Hate being loved by father

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What kind of shit does he say and do?

You are spoilt rotten. I feel sorry for your dad. Or maybe he's just trying to get into your pants.

I hope he isn't abusing you sexually, and if he is you should call the police or tell a teacher. The fact that you said he doesn't love your mother anymore, kind of makes me think that might be what's going on. I'm probably wrong though, but just play along with him when he acts like that, try to make it look fake too, so it will make him annoyed. =)

It sounds like maybe you feel a lot of pressure from the attention your dad gives yous like you feel like you have to be responsible for his emotional well being. Rather than fighting and coming at it from that way try telling him you that you feel smothered all his attention makes you uncomfortable. If you ahow him that you can act like an adult about it maybe he will take you more serisouly and respect you wishes. Keep reacting like a child though and situation isn't likely to change.

he might be michel jackson in disguise

haha. No, noftards and violent10dency s comments were helpful. thanks

No, Im pretty sure theres nothing sexual. Spose i should be grateful for that.
I think noftards and violent10dency's comments were helpful and aspects of it. but I am quite mature and It doesnt make a difference to how he treats me, and hIs love is unconditional so nothing i do can stop him.

GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE, THERE ARE PEOPLE WITH REAL PROBLEMS I HAVE TO GET TO.

fuck you. if your so busy helping people whyd you waste your time making such a unhelpful comment

LOL

you should finger yourself in front of your dad then let him smell your fingers and lick it clean.

I think you hate it because you feel smothered. You're feeling the opposite of what neglected children feel but to an extreme... and a lot of times extremes in either direction are not good.

I would have a sit down with him and tell him that you're growing up and you need your privacy and space. It's wonderful you have a loving father as most children do not, but it seems he is not able to show his love in a productive way where you feel safe and protected. Instead you feel like you're drowning and just want to push it all away. Tell him how you feel... if you need an ally perhaps bring in mom if you're close to her or another relative since you don't have siblings. Write it in a letter if that's more comfortable. You can ask for it back if you don't want him to keep it.

If he doesn't agree, then you just have to let him know that what he's doing isn't working and it's just making you hate him instead of returning his love. I would try asking him if he can at least do a trial and you will update him on how the trial is going. Try different things or else you're just going to leave when you're old enough and your father will be deeply hurt. Someday you might mature and get over this but the damage will be done and hard to repair. Good luck to you.

did he did somthg to you?
u said he dont love your mom but you?

Child you are a real piece of work i dont think you would like your father beating you when he is drunk or with a hot wire hanger to your side so appreciate him u spoiled little brat some of us dont have a father to love us u make me sick

I vaguely understand what you're gettin at, I suppose, but I really doubt that your father dotin on you will fuck you up more than gettin abused :S as for the thing about your social issues at school, it's probably not a good idea to get into the habit of blaming your parents for your problems, even if they did contribute to it, it won't stand you in good stead for the rest of your life.
If he truly doesn't love your mother, he's probably just bein over-nice to you in an attempt compensate. To be honest, there's probably not that much you can do if you've already told him (politely) to back off except wait it out until you're old enough to be livin independantly, a bit of distance will probably do youse both a world of good.

wow you sound very grown so do you and your dad a favor i wouldnt tell anyone this but divorce your dad and if your mom knows your dad dont love her then she should let him go too this away your dad can find someone he loves and gets love in return and if its not y

your mom well she need someone else too

WTF?

HATE BEING LOVED?

GUD!

b**** you need to realize that one day u wont have your dad there and nobody will give you the love he gives you...i lost my dad 5 days before my 7th birthday and i would do anything to have him bck if you feel like hes loving you too much talk to him and tell him how you feel dont hate him for loving you too much thats stupid tomorrow is never promised and when he passes away you will regret saying all this bout him!

My dad is like that too, i have an older half sis (on my dad's side) but since i am younger (by like nine-ten years) he dotes on me, and i hate him because he isn't very good a parent (example: when my sis was learning to ride her bike, my mom asked him to help he said "i'm not that kind of father") anyway, he treats my sister unfairly, and i feel that he loves me too much, so i know what you mean, he doesn't really like my sister, but because (she was born in Haiti) of family, and cultural respect, she doesn't talk as bad about him as my mother and i, I honestly don't think i know what would be any help to you, try, family counseling,

thats really sad. it may take years for you to learn to appreciate love. but i'm sure the situation is complicated. i guess you can always date a jerk who hits you or something.

i wish my dad loved me like that

SAME HERE! i love my dad, but he's so annoying sometimes. i don't think it's as bad as you though. ur dad sounds like a rapist.

Love and be loved. Especially when it comes to your parents. If they are good people, no one will ever do more for you than them.

And you will miss them so fucking much when they are gone.

I think you should talk with a councillor to get some objective advice & someone on your sidet.

I think possibly you are being put between your parents' marital problems - sort of a triangle. So your dad's "love" - which is far from Mr Bad Touch - isn't authentic. Its suffocating & misplaced.

Really you have received good advice here. But my hunch is the problem isn't going to go away until your mom & dad do something about their marriage.

wow you bitch. are you really going to blame your social retardedness and problems on your dad loving you? thats selfish and unreasonable. youre the reason for your own problems. how could you bring your dads love into it like that. i feel bad for your father. try to be normal for two seconds and apologize to him for undignified hatred. dont blame him for your shit. bitch.

physical attraction between a couple lasts about a year and a half long enough to make a baby after that one parent transfers the love that they had to the child

your a spoiled bitch. some of us dont know our fathers

be lucky to have that love try growing up with a deadbeat dad u hardly ever saw and being sexually,physically, and emotionally abused from the age of 5-16.... i overcame all this and became a strong woman and mother some people can't but i highly doubt this will fuck up your life it will probably make u a better person be glad your dad is proud of u it must be nice quit being selfish when other people endure worse

I actually don't understand this. You should appreciate the love, even if it feels smothering. It won't be there directly forever.