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Haven't had a relationship with a girl in over 2 years.
I'm starting to think I've lost "it." I am a healthy 28 y/o male living in a big city, and I can't find a date. The girls I've met recently seem to be comfortable enough to give me my number but when I call, blow me off with excuses or (worse) setup dates and then blow me off. Since I haven't had any successful dates in the last 2 years I haven't had sex. I don't really want to resort to sites like AFF or CL.
I ride my bike everywhere and am in good shape and (I think) have a good personality/sense of humor. But I know something is missing, not sure what. I've never really had a serious (>1 year) relationship with a girl in my whole life, and my most recent relationships have been awkward or ended weird.
What can I do to give me some hope or at least see some light at the end of tunnel? I have a good job, make descent money and do not have any serious physical/mental issues. I know it's not mandatory (Food/water/shelter) for people to have company but I've been so alone recently, I'm starting to get lonely and depressed. Which makes it even harder to meet people and easier to stay depressed.
I know I have a good life, and if I can't share my life with someone why am I trying so hard at it? Is it normal for me to feel like this? Thanks in advance.
I ride my bike everywhere and am in good shape and (I think) have a good personality/sense of humor. But I know something is missing, not sure what. I've never really had a serious (>1 year) relationship with a girl in my whole life, and my most recent relationships have been awkward or ended weird.
What can I do to give me some hope or at least see some light at the end of tunnel? I have a good job, make descent money and do not have any serious physical/mental issues. I know it's not mandatory (Food/water/shelter) for people to have company but I've been so alone recently, I'm starting to get lonely and depressed. Which makes it even harder to meet people and easier to stay depressed.
I know I have a good life, and if I can't share my life with someone why am I trying so hard at it? Is it normal for me to feel like this? Thanks in advance.
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Instead of focusing on dating, fill you life with fun and interesting things you like to do and from time to time, invite women to come along for the ride.
I never "ask" for dates. Usually I say something like, "I'm going to this modern furniture store tomorrow night, you should come." It's subtle but you don't give up any power.
Women give out numbers all the time. It's a numbers game. Keep it up.
Conversations need to create attraction in women. Think about what does. Watch some Bond movies and "triumph the insult comic dog". It'll help.
Good Luck.
Wrong strategy. Try activities where you will meet & get to know women before dating. You seem pretty active & could find interest groups. I also think jeff182 has a point about inviting people to activities. The point is - safe & no-pressure ground where people get to know one another before taking things further.
When channel surfing I've caught bits of a show where guys are rated trying to hustle phone numbers from girls at clubs. It has to be among the shallowest & dumbest things I've seen.