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I'm 22 yrs old gay guy... and still a virgin. I haven't even been in any relationship yet, neither with man nor woman. I'm just not feeling ready for it yet, and I'm not trying actively to find somebody. Is it normal?
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Im 18, gay, and I am a virgin. I know I have intimacy issues. I get panicked any time a guy even looks at me. I get to the point I feel erotophobic. I know how you feel man. Its freakin hard. I feel like I am wasting the prime of my life scared of sex, scared of relationships, scared of loving. When thats all I want. All I want is someone that truely loves me that I can be intimate with. Maybe thats whats keeping me back. Guys my age are total assholes that only want sex, and thats not what Im after. I want a relationship, but the fact is gay guys like sex, and if you dont put out then you probably wont get a bf. I am just making myself sad.
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Anonymous
You should be very proud of yourself for waiting until you find the right person. Don't let anyone put you down. I sure wish I would have waited until I was married. But I can't take it back now. More people need to be like you and not give it up so freely. Sex is supposed to mean something and be sacred. Don't worry about what people say. What do they know? I mean the people who speak so negatively. Good luck in all you do:)
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Who gives a fuck who anybody has sex or does not have sex with. That is there business. Anyone that says being gay is wrong has some mother fucking control issues. Who the fuck are you to say being gay is wrong. I know you are not talking about the bible the same book that tells us not to eat shellfish. It’s a great book but you have to take parts of it with a grain of salt as everybody already does. But for some reason people want to pick on gay people. Well guess what, God made this homo attracted to other men and no one else… so get over it.
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Who cares? I mean seriously. Who cares if you're gay. And who cares if you are a virgin. It means that you don't have to worry about STDs or anything. Wait until you're ready.
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I'm also a gay guy and i'm still a virgin too. Though i'm 1 year younger than you, i worry a lot about it. I've never had a girl/boyfriend before and i feel really like an outsider. Don't give up. It will get better.
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I understand perfectly your situation because I´m 25, gay and still a virgin. I haven´t even kissed anybody yet. Sometimes I think that it`s very weird, but it is not because everyone has to live its own life according to what the feel and decide. I feel very proud of my condition and you should be too. Best regards.
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I can so much relate to the person who posted this subject. I am also a 22 yr old m virgin, and throughout my life, I have been contemplating over my sexuality. I have six other siblings, who all happen to be straight. Both my parents are straight, but I am the only one who happens to be confused. My family is very unaccepting of homosexuals, based on religious beliefs... I also do understand that very well, but I can't change who I am... I have not come out to my family yet, but the news has already spread, and most, if not all, have doubts or questioned about my sexuality... What should I do??? any suggestions...
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Anonymous
My first question is why are your "confused" and still contemplating over your sexuality? Then you mention about coming out to your family. Maybe you need to be a bit more decisive about it before approaching your family. It seems that there is still some hesitancy in your accepting your own homosexuality. Then I would suggest sharing it with one of your siblings you feel more comfortable with so that you may have them as moral support. From personal experience with my brother (I posted above), this gave him strength. You should be the one to share your homosexuality with your family; it is worse hearing it through rumors. Don't be surprised if they already know for sure, but want to hear you say it. Good luck to you, too!
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Thanks for your response... to be honest, i am to the point right now where i don't care what anybody thinks about my personal life... i feel that i have every right to live the way i want to, as long as im not harming anyone... if they think i should be killed, then so be it... if they already know, which i am sure some of them do, then so be it... but i won't give in to "coming out"... i don't feel there is any reason for me to "come out" ever... what do you think about my attitude and approach???
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Anonymous
You have a great point about not ever coming out -- heterosexuals do not have to automatically make open confessions about their sexual preference and neither should you. It is your sexual preference and identifies only a part of who you are as a whole person. It should only matter to you and your sexual partner. When and if family and friends ask you, it is your choice if you answer them; but if you decide, answer them honestly and directly. Remember, this is coming from a Christian who is responding to you and the original poster and I am not here to judge you-- that's HIS job and not mine.
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I'm in sort of the same boat, only I'm 21 and female. But I find women more attractive then men. I too am a virgin though, relationship wise and other ways. But even though it may not be the norm these days. It is still normal, in my opinion.
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Im a 26 year-old gay virgin. I have dated girls and "tried" to be sexually attracted to them but nothing happened. I've reached a point in my life that I need to seek help because fear is the main reason preventing me from living my life. I fear rejection,hostility and ridicule by society/co-workers and friends. I hope you are not in a "negative" position in life as I am. I'm waiting for the "right" person(man) however I have unresolved issues to deal with. If you are not feeling ready then thats NORMAL, it means you have standards and you are looking for something more than just "sex." If you decide to lose your virginity to a man or women, always use a condom!!!!!!!!

If you ever feel depressed or go through anxiety because of this then talk to somebody. If you are self-confident and are saving yourself for that special someone then more power to you. Just remember to love who you are because self-confidence is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
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I'm a 25 year old virgin and have never had a relationship. Never majorly confident anyway this has now really begun to affect my confidence and self-esteem to the point where other people notice. Most of my friends are aware of my situation even though I have only really told one person. Everyone I know, knows I am gay and have done for years but nobody officially knows I am still a virgin. Although I feel sorry for myself now and again, I hate the way other people look at me with pity or sympathy becasue they make it feel as though it is something to be ashamed of. Sometimes I think it is then other times, I feel proud, but not proud enough to go shouting it at the rooftops. I have also reached a point in my life that I need to seek help because fear is the main reason preventing me from living my life. Fear of intimacy and that when/if I do find a man I feel I can trust to be honest with he will reject me becasue of my virginity.
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Hi! I read all these comments and I really liked what was said. I totally understand and I am in the same situation. I'm a 25 year old gay virgin and it's been and still is really difficult. Like most of you who are virgins above, I am waiting for the 'one' who will love me and make me feel special and confident. I really struggle with confidence! Sometimes, I am sad and sometimes I am proud of my virgin status because I didn't just go and make a mistake for my 1st time. I started this site, www.inexqueerienced.com for people like me. Come check it out and see if you can relate to what I've said?? I really hope so, I would love to get a help community going if I can. And @ the poster, I am 25 and STILL not ready so don't be too hard on yourself. You have plenty of time to work through it. I am only just now getting to grips with the whole thing...life is what you make it. x
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Hump away! Sex is fun, test your limits but don't push them and remember that whatever you want to do is a ok, despite people who believe in jesus, fairies or whatever - but frankly they're probably so sexually repressed they can only have sex with doors. Homos are fun, they look better and they have a better dress sense, its scientific fact. Anyone who says otherwise is jealous. Go, spread the good word. And your jizz.
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Anonymous
well its totally normal, more a bit unusual.. but probably youre still a virgin because gay people still aren't accepted, you would then find a guy to take care of you :)
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Did Spam_Javelin post this whine yet again? How many times is he going to post about his gy sex frustrations?
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lol!
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babyangel2580
if your gay its not like your going to get a guy pregnat, just go with ur b/f and both of u get HIV tests then fuck away over and over
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My friend, it's time to stop listening to all that christian moralizing babbling. It's not normal to be a virgin at 22. These are the best years of your life, in terms of relations and sexuality.
Get over your inhibitions and go out. If you don't, you'll be sorry when you're old. There's absolutely nothing to feel bad or guilty about. Seize the day. (and make sure you wear a condom)
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