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I hate my family. I never felt like I belong in this family at all. Everything they do annoys me, the way they walk, talk, and even breath. I just get so irritated with EVERYTHING they do. I can't stand them. I feel like they don't like me very much either. Is it normal for me to be so irritated with them? I get so mad to the point where I'll scream at them for saying something stupid, pointless, and irrelevant to a conversation. Do other people feel this way?
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I am 38. I have been on my own since I was 16 years old. I am STILL battling with my feelings towards my "family". I can honestly say that I do not like them, but hate is a strong word for most of them. I respect my mother because she raised me as a single parent, but do I dislike her? The majority of my heart says yes.

My family members stepped in because my father left when I was 2, and they thought I needed all these extra parental figures. I ended up getting sent away like I was a package worth nothing. Of course I acted out, like most teens do. I didn't do anything different than any other normal teen behavior, yet I was constantly discarded.
I have cousins who are 33, 37 and 24 who have had DUI's, stolen their parents credit cards, racked up tremendous bills with porn, etc etc etc. Not to mention the 33 and 37 year old STILL live at home with their mommy and daddy (who feed them and do their laundry).

As I said, I left when I was 16. I lived and froze my a$$ off in my car for 9 months while I worked 2 jobs. I had to leave school because feeding myself was more important at that time.
I now have a Degree and own my own business and house and never ask them for a thing. I am a survivor.
So see, it's not always the people who dislike their family who are at fault...sometimes the family IS the screw up. Don't be so harsh to people whose shoes you do not walk in.
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Hey MC, it seems like you went through a lot to get where you are. I wish I had your dedication. I too am going through a lot of crap with my family. Most of it is my fault, but they never were there for me in my life to teach me anything. I'm trying to get back in the game and am very heartbroken to realize what a brood of vipers they are. I've been in denial for so many years. They are very rightwing religious people, but they still act like God is a God of damnation. Whatever religion you are, MC, say a prayer to God for me, so I can be more like you. I will pray for you too.
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@: crux666
may god bless your soul....
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@: crux666
Hi crux666... i really don't know what to say. it's been 2years since you've posted your story. but of course I came to this site as well because i hate my family. I am a born again christian, trying to change. But i used to be persecuted by them, always being easily judge. BECAUSE I AM A BORN AGAIN. I admit that there are still lots of weaknesses and imperfections in my life. Today God is totally putting me in the process of dying to my self (i think u know it, putting the flesh to death)... it was so hard and painful. God is showing me all my weaknesses, especially on loving my family... I admit i do not know how to love, for i have never seen it and experience it from my family. All i want is to be understood, that i'm still a stupid person, but trying so hard to change. i tried my very best to understand when they do wrong.. all the painful critics and words they throw at me, i try to expand my understanding and patience. but when it comes to me, they easily judge me because I AM A BORN AGAIN christian. I want to die, die to myself (put the flesh to death)... because i wanted to learn how to truly LOVE. The way God LOVES us. But it was so hard, that i just wish to die literally!
For now, i hold on to God. I know that no matter how imperfect i am, HE LOVES me, UNFAILINGLY. though i am broken because i cannot see Him... instead see and be with people who are insensitive and doesn't know how to love, too... I can do nothing but to hold on to the Love i am hardly trying to believe. Please pray for me, too.
I want to LOVE. but my heart is full of hatred.
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I totally get what you're saying, thanks for saying it! Good to know I'm not the only one stuck with such douches for "family".
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asdfjkl;
I was raised by a single mother with 3 older brothers, me being the youngest (and only) girl in the family. Growing up, my brothers would always call me names of all sorts (i.e. crazy, fat, stupid, ugly, fat, etc..). I would get really mad when this happened (at around the age of 5 even to now) and I would snap, which only helps them prove that I am what they call me. When I snap, they would all used to gang up on me and start calling me more names and sometimes even hit me. I remember when I was 8 I hid in my room closet with scissors one day waiting to stab the first one of them that came in. I used to call my mom to tell her about this when it happened, but she would always ignore me. I felt I had no voice, obviously this showed at school because I had started to let my grades slip since I felt, with all my heart, that I should just die (age 7). Then they started to beat me up or lock me out of my house. I also went to my grandparents, cousins, and other relatives about this but they all ignored me and said I deserved it or said nothing and just left me alone. I am scarred because of my childhood. To make things worse, my mom compared to me to lots of my peers/ relatives which made things like hell to me (it still goes on). Now I lock myself up in my room and don't talk to anyone, but even in my own solitary confinement I am dying. I still have thoughts of suicide and sometimes think that I am the reason why my dad started to abuse drugs and left our family. To make it even worse, my mom complains about her life to me, though I never say anything when she does. I never like to initiate in a conversation at home, and give as little reply to my family; I am just a listener to them. I think that if I even attempt to voice my opinions at home I would have to repeat my childhood. I really believe I have a right to hate my family; but it might just be selfish of me to do so.. is it right for me to hate them with all my heart..?
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@asdfjkl

I feel your pain! I, too, have been suicidal because of the issues with my family abuse and judgment. I know suicidal ideations and have actually tried to take my life several times because of things that have yet to be realized by them as truth. They are in denial about things my adopted brother did with his friend because they idealize and put him on a pedastal. What words of encouragment I can give you is this if you are still hurting and being abused, call the authorities and tell. I wish I had said something when I was a child, maybe my adopted mom would have believed me but I was scared. You need to tell someone, the police, a teacher someone. I hope you are in a better situation and I will send my prayers. If ever you need to vent, feel free to write me. I know the pain of abuse all too well!!

Angelgirl1982
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well true and not true because some people cant handle their parents and move out
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Your actually amazing! I'm just gone 18 nd I live in a house with ma da three brothers nd just cause they play sports im just blank to them can't remember when they said well done or im proud of ya! And reading this what you had to do just to feed yourself you give me nd I say many people hope! Your someone I look up 2!
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can't stand mine either. Nothing but a bunch of hypocrites. Always talk about how Things should be this way and that, but behind closed doors they r alcoholics or addicts of some other notion. Control Freaks and Self righteous Holier than Thou arts. They are quick to point a finger and judge me and anyone else who isn't of their liking, but forget about their own demons and skeletons in their own damn closets. I don't fit in because my brain doesn't work like theirs. Outcast from everyone. I'm constantly wishing i wasn't born, hoping for death to come. They always talk about how I should contribute and when i do, they ignore it, only looking at what i DON'T do for them. They manipulate me nto playing Cinderella while they go out. When i am depressed or sad about something, do they care? Not really they shrug and say tuffin up, get over myself, that my problems are irrelevant. But when they have a bad day they expect me to be compassionate and walk on egg shells for them. Eff THAT! and Eff them! I LOATHE THEM TO THE CORE! THEY ARE A BUNCH OF FINGER POINTING JUNKIES. i'm so done with them and everything else. but its cool cus by January i will leave for good and they will never hear from me again.
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It is completely normal to hate your family. Especially if you have lived with them for most of your life, you probably know every detail about their character, down to how horrible they really are. IT IS NOT A TEENAGE PHASE. I am a completely independent adult and my dislike for my family only gets greater as I've slowly realized what harm my family had caused me over the years.

Although I tried to please my mother, it was never good enough for her. She was a very physically and verbally abusive woman. Starting from when I was a child, she would shout at me for hours telling me that I was too short and skinny and that nobody would ever marry me because of it. Not until my teenage years when I had contact with the boys that I realized I was actually a decent looking girl. Then one day she caught me holding hands with my first boyfriend (she followed me to the fair without telling me) and screamed at me in front of everyone while dragging me by the hair back to her car.

Although I had always loved my father on some level because he didn't scream at me as much, I realized much later that he was a horrible father. He wouldn't participate in my mother's abuse but was too fearful of her to ever speak up. When I tried to talk to him about my mother's horrible injustices he would just brush it aside and say that she would never change.

My little sister is the most self-righteous bitch on the planet. From an early age she developed a I'm-better-than-you attitude towards me because my mother favored her in every way. Whenever we fought I got punished. As we got older my sister routinely lectured me on "how to be a good person" which consisted mostly of being "grateful towards our mom".

When I was 17 I developed a severe case of depression. My mother's continued abuse and my father's ignorance made me stop caring about the world and for some reason my body just stopped working on me. I was experiencing severe muscle pains and would be unable to get out of bed so that I slept for 20 hours or more straight having terrible nightmares. Finally my illness was so obvious to myself that I called the hospital to get advice on what I should do. When the doctors said I was suffering from depression my parents laughed it off and said I was lying to get attention. I forked out every last cent of my savings to get better and until the end they never believed me, even when it was obvious that most days I couldn't stand straight.

When I was 18 I decided that I had had enough and walked out. It was the best decision of my life.

I realized that I am in no way "in debt" to my family just because I am related to them. My mother believed that because she "raised" me she could treat me however she wanted. It doesn't work that way. Nobody deserves to be treated like shit.
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You are awesome.
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Yeah, it's normal. Let me preface this by saying that I'm 21, I'm in the military, I'm away from my family, and I love it.

All of the people saying things like "You little f**kers are immature little sh**s" and the like are erring in that you're aking the fundamental assumption that everyone's family is the same and they've had the same experiences growing up. Nice work guys, that's smart.

I really hate my family. Half of them, at least. Here's an example of why:

My mom decided to visit me here at my base in California. Not only did she not consult with me before she made travel plans and purchased tickets, but she didn't even attempt to get any input on as to when. (It wouldn't have been the best week.) Then, a week before she gets here I get a call from my sister (whom I loathe) and she tells me how she is just "hella" excited to go on a double date with "my girlfriend" (which I don't have) and me.

So I'm pissed. More than a little pissed. Not only did my mom decide to bring my 19 year-old sister, she decided to bring her 18 year-old tool of a boyfriend. Oh, and she wasn't even going to tell me about it.

So what's a young boy with near-unlimited funds and a top-secret clearance to do? Convince his meddling spinster of a mother that he had eloped without telling her side of the family. So he finds a girl in his class to agree to be his "wife" for a week, goes to a local silversmith and gets some very convincing rings made and then introduces his "wife" to the family at dinner after they arrive.

I've never seen a family vacation unravel so fast. I'm happy, too. All they did the entire time they were here was complain about prices, the weather, the people, the lack of exciting things to do, and everything I had done all week.

Bottom line, just because somebody got knocked up and carried you to term doesn't mean that they have carte blanche to monkey around with your best efforts at having a happy, productive life.
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Wow, I guess alot of us are in similar situations..

Its weird because whenever im pissed about something I google it :p (weird huh?) then I came across this page..

Honestly, I hate my family too (except my little 12 yr old brother), Im 19 and I have never gotten along with my family ever...and I still dont, the day I leave them is the day I will be very happy..

My dad: Faddass, eats and eats, farts in public, bites nails, dont know how to talk to anyone, dont know shit about women, yells like a idiot , yells at me for everything..bitches all day

my mom: sheez, she wants to know everything! even every breath i take shes like "wtf was that? " she bitches all day about everything ....
my sister: fuckin cow, what a idiot...shes probably the most stupidest person alive, shes got zero brains, bitches about everything and complains and moans all day, the sad part is shes about to turn fuckin 22 !

Sadness I tell you sadness..... I dont think anyone should feel guilty about hating their family because

a.) no one sat us down and said "You get to choose either family a, family b or family c" We had no choice....

Family sucks. :(
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our families sound exactly the same. i feel like they are all crazy, in their own way but blame each other for all of their own problems and don't really care about anything that used to matter and value. i want to get out but i also want to finish graduate school and moving out is financially impossible. i'm stuck.
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Hartikter
yeah sometimes family does suck.
i google evrything so i understand :)
but im the youngest i alwais get shouted at even for things i didnt do. evry1 i was close to has walked out my life. wenever getting invloved in fyts with my sister i get hit all the time. i cant be botherd to fyt bak at times. i break down and cus i share rooms thers nower to go and just cry.. or no1 to talk to so i have to blok it all in..
how does any1 do it?
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I STRONGLY agree...family can be the worse people to deal with
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I think there is the family that we choose and the family that we are born into. They say that the family that you are born into is worth hanging onto, but I'm pretty sure that's not always true.

In my case, I'm about one inch away from disowning the lot of my biological family. I'm 32, by far the most responsible of them all, including my parents (my non-nuclear family isn't so bad, actually). I feel like the only reason they still have a connection with me is because I am a sucker and they think I will be their insurance policy.

They can't manage their money, they have terrible parenting skills, and they think that because I have an education, I must somehow know less about the Real World. They are yellers, I am calm. They make rash decisions, I think things through. They pretty much only call to ask for favors or money.

I don't give advice, unless they ask for it, because I know they will never take it anyway. I do not judge them, at least not in their hearing. I simply try to live as separate of a life as I can, far, far away.

Honestly, though, I'm about to disown them. Every time I see them, I think, "I hate my family." We have so little in common that I am sure they probably don't enjoy time around me either...who would want to spend time with a person who doesn't enjoy their company? I try to be pleasant, but I'm not much of an actress.

I googled, "I hate my family" today because I just got a call from my brother. It turns out that he and my sister had driven 6 hours to the city I live in. My brother was visiting his son and my sister was here looking for a place to stay.

I got a last-minute phone call (no warning that they were coming) to say they wanted to get together. My brother comes over with his son, who has no boundaries. We wait for my sister, and he decides it would be more fun to go to a park, so he leaves. My sister, who was still supposed to come over, never called and never showed. Grrr... did I mention that I hate my family?

There may be some bit of "oh, I'm so sorry I missed it" if I don't try to get along with them and they die. But I'm not that kind of person, to dwell on things like that.

I don't need them to support me in my old age. The more likely scenario is them sucking the life out of my own nest egg and ruining my day, to boot.

So here you go, world, my first announcement that I will never initiate a single conversation or visit unless I *want* to. No more obligation.
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@: sanuk
Sanuk - you seem to share a lot of the same feelings I do. I even came to this board the exact same way you did. Good luck with your adventures in life! We all deserve to be happy in whatever way works for us.
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I hate my oldest brother. We never got along. My oldest brother and youngest brother are abusive to me at times because not only are they abusive men, but they're not happy with their lives. If you're not happy with yourself, you can't be happy with others. My Mom sticks up for them (denial), and it makes it worse. My Dad and I were very close, but he's deceased. My middle brother and I are very close, he says "ignore them." The sad part? We're adults.
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Ehh, I get annoyed by my family much too often myself. I'm a teenager... except I don't express my hatred to them at all.
I isolate myself, so I'm always on the computer. My brother who was the only person in my family that was nice to me got kicked out and now he lives with my cousin. My sister and my mother are huge gossips which extremely irritates me. They always look at the bad side of people... (and I'm the kind of person that likes to look at the good things in people). My dad is uneducated and just really annoying... I always have to repeat things I say to him more than several times and he just shrugs it off and tells me that I'm wrong.
Just today my sister came in from work and yelled at me telling me to study (and I have no notes to study from, and nothing to study for) then she hits me... and my mom who was watching TV comes in and tells me to study. They're upset because I took a diagnostic test which consists of questions that I never learned before and I got a 50 on it...
My mom constantly tells me that I'm stupid and lack common sense. I just lose all hope sometimes... I want to be an author and now that my sister and my mom tell me that my english isn't good I just get upset.
Also, they always complain that I'm not 'independent', but they never give me a chance to be independent... They always tell me to go out and have fun... but today I asked to go out to the park on my own and they wouldn't let me because they think I'm too stupid to cross the street.
There's just no motivation. No inspiration.
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I've just found a whole bunch of brothers and sisters I never knew I had:) Welcome to the world of lousy families. I've learned one thing..I refuse to let any of them have free rent in my head. It takes to much energy to hate, so I've simply written them off. If you are still at home and have to deal with them..just do your best till you can get out of a rotten situation. Life can be wonderful without them.
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Anonymous
I think it depends on the family not if you are just a teen. I'm 25 and I probably hate my mother more now then I ever have in my life. I didn't get along with my father and so I never talked to him and he died last year and I wasn't very upset about it and when I think about it, I don't regret never talking to him.
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I am 30 years old. I do not enjoy my family's company one bit. I do not shy away from get-togethers, but i do not look forward to them either. My family makes excuses for each other. So when the next one mucks up, they expect the other to make an excuse for them. Not in a healthy way. But a "someone who lives at home with parents & refuses to work" kinda way. I also have a newborn son which nobody comes to see. When he is sick, nobody asks how he was doing or came to see him. However, we have a few new babies in our family, & those same people get upset if you do not come visit their baby's. When you do talk to them, they just simply discuss their life with their new baby & not a word or hint that i even have one! This is just a small tiny, tiny sample of my family. Selfishness & unfairness runs thick in my family.
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Anonymous
I know exactly how you feel. I barely talk to mine. I just do my own thing. I love my mom, but it's sad that she doesn't know the real me. I don't know what to do.
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Hartikter
exactly the same. i love my parents but what do you do? they dont noe the real me eitha :(
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I feel really lucky. My mom is a complete bitch who is as fake as can be. On top of that, she enjoys beating me up for no reason from time to time. I really hate her. I love my dad, yet I would not be proud to grow up to be like him either. He accepts what my mom does as if it were completely normal on her part and blames me for everything that goes wrong in his life. He thinks that his family is disfunctional because I refuse to speak to my mother. I find it amazing how many people live their whole lives and never actually find time to open their eyes. I can only really connect with my eldest sister, maybe because she is the only one of my 4 siblings that went through what I am, and she has moved out. My relationship with my second eldest sister and my brother is fine. My youngest sister is the biggest little bitch I have ever met; she probably takes after my mother. Oh - in case I forgot to mention - my mother pretends to want to stay with my father so that he'll pay her bills, which he does, along with all the other luxurious items she decides she wants. Meanwhile he struggles to keep his four youngest in school and eldest in university. I am really, really lucky that I have three great siblings, a dad who is fine as long as my mother stays away, and amazing friends who help me get through it all. I am extremely grateful for everything I have.
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I want to add that it took me SOOOO many years to stop trying to have healthy relationships with my family!!! Wasted years, where I just kept walking right back into the same lion's den.

We're told that because it's family we SHOULD feel a particular way, but the truth is, if your family doesn't make you feel good in their presence--if their impact on your life is less than uplifting, AND I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT HAVING A CURFEW OR BEING TOLD TO TURN OFF THE COMPUTER AT 11PM!!!! I'm talking about the real stuff. The family who is verbally or physically abusive. The family who is constantly putting you down and making you feel like less of a person when the real issue is THEY feel like less of a person and need to diminish you. The family who isn't there during your worst times but expects you to be there. The twisted people who will do you damage.

Family or not-- remove yourself.
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I think it's perfectly normal to "hate" your family or at least be irritated as hell by them. I am 27 and up until recently I didn't have a relationship with one of my brothers and the other one I barely see. One I didn't have much of a relationship with actually died this year. I love my mom but when I was younger I had a real love/hate relationship with her. I had to move 3,000 miles away to a state where I knew no one for 4 years to stop hating her, I always felt distanced from everyone in my family except for my dad, who died earlier this year as well. I always felt when I was growing up that my dad had an affair and brought home his mistress' child because I felt so disconnected from my 4 siblings and my mom. I felt like no one loved me besides my dad and everyone just sat around waiting for me to fail. When my parents got a divorce, my sister and brothers basically divorced my dad too and since I still liked my dad I was odd man out. My mom treated me like she only loved me because she had to and was always so worried about appearence rather than what was going on. When I left for the four years, none of my brothers ever called me. There was a point where I was homeless and I don't think I ever even crossed their minds. I try to just suck it up now that I'm older but sometimes when they start with all their never ending dysfuntional drama, I just want to strangle them and I must admit that I still have resentment towrds them despite the fact that I have tried to get over it. So if your family sucks like mine, I think it's perfectly normal and it is not just a teenage thing because if your family is fucked up when you're young, they'll still be fucked up when you're older too. My best advice is just to try and not let things get to you and if you are 18 , move out as soon as you can. Personally space can help alot. Good luck!
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Best thing you can do is leave home with a plan for yourself! Work hard to be independent. I left at 18 and didn't look back but it follows you. We all have baggage, some worse than others and expressing it is VERY neccessary and healthy! Live for yourself! Living well is the best revenge!!!! Find what s good about your life and focus on that. If there's nothing good, imagine it. Listen to your intuition/gut feeling! Its always right. Eventually you'll see through the lies at home and realize they are living their own drama and nightmares! Walk away and find yourself.
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Anonymous
Not all families are great. You just have to accept that some people don't make good parents. Try not to repeat those mistakes with your own children. My own children are very happy and we get along wonderful. Time has not changed my feelings about my family. The only difference is that I can let things slide. It helps when you live far away. Hang in there
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Dont feel bad dude. I hate my family too. I feel like my made no effort to help me. Particulary my mom. And I have a reformed cleptomaniac 30 year old brother who cant seem to be on his own. But I'm not worry. I will be moving out soon and will most likely cut all ties with them.
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I am sooooo happy I found people who feel the same way. I know what you mean everything about them is just plain annoying. When I was young I was considered the black sheep of the family. However after I grew up and I have tried my best to try and convert my behaviour to please them, if you get my drift. BUT they always treat me like the stupid, fat, loser of the family. Well you can say it has led me to living of a double life of bulimia, depression and suicidal behaviour that NONE of them no about. Oh well. I guess though, on one hand you can also say you never know what you had until it is gone...yeah right. Basically plain and simple, don't like them and don't think I ever will.
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@: pooey
I have a similar situation except when I was young I was the good kid and always helped my single mom out while my sisters went out whoring around. I rebelled later and am finding that now that I am going to college for psychology, all those pent up bad feelings for some of my siblings (10 of us kids) is coming out. I am tired of sucking it up while they make fun of me and laugh at me behind my back, thinking they are better than me. They are scum in my eyes!!
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U know what guys?! i have the same problem here with my family, i hate them (like u and lighty..)because of that i feel always depressed and melancholy (since childhood)
i think this hate toward them leads me to misanthropy..
I hate my life with them and I can't take it anymore :S
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Wow... I thought I was the only one who felt this way. It's sort of nice to know that Im not some wacko nut job that might turn out to be a misanthrope.

But, just like everyone said, I sort of hate my family too. I've never really felt like I belonged with them and for no reason I snap at them or act rude towards them. I have no clue why things are like this but it just is. I dont know... sometimes I love them when I realize all the stuff they've done for me but then other times I realize all the bad stuff they did and I just go back to hating them again. It's bittersweet I guess you can say. But sometimes I feel like they dont understand me either.

They complain about me not wanting to spend time with them but whenever I do we just get into this big ol' arguement and in the end it was just pointless.

But yeah... I'm in the same boat guys.
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I'm 25 and I grew up hating my family and I still do. I don't know if it's normal, but it's acceptable...or it should be. There are such things as toxic families and if you've got a toxic family, it's better to be away from them than to be around them. Anything or anyone that is deteriorating your health and well being shouldn't be in your life. I'm on the same boat as you and I feel for you.
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My mom always yells at me to play violin and piano. even though she knows that i hate it. I need to practice 24/7. And my younger sister slapped me in the face, punched me in the stomach, pushed me into a wall, and I slid and fell onto a thumbtack. I was crying, and so mad at my sister I just threw a flashlight at her, and she started crying. She told my mom and I told my mom what happened. She hit me so hard that i got a bruise and a big bump on my wrist. Then i told my older sister Mulin, but she said to just apologize and that it was all MY fault. Only my dad is on my side. Grr. My mom, older sister, and younger sister are bitches.
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I'm long past my teen years and I hate my family.
They have no concept of love, communication and truth.
They lie, scream, gossip, and manipulate eachother and yet they are different with their friends. I hate them. I hate everything about them. The only thing that I am grateful to them for is that they have shown me exactly who I don't want to be.

The trick is NOT to marry someone who you will unconsciously try to work through your family issues with. I did and he turned out to be a lying, cheating alcoholic who did extensive damage to our children.

Family values-don't fall for it. Don't get trapped in the ultimate manipulation. Like other mammals I think humans would be better off leaving their homes alot earlier.
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I too googled "I hate my family" and found this great post. My mother kicked me out the house and I now live with my oblivious, old fashioned pig of a father, whom I never really liked(was always partial to my mother) and despite living with him for 10 months, we haven't gotten any closer everything from this f**king mess of an apartment to the screwy rules, the "small talk" comments right down to the way he chews(and snores...) drives me insane. Daily. But I've learned to deal with it, by keeping as much distance as I can(max 8 yards) and just keeping my mouth shut and my body in my room.

Things get 10 times worse during holidays when my college graduate, twice my age sister( who expects me to obey her as if she's my mother)comes home, steals my room(putting me on the floor) and generally is just a hypocritical, pretentious, obnoxious bitch for an extended weekend, my other sister who is her age does not even allow her to stay in her 2 story home with her and her husband she is so hard to get along with. She was out today buying clothing for herself with my dad's credit card and I called and asked if she could pick up something to eat, she was being difficult and I told her to forget about it. Long story short, she ended up coming home SCREAMING at me, telling me she's not my personal slave, that I'm a selfish brat and that my dad needs to punch me in face, the entire apt floor hears us arguing and she ends up locking me out the apt as I eat my homemade omelet on a staircase.

At this point I never, ever want to speak to her again, this kind of shit happens every time I see her(and she wonders why I ignore her"friendly" texts and calls when she's not here), a quick summary of my family

I'm the youngest by far and every thinks I'm a spoiled, selfish brat, no of them know anything about me.

Mom: Kicked me out the house(I had just turned 18 3 months prior), moved halfway across the country without so much as a goodbye, a phone number or mailing address.

Dad: self-righteous, oblivious and all around ignorant who no one liked or spoke to until my mother lost her marbles(kicked me out among other things).

At this point in my life I realize that we are simply incompatible, I honestly want nothing more than to be left alone as I slowly but surely plan to move(I have a job, just looking for an affordable place now...) but I can't even get that. My family does nothing for me but cause incredible amounts of STRESS. I could go on for pages about the rest of my family, hell even about today, I can't wait for my sister to leave but even then I know I will still hate this place. I'm so glad to have found a place where people feel the same way and I can vent without criticism from those who do not understand.

Happy Holidays :-)
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It is weird how I never thought there are other people who shares the same feeling as me. I always felt alone. I'm 23 and throughout all my life, I've been struggling to have freedom of my own. I'm stuck with a family that's unthoughtful, selfish, and loves to blame/accuse others. My parents own a shop who always make me go to work for them after i get off work from my full time day job. When a day I dont, and probably because i'm too tired, they will yell at me and think I'm a bad daughter. They are the most unreasonable parents. My mom exagerrates everything I do, like if I get home a bit late (talking about not even 12am yet) and plus I dont go to nightclubs or anything like that, she will b*tch at me like I have killed someone. My dad is actually the nicest one in my family but he always listens to whatever my mom says and will side with her. My 3 yr older sister is a bossy B*TCH, she controls everything, she acts like she's a mom, she back stabs me to make herself look like a good daughter in front of my parents. My 3 year younger bro acts like hes an older bro to me. He is always indirectly cocky and is very disrespectful to me. They always say I'm wrong about this and that, but they never have any points to back them up, they just like to accuse me for I dont know what reason. I feel like I'm trapped in a cage and been tortured everyday. When i was younger, i loved my family, i always listened to whatever they told me to do, i guess they have taken me for granted and until today that i can bare no longer.
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no its normal. lately as i ive been getting older i see the wrongs of my family. i have a father who doesnt know how to show love; i have a mother who cant make up her mind on weather to be angry at me or happy that im around, and i have younger sisters that at times i cant stand. like tonight my mom started to argue about me using cigeretts. It became an arguement which got somewhat out of hand because she made no sense in her argument. after i told her she was wrong in her assumptions, she decided to punch me! not warrented or deserved. it was because i had my window open and its late she was mad cause i was putting her dirtyu laundry out in the open and have ppl see her for who she really is. A fake fronting B!tch
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well i have to say i hate my family also. they dont know me and when ive tried to tell them who i am they still want me to be someone im not. theyre just pretty much out of touch with humanity and anything that is out of touch with humanity is easy to hate. they bicker, fight,use each other, and are verbally abusive. i was smart enough to realize their short faults werent mine. today i barely talk to my family. one day i think i might just leave and start over and live life the way ive dreamed. and its normal to hate family afterall theyre human like everybody else except theyre in your gene pool. thats it. i knew something was wrong when i had to force myself to be in my familys presence and even as a young child i fantasized about running away and changing my name. a family should be supportive, giving,loving, uncondtional, nurturing, protective, my family represented that at one point and then all hell broke loose. why i dont know. i at least had my own place and didnt have to fucking talk them but now my stupid twin lives with me and i have to look at her everyday. im 25 and i know my family is not anything to be proud about and i would describe myself as a pretty reasonably sane stable person.
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I know exactly how you feel, and no it's not a Teenage Thing.

First of all, I hate my Mum. All she does is b*tch, yells at me, blames everything on me, did I mention yells at me for absolute no reason? Like when I forgot to take my bowl out she nearly hit me. A few years ago I cut a bit of my hair and she found out. She went crazy and OMG I nearly ran away from home. She physically punched, kicked, hurt me. And this was when I was only 11 years old and now I'm older. And it still hurts me because all I did was cut a bit of hair, oh wow big deal. Like the other day, my Mum bought a Crimbo present for my teacher to give to my Mum. I said it's stupid but ok. (It's my opinion, so f*ck what she says) And she was yelling at me that what do I want to give him for Christmas and I said I told you just a Picture Frame I got the photos Omg and walked off and told my Dad sh*t that I never said. Then my Dad told me to get off the Computer and took the phone off; and told me to clean my room. I cleaned my room and then my Dad's like What did I tell you? Clean your room but in a angry way. What's the point of cleaning up ya room when you're gunna mess it again? I did clean it. My mum is the biggest b*tch ever I hate her.

And then there's my Dad, who's an alcoholic 24/7. He wouldn't care less if I ran away from home. He looks at porn, swears at me, always at mate's house drinking and blames it all on me. So does my Mum who blames everything on me. Oh it's always my fault that my stupid Dad gets drunk isn't it? Right then

And then there's my SISTER. She comes in my room while I'm changing without knocking or anything so I yell at her and tell her to get out and Mum hears and she threatens me that she will hit me until I bleed which has happened before. So wtf is her problem? Idc. I rather DIE than live with my stupid family for the rest of my life. My sister always looks at my computer screen, and when I look at hers she's like What f*ck off, what a little b*tch aye?

And today I asked my Mum if I can go to my friends on Friday because it's the last day of school and she's like No blah blah blah and my sister's like you're always at people's houses. Uh little girl, stfu! It's called Friends.. Yeah it's something she'll never understands.

My sister is a disgusting little thing, I saw her dancing naked once to Britney Spears music and I told her that's f*cking disgusting and 2 mins later I saw her humping a chair and once again I told her it's disgusting.

She doesn't shower, brush her teeth, or anything.

And back to my Mum, I told her that I was a vegetarian and she said you'll be sorry for this or something and she said I'm gunna go to hell, wth. My religion is a vegan you stupid b*tch. I hate my family.

Please, I don't care if any of them die. I may cry but I'd be happier without them. If I attempt to run away, do you really think I'll succeed? All they'll do is beat me.
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@: Giina
Sorry about your family situation, hate mine too. On the other hand, you seem very sexually conservative- porn isn't something to condemn anyone for, lots of people like to dance naked when alone, and what's wrong with masturbation!?
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@: Giina
ur the most ungrateful person in the world
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I think it's normal. I'm 50 years old and I hate my family. I was raised by religious wingnuts and married a religious wingnut and now our kids are religious wingnuts. Can't stand a single one of 'em, hate 'em all! You can't make yourself like people you don't like and you can't change your family. Some people get great families and some people get bad families. All you can do is be yourself.
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I hate mostly everyone in my family. From my negative stuck in her ways grandmother, to my manipulating mother, my back stabbing father, ignorant brother, and jealous sisters. I use these words very directly to describe the people I am supposed to love. They have treated me and everything I've done to be crazy. My accomplishments are always treated as if I was retarded and had to over come something. Because these people are the closest to me I have had extream difficulties trusting any and everyone else. In fact I'm starting therapy tomorrow. Nice to know I'm not the only one feeling this way...
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In some cases I don't think it's a teen thing
I'm 25 years old with 3 children and feel the same way I moved out when I was 15 to live with my grandparents. Maby it's the way My family treated me it's like I'm the black sheep. I am the oldest of 4 kids My mother was a drug addict and father was a drunk, The both are sober now but it makes no differance to me.
My parents had there favarites my 2 younger brothers. For the life of me I can't figure out why. I am the only one married, only one with a job, and only one that finished school.
My 2 younger brother still live with mom and live of her, So go figure
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I hate my familly. But it's not like their the ones bitching,too even though mine does all the time. So now its my turn. I love AND hate my family. First off: My biological parents. My dad has been in jail all my life but before he would beat my mother like a ragdoll and even kicked my mother was pregnant with me, she took ccocaine and smoked and barely eaten or took care of herself, but i luckily came out fine except i have a chemical depression from her pregnancy. My mother abandoned us for almost a year when i was in 3rd grade, and it's a grudge i honestly will never get over. I had a lonely childhood in which i was sexually abused and i rarely trust anyone. My mom has favored her boyfriends over us, and the bruises have faded but the pain remains the same. I was adopted by my grandparents, and my mother hates them because they took custody even though she wrote a letter to court demanding to. I hate my older siblings. They are rude and careless. My brother is a smoker (including my entire family,except me.) He expects us to be there for him, and trust me we are, but he pushes and slaps my sister and i around, and he disrespects the home by bringing his drug-addict friends and steals my anti-depression pills,and i have to clean his room every fucking day and im tired of it. All he wants is sex and a playboy lifestyle, and he's currently playing two girls. Somedays when i see him give up, i want to mother him and help him out but he pushes and yells at me and telling me im ugly and fuck off and pointing out my flaws. My sister is the same but shes 15, and she broke a promise with my grandfather to stay a virgin until marriage. She's going off having sex with her boyfriend and it makes me sick and angry. I promised her i'll keep it a secret, and i was willing to buy her a test cause she had a pregnancy scare. She's infatuated with her bf and im scared she'll get heartbroken like i did,but im a virgin and NOT sexually active. My grandma, is always complaining about me that i dont listen even thoguh im the only one who actually cleans thier room and helps around the ouse and washes the bathroom and dishes. She's always telling s about how shes gonna die soon and we'll all regret it, also my grandpa. I feel for them and i am good to them but my whole family takes me for granted and lately my thoughts have been steering to suicide. I'm sick of my family, i hate them, and theyve driven me to the end of my rope. I have no real friends, i cant bring myself to open up in counseling, my ex is a jackass, everyone gives out on me, i keep their secrets and i dont EVER tell them mine, and im sick of being pulled into different directions. Everyone takes sides and they expect me too, and i dont take sides for shit. I hate everyone, including myself and im done crying every single night, im tired of thinking of a place that is better, im tired of wishing for the best but expecting the worst, im tired of Arizona, im just tired.
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hey, love and hate... my dad made the mistake of taking his own life, and although i've forgiven him, it just wasn't very cool of him to do that. u never realize what u meant to people that way. and if ur family sucks, then i say f***'em. find a friend to talk to. if u dont have one i'll be one to talk to. jus take it one day at a time, there's someone out there that it'll make it all worth while.
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43 here and can barely stand to be around some members of my family. My mom always believed we were her "property" so treated us as if we had no feelings, or say so in anything. She spanked, yelled, isolated, neglected, interrogated...painful. Amazingly - the sense of ownership aspect carried on into adulthood! She still behaves the same! I keep my distance to keep from just cutting loose on her and giving her a piece of my mind. One thing for certain - she influences NONE of what I do now. And interestingly...it still hurts. But I'm a survivor and I know the safe space to keep her at now.
My older sis - always a bully. She - 3 years older - was left to babysit most of the time. She hated me and my younger sister too. Mainly due to having to pick up the parenting reigns my parents didn't want to hold. She's apologetic now, and I never talk about it. But with the tongue of a snake and passive aggressive behavior - even her children have no self esteem as a byproduct. She essentially took on the persona of my mom. So so sad to see.
The short of it - be stubbornly determined to create the great life you want. Pick new friends for a family. There's some really wonderful people around - fun, understanding, and seeking new families too.
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@: dj-imok
24 here; I had a very similar situation with my mother. I was nothing more than her property. A grand experiment to her. And a failed one at that. It was not unheard of for her to withhold basic needs like food. I should have ran away, but she's the one who left when I was 16. The last time I saw her she told me that giving birth to me was the biggest mistake of her life. She now lives several states away and we MIGHT email twice a year. I've since made a life for myself. I'm very happy with my wife. We don't have kids and don't really plan to have any, any time soon. She, her family and our friends have become more to me than my mother ever was. I'd also like to add that my mother was a heavy drug & alcohol user before my birth. My father, absentee as he is, continues to drink and drug. He only shows up when he wants something. Honestly it's amazing that he's still alive, due to his harsh lifestyle. I'm planing to cut him off completely very soon. I made the choice around the age of 14 that I was never going to be my parents. When I was sick with the shakes due to an untreated infection (property didn't rate the doctor in my mothers eye) I made the choice then and their that I didn't need THEM. That may have been the fever speaking but it's still true today. So far I've kept true to my promise to myself; I don't drink, drug and I unconditionally love my new family.
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i hate my family with so much passion and here's why...

my dad: i like him sometimes and i feel like i have a closer relationship with him than the other people in my house, but he always made these promises that he didn't make ever since i was 3 and i would always cry about that. he also thought that it would be great to move me and my family out of a place where i loved and felt so happy to a place where i have been picked on and never felt so alone.

my mom: i hate her so much! she has made me felt so stupid and always criticized me no matter what i've done. when ever i was bullied she always thought that i made the whole thing up. i was close with my aunt, and when my mom & her started not talking with each other i got a call from my aunt asking how i was doing and my mom found out and took my phone away. she also thought that my taste in movies, music, tv etc was pathetic and told me that every chance she had. on day i told her that i didn't believe in jesus that much and she yelled at me and then took me to church. she's never supported my dreams, always made me feel like the black sheep, and whenever i had a bad day she would always say that it doesn't matter and then she would go and rant on her problems

my sister: she is the spawn of the devil and hitler, she always picks on me and would brag her grades in front of me (this was usually when i had a bad grade). she also is the biggest bitch on the planet because one time we started fighting and she pushed me on the stairs, i ended up with a broken leg my mother said that it was my fault and then treated my sister like she was lady di.

i just can't wait till the day i move out because i hate my life and if i ever have a family i hope that i'd never have a family like mine
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Im 25 and I hate my family. My parents divorced when I was 11. I have a fuckin cow of a sister whos 2 years older, shes the classic bitch whos life revolves around wine, food and hating people, shes gotten everything shes ever wanted and never had real problems and shes the most bitter fucking bitch on earth. I started drinking and smoking pot when I was 13, I began doing it daily with my dad at age 15 until I was burnt out at 22, then he kicked me out and moved 3000 miles away with an old girlfriend, but hes the best one in my family, I hate my mother more than anything, I didnt see her for 10 years and then she comes into my life telling me everythings wrong and using the UGLIEST language Ive ever heard, shes a fuckin witch, Im not even try to bother writing the things my mothers put me through, Im not even sure Ill ever live a normal happy life cause of her, shes a fuckin mental drunk, psychopathic cunt of a fuckin mother, nobody cares about anyone in my family, were all a bunch of drunks who live in different houses, but Im the only one who quit drinking and Im planning on going far away and having a better life, I aint stickin around as the black sheep until Im 50 catering to a mother,sister,stepfather,uncle,and bunch of others who sit around drinking thinking im the shit of the earth. fuck them. my dad must of figured it out, get your act together and move far away, hes the only one who made much sense in my family.
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I'm 33 and I hate my family to. My family is the kind of family that back bites and gossips behind each others backs. and once I was very sick and needed a ride to the doctor and called my aunt. I was to sick to drive. my uncle in law answered who is a baptist pastor and said nope your aunt is at the store. and I could hear her talking to her 2 kids in the back ground. I thought preachers were not supposed to lie ?

all the family on my fathers side are pieces of sh*t . the drunk uncle who has been in and out jail and on drugs his whole life , the fat aunt that lives off her kids child support , the otehr fat aunt who says why doesnt she get a job and quit being a fat lay at home bum (whom doesn't have a job and watches soaps all day) then there is the religious sides and the nice religious arguments on who is in the correct religion baptist vs pentecostal vs church of christ . those damn baptists are a pain in the a**. they always start the religious arguments. my uncle in law his family, and my actual uncle dean and his family. actually no longer talk to me because I refused to join there baptist church . so they usually ignore me even if I see one and say hi at walmart. at christmas they always make a smart a**ed comment under their breath.
my father was a piece of trash and beat me growing up, I remember the nice bloody nose he gave me at the age of 12 years old. my mother set by and usually taunted him on say things like " get him good daddy"
or " wait till your father gets home he is going to show you real good"
pretty much my whole family are trash.... fat lazy with no jobs and live off of some one elses money, into drugs and alcohol , bullies etc.

funny how when I was a kid my cousin allen had a dad and sister and a mom and they would always eat at the dinner table , and go on vaccations together, and laugh together. and my cousin allen got a tattoo on his back that said luv ya mom,dad,sis .
I often wished I had been burn into a different family. I hate my family my mother,father,sister pretty much all of them. the only person I like is my grandma on my moms side. because she is normal and nice and not a nutjob
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if you hate your family
chances are others do too.
do you hate people outside your family?
yeah.
do you feel guilty about hating them?
no!
why
because they are bad!
and they are someones family
and their family hates them too
and for good reasons.
if you are not happy with your life
you should start a new life.
one you can be happy with.
but dont talk about it.
leave.
make a plan.
find people you like
who are also unhappy home.
and team up.
it will be easier that way.
to get out.
once you are out.
you can calculate
how much space you can afford.
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I feel the same way. Okay so I'm living with my grandmother because my parents are divorced. My mother is one hell of a bitch. She sleeps with so many different guys and that's all because they're rich. Oh and did I mention she runs a club? Yes. A disgusting WHORE. And my father is a fucking bastard. He didn't finish college just like my mom "BECAUSE OF ME" (Thats what they say to me everyday. Though it's not my fucking fault. They could have aborted me for all I care.) So he's working as a body guard for a rich guy and all he does whenever he comes home is tell me that "Don't you know how dangerous this job is?? And I'm doing it all for you. So be grateful." Oh please! You never give ma a single penny. He doesn't even pay for my tuition fee, I'm a scholar. Grateful huh? For what? All his money goes to his girlfriend who's just about the same age as I am. Yes. He's dating a freaking college student and he's like 40 something. And about my grandmother, she always bitches about at how she took care of me from the very start. Therefore I should again be grateful. Very grateful. Bitch, I didn't even ask you to do that. You might think I'm being ungrateful to my grandma but heck no. By grateful she means getting all my savings. That's right. Savings. And here goes my grandpa who never talk to me and whenever he talks he's gonna be like "Why can't you be more like your sister?" Damn. Cause I'm not a bitch like her? Oh yeah. My sister. She's just like our mother. Well, for me my mom died long ago so lemme rephrase that. She's just like HER mother. A whore. A bitch. She always gets what I have. Even the guy that I like. Plus she always tell me that she's much prettier than I am. Girl, if pretty means having a big fat nose and a huge scar on your right leg then you're right I ain't pretty. Bitch, just cause I'm quite chubby doesn't mean I'm ugly. Oh well. Who cares about looks? When it comes to IQ she doesn't have any. And here comes my auntie. I don't even know why the hell she's taking out all her anger on me when she's not 'really' part of the 'family'. She always scolds me, oftentimes for no reason. There was this time wherein no one is home besides me and my aunt and she decided to cook fish for dinner. I didn't ate any cause I'm allergic to sea food and so she went ape shit and bitch slapped me in the face. She even pointed the fork to my face. I didn't say a word for I knew that she might stab me with that fork if I did so. Oh and did I mention even the brothers and sisters of my grandparents hates me. Yes. Not only my family hates mw, the whole clan does. But damn, I swear to God once I graduate I would leave this house and never look back. Once I get successful in life I would demolish this house to the ground. Who knows, I might demolish it with them inside?
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I hate my sisters sooooooooo much. I'm the youngest,and they treat me like shi...when all Ive ever tried to do was treat them right. I love my dad, yet he always takes up for them and is always on their side. They are jealous of me and never are supportive or say anthing good, and they are supposed to be my older sisters...My mom passed she was the best! After she passed they seemed to get worse, because they knew I was her favorite...I hate them so much it makes me angry, and want to never speak to them again. My older sister says the most evil shit to me...They are the biggest bitches ever!!
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I think it's normal not to like your family, just don't let it take over your life. I don't keep contact with any of my family since I moved out (except my eldest brother Rea whom I flat share with) because of how badly we get on, but I can't say I hate them, as I think it's probably as much my fault as theirs that we don't click. My brother does hate them, and although he does have his reasons, I think it does make him unhappier overall. Just concentrate on when you'll be away from them and things'll seem better : ) (also, I've heard from some of my friends that their family relations improved with a bit of distance, so you can always hope for that)
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Hating your family has nothing to do with age.I am in my late 30's and I have just discovered how much my family has been a burden to me. I have a very controlling father, a younger sister who can never hold on to a job, and a younger brother who has three kids and still very irresponsible. My mom is nice. In fact, she is probably the only one in the family who is not selfish. My father basically wants me to take on all the responsibility although I am married and living away from my home town. I have to say despite I love my family a lot, they are really a bunch of selfish people. I hate to admit that I hate them, but sometimes I really wish I could change to a total different identity so I don't have to put up with the crap anymore; or maybe hide myself somewhere so they can never find me. They can't contact me over the phone or skype, and no address for them to visit. This love-hate relationship is torturing me. I really wish I could love them without any hatred, but it's very hard.
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i live with my parents still and my sister is here too with her husband. they watch game shows together and get drunk and make comments that make me want to smash my television with a sledgehammer. i love them all but it is irritating not relating at all with your family and when everyone is happier around you. i feel like being happy has alot to do with being stupid, im not saying you have to be stupid to be happy just that it helps. im listening to wheel of fortune in the next room right now and hearing my family laughing and becoming far too excited... i picture animals picking at at carcass getting every last drop watching the bottels empty. im going to try block out the noise and sleep. sometimes i hate my family
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ummmm if anyone readin this my family is massed up in ways i cant even explan in words im tryin so hard to go wit the flow even tho they treat me like im nobody let me get to the point i hate my dad he is so fake he lie about everythin i remember he said he got a new job but he was really sleepin in the car n comein home late actin like he wrk at the point he was in my rooom so yea i was kicked out my own room i cant tell u how tha feel so i kinda cut off havein friends do to that i have hide my info be he use in n buy shit in my name tha how he is i hate him i cut myself off from him n dont think i will eva talk back to him he loook into eveythin i do shaowe wat tv show i watch who i date everythin i hate it i dont even cat like the real me so it sad i wont even act like me cause it dont matter to them..they had time i fel like i was gunna die time i fel like i was gunna run away my sis is so sellfish she live off everyone pay check n if she not happy she mk everyone day mass up she marry n she be fuckin a other guy who only care about pu**y it so sad but it just everythin tha is happen is pushin me run away or hate other well i d luv my mom but she dont kno tha she 2 busy thinkin tha my fake dad luv her she treat her like shit 1 time he even hit her i cant tell u want i was thinkin do tha night but i said noo i cant do that i feel like i cant even think when im here wish me luck ppl im thinkin run away wit out sayin anythin
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My family makes me go crazy, this is more of a business group than a family, my mom is a workaholic, she owns a beauty clinic and my sister works with her so whenever they are home that's all they talk about, my father is temperamental, they spend their time yelling at me or for me, lately no one trusts me because I had some problems in college and I could only complete 3 of 4 classes in the first semestre, wich in my mother's opinion is pretty bad, they made me transfeer back to my hometown and move back into the family house, I've been going crazy about it, my mom spends her time yelling at me calling me fake and a liar, the same goes for my father and my sister, it has been driving me totally crazy, lately I've been looking for a part-time to see if I can at least get some money and get out of this loony bin. I never really fit in here
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and there's more, I tried killing myself last year my family never found out then I decided I needed help, there was a free psychologist at the hospital and I started going, with her help I found out alot of things not only about me but my family as well, the other thing is that in my family there's no privacy, my sister decided to go roam through my wallet and found the declaration saying I had been there, wich was to be used in school and she said that either I told my mom (who's a nurse) or she would, that b***h has no boundaries, it's like I can't do anything, when I was a child she used to try and choke me and say vile things to me, as we grew older she kept doing it, other thing is the fact that my mom is an hypocrit, she can be yelling at me one minute and as soon as her cellphone rings when she answers it she's like the sweetest person,there's more she had the guts to go to my therapeut and try to get her to tell her what I said in the sessions, thank got for patient doctor confidentiality, then she made up her mind and started saying I was pregnant, I mean I was so depressed I barely left home unless it was for school and then I was pregnant out of nowhere... and then she's always giving me shit about my friends when they are the only good thing in my life, when 4 years ago when I was depressed my mother was constantly fighting with my dad and my granpa was pratically dying in the hospital and with me hating school because my mom put me there who was there for me? it was my friends not my family, and then my mom has the friggin idea of the damn perfect daughters, when me and my sister were kids she would get us the same hair cut, the same clothes even with the 4 years of diference, so now 19 years later she had the perfect daughter (my siser) everything she ever wanted and me the black sheep, I hope she's happy with the result of her friggin efforts
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The thing that bothers me is that, objectively speaking, no one in my family is someone whose company I would seek out. Has my family done things to help me, sometimes even going out of their way to help me? Yes, I recognize that. Have they done some things that were incredibly harmful and that have had a longlasting impact on me? Yes, actually, they have, and I'm not going to pretend they haven't. All in all, I don't think I should be trying to "weigh" these two things and figure out whether or not I "owe" my family. My parents are the one who decided to bring me into the world, and IMO that means accepting the responsibility of rearing one's child until that child can take care of him or herself. I do not "owe" them for that, and I certainly am not going to live my life around their insecurities and weaknesses, forgoing my own goals just because of a vague sense that I should be "greatful" or else I'm a bad person. Out of the two, I would rather be a "bad person" who gets to have a meaningful life and have a positive impact on the world rather than someone who jumps through hoops all day trying to play up to someone's ego.

At the moment, I am 20, so I guess I'm not a teenager. When I was, my family definitely tried to pin everything on me being a teenager rather than taking a step back and looking at their own actions.
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Same here!I'm the youngest and the only girl in the family.I always hated my family.More on my brothers.I always go to my room and lock it from inside.Then I started to cry at the same time screaming.Screaming makes me calm after doing it.How I wish I have no brothers that makes my blood rise.If only I have lots of money...I'll pack my things up and leave the house---INDEPENDENT!Away from this FUCKING GUYS!!!
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I am 40 and I hate my family too (as in my parents, siblings). I avoid seeing or talking to them and I don't miss them at all when I am away from them. I am happy and peaceful when I have no contact with them.
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Oh my GOD!! WOW there are other people that hate there family also!! My family makes me feel suicidal at times. And i am actually not joking at all...its pretty sad. I hate my mother, I hope she dies a horrible death. She read my diary not too long ago and I am 30yrs old!! what mother does that?? Now she knows my most personal thoughts and things that happened to me. My father thinks I am just crazy. I am single also and coming from a strict family, they wanted me to get married a long time ago. My younger sister (25) is now getting married before me this Sept. My parents are spending 100,000$ on this stupid wedding which also includes building an addition to my house!! And my sister acts like a prissy bitch and thinks that I am not happy for her for her stupid little prissy wedding...Its in Sept and I cannot face my motehr b/c she thinks I am a drug addict and a prostitute b/c she read my diary. but what she does not know is that those were select stories I wrote about b/c when I am 50 i wanted to look back on my life and say wow, I did have some crazy times in my 20s. Anyways, I am moving across the country to get away from my family!!
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@: cathy
It's pretty sad they make you feel suicidal at times... please try hard to fight that urge. I actually attempted it once and came pretty close a second time because of all the drama in y life with my family and my ex. I understand moving across the country, believe me it works wonders.
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@: cathy
oh no! im so sorry that happened to u...my mom read my diary once when i was in fifth grade...it read that i wanted to ride then boyfriend michael like a horse!! i still havent gotten over that and im 28 yrs old
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As much as I don't want to say this,

My family sucks,

my brother thinks he is some big know-it-all, and my older sister is one greedy bitch.

My mother is alright, I love her.. even if she gets me mad at times.

My father isn't around, he left when I was young, and decided to throw it in my face that I would never have a real dad because he never ever seemed to come over for shit.

I have had an ex girlfriend who made me feel complete, she was doing things I didn't like so I left her, now I'm with someone who I don't even think knows me.

God, I am so sorry but I don't like any of these people in my life, the only person I want is my ex girlfriend, I wish she would change, I wish things were different.. Oh well.

Grown men don't cry.
18 year old, letting out some steam.

P.S. My family makes me mad with their greed and judgmental behavior, I swear I should have been born in a different family, fuck all this.
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dont worry im completely the same, everything my family does annoys me! my sister drives me crazy she is so judgemental and bitchy! i dont think we always get on with our family though however we feel obligated to because they are our family but its not reality !!
i hope its not just me that thinks this ... i feel awful typing it because i do love them but i feel the same as you.
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I totally agree with showstopper. The thing is I hate my entire family except my brother and my mom... they are probably the only 2 people that actually contributes to my household. I'm really grateful to them and hope them I may be able to repay them in someway in the future.

To those that hate their families, it's entirely normal especially when you come from a dysfunctional family like me. My family used to be wealthy but now we are living a hand-to-mouth existence. It's all probably because of my dad, he now squanders his time at home doing nothing and NEVER makes an attempt to get food on the table or pay the bills.

To make matters worse, my eldest sister divorced her husband within a month and now has an extremely mischievous son in my house. I find both of them extremely irksome because my sister practically screams the entire day. Not to mention that she hardly keeps a stable job as well.

My family now lives on a rather low income... mostly due to my mother who slogs the entire day working in the office. I feel angry at myself not being financially independent yet, due the the fact I am 19 and I am still continuing my studies. ( I actually come from an Asian country so I have to serve in the military before entering university).

To those people out there who hate their families, don't be disheartened... There's definitely a silver lining in every cloud. The only viable solution would be to get a stable job. In that way, you can be financially stable and live in your own apartment. Alternatively, you could get a roommate to share an apartment together.
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I UNDERSTAND WHAT U MEAN BRO, I FEEL THE SAME WAY U DO. I HATE EVERYTHING ABOUT MY FAMILY, SOMETIMES WHEN THEY PISS ME OFF I JUST WANNA FUCK EACH ONE OF THEM UP, I SO WISH I CAN JUST GET MY SHIT AND RUN AWAY TO THE LIFE THAT I WANT. SUCKS CAUSE THE LIFE I WANT IS NOT A BIG DREAM LIFE IT'S SIMPLE AND I CANT EVEN HAVE THAT CAUSE THERE SO NEGATIVE IN THIS FKING FAMILY IT MAKES ME HATE EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE!!!!!! HOW DEEP DOES THE RABIT HOLE GO!!!
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Another reason for hating my family and telling them where to go is because I have quite a few medical problems which were, infact, HEREDITARY.

Unforgiveable is the word. I plodd on each day as if I haven't got these problems when I know I have them.

Both sides are to blame especially his. I hate the lot of them.

Unforgiveable. The best medicine to cure all is independence - and it works!!!!
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I'm 17 going to turn 18 in 2 months. I feel like I'm being picked on by my whole family, 3 years ago my dad opened a takeaway and told me and my 3 rothers we had to help out. Coming after a while he wouldn't give me any money, but did to my 3 brothers. I asked why I didn't get any and he said because you should help your family out. So I had a go. Back at him.
Since then he picks on me the most when I do something small wrong he tells me to fuck. Off and don't come back. 2 weeks later he makes me go back in. And he does he exact same hing so I decide he can screw himself I'm not gonna go back in...
Just 3 months ago he shut the shop, and he carries on icking on me at home too, even my brothers mum and grandma joins in . They expect me to do all the chores. I can't live a normal life, I struggle at school illl admit it my whole family takes the piss out of me because Im not great at studying. Only my 10 yr old sister will support me and say try your hardest! And all sorts of nice things but is that jug because she is a girl?
Wihin the last week they have all been putting my life through hell. They shout at me 24/7 and because I'm finding it hard tog et a job. My parents treat my siblings so much nicer it's like I don't exist and a loser in the family. I really want to leave but don't have the money. I want to disown hem all I cried over this thinking why do are they bullies and why couldn't I have not been born!
I don't know what to do anymore I could commit suicide... I'm tired now, they never have done anyhing nice for me. Some please help me o actually honestly don't know whAt to do. I justthink my life would be easier living alone.. Goigng yo b e 18 soon, my parents Are wankers they just say I'm getting you a suitcase so you can leave the house. Well i can only say I will be having the best day of my life with my firends on that day.
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pix
i left home.
without money
and never went back.
sure i walked horses at the race track
moved thousands of miles away from them.
but they kept coming for me.
and now i so wish i had told them off.
go away.
i never had a good moment with you.
let me be.
i think family is counter productive.
any advise i get
is so i can be enslaved to them.
but soon i will leave.
and they wont know where i went.
and i am gonna do
so so so well.
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easier to say it than to do it, but don't let it get to you. they are wrong and you are right. your future will be better.
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im scared for you..i pray that everything works out
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I generally just have a hatred for my family.. I believe it's because I'm more practical and honest..They tend to be more cynic than anything.. I have two separate families, one on my mother’s side(she passed when I was 10 and was a awesome mother), and my father’s side(ugh)...I was forced to live with my father once my mother passed.. If there is a way to describe him in a short phrase well it would be "a disgrace to living"...He could never hold down a job and has used the government to its full potential (section 8, Welfare, ect).. With kids anything is possible just ask Octomom!!!!

As a child I have never receive anything that wasn't provided by our government(very sad, I'm ashamed).. When I turned 13 I got my first job, in which my father use to take some of my check and never give it back to me...Still to this day the few times I talk to him he always asks me for money.. My siblings are ignorant just like him, and that’s why I hate them.. They are mind bullies, and really don’t deserve to be happy!!! I work my ass off, and now I’m big enough and wise enough to stick up for myself…They will never know the meaning of “Family” “Providing” “Sacrificing” “unconditional Love”… My mother knew all these terms and I thanks God I have her in me!!!!
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you seem like a good person, just keep doing what you're doing in life - your family is who you decide it is, not who necessarily shares your DNA.
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pix
if you hate somebody because he is obnoxious
chances are others fell the same way.
if you hate someone in school.
it not for no reason.
that person is bad.
that person is part of a family.
chances are his family hates him too.
there are good people and there are bad people
there are family members and non family members.
some you like some you hate.
if its fine to dislike a stranger
why not dislike your family.
i think you´ll be happier to leave your family
and choose the people you want to be with.
most of all.
plan ahead. i my self wish i could disappear
from everyone i know.
not just my family.
start a new better life.
and be happy about all my choices.
wish i could disappear like a wizard.
and never see them again.
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This post really hits home to me. I was google I Hate My Family, I don't want my family to attend my funeral and came across this. It feels so good to read how so many others feel. I don't feel alone or crazy. I won't say I'm out o the dark but until I resad this I had ideas of suicide once again. I had a nasty fight with my mother on the sameold issues and everytime I do a piece of me dies.
I hate fighting with my family. I hate them. I hate how ignorant they are. I hate that I don't have anyone else to trust the way I did them. I hate that no matter what I say they won't change.
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i feel u :( with the fighting and suicide. u feel like well wtf should i be here for, they done care whether i live or die, why should i? or why should i care about living when its too fekkkn painful to even breath. Just wanna give up and not feel anything anymore. Me and my mother constantly fighting because she always wants to point out my flaws, always telling me i could be so much more than i am, why can't i just be me? All my life, but since i am naturally rebellious, I do the opposite of what she wants and that leaves the door open for her to belittle me and call me worthless and stupid. I wish i could go back to the day her and my stupid father met and STOP them. I hate them both for bringing me into this stupid world, stuck in a stupid society where i don't feel i belong...ever. Life really really sucks.
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I know what you mean. I hate my family. My dad and brother were abusive. My sister is the golden child, and my other sister thinks im just an annoying little pice of crap. I can't do anything right in my house, and when I do, I still get yelled at. My family and I just dont get along. Its like I got the genes that everyone didn't get and we just clash most of the time. I think its perfectly normal that some would hate their family. And there seem to be a lot of people that do, so I would say it's abnormal to like your family than to hate them.
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1m 19 years old, in the military and when i lived at home as a middle kid my two brothers hung out together, they disrespected me and never knew there boundaries. they double teamed me and insulted me and when my dum b$%%ch mother came in she told me i ran from responsibility. thats her excuse to anything when shes always a bi$%%h! i get along with my dad but my mom says he runs away from responsibility as wel...wtf? anyways i pretty mutch hate my family and when i was @ home shut them out of my life and hung out in my room all the time. i dont hate having to see them but theyre so annoying and i dont look forward to seeing them either.
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I thought I was the only one who felt this way! I think hate is a strong word; I love my family but I can't stand being around them, to the point I will just leave if they are around.

My older brothers have been nothing but trouble their whole lifes (there both over 40 now and still act like spoilt brats). I can't talk to either of them anymore as one has spent our whole adult lives belittling me in public, while the other changes from being your best friend to being angry & violent for no reason. Then there's my mother: my Dad died 5 years ago, and i've stuck by her, doing everything for her without question. Now she's met another man she's got no time for me. I don't mind her being with someone but the speed in which she has dropped me has made me wonder why i've bothered these last five years. The only family member I have time for now is my younger brother, who is the complete opposite of all the others - he's the most genuine, honest person you could meet.

So, yeah, I think it is normal to feel like you hate your family as they should be the closest people to you, so when they let you down over and over again it really hurts. I wish I hadn't invested so much time in mine these last few years, instead of having a life of my own. I'm 31 in two months time and have always put my family's needs ahead of having a life of my own, to the point where i've become a nervous wreck around people. I'm going to spend the rest of my life putting myself first and hopefully get over the anxiety my family has caused me to have.

Sorry for the long post, I really needed to get this off my chest, and don't feel quite so alone knowing there's a lot of you feeling the same.
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i hate my family too they just don't understand and they talk to much crap hmmm i guess is normal!
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I'm in the same boat as you, honey. I never felt like I really belonged to the family I am living with. After returning back to my family i live with from my dad's family, I have spent most of my life either in my room on my laptop, or with my friends, if my b***h mum actually lets me. My family (maternal side) always pick out the bad in me, don't give me a chance to show the real, kind me, calling me rude, selfish, undeserving, but that is the only way I get to communicate to them and get attention !! My sister's needs are put first, to the extent of me having to sacrifice all my times and plans just for her benefit.

I don't beleive it is just a teen thing, really it's down deeper than that, maybe started in the teens, but the feeling will be inflicted in you throughout your life.
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Well what is normal anyways? I will tell you this Im 25 and I cant stand mine, my dad is cool but tends to let my mom walk all over him at times. My mom is the worst, she creates these insane situations and ideas from a tiny piece of a previous convo she overhears someone discussing. She also obviously lies just about on everything she says. Im the 5th child of six and she has never apologized for anything she has done wrong to just about all of us. She screwed me out of a 15,000 dollar settlement i got when i was in a car accident, I was 18, lawyer handed me check, we got in car mom snatched it away "for med. bills" shit is on my credit not hers! where did the money go? She was even caught in a lie by my dad where she had been talking down and derogatory towards my lil sis (18). Lil sis set her up and actually had my dad witness her attitude in full swing! Last week my mom called to yell at me for what she heard i had said in a convo about my lil sis and I not sharing the same dna due to us having different biological dads. She flipped! Said Im crazy and that Im undeserving, Called me a coward said I hate my family, I never liked them (almost true) And that Im a liar and I make up things about them. She never once asked me what I had said, never once listen to me when i apologized and told her it wasnt meant like that, she hung up on me! She went and told everyone what I did, but never said the whole truth, just her version, so of course what do u think everyone thinks? I dont talk to 3 of my siblings the other two leaves my lil sis and an older sis me and older sis are cool, for now.... But my lil sis just I mean just like 20 minutes ago freaked cuz I had said my mom was crazy, she said she hates it when people talk about her mom, even told me to watch what i say, but on several occasions has come to my home and complained how my mom is nuts, how she overreacts and lies, so I sum it up as her being crazy and Im wrong? Idk wtf is wrong with my fam, i guess my mom is brain washing her, I asked her what if mom tried killing her and she said she would still love her and treat her the same.... Guess lil sis was drinkin the kool-aid recently.... Look we all have messed up families, yhose of us who think they dont are either in denial or seriously need asome glasses. I assure u that every family is a lil crazy but as far as hating them..... Your definately not alone bro.
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It sounds as if things have been building up and now, everything your family does seems to bother you. I can almost feel your fustration as I too, harbour similar thoughts about my own family.
An earlier comment mentioned how ones age may have a play in how they view their family. I think that although younger people are more prone to dislike their families due to misunderstandings; some people are just nasty people. And these nasty people will have families. Just because nasty people have brought you up, doesnt mean that you cant think badly of their actions.
Another possiblity is simply that certain famly members just dont get along.
I think its important to remember that though being in a family means sharing a special bond, it is still nonetheless a relationship between individuals. And its okay for these individuals to dislike one another. The key is not to deny the feeling of dislike, but to work together to desolve it. =)
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I think it is normal.. as some one said your family members are just humans that share your genes... you can have hatred twords any human being. But then you have to think and break down your own situation, why do you hate your family? What have they done or not done to you? Ect.. now first of all if your parents pay for everything you do, own or eat then you need to take a real good look at yourself because you have it good and maybe or maybe not your just confused.. I've read a lot of what people had to say and I agree and dissagree. But that doesn't really matter right now. My story start out with one thing called Scientology. My family ,mom 50somthing my dad 62, and my 21 yr old sister all are scientologists.. I'm 18 by the way and not and will NEVER be a scientologist, ok so scientology.. if you've heard bad things about it there all lies.. its actually really good all they want to do is help people.. there methods might be a little wird to you but its an honest way of life.. its not a religion. So ever since I was little my mom and dad wernt always around my mom works 5pm-12am, my dad has a normal job from 7 to 5pm so I see my dad a lot. I never really got to know my mom or dad mainly cuz I don't want to know them... everything they do just pisses me off.. evrything... and it scares me honestly I don't know why I hate them so much but I do and I've tried hard to change that but nothing has worked so I've given up for now. My parents are good people, not abusive (physicly), and were not broke but not rich either. Well maybe were a little broke haha so anywas my dad is cool he just dumb though I meen the guy is 62 years old!! I think that's a major problem. My parents are so much older then me and they don't know what I'm going threw at all growing up.. drugs, friends, girlfriend, religion.. nothing. I keep myslef closed, id rather them not know anything about me. I guess now that I think about it I don't "hate" my family I just don't get along with them in any way. Wow ok so I've basicly run out of thing to say... pleease please pleasee comment this post and let me know possibly whagt I can do or not do or anything that will help either like my family or move on! Thanks for listening.
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hello i am 19 years old and i fucking hate my family to, Well never did good in school always had bad grades and school is every thing to my parents so we can see were isues are going to step in, my asshole older brother whos like 2 feet by the way always picked on me growing up and i would get yelled at constantly for getting bad grades, and when i was little even like 5 years old i just remember not likeing them not enjoying there company more of just putting up with it because i had to, well now im 19 and i figured out the solution, i am about to open my own buisness and only have to live with them for a couple months, i havent spoke to my older brother in a wile he doesnt even exsist to me, and for my mom and dad they are both nut cases who bitch at me and will take there agressions out on me bevause i am not going to college, they treat me like shit won give me any thingat all and i mean clothes, money for weekends shit like that, BUT any way the sollution well once i make couple bucks off my buisness, i am going to bounce, move out, and change my cell phone number, its as simple as that, if familys have worn us down, taken there agression out on us, justr bounce say goodbye, we dont have to let them rule our lives our emotions any more, now they will have each other to just pick apart and will start bikering amongst are selves, no one is perfect and hey some parents were not just ment to be parents, plane and simple, just bounce make your own ways, and once a year or 2 passes even a couple of months youl start to feel better about them, and can lern from there mistakes if you ever have your own family or relationships with freinds, exetra But Fuck them! make our own ways, and they will be the ones asking to see us, talk to us, and they will have nothing but the bad mememories to dwell on and relize that it was not all our faults the way they would like to think, a relationship goes to ways remember that, i for one once i am out changing my cell phone number and working the rest of my life to never have to rely on them or put up with there bull shit again, and mark my words they will be begging me to see them in a couple months a year, and so on, all i will do is be respectfull and say no, good bye, i ment it when i said i hated you guys and i am never going to talk to you again.
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pix
no
did you ever hear?
now you see me now you don't
my advise is that you disappear
like david copperfield.
never to be seen again.
else they will keep you as slave
for always.
don't make the same mistake i made.
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I SWEAR I KNOW EXACTLY WTF UR TALKING ABOUT. ppl in the family do the dumbest shti and STILL dont wanna help u out cuz they just dont give a fuck. only caring about themselves. complaining about evberything. i bet if they went to school to be wut they wanted to be instead of having babies they wouldnt have this problem. no wonder they stay at home a lot and try to lecture me about shit I ALREADY KNOW! just fuck em all

this is totally normal
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My family has done things that should've driven me crazy by now, but I'm lucky enough to have a couple of family members that I can turn to when things get bad. I could never imagine not being able to love or like every single person in my family. I hope things get better for everyone who is going through that.
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im a 28yr old male and i still hate my family. my father, who was the only one i really could relate to killed himself about 2 years ago. now im starting to somewhat understand what he was telling me before he committed suicide. he told me he wanted to get away, i never thought that he meant that tho, i jus thought he was upset temporarily. but when you try to make it all work on your own with no effort from others, u probably would feel the same way. he was unhappily married for 40+ yrs, and no one is perfect, but at least i seen him trying to make it work, not like my mother. i have an older brother who is basically a bum and a slob who can barely take care of him self let alone his 2 daughters. after my dad passed, the money he left behind my mom used some of it to put a down payment on a house for my older bro. my dad was disappointed in him, he turned to alcohol as his escape and ended up making a bad decision to end his life. at the time me and my younger bro had our own place together. that sucked, we we're constantly at ea. others throats about everything: money,cleaning up, we actually had to physically fight once or twice to settle things. he's self absorbed, never picks up after himself, and is disrespectful to his older bro, and just a douche, i literally wouldn't ever be friends with him, I've tried, its not possible. he has no real friends, just his "stuff", he's very stingy and that's probably one of a laundry list of reasons why he's single. we moved back home after my dad passed and I'm getting a taste of dads hell living with my lazy mother who makes excuses for anyone but myself when things aren't going as planed. it's never anyones fault for anything except maybe me, "the legendary middle child". i try to maintain the house as best i can since my dad passed, but i'm pulling the rest of my worthless families weight along with my own, while i work part time, go to college full time, and maintain a great! long distance relationship with my girl friend. besides my good friends, shes one of the only things i feel keeps my morale up. i am with you "original comment poster". i literally hate everything about my family, everything they say, do, etc. they sucks, lol. i dream of the day when i finish school and can afford to live on my own again. im leaving and never looking back. i might say hi once in a while to my mom, but over all, they can kiss my @$$. =) i think as the vote shows, most of us hate our families and cant wait to get away from them, sounds like thats pretty normal after all!
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my dad is drug adicit, and has been for all my life.... my mother started drinking when i was young because off this, she dident think off her young children.... as a child i never spent much time with my family, my sister passed away from a overdose because of depresion, i felt i was on my own, i moved out when i was 15 and dident speek to my family after that... i am now a nurse and moving on with my life.. but not long found out that i have a younger brother that is 6 years old... he is now living with me... i wish i was in his life growing up but am so glad that i cut all strings with my parents... because i know i would not be the man i am now
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I am the same way as you.I hate how my family members think,talk.No one of them undertands me.They all even have no education and now when I talk about my goals they laugh at me.I hate them but I feel myself guilty for that
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Lets start from the very top i fucking hate my brother. He trys to fight me. He disobbeys every rule that my mom has ever uttered. he gets away with murder. Hes more popular. He talks to me like shit.He treats me like shit. he ignores me. i try with hm but hes ebyond trying. He lies. He cheats. Soemtimes i wonder if hes literally out to sabatage my life. Hes an evl bastard. Also hes vain. And just a fucking dick head. He feels like he can do anything that he likes and hes like god or something. Hes selfish. And to be honest if he was dead or was nether born id be happy. And wait hes the big fucking punch line HES MY TWIN !!!.FRATERNAL.
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dont worry bro i know exactly how you feel. My close family is terrible. Meaning, I love my uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins, etc., but my parents and my sister are people i never want to be around. My mom always wants to know what I'm doing, and never seems to trust me. Its as if I'm always doing something bad. She always argues with me. My sister is a dumbass who whines and complains all the time, and is a fatass as well. She doesn't show me any respect. Finally, my dad is the worst. He shouts EVERY SINGLE FUCKING day. His day isnt complete if he hasnt shouted at someone. He always supports my sister, and gets angry at me for the stupidest things. He changes moods so quickly. One minute he can be nice and friendly, next minute hes a douchebag. He also tries to "play" with me, doing things a dad could do to his 5 years old son, not an 18 year old college student. I came home for winter break, and I absolutely hate it. I can't wait till I get back to college
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Of course it's normal to hate your family, when your family does not act like a real family at all. I have been through some awful things because of my family and I don't think I will actually ever forgive them for not being who I needed. My mom used to yell at me for no reason (she had even beat me up once because I had kicked her by mistake and then she locked me out of the appartment), my dad talks with his mother (yeah, he still lives with his mother, after he divorced with my mom) about me needing medical attention because according to him I have psychological problems and has come close to beat me a few times (he didn't because only recently I moved in with him cause I couldn't stand my mother - if he knew me longer, I bet he would) and my oldest sister always tries to make me feel bad about myself so she can feel better. The only thing I'm thankful for is my other sister, who lives in another town because she's at college. But she had always been there for me when I needed her. That's the only thing I'm thankful for.

People think that you can't hate your own family and that family does anything for family and that if you say you don't like your family you're irrational, but the only people who say that are the people whose families were always there for them to love them.
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jreed
Lol i love it all these stories make me feel normal.
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jreed
i ran away once for 6 months now im going to go live in the mountains with my girlfreind and see how that works
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I am an annoying, brainless, bitches about everything 22 yr old sister who hates her family!!! I know in my heart my brothers (21 and 28) hate mee, I can honestly say I'm a good person, especially to my family, I do as much as I can for them all and yet I can't do anything right. I maybe a little stupid and not very popular but I'm the only one who's studying at uni
I'm the only person around to take the fall if things aren't right, I clean and tidy all the time but if my brother leave a mess behind them its automatically all our fault I get upset because it wears me out, I can't understand why I'm getting yelled at and told to move out all the time. Whats the point in being a nice person it gets me nowhere.
My brothers and dad don't like me as a person I have a problem of asking people how they are all the time, and they all hate it, but its what i do when i care about ppl, I get told to shut up, mind my own business or think of something else. I baked a cake for my older brothers birthday, decorated the house and gave him money for a gig ticket...for my birthday I got a fiver that I gave to my mum for cat food while my brother could have paid for after recieving £500 to burn... my dad is a womaniser, he has affairs all the time and he told me so after I was told by a student of his that he was a pervert and slept around all the time. my older brother touched a friend of mine when we were little. I got bullied by her family for years before her older brother told me what mine had done. my younger brother has no job, borrows money off me all the time,makes excuses as to why he can't pay me bk when he's just bought a £700 computer. I get verbal abused by both brothers just because to them I'm annoying but im just being fun loving myself. I know so many secrets about my family and they eat me up inside. can you understand how painful it is to get ur head bitten off all the time for just being yourself or blamed or called a shit stirrer by them all when I know so much about them all which breaks my heart and try to love them????? my dad looks at me as if he cant believe he has a weirdo girl for a daughter as if hes asking someone '' why me?'' im always asking myself,is it worth being a good person? putting ppl before yourself? I get so upset I just want to kill myself because they act as if they are shamed of me.
I'm hurting and hating more and more. I want to die. They make me question my worth of exsistance. And my mum is so blind to my brothers imperfections.
I get told to fuck off for saying 'hi' or a bitch as i pass the stairs or a cunt for not lending money. I hate my family... am I right for doing so?????????????????????
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Let me begin by stating that in my most recent fight with my mother, or rather her attack on my entire being, she accused me of believing that she murdered my father through a lifelong diet of carcinogenic and unhealthy food (he died of cancer when I was 16. I am now 21). How fucking low is this woman's opinion of me??? Pretty fuckin' low if you ask me.

I would not say that I hate my family so much as I fucking hate spending any length of time with my family.

I was always close with my father growing up, but as I said, he passed away when I was 16 and my mother and older sister have had a fucked up monopoly on the emotional-social climate of my family since then. I do believe that if my father were around they would get off my back more! Although to be fair, I would be probably argue with him all the time, he had his issues too including being a pot-head minister with a porn-addiction.

Anyway, my older sister truly, truly hates me. Although she would never admit it because she would not like the way it reflects back on her. She picks apart every FUCKING single thing I do. She moved back home a couple months ago because she got knocked-up with this random-ass guy and didn't have the decency to get an abortion. She is 25 with no partner or plan in life, just a mission to critique my every action and though. Interestingly, as she is having the child in June she make an effort to ask my younger sister to come home for the summer so she could be around to help out with the baby! She sure as hell didn't ask me! Which is all very well. This also says a lot about how my little sister is fawned over, it's disgusting- my little sister wears about half- a pound of makeup on her face and is generally a messy, sloppy, shop-o-holic image obsessed slave to the corporate-consumer lifestyle. But my mother is constantly saying how beautiful, smart and "perfect"- no joke perfect, she is. Truthfully, I do not want to resent my little sister because she is alright, but fuck it is so hard not to when I have tried so hard to be accepted in my family but it will never happen. My mother recently told me that I wear too much makeup and that she hates my hair and that I dress like a "bad-girl". Fuckin' narrow minded bullshit.
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AND THERE'S MORE....


There is soooo much tension in the room when we are all together, you could cut it with a fuckin' knife. Last Christmas was fuckin' brutal. My older sister and mother basically were throwing all these awful statements about my character at me left, right and center: "You just accept everything you read and don't actually think about whether it's true" -BLAH, BLAH, BLAH- what a fucking insulting thing to say to a university student like myself who has been busting their fuckin' ass off to be the best "thinker" that I can be so I can graduate successfully and just get out off this fucking shit-hole of a home.

I have been living at home for my undergraduate thus far but am finally moving out in a couple of months, I have a place lined up and loans to boot. I will move out and never look back! FUCK THEM!

People always say, that "no family is perfect". FUCK THEM! Firstly, Some families are a hell of a lot more "perfect" than others. Secondly, I feel like that statement is always made by people who come from happy families.

It was great to hear from y'all, what with all your family problems and such! Fuck family.
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You people are not alone! I FUCKIN CAN'T STAND MOST OF MY FAMILY!!! They are def. the biggest hypocrites. They talk shit about me indirectly all the time when I'm there and then claim im too sensitive or get offended easily. They talk shit about me wearing makeup or how I dress or basically everything and then I notice they try to imitate a lot of my shit later on! They talk hella crap about me wearing makeup and yet these are the same mother fuckers who have taken drastic steps to permanently change their appearances! Whenever I hang out with them, they go out of their way to NOT include me..make me feel like am clueless about everything even fashion when I know for a fact I'm probably the best looking female in this family! I'm not even cocky but I'm noticing a lot of catty remarks from my female family members! Its def. jealousy. I never ever get compliments from this family..they just stare at me instead of saying something like "u look nice today" or "cute outfit".
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I came to a harsh realization that whenever i was home when i was a teenager i was miserable. My family would just emotionally abuse me, and it really brought down my self confidence a lot. I still dont know how to deal with it except to avoid them when im home and be out of the house as much as possible. But when im forced to be in the same room as them, i absolutely hate it. i know their personalities all too well and everything they do just pisses me off. I;m not sure if this is just a phase, but i dont think it is. i know they're my family and they're supposed to be there for me, but i ultimately dont think they have my back no matter what. My friends are my family, not them.
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Hating your family is OK. I have two brothers and a sister and an 83 year old mother and I hate and loathe them all. I have single handedly looked after my mother for 20 years, and I am talking purchased her a $2mln apartment, paid all her expenses etc etc. She recently had a stroke and having no insurance or savings (most of that went to the slot machines) I was left to care for her and of course pay her medical bills or circa $400,000. She is back in her apartment, modified for wheelchair, full time maid and not once has she said 'thank you'! My sister sent a card and my brothers nothing. None of them offered to pay anything. My sister has already asked about the Will - she probably needs whatever she thinks is there to pay off her gambling debts, that she still owes me $20,000 and my brother who lives in an idyllic european village commented he simply does not have the time .... I am drained at every level and wish they would all die.
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Well i found this blog because I Hate My Family and no Im not a teenager. I have a wife who knows all and if not for everything that she thinks she does our house would fall apart. Three kids who are lazy,obnoxious and down right annoying. Trust me,a mans wedding day is when he finds out what true happiness is. except by then its too late. I just feel that my familly is sucking the life out of me and no matter what i do i cant stop it.
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gizzie56
@: pitmot
My i ask why you feel this way?
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@: pitmot
why did you get married? and have children? and three children?
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The family structure can be very complex. There are times that I love my family and would do anything in the world for them. Then there are other times that I think they are the most selfish people in the world and can't even begin to understand what a real family is.

My daughter recently got married. I am so proud of her for what she has grown up to be and who she has become. Being a single mother I do well, but don't always have lots of cash to do everything over the top...but I try my best to make everything special for them. We had a celebration for her wedding. Not a big lavish $50000 dollar wedding but an outside picnic. This was her day and she deserved all the respect and happiness in the world. My family stayed 2 hours and left. Needless to say I was quite upset as I am the person who makes sure I stay til the end because when it is your day...no matter how bored I am.....you deserve the support and company. I guess the hardest part for me is all of them being in their own little worlds and not being able to see past the nose of their face. Mom leaves all family functions after staying only for a short time...because she must get her gambling in. I have to say a family fight is taking place at this moment because to me....family should come first and when your own selfish needs take place...there isn't room for anything else. Needless to say the tears have been flowing.....but fights and arguments have become quite normal in my family. I just don't understand why family can't love and respect each other. But I guess it is hard when you don't even respect yourself!
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I'm 31 and I've never hated both sides of my family so much and the best thing I did last year was tell everyone where to go.

And omg, it was one of the best things I'd ever done. I have never looked back.

I'm absolutely loving and living life to the full and without anyone telling me what to do.

I've never been happier.
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i fully agree. though you shouldnt be ungrateful for all they have done for you(hopefully) i still think my family purposefully ticks me off. my sister is 20 and has since moved out. she still gets me in trouble with my mom. who does that? my mom is supportive but randomlly get super depressed and my dad drinks too much so when he is sober i dont talk to him. what gets me through each day is knowing that when im 18, i can move out, make my own decisions and live my life.
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i hate mine too. i dont think their very fond of me either, alot of them like my dad and his side i dont really know. whenever i do see my dad which is rare he tells me what a failure i am and how i could be doing so much better..thats not what i like to hear. we used to be so close too, its actually kind of sad. my mom puts her boyfried in front of her kids and shes always bitcing at me. like right now. she calls me a peice of sh** and my sister is a fat loser who has ocd and cant do anything for herself and the sad part is EVERYONE always takes her side even though she starts alot of fights. i cant stand her shes disguisting and embarassing. and my grandma used to be cool but now its like their all against me and i cant do anything about it. i want to get out of here soo bad
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make that almost 40 (37 now)
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i do know there are some family who are loving and caring but sadly i wasnt born into one of them. Those people who r lucky enough to have great people to be their parents, good for you.

The only time i am ever happy is when i am away from my dyfunctional family, i am financially independant and have many great loving friends with me, i love my life but each time i go back to my family i feel miserable.

there are always constant bickers, fist fights and lots of complains. i hate my mother and my sister to the core, the detestment of them r built up over the years.

my parent says they raised me and i should be grateful and filial to them. i know, i will just do my part and give them some money but i really don't want to be near them. i really resent them and since young i have thought of running away from home. i end up cancelling the plan as i was to young to fend for myself.

i know people like to comment abt unfillial, heartless and ungrateful and i am affected as i feel that i hve a kind heart but i just cant loves people i grow to hate so much.

is wanting to be happy selfish? yes n no to me. i am not the only children my parents have and they are always comparing us. whoever could say the sweetest things and blow smoke up their ass most will be doted.

I am embarassed that i hate my family, so i seldom talk or avoid talking about them. i feel sad my family is like that n i hope when i am setting up my own, i will avoid the same problems.
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not everyone has the happy family thing. i'm 22. trying to get a good career and be well educated, while my siblings lounge around the house and scrounge off my mother. they are vile and disgust me. i always feel so angry. i'm being forced to move out even though i'm still in college because living with them is so hard. they have no respect for anyone
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I hate my family to. My mom is ungrateful she tells me to get off the computer and go outside. Soon i start going outside more and tells me I can't and makes this up"I'm going to smoke if i hang out with my friends" and doesn't listen to me. I hate her and she always takes the piss. once hse smacked me for saying to my siblings they were racist as a joke and come 10 minutes later and for no reason takes my phone. She also b*****s at me for not doing well in school even though I nearly always get better results in school than my cousin and says im stupider than him in everything because he cleaned his living room once.

My dad is fat lazy guy who go to the shop to buy some stuff for my sinling and doesnt get me anything. His only f******g reason is that im to old. That shows a lot.

My sisters and brothers are also wasted. When my mom ain't around they do all the bad things and when she does come back she says whats going on. Sometimes she notices things and my siblings say it was me and makes my mom think it was all me when I didn't do all of it. Espiaccaly my younger sister who just says every little thing I do to my mom and my brother who shouts mmum all the time to get me in trouble, the only family member i do not hate is my youngest sister as she doesn't do anything to annoy me.
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I hear ya. My family has issue's too but no one can be perfect.

There's a popular saying that makes the most sense in the world: You can choose your friends but not your family.
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sounds normal to me.

I hate my sisters and brother so much that I actually want terrible things to happen to them. I don't communicate with any of them anymore, either... but I'm still so angry for their abuse over the years that even though I've cut them out of my life, I'm still furious with them.

I actually thought that I wasn't normal, until I read all the above comments and also did more research and realized that it might actually be normal. Still, it's really sad. I always tried to imagine how great it would be to have a nice, supportive, loving family. I think it would have been great to have one...
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yeah i know how you feel i have one older sister and one little sister and im in the middle i hate this my older sister always partys and goes out with guys and bitches all the time and goes shopping eveyday and mom gives her everything she wants cause she wants their reletionship to be better, and my little sister always bitches and she is sucha crybaby, its like i keep away from her then she starts crying and goes to mom and say that i broke somth and i didnt and then my mother believes her and shouts at me and then my father joins and shouts at me. lately ive been thinking like idm and ignore them but i am looking forward to moving out and living on my own
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Hartikter
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i think it would be best living away.. sometimes you find urself better off. im the youngest i get treated like that. shouted at all the time.
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Hartikter
this is my first time.
theres no1 to talk 2 so here goes..
me and my sister the one thts a year older argue alot even tho at times wer close.
most of my brothers and sisters dont get on with eachother.. im the youngest so wateva i do is not good enough or im blamed for every single things. i find myself at times hating my family. they upset me alot. im in tears most of the time. my best and only mate is ther but not alwais sumtimes i feel like i cant tell her cus shes wrapped up in her own life..my other friends arnt true friends.. everyone in my life has alwais walked owt. my parents piss me of to the max. they make me feel like shit at times. i cant take it.. i feel so sad all the time...
it gets to me so bad. what do i do?
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I really dont like my family either i never want to be seen with them. I am the oldest. I am 14 and i have a younger sister and two younger brothers.

My mom-is the one i like thew most but she is so controlling. she is the exact opposite of understanding and fair. She has a reaaly short temper and screams at the very top of her lungs all the time i mean like every 4th hour over something like a shoe in front of the staircase. And once she is mad at one person in my family then she is mad at everyone. I mean if she is pissed because my sister got a bad grade then she will try to find something else wrong with everyone else.

My dad-he is such a bit*h all of the time. He works most the day but when he is home everyone is pissed. He is like my mother times 10. But he also has extremly stupid reasons for things like i cant have chocolate milk because he doesnt want to clean up the mess or he doesnt want to move the car for me to play basketball because he is just too fricken lazy. He also just says stupid things like im taling to mom and he will but in and say something extremly stupid. Finally he is just embarrassing.The way he acts and his "jokes".

My7 sister-my sister is in sixth grade but is the biggest as* in the world. I hav never seen a more obnoxious di*k in my whole life. She demands things and when she doesnt get them she flips Sh*t and is just annoying. You may say something like can u pass the remote or can i have some popcorn(true stories) and she'll say with a huge amount of attitude get it urself or get ur own when she is sittng next to the remote or has a whole bag. She refuses to do things unless it is done her way.

My brother-My brother is in third grade he isnt terrible but he is bad. He is obnoxious and has no regard for other people. He will be walking down a hallway and just walk into people. He also just screams at the top of his lungs in public like at the bus stop or on a train and i can see the dirty looks we get and im like be quiet and then he screams again.
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My brother-he is terrible. I understand he is the youngest so it can be tough but he is exceptional at pissing people off. Hee is like my other brother in the screaming with no regard for where he is but there is much more. He never admits he is wrong even over the stupidest things. Im letting him inside after we get off the bus and he is banging on the door and screaming hello hello open the door. and i say their is no1 home(bc my mom was jogging) and hesays oh really then why is the car here. and i say because she is jogging. and he says well i didnt c her so no she isnt. and he then screams and refuses to belive that she is he actually said"since i didnt see her its not true". Even after an arguement i helped with his homework and he has the nerve to turn around and go thanks jerk. He and my other brother also r obsessed with video games. They scream at each other the scream at the wii for being "unfair" and they scream at me for "messing me up because i was talking oon the phone and distracting them".
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I've really started to realize recently how much I resent my family. I feel like they've been holding me back my whole life. My parents separated when I was a kid, and soon after my mom got a boyfriend half her age and ran off to another state. My sister went with her, I chose to stay with my dad because I was worried about him. He was really depressed, and I knew it would just get worse if I left with her because my brother was going to the military and he'd be all alone. I had no one to lean on, no one to talk to because I was so worried about being perceived as being affected by the separation itself. But that wasn't the problem - it was how it all happened that bothered me so much. My mom just abandoned us in the middle of nowhere, essentially, and ran off with some 20 year old guy. She constantly plays this online role playing game and talks to me about her internet friends, and it makes me so angry. She always wants to go to the concerts I go to and used to party with me and my friends and my brothers' friends. I know it's because she got pregnant very young and feels like she missed her youth, but that caused me to sort of miss out on mine also. My brother and sister and I are all emotionally stunted because we were raised with very little discipline. They taught us to be good people, but not independent, happy people. I was raised by a tv and a dialup connection, and besides food had to fend for myself. This is why I can't stand my family. Because even though I know there are kids that had it way worse growing up, trying to get through school (from 4th grade on) while constantly worrying about a depressed father and an absent, immature mother doesn't allow much time for emotional development.
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I hate my family im 19 and had a kid a 16 and practically raised her with no help from my side of the family. I guess I was born to hold my own due to the fact that I never once asked anyone for help. My mom is a good woman she have little kids of her own to raise so I can understand why she never helped I guess. But people like my grandma uncles aunt act like my kid doesnt exist they probably dont know my child date of birth I just met my dad after years of not seeing him but came to the conclusion that he is a pussy nigga who is all for self. Is it normally to hate family this much or am I just over reacting. Everyone just makes me sick n no1 knows how I really feel because I talk to myself in my head
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i'm about ** age and too young for this website but I'm pretty sure i'm messed up enough. i just had a fight with my mom. she never listens to me. I try to explain but she doesn't even try to undserstand me. when I was smaller my mom never had any time for me. I have an older brother and he got all the attention. I didn't mind untill I needed her. same goes my father, he didn't raise me my brother. they blame everything on me when my brother did it. I think they have spoiled him too much. after my dad left the family I went down hill for all of us. since my mom had no time for me I played games to replace them. ya, I didn't know what they look like or how they sound. but to me they were a real family to me. that's why I love playing games meeting new people online then meeting someone in real life. I really wish I can just leave. so this whole time I've been relaying on people like you. yes you people over 20 in this website. it makes me feel I'm not the only one with a crappy family. sometimes I think I don't even belong to this family because were so different. I'll be surprised if someone read his crappy thought of mine. theres probaly alot of typos. I've been writing this in my iPod. we all feel the same <3
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When I was a child I was "the problem". I went through years of therapy and meds, and now that I'm 40+ I can clearly see that I was the white sheep in a black sheep family and not vice versa. Children are born innocent, but when you raise a child in a sick home guess what? They become dysfunctional. I had to work my ass off to grow beyond my family's BS and now I no longer fit in with them. I can safely say I hate THEM and I no longer hate ME. It's lonely, but it "beats sitting in the same old pile of shit just because it's cozy and warm"! My mother married two addict jagoffs, always put the husbands first, turned siblings against each other, and taught us to value the most superficial crap as being the most important. If you're a teenager, trust your gut and try to be patient. Work on yourself, and see your family for who they really are no matter how painful it is to realize you're virtually an orphan. I spent years trying to medicate my 'orphaned reality' away and then more years having to sober up and sift through the lies to get healthier. If you're an adult, congratulations, you survived your family!!! And those of you calling us ungrateful, you're probably one of those moms or dads making us all sick and angry. Go away!
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They constantly talk about loosing weight and make sarcastic comments about how much thinner I am than they are. I don't like the person I become when I'm around them at all.. I get soo mad and totally clam up and either go off or just completely shutdown and be quiet then they ask me why. They try and make me feel as if I'm soo ugly or something and constantly make comments about me wearing makeup. I really feel like it's jealousy. Everytime I go out with my family with the intentions of having a good time..starting a clean slate..but everytime they say something to hurt me or take indirect jabs at me. One of my older sisters seems to be the most jealous.. she tries to put me down because she is scared I will be more succesful than she ever was. She told me soo many hurtful things! She's grown and doesn't contribute anything to help our family and yet my mom treats her like a child and won't talk to her. She hates on me for getting my license, getting a job etc. but she has the opportunity to do these things and just sits on her ass! Her and her boyfriend continually say things to me to try to make me feel like I'm going no where in life because they are dissapointed with the turn out of their own lives. Im cool with my other sister ..the oldest one but her daughter (my neice) is EXTREMEMLY disrespectful to everyone..especially me but sadly even her. She doesn't care to discipline her and basically treats her like a princess and then wonders why her daughter has soo many problems in school and with other people. I can see her heading down the wrong path but it's like if u speak, she's soo quick to defend her daughter. I find myself wishing it was m daughter that talked back to me like that constantly.. I would def. whoop her butt and I'm not even for whooping kids..especially in their teens but she is out of control and needs bootcamp. I wouldn't buy my daughter anything if she behaved the way this lil girl does around guests, family, teachers etc. It's really sad because I have a feeling when she grows up she will go down a horrible path and no1 is stepping in..and saying ITS TOO MUCH
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honestly for everyone that hasn't done this already try to come up with a financial plan and then when you're ready presumably a year's worth of savings from a job minimum start looking for studio apartments then when you have money saved up just wait till your parents are not home then pack your stuff and casually leave your family for good change your yourself so you'll be set and quite frankly your life is to precious and too valuable to be wasted with empty people do everything i said and you will be on your way to a better and fuller life with people you love good luck to you all
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also the key here is happiness as i said before spend time with your real friends otherwise you might get bored and lonely and you will unwillingly start to doubt yourself which will lead to suicide,slitting your wrists,etc... you will gain nothing by hurting yourself so if u do have true friends keep contact with them via facebook tell them all to make one if they haven't already and also it would be best not to tell them about you starting a new life until after unless you really really trust them like childhood trust precaution is your ally here if u don't have any friends do not give up and i mean it if u do i will chase you into the afterlife and kick you ass just because you don't have some now does not mean anything, u seem to be forgotting that we all share the same feelings on this site and that is how a friendship begins my friend because more importantly if u give up that would mean you will never obtain true happiness for yourself and also you will never know if u succeeded or not plus it would mean your family won and they were right but they were wrong so instead of arguing with them do what i said and never look back once again good luck to you all
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My family is God's collection of butt wipes. They have stolen thousands of dollars from me starting at a young age, My sister took me for 1500 dollars when we moved to Tennessee when i was 15 and then did not have the common courtesy to buy me clothes when I had to go to school. And in reality that is the mildest thing that whore ever did to me. By brother would steal the buttons off of someones Pajamas not because he needs them but because he could. And my sister is the type of person that would steasl a newspaper off of a homeless persons body asleep on a park bench not because she could not afford to buy her own paper but because she wanted that one. My father who by the divorce decree with my mom renedgged on my college fund- about thirty grand in the mid 70's. And finally dear old mom stole three grand I sent to her for safe keeping when I first moved out of HER house. Now she really did try to help me years later and I long ago for gave her.My dad hangs on for dear life in a nursing home in a vegitative state- I guess if I were in his shows I would hang on for dear life to. I certainly would not want to meet my maker after having lived the life he did. I ended up in aq twelve step program that has taught me to forgive them. And despite the tone of this note I havve - if only to free myself of them. They never had a kind word for me and always treated me as if I were a second rate person and stupid. Well If here is a Hell they will be there and I hope to God I don't have to ever deal with them after this life time. I am actually in the process of changing my name so I won't be associated with them.
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I HATE most of my family!!! There are times when I get over feeling wronged by them but then they do something to really upset me and bring me back to a place of resentment. It's just too much!!
My mom: I realize all my insecurities come from her! I would never be like her to my child!! From a very young age she always made her opinions about my looks loud and clear. She's straight up tell me when she thought I didn't look good but it was mainly her comments about my skin tone that stayed with me. I'd come home from a long day of playing tag or whatever at school and this self-hating monster would tell me that I was too dark and that I should go shower. I'd scrub my face and neck until it started to bruise! She was very dark and passed it on to me but she bleached her skin. She doesn't admit to hating dark skin but it's evident in her comments. She stays putting lighter skinned black people on a pedestal!
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She talks behind all of her children's backs and just loves gossiping among the family. She says she does it b/c she cares and that we are all family and should be open but it's just a bunch of b.s. She just loves gossiping and making fun. She has the nerve to ask me to trust her with my problems but how can I do that when I know once I tell her something, the WHOLE family will know about it? Her actions are soo hurtful to me! When I was in highschool, me and her seemed to argue everyday. She'd complain about how I wasn't doing enough house chores to help out but nothing is ever good enough for this woman! She complains that no1 helps her but when u do, she makes u feel like shit by re-doing what you just did. She'll sweep and clean right after u have done it and she'll ask if you really did it as if it's soo displeasing to her liking that she can't even believe it was really done. She asks for help cooking but when you do, she's magically not hungry that day and doesn't even try what you've cooked. All foods are too smelly, have too much salt or whatever for her liking. She's soo fake!! All talking about how I'm improving as far as not being disrespectful when I have money from school and/or work and I'm giving it to her with no strings attached. It's bullshit. It's like a house of sharks anytime I get cash. They take sooo much money from everyone it's simply annoying. I haven't asked her for money since I left highschool. I find it ridiculous that I'm old enough to lend her hundreds of dollars but I'm not old enough to go basically anywhere when she's here or at night. I'm in my early 20's!!! She needs to let ppl grow up. She stays askin me where am goin and with who and once I tell her..she talks shit about whatever friend I'm going to chill with's racial bakground. It's soo hard having a social life in this family. She also made me feel like crap when I decided to go to a 2 yr college first. Like wtf? U don't mind when your eating up all my money from school tho. She puts soo much pressure on me to be the one daughter that doesn't let her down. She puts her dreams and aspirations on ME not realizing..those dreams may not be mine. She doesn't care about ny personal success...she just wants her family to be well off so she can show off to her coworkers or distant relatives.
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Hèh...Same FeeeLiinG!
PS:especially my big sis oOoh i can't stand her !è_é!
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i hate my family..... i hate everything in them. i have parents and brother. i am 22. when i was a kid my mother used to blame me in everything and beat me when my brother was fault in. i am absolutely different from them, i look like my father's sister who my mother hates. my mother used to call me a snake,said that i was just like my aunt and shout that she would rather take me to the orphanage.from the childhood i was a rebel and they didn't like it.besides they always loved my brother more just because he was a boy and i just a girl. last year i made a tattoo and last week a piercing on the navel. i'm doing these so i could feel myself independent and my parents to feel bad and furious.several times i tried to run away but my father caught me, beat and locked me to my room. i'm dreaming to move from here but have no other place to live or hire cause i have no money (i'm a student)sooo many times even at childhood i have thought of killing myself, i wanned to be with my deceased grandparents who loved me very very much.(my grandparents loved me more than my brother and my mother didn't like it and always protested)million times i wished i was never born.... i hate my life with family. i swear i will never get married and have family.and i will never ever never give birth to a boy!!!! has anybody felt the same?! i think i will soon drive mad!!!
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Reading everything you guys wrote made me realize my family is not as bad. Nevertheless, they don't make me feel good. My parents just won't go out or have some fun, and that makes me feel guilty if I do go out. They are always making up excuses to stay at home and victimize a lot... They're too sick to come out, they don't have time (both retired), don't have money (I pay for everything) etc. THey never say what they really think about things, they just say what I want to hear. My mom does not read or watch the news. She loves soap operas and gossip shows, which are the things I loathe the most on earth. We don't have anything at all in common. But she would not do anything to harm me, ever. I feel guilty for not bonding.
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Woah, woah, woah! Because my family who give me a lot annoying go straight to ringing in my ears, that way to annoying me. Then now my family are totally JERK!!! RITE?!?!?! >:\
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My family who never give birth to me when I was a second baby daughter. |:E
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There are toxic people, who for whatever reason are dead set on hurting those around them. My parents for example.

And it's not fair to demand of me or anyone else in my situation to be OK with it. Because only a Buddah, who has been meditating 50 years on a mountain, could be ok with it. I'm 21, and this ain't no mountain.

I think its best to get distance as soon as possible and then make a point of dealing with that hate, turning it into something else like forgiveness or acceptance.

Most importantly I don't want to live with this hate, if they're going to be hateful it's their buisness, but don't let it drag me down to. I can do better, I need to do better.

Don't let it drag you down to
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it is very normal. i am a teen and i also feel at times like i hate my family and want to have nothing to do them-during these tiems i will say mean things and act rudely for no reasons. though, other times i see how much they do for me and i love them and am bored w/o them(seei dont have a life yet so i do need them at times) but yeah, its normal.
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It's very common to not like people in family. I question why you hate all or just some, that is a bit overboard to hate all unless they are that irritating, probably so. I suggest you make an effort to get along as much as possible, do not scream at them or disrespect them. I suggest to try spending more time away from home, outdoors (weather permitting), perhaps at a friends place. When you are of legal age, move out and get a roommate. That too has its problems but at least it's a fresh start. Good luck.
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im 20 and i cant stand my mothers side of the family. thanksgiving, easter, christmas, etc etc....its annoying.

they are so different from me in everyway and ive tried connecting with them and they dont want to connect with me.

its ok, all of them are fat, ugly and stupid. im skinny, attractive and i think they are somewhat intimidated by me.

they are also terrible terrible cooks.

super christ like. ugghhhh

i can go on and on, sooo many things about them i cant stand, i go beacause it makes my grandparents happy...but even they irritate me too. lol.

so yes....its normal to hate your family.
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listen nikkita, ur 12 first off u shouldnt be smoking at 12 im old enough to do these things. but at 12 ur parents are supposed to be a little bit harder on you. of course you are gona hate your parents because you havent lived life yet and have been on your own. dont burn ur bridges just yet.
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ha ha, I think that's case of age stereotyping right there. Maybe teenagers are known for complaining about a lot of things, but part of growing the f**k up, is complaining about things- criticising things that you see around you, questioning things, otherwise. And maybe it seems like a whole lot of bitching...but you might criticize teens for being vocal online, and for posting "garbage", but it seems that you could not stop yourself from posting even more garbage.
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You probably just dont know what it's like. I understand your perspective but maybe be just a little considerate. So you think that this site is all your and you could step allover everyone's toes and for everyone to look up to you. I have an opinion? Hmmmm your a selfish bastard who needs to watch Hoarders and have a little epiphany dontcha think? So thank you for your stupid outburst that nobody cared about,and grow your own pair of balls and go to the REAL world. The only way to really appreciate things is to go through the bad, so when they are better you appreaciate them more. So the the fuck up. :)
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Hai moron lolz.
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I hate my family too! I never knew so many people dealt with the same stuff! I have always felt like I had to be the stand up member and make everything ok for everyone else while they just use me like a doormat!
I thought it made me a good person and family member! Dumb! I have taken so much abuse and crap from them I actually felt my heart hardening. I really hate this too - I don't know if I can ever have my heart back the way it was before. Now I just keep my mouth shut and am ignoring them and all their numerous needs - they hate not having me as a doormat and have really taken the claws out and say all kinds of mean and nasty things to me and about me. I'm planning to get my ducks in a row and get out of here and never look back!
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My other sister was smart and escaped from all the nonsense in this family. They constantly take what lil money I receive and yet others are not asked to contribute anything. I constantly feel disrespected and like I def. don't fit in this family. I def. plan on burrying myself in work hours for holidays..etc. rather than being with them. I feel soo judged and marginalized by those who I thought were supposed to offer unconditional love. My issues are always put out on the table while others are just allowed to carry on. I CANNOT STAND THIS FAMILY! I have come to see where my need for affection from the wrong places and people come from. Your family def. fucks you up. When I do move away..I will be nothing more than a phone call to most of this family. I will not keep in touch!
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as always plan for the future not just for today make sure none of this information gets known by your family it can jeopardize everything so when you do leave that way they won't know what hit him try to stay calm because they technically depending on your situation can kick you out so try to play nice then when the time comes it's time to play some revenge baseball starting line up is your family bamm out of the ball park just like the ball you will never see your family again everyone goes home happy mwahhh hahahaha
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My oldest sister: She is such a FUCKING hypocrite man!! She is soo disgustingly jealous..it's sick. She is much older than me and it's like she wants to be the best looking in this family and it was much easier for her to do when I was chubby but I've lost a lot of weight while she's gained after having her kid. She is always giving me dirty looks and is always concerned with what I have on! She claims it is too revealing if I have on shorts just a lil above my knee on a hot ass day..INSIDE HER HOUSE..not even outside! It'd be all cool if it were coming from someone creditable. When she was my age and a lil older..she wore the most revealing things of anyone in this house complete with heels etc..no bra..tight clothes..etc. Now it's like she has competition and isn't the hottest in the family anymore and can't stand it so she has to tear everyone down by accusing them of baring too much when she knows she's jealous b/c her body could never look as good. She stays talking shit about how I wear makeup and that it make people look better as if she wants to say I'm ugly without it. It's like why can't u just admit you think it looks good? No one is forcing you to be all natural plus I barely hang out with her so what does it matter how much makeup I put on MY FACE!??!
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She also claims it is me who doesn't like dark skin and that is why I wear makeup to cover it up and she denies ever bleaching her skin which is b.s because I remember she used to be darker than me and at one point was bleaching soo much that her skin was very light. There are even pictures to back it up where you can see her skin tone changing drastically and it is def. not camera lighting! She is just full of shit. She even got with a lighter dude who really doesn't have much to offer probably b/c she wanted a light kid ! She is just soo catty it's disgusting. It's sad that she has passed the same trait to her child. She is also living with someone she is not married too and had a kid very young and yet she talks down about other people who had children young and let their children disrespect them when she is on the same damn boat. She is probably the reason my mom is soo strict and doesn't allow us to do fuckin anything. She ruined shit for everyone and my mom stays comparing all her children. She also has some type of resentment for my mom and how when she lived with us she was forced to pay a lot of bills. So she had the nerve to be telling me how I can pay at least 300 a month for rent to help out even though she knows am in school and only work part time and only make 400 a month ..with 200 going to transportation. Like where the fuck would that leave me if I gave 300?? I'm also only 19. She is just a disgusting person but trys to hide her flawed character.
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My niece: She is the most horrible brat ever! I don't even blame her thought because there is just no discipline. I think she has a lot of anger b/c she's pissed off about never knowing her real dad but I am tired of being the one to suffer! She is soo disrespectful to the family..teachers..guests..just everyone! She walks around with a very cocky attitude and I can't help but think..does she know how ugly she is? She is just blatantly rude to her mom and they argue back and forth and her mom just keeps buying this girl more and more stuff. Giving her soo much will not fix emotional problems. She is being screwed up for the future and doesn't even realize it. I have finally decided to write her off and not even speak to her.. I just ignore her like she's not even there. We will see where her cocky attitude takes her. I also can't stand how she says rude things to me and her mom always takes her side and she copies everything of mine. She is soo rude and disrespectful at school man and her mom still comes to her defense. Like wtf? I HATE her! Sometimes I feel bad b/c I can't help but think she's not even a part of my immediate family and it's like she just came in and ruined everything. I don't even hang around my family at times just to avoid being around her. I've tried talking to her nicely..buying her stuff but nothing works or it will work for a moment before she has a nasty attitude again.
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My other sister: She is sooo jealous of me. I don't even know why...it's like all the things am doing..she had her chance to do them but instead waits for them to be done and then gets mad. It isn't fair that she is never asked for money like everyone else. She is a selfish brat. She sleeps over her boyfriend's house but if it were anyone else she'd talk shit about how skanky that is. She is handled with baby gloves even tho she is fuckin older than me. No one ever tells her the damn truth. She is jealous because she is the biggest one of us all and struggles with weight. Her and her boyfriend constantly talk shit about me indirectly or directly and put me down. She always manages to put down all of my achievements and tell me I can't do things ! She is sooooo lazy. I can't wait till her and her boyfriend get married or live together so he can see what a disgusting person she truely is. This chic has the mentality of a child. She wants to live in a place where she is clothed, feed, rent is paid and she just does nothing except go out, visit other people's houses and eat their food. She stays talking shit about me in text messages etc.
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My brother: The golden boy. He is really great to me and I am thankful for him but at the same time I don't think it's fair how he was treated soo differently at my age b/c he's a guy. He was never expected to fufill any household chores, he was allowed to date, bring home girls, leave as he pleased etc. Like wtf? My mom puts him on a pedestal simply for his money.

Everyone else in my family doesn't annoy me as much as my 2 sisters, mom and niece. I can't take it anymore.
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I think I'll rather leave my family alone as well and my family have to leave me alone out of it for good, as well. So..... I'll move on as well, Rite? (u_u)
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To those who think this ends as soon as you leave the house for college or when you turn 18, you are wrong. It continues on for as long as you live, depending on the type of contact you have with your family. I am the oldest and the most responsible member of the family. At 24 I graduated summa cum laude from university and got accepted to law school. My dad got sick and so I chose a law school close to my home so that I could be near. All of the issues I had with my mom, sister and brother reared their ugly heads. My mom is a hoarder and we are currently in the process of trying to downgrade into a smaller home and therefore have to show the house to potential buyers. All 10 years of past hoarding have caught up to her and she is manifesting behavior similar to the people on the show hoarders--she cares more about her belongings than people and has openly stated this. She does not take care of herself and dresses like a homeless women every day, constantly yells at my father (who has had 2 open heart surgeries and currently has a pacemaker) tells me how horrible I am if I try to throw away one item that is MINE and is all around a disgraceful excuse for a human being (this includes her going through my trash and i have had to resort to taking my trash to a local dumpster). My dad is and has always been a softie and does not stand up for himself, so he gets bulldozed by her screeching ad verbal abuse. This also means that he does not stand up for me when she verbally abuses me. My brother is no better. We have not spoken in 3 and a half years because he is a morally black and white person who does not forgive and certainly does not forget. He got mad at me because I wasn't "grieving" enough when my father was hospitalized the first time, meanwhile him and my sister went to the hospital only so they could go eat at the restaurant there. He is about as close to a psychopath as I have ever come accross as he literally (and has told me this on several occasions) would not care if I died tomorrow, but, ironically is as weak and pathetic as they come and is a vegetarian and animal rights activist (he cares more about the family cat than me and no, i'm not exaggerating in the slightest). My little sister is a spoiled brat who has had everything done for her, which I am partly to blame because I did baby her. She sides with my mom on everything but bitches about my mom behind her back. She also sides with my brother (along with my mother)to gang up on me. 6 years after I left for college, it is still the same old stuff that I used to deal with when I was younger and more helpless. I couldn't escape it then, but I can do so now. I hope to move out of here in 3 weeks and plan on cutting contact from pretty much all of them. I hope that if I ever marry and have a family of my own history will not repeat itself.
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It is perfectly normal. I am 14 (about to be 15) and I am starting to distance myself from my family. My mom and dad got divorced when i was 2 and she has been married 2 times since then. She got divorced about a year ago and already moved in her new boyfriend. I dont even talk to her i truly hate her she only criticizes me about everything i do. Im no honor student i make average grades (b's and c's) and she only talks about the grades I dont get. I have many friends but she says my only friends are my game consoles. She says this because i used to be athletic but i enjoy gaming much more, im a gamer and she cant accept that this is what i truly enjoy. She says she loves me but when she says it it's because she is apologizing and i just quickly change the subject. I met my dad for the first time about 3 years ago and im way closer to him than my mom.

My older sister and I dont talk, we havent in many years just small talk.

My little sister is the only one i really talk to, but we still dont really have a connection. She is my half sister, half biological to my family and half to one of the two stepdads i had that i really hated.

Now we come to my older brother, the one i wish the worst to. I hate him so much i dispise hime i have no respect for him. We used to be so close until recently. We always have these big arguments and dont talk for awhile. Up until the last one i decided i no longer need him its a cycle that doesnt end so i decided to end it by cutting him out of my life. My mom constantly uses him as a figure of excellence and says im no good compared to him and that im a failure. I hate him so much he acts all goodie around my mom but is a complete ass to me. Everything he does wrong is my fault according to him he cant man up and accept responsibility. I just really hate him.

My household is broken and Neve going to be fixed. Every day i hope for the day i move out. It is my day when i am a free man.
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I don't like the way my family had done for me. Sent me away have no drawing doing nothing, can't get a artwork as real jobs, nothing. I work so hard when I have to get a art skool, and some art business call animation storyboard. Because I don't give a fuck what my mum who talking bout shit! I don't like the way my family who had a idea who bring bought that fucking mental breakdown! I'll never for get my mum, ex-dad, and my sister, no more! :'-(
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My mum have to stop talking like that against me n leave me out of it, when she get me a lot annoy. You know what I means? (=_=)
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to dyingself.

I know what you are going through. My daughter, son ans my wife, (their stepmom) are having many problems. (not blended family issues)
All I can say is do not give up on God's love. Keep strong your faith.
1 Peter 5:10 ESV / 64 helpful votes

And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.
DO NOT GIVE UP! Read your Bible.
Just said a prayer for you.
God Bless You and your family.
TO all of you with hate towards your family. Soften your hearts. Forgive now before your time runs out and you will not be forgiven.
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God I hate my mum who taking video against my face to look at myself it none of her business! I want my mum to ass-off rite here, rite NOW!!!! I had feeling of my life ya know!!!!! >:E
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It have to stop n ass- off is my family!
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I feel like my life has been so negativley affected by my family. im 23. my fater is an alcoholic and my mother is obsessed with making everything look perfect to anyone looking in. But this is far from the case. i live in a house where the tension is unbearable. my father snaps and shouts at my everyday. this has gotten so bad that i'd say i havent had a conversation with him in at least 10 years and we live in the same house. when i was a child i was ignorantly happy. but now as an adult i have an uncontrolable anger problem that i believe has resulted from a livetime of living in a horrible environment. i cant control my temper and it is ruining my life. my father cheated on my mother but she would leave him, not because she loved him, she tells me all the time how she hates him and there is definatly no love in our house. She simply didnt want people to know her business, she couldnt take the shame of people knowing she was cheated on. so she stayed with him. every day is a nightmare. my ex boyfriend of 4 years, who i loved more that anything and i thought was the person who loved me and who we could have our own life away from all of my problems, just cheated on me for a whole year of our relationship. i blame my father somehow for giving me a bad role model. all of my sisters have been cheated on in relationships. Everyday i wake up to a nightmare and i dont know how to get out.i feel like buying a one way ticket out of here.
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Hi, i just sign in to comment this. I´m 30 , I don't live with my father, but I hated him until 26. I think its totally normal. Happy family is very rare. I suffered a lot with my father when I was teenage because I felt that he never like me, but he never told me. The biggest problem is the hypocrisy that "said" to me: "You must love your father". That was the worse felling I had: "Must love something you hate". NEVER LISTEN THESE PEOPLE. When I was 28 I decided to say FUCK THAT SHIT, and simply stop to talk to him, even in fathers day, birthday or Cristimans. I had a lot of critics coming from my sister, but I did it to save my life. And now days I fell MUCH BETTER than before and i´m sure my father knows what he did and I will never forgive or talk to him again. So my advice is: if you really hate and sees no solutions for it: RUN AWAY BEFORE YOU GET A CANCER. NEVER LISTEN HYPOCRITES PEOPLE THAT WILL TRY TO DEMORALIZE YOUR DECISION. NO BODY CAN JUDGE YOU, NOBODY KNOWS YOUR HISTORY. SO FUCK THEM ALSO. ONCE AGAIN: FOR ME WAS THE BEST AND WISER DECISION I HAD IN MY ENTIRE LIFE.

Good Luck
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hi everybody Im so glad that I found this site becos before this I thought I was abnormal now I see many people facing the same dilemma that Im facing with my family. They are a bunch of irritating abusive people that refuse to see me as a person. They always look at me as a failure in life and they are just evil. My mother and sister they just backstab me and make me look bad infront of everyone all the time. My dad is too afraid of my mom and just eats whatever it is she says about me and can you believe it whenever i voice out my issues against them he just says that I need to let go....ya rite he wants me to let go and go back into the lion's den and get fucking hurt by them all over again. Me and my sister lives in the city and my mom lives with my dad in a smaller town about three or four hours drive from here. Do you know when I realised my mom was just a backstabbing cruel selfish human being its when i found out from a friend that she keeps coming down to the city to visit and stay a week or two with my SISTER and they never inform me, they do it behind my back. Fortunately I had a friend who told me this. That was when it hit me...my mom just hates me. She used me when I was 13 years old till I left home at 20 to study in the college in this city, she used me to talk and talk all the time about her problems with my dad who was always going out with other women and when she found out she would just go crazy and mourn and gloat over how he mistreated her...and who had to listen to them all it was ME. can you beleive it she drowned me with all her problems since 13 and she expects me to be normal today. Oh ya and today since my sister happens to be her insurance policy (as she thinks) she sticks to her like glue and betrayed me. I think she is a devil in disguise. I really hate my family a bunch of hypocrites. My mom and sister have their own empire of secrets and awful lies, my dad just wants to live in a world where he believes our family should put aside differences and come home for xmas to behave like decent well educated adults. What a load of crap! I didnt go back home for the past two christmases and i feel good about it. I recall the many times I use to take the bus home when i didnt own a car just to spend the weekend from not working to listen to my mom rant and rave about how my dad mistreats her by cheating on her and bla bla bla and when I come back to work on monday after the bus ride i feel sick in my stomach cos of all the problems i've beeen listening to from my mom. She use to take valium pills and walk in circles around the park when i was 13 and she was ranting about my dad's problem with her. I took all of this and today she treats me like Im just trash to her. I've not spoken to her or to my sister for the entire year of 2012 and I am so so so happy about it. Thanks to this site I realised Im not abnormal or grudgy its the family I was born to that made me who I am today.
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You see, I used to feel the same way. Everything they did irritated me, they could do no right and I would shut myself off from them and go out of my way to avoid any kind of contact with them. Then they died, and I realized I was a selfish unappreciative prick that never got to know my family. It's a teenager thing, you'll get over it, but I advise you to attempt to mature a little faster. Just wait till you meet the people out here.
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I need an age to judge this accurately. It is normal for a teenager (especially early teens). It isn't so normal for most other age groups.
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Define normal. I'm 47, and I've lived away from my family for most of my life. My friends are intelligent, caring, supportive, decent. I love them and trust them, and I know they love me. On reacquainting myself with my family, it reminded me quite forcefully of the excellent reasons why I loathe my father.

Why would anyone not hate an abusive, sadistic, dumb, charmless, control freak?

An example: he finds kicking the family dogs to be *funny*.

Another: He used to kick the shit out of my brothers when I was young. The only reason he doesn't *still* do this is that they're big, strong men who can quite easily defend themselves.

A good proportion of the time, he makes comments intended to put down and belittle the listener. He is not self-aware, and he can only see the world from his narrow, ignorant perspective. His personality hangs like an ugly cloud over the family, and he breaks relationships.

My mother on the other hand, is a caring, sweet, doormat. If I'd gone out with that man I'd have dumped him more or less immediately.

So, tell me why it's wrong or abnormal for me to feel this way?
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im only 15 i ran away from home a year ago. my life may not be easy with food etc but i say you make kind of a new family out of friends and friends are alot more dependable than any of your family
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Why not? You can get annoyed at a lot of things. Families expect you to suffer all of their nuances and never raise a finger at them, can be quite annoying according to me. Nevertheless, this occurs everywhere. it is very normal
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Anonymous
Come on, do you really need to ask how old this person is?

My advice is to wait a few years and you will begin to realise the huge sacrifices your family have made for you. Ungrateful little fcuker.
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Anonymous
That's a totally insensitive reply. You seem to believe that all families have made amazing sacrifices for their children. There's many families that DON'T. Since whoever posted this message didn't go into the details of their family sacrifices or lack of, there is no reason for you to assume that his or her family did make these sacrifices. For all you know, his or her family could have been abusive, or rather neutral, or perhaps they've made amazing sacrifices. You don't know. Thus, you have no grounds to say "ungrateful little fucker". Come on, don't you think that some people CAN have valid reasons to complain about their family? There is no doubt in my mind that you have had problems with yours, not because I'm an ass and I want to imply that you have problems--but because it is impossible not to have problems with your own family.
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To all those who think this is a yeenagers problem... it is not a teenagers problem, it goes farther than that. as you can see in these posts you see 30 yr olds who dislike or even hate their family. i have given my family chances to prove themselves over and over agian. yes im 19 but ive seen and done and interaccted independantly for a couple years now. ive been AWAY to college not in state college im a student out of state for college. yes ive lived without mommy and daddy for a whole year. ive learned from my mistakes but parents these days listen to too much dr phil and news stations that report on these "findings" which can be totally inacurate or defaming of the character of all people alike. so i say this... this isnt just a "teen" problem, there is just a problem with the system of the way parents raise their children.
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I am 25 years old and until the last two years or so I have not felt this way including my entire time as a teen. I can't stand my family either.
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You don't need an age to judge this accurately, stop judging and calling names and criticizing this person, you don't know them or their family at all, so get over yourselves.

I'm 23 years old and I feel exactly the same way about my family. My mom is selfish and obnoxious, my sister is rude and selfish and completely unmotivated to do anything with her lie, and my dad is a mean, arrogant, drug-addicted jerk.

Sometimes you need to know the whole story before you call somemone ungrateful or assume they are immature.


And if you're such a coward that you need to eb "anonymous", please go off yourself.
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Ok. I'm sorry to be rude, but you're being an asshole. Where do you get off calling someone an, "Ungrateful fucker" When you have no clue as to what their home life is like? Granted, they should have elaborated more, but you still have no right to judge. I hate my family; They're bastards. Some people just get stuck with terrible familys. Not all familys sacrafice things for you. My oldest sister got a cold, and was fawned over for days on end and rewarded quality time and favorite meals and movies with my mom and other sisters, whereas they found me passed out from bloodloss and slit wrists, and said that if I didn't quit acting like this, They would stick me in a hospital. Lovely.
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huge sacrifices, like what? save money on condoms?
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Excuse me but that's a little crude. Yeah realize that younger teens do tend to be a tad ungrateful, and also tend to blow things out of proportion. Still calling them a 'ungrateful little f*cker' is not really showing much for your maturity level. In fact it makes me think your probably the same age as this person or younger. Even if you aren't age wise, you might wanna check yourself maturity wise, because your not impressing anyone with that language.
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Its completely normal to hate your family, especially if they are jerks like mine. Doesn't matter how much they claim to have done for you if they act like idiots or losers than still.
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Ungrateful? why should people be grateful? did they save them from a burning building?
It is not a child's fault if someone is careless enough to get knocked-up, give birth and have no intention for caring or providing for their children. for all you know this person's family have made no sacrifices for their child/children in fact maybe their children have made sacrifices for them. i have. no one asks to be born into a bad family and until they grow up they don't get a choice wether or not to stay there either. some children try to power through life until they get to be free. i had a controlling, abusive father, who would constantly try to lower my self esteem because he had none (i also recently found out he had raped someone too).he would call me fat when i was fine, that my friends were never laughing with me, just at me. it got harder when i was a teenager, my mother was not a bright woman and would struggle to understand what i was saying now my vocabulary had improved and would often get angry at me and say i was stupid. When i was younger i always wanted to go to a boarding school, so my mother told me that was where i was going, so i willingly took myself out of school even though they said that once i left i would never be able to come back. she lied, she put me in a psychiatric hospital with people who were drug dealers and schizophrenics because it was free and i would never be home. it was nice to be away, but some other patients would threaten me and shout and i would miss my friends (who i had to lie to about where i was through email, which i was allowed ten minutes a day on, because i did not have a mobile,)i lost out on my education and there were therapists constantly trying to convince my there was something wrong with me but in time i grew used to them telling me that and i was worn out arguing with them so i listened to that for two years until my mother remembered i was there and put me into a state school for the short remainder of my education. i met up with my friends after and i heard one of them say i used to be the top of my class, and they still think i am, but sadly i'd fallen far far behind while they had become successful and smart. i had 'powered' through the beginning of my life and now am left with not much of a future. should i be grateful?
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Hey you! you shut the fuck up and burn in hell :D

Have a nice day ^_^
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nikkita
how old are you. you must be 1 spoilt brat if u think like that
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K&B
It's definately a teenage thing
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Maybe its not JUST a teenage thing...im 20 years old, I do exceptionally well in school and I have a good head on my shoulders...that was not thanks to my family, I did it all for myself because they didnt fulfill the true definition of what a family is...I can admit that I do have a "hate" for my family because of what they arent,what they are, what they have done to me and what they didnt. I find that it is hard for others to understand such a hatred on account of their own circumstances...many are truly fortunate and are not obligated to the "torture" that others go through in their own home, however, I cannot deny that I dont agree that there are those immature teenagers who are fortunate and dont see their blessings...spoiled children who need to grow up, look around at those who have a reason to hate their families, and realize their lives are NOTHING compared to their own experiences. Like the commencing writer, I too am irritated by all that they do and say, I want to scream at every word that escapes from their lips...but ive also matured and analyzed all the reasons why I do and I find every reason a valid one...now I dont know what this initial writers circumstances are...but if you had to pick a drunk father off the floor every night, endure painful lashes for no reason, if you felt alone because your own brothers and sister began to become the person you hate the most, ridiculing you for not being like that, casting you out because you were better than they would ever be...if you had an emotionless mother who did nothing more than keep you in the domain you considered your hell and be angered by your leaving...all like me..then you have a reason to hate your family....I hope you can read this and re evaluate your decision to hate your family...because...if your issues with them go as far as your parents not letting you go to a party or out with your friends, or your not getting what you want...OR you just dont think your family is cool enough then youre wrong for hating them...I only wish I was so blessed.
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@: K&B
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!! HEY WANKER, IT'S NOT A FUCKING TEENAGE THING! BELIEVE ME! I'M 25, GENUINELY A VERY NICE PERSON AND PRONE TO GETTING SHIT ON. THE WAY MY FAMILY TREAT EACHOTHER, I WOULD BE VERY GLAD NEVER TO SEE THEM AGAIN. THEY ARE ALL A BUNCH OF SELFISH FUCKWITS! I LIKE MY MOTHER 50%% OF THE TIME, BUT WE DON'T GET ALONG THAT WELL. MY FATHER PISSED OFF WHEN I WAS YOUNG, SO I WON'T SEE HIM AGAIN AND DON'T WANT TO! MY COUSIN SAID HE HATES GAY PEOPLE, SO I WON'T TALK TO HIM AGAIN, MY UNCLE SAYS NASTY THINGS, TREATS HIS FAMILY LIKE SHIT, LOOKS DOWN HIS NOSE AT US EVEN THOUGH HE'S A FUCKING PEASANT LIKE US AND EXPECTS US TO BOW DOWN TO HIM. AFTER TREATING MY MOTHER LIKE SHIT FOR YEARS, SHE LICKS HIS ASSHOLE CLEAN COS MONEY'S INVOLVED! I AM ONLY 25, I AM STILL FUCKING YOUNG AND I WILL FIND PEACE FROM THESE DISGUSTING CREATURES! I HOPE THEY ALL BURN IN HELL! COS THEY DESERVE! AS FOR YOU SIR, I HOPE YOU FIND PEACE! GET YOUR OWN PLACE AWAY FROM THOSE WHO ARE NEGATIVE, WATCH THE SECRET AND START MAKING POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS, MANIPULATE YOUR MIND TO BELIEVE ALL GOOD IS COMING TO YOU, GET SOME FRANKINCENSE AND SOME CHARCOAL TABS AND WALK AROUND THE HOUSE AND YOU'LL SOON GET POSITIVE VIBES! JUST FOCUS ON GETTING YOUR OWN LIFE IN ORDER
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thank u so much!!! I feel the same way!!!
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haha. where is the violin. Listen, most of you are just a bunch of dumb kids, or worse, broken adults that only care about themselves which is pathetic. Its hard to consider yourself dumb because you think about yourself too much. Listen, here is the deal. Every kid, in every generation, has felt the same about their family, for years even. As much as you think you have always hated your family, you haven't, and when your an adult, your family will be the only people in your life that actually give a fuck about you. The same annoyances you have toward them will stay, but the main difference is you will also see that you are not a prize either. Its hard to think that can happen, but it is true. "WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE...." i was the biggest punk in the world, i felt my dad was the biggest idiot, and my mother a pretentious bitch that only cared about things on the surface. I still feel the same, but over the years, i started really trying to figure out why my parents were they way they were, and there are valid reasons. What choices did they have? They had me at 18. In the end, I turned out pretty good, as all you little white suburban starbucks drinking apple laptop typing college bound pricks will as well. So unless you are actually being physically abused, calm the fuck down, life is short, its not all about you, and as you age and come across people with actual 'real' problems, you will thank god for your fucked up family.
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it is a teenage thing and if u older u hyave a problem other people just need to accept that
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family....
you dont have to like them....but you gotta love 'em.
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