that you are the typical Christian. What would your God do concerning sexual matters between two unmarried people? Crack that bible open and read sista...
BTW, it was Jesus who supposedly died on the Cross...you know the man people called the son of God.
And yes it is OK for an older cat to parade around town with a younger babe. Old women need to stay in their place and embrace their OLD age with dignity. Its embarrassing to see an old women trying to act young.
I don't think Cougar is a bad thing, its just an accurate description of a cat out on the hunt. You know you women are a lot like cats, always thinking, clever, tricky, sneaky, and mean as hell...lol.
Also for the record Im very spiritual and I don't believe in any religion; ok? further more I know I don't know you but I have to wonder did a woman do a number on you because you sound very old, bitter and angry? There are a lot of beautiful older woman out there who is more in their peak than most older men, most men has to take viagra and cialis among other suppliments to stay up float lol; sorry had to mention that :) is that your problem?
God loves you and be with you, because even though you say you are a Athiest I do know if you were put in a tragic situation, Gods name will be the first you would call on. lol lol God bless and be with you! Stay up float ya hear lmao