HE changed his mind about marrying me

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are you an ugly fat bitch? cuz if you are, then thats the reason

You guys shouldnt even be thinking about getting married.

What you should be thinking about is if you should be together at all, thats it.

Marriage comes AFTER youve gotten to know one another and can be honest to each other.

And often not even then.

Yes it's normal to not know what to do. He sounds like he might be commitment phobic.

Now, this is a story all about how
My life got flipped-turned upside down
And I liked to take a minute
Just sit right there
I'll tell you how I became the prince of a town called Bel Air

In west Philadelphia born and raised
On the playground was where I spent most of my days
Chillin' out maxin' relaxin' all cool
And all shootin some b-ball outside of the school
When a couple of guys
Who were up to no good
Startin makin trouble in my neighborhood
I got in one lil fight and my mom got scared
She said 'You're movin' with your auntie and uncle in bel Air'

I begged and pleaded with her day after day
But she packed my suite case and send me on my way
She gave me a kiss and then she gave me my ticket.
I put my walkman on and said, 'I might as well kick it'.

First class, yo this is bad
Drinking orang juice out of a champagne glass.
Is this what the people of Bel-Air Living like?
Hmmmmm this might be alright.

But wait I hear the pricey booze, wine all that
Is Bel-Air the type of place they send this cool cat?
I don't think sow
I'll see when I get there
I hope they're prepared for the prince of Bel-Air

Well, the plane landed and when I came out
There was a dude who looked like a cop and yelled my name out
I ain't trying to get arrested
I just got here
I sprang with the quickness like lightening, disappeared

I whistled for a cab and when it came near
The license plate said fresh and it had dice in the mirror
If anything I can say this cab is rare
But I thought 'Now forget it' - 'Yo homes to Bel Air'

I pulled up to the house about 7 or 8
And I yelled to the cabbie 'Yo homes smell ya later'
I looked at my kingdom
I was finally there
To sit on my throne as the Prince of Bel Air

after 2 years is not long enough to contemplate marriage its what you wanted not what he wanted so its pointless getting back together find someone else who will want to get married when you do

It is not that uncommon what he did, now you have a choice to make. Your ex-boyfriend sounds fearful of commitment, weakminded, controlling and needy from what you describe. I suggest you date other guys, don't wait around for him to make up his mind. And, what he wants doesn't matter, you're single, see whoever you want. Good luck!

that is creul

You are very much playing yourself as the "innocent victim" and youre working on coming to the conclusion that he is bad and you are good.
Its some relic from your childhood.

ill stick my ballsac in your mouth and youll like it


perhaps

play me a sweet melody on the emo violin.

sucks to be you

hey smithee

way to take my line

asshole

Gah! The a-holes above werent helping you. Listen, if u still love him ull take him back. Im sure he just got nevous and said that. B/f's will do that. ALLLLLLLL men lie. Even tho deep down they love you, they lie. But they don't mean it. Itsss naturrrre lol.

Did you ever think that maybe the guy loved you so much he was willing to put your feelings before his own?

Maybe he was worried that by not marrying you he would lose you.
He has lost you anyway, but surely this shows he cares a huge amount and will put you before himself.

He has every right to change his mind and i have a feeling you aren't telling the whole story

becca8893- u cant spell.
go to skool.

cuz stup skivin its nut feiar

if you are under 18 then get over it none of those relationships are real...and end in trailer trash preggos if not cold feet?

ok... he's probably just confused. If you really love him, give him another chance but dont preasure him about anything. Just have fun and enjoy each other. IF and WHEN the time is right, it will happen. Don't be so quick to commit.

How old are you guys? I say dump his ass!

He shouldn't have lied! You never lie to a girlfriend, especially about something that serious! You shouldn't go back to him, find someone else.

This topic is old (much like stargirl), but I'm going to reply anyhow.

Let's see... why would a guy hesitate to get married?

For starters, he's been dating you for 2 years. I'm sure he's blew at least 50% of his income on your spoiled ass, and marriage only means he'll be handing over the other 50%, once you're both "official".

Then, if things don't work out, he'll be stuck forking over alimony & (possibly) child support, for many years to come.

In a nutshell: If he stays with you, he's fucked. If he leaves, he's fucked. Either way, YOU will come out smelling like a rose & living high on the hog with HIS money.

Understand that marriage is a bigger risk for men than it is for women, and family court almost always favors the wife. When you take all of this into consideration, it's no wonder men get antsy when they feel that a relationship is starting to get serious.

Also, if he told you he wanted to get married, and then later confessed that he was just saying it because he thought it was what /you/ wanted, that means he feels pressured to satisfy your demands.

Get off his back and just enjoy the sex.

would you have prefered him to buy you the ring and never have set a date... Don't know why you would want to get married anyways... much harder than you think... I say stay with him and get over yourself... so what if he doesn't want to get married right now... he isn't cheating on you he just knows he isn't ready to make the move to marriage.... Sounds to me like he is smart... tho you don't seem so smart

Just an update....It has been a year since I wrote the above story..and heres what has happened...I did not stay with him, From what I have heard he is now married or very soon to be and good for him, the true reason as to why he didnt want to marry me was this....I was not Greek and that was that...SO thanks to everyone for the comments and advice, but the truth of the matter is looking back im very happy at the way everything turned out!!