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gay friend's suicide
My friend killed himself by poison in 2007. He was 16 and was gay. He was tormented on a constant basis. Often he was physically assaulted. He was called "homo" "fag" "queer" and all the usual terms our wonderful socierty has invented to describe people like him. His parents tried to have him fixed by having him meet priests, who were probably molesting boys on the side, that told him his feelings were wrong and an abomination. Schoolmates said he was "shoving his sexuality down their throats" even though he never talked about it unless asked, and certainly wasn't humping people in public like many of the straight kids were doing. He was shunned by the rest of his family, who believed he would grow out of it. And for all you geniouses out there, he didn't.
Whenever I hear someone (usually a male) being harassed (usually by other males) I feel that person has blood on their hand. People like that killed my friend. And I know many people like that are here. You have blood on your hands. Hate kills. That's all there is to it.
Whenever I hear someone (usually a male) being harassed (usually by other males) I feel that person has blood on their hand. People like that killed my friend. And I know many people like that are here. You have blood on your hands. Hate kills. That's all there is to it.
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If you get pulled over for speeding whos fault is it?
If you catch your wife cheating on you and you beat the shit out of the guy she was with whos fault is that?
You should be out celebrating the life of your friend insted of spreading the same type of hate you claim killed him.
I am sorry you lost your friend, and I am sorry he suffered so much. I guess the most effective thing to do is to help institutions and laws that help homosexuals, like pushing for hate crime laws and marriage rights. There is an imbalance in the media versus legality and public opinion, the sooner acceptance attained, people will be resentful of people showing gay characteristics.
The cynic in me wonders, however, if he was one of those boys who wore flambouyant pink tight pants and spoke effeminitely. That especially is offensive to some people, and its not based *entirely* on sexuality in that case.
I am so sorry.
And I agree with you 100%
That can lead a person to be under enough pressure from depression that they will try or actually commit suicide. So therefore it is the fault of the harassers.
ur right though, it is blood on peoples hands if they are harsh bout sumin like that, specially if they do it soo mch it lead to what it did, but unfortunatly u always going to hav that in the world and the onli thing u can du is not be like them. and at the end of the day u will hav a better life and more friends with an open mind like yours
I know what it's like to be tormented. People call me rude gay names all the time, even though I'm straight. The hell your friend went through, however, is different than what I must live through.
I actually had a great-uncle who was gay. He was really kind to his family, and he loved working every summer at a camp were disabled children went. He even coached a Little League team, before he tragically died of AIDS. When he came out, nobody opposed him. My grandmother was the first to know, out of nine children. She continued to love him all the same.
What people don't get is that being gay is just normal in our society today, and since this is who they are, they should be accepted by society, not treated like animals. I hate it when I hear a rumor or a taunt because it is what drives people to suicide. Yes, it is partially their choice to kill themselves, but their environment makes up so much about their choices.
Again, sorry for your loss.
May your friend rest in peace. T_T
I agree with the people that are pulling the "Snowball effect" A few words are nothing, but it DOES build up, until you get to the breaking point. Just think about it, being tourmented EVERYDAY by EVERYONE, it can be a little too much to handle.
And it's also because of stuff like this that makes me afraid to let anyone know I'm bi. I'm afraid my parents will disown me, or people might try and kill me. It's a fate I wouldn't wish on anyone.
Tourment and hate are what's destroying the world! It's like a friend of mine once said...
"Gays don't ruin the world, Narrow-minded Fucktards do."
So all you people who hate gays, or believe that it's some kind of "disease" (Which is a complete load. It's like saying being tall or loving music is a disease) Please, take this into consideration. A boy was harrassed so much that he felt DEATH was his only escape.
I hope you all learn from this...God knows you need to...
and for all them cocks out there that are taking the piss..get a life you sad twats.
in regards to the writer, im very sorry for your loss. just think that your friend is in a better place and wont have to hear another mean name aimed towards him and i bet hes watching over you.
Life is tough and we all have to play the hand we're dealt, even if that involves a hard existence. He chose to fold where people more unfortunate stay in the hand. People may have been mean, but nobody gave him that poison and forced him.
You should just be happy you had the opportunity to know your friend, and try to accept his decision - it was his choice, and hopefully he found the peace he was looking for.
Gay people goes to heaven too ^^
there is an amazing rock musical based off of the same idea. it is very powerful and may be helpful to you.
http://www.barethealbum.com/
Stories like this make me lose faith in humakind.
Also, to all you freaks who say that being gay is wrong--try seeing things from our point of view. Try being kicked out of your family because you loved differently from them. Try being fired from your job, being taunted, teased, shunned.
Gay people aren't hurting anyone. The moment gay people start treating hets the way hets are treating gays--THEN you'll have something to bitch and moan about.
If God is a merciful god (which I doubt), he will punish homophobes NOT gay people.
Just like the Church's damning of Galileo and the Catholic Church's insistence on abstinence to combat HIV, this is another example where the Church has completely lost touch with the reality in which we live today. The only thing you can do is to spread tolerance in his name. When you have children next time, make sure you hammer it into their heads that there is absolutely nothing wrong with homosexuality.