He Rarely Calls

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you cant expect every boyfriend to be the same

what an absolute lowd of bollocks.

I never said I expected every boyfriend to be the same. I only said that it would be nice to get a call every once in a while. And yes, I agree it IS a "complete lowd of bullocks." This isn't a big deal. I only wondered what others thought about it.

*"an absolute lowd of bollocks" Excuse my mistake.

Do you ever call him??

Heck ask him why he never calls.

he obviously dosent care about u if he dosent call. do u call him or do u play the im not going to call him cuz he'll think im obssessed game. Maybe hes doing the same thing if thats the case i did that with my b/f in the beginning. and later found out he was doing the same!! lol now i feel stupid.

Someone mentioned (subject line) that maybe he's not the gabby-type. Hey, take it from a quiet / shy guy, I bet that is the reason! With several past relationships (I was even quieter/shyer back then) I was plum too shy to even call sometimes because I thought I would end up becoming to clingy and that would ruin the relationship. One girl in particular, we had only dated once (a blind date) but it was right around the Christmas holiday so I figured she would be too busy with family and stuff and so felt I shouldn't call her, not to mention just the "cold-feet" thing and after I did get up the guts to call after about three weeks she said she was in another relationship (wow, she moved fast on that one!). So I lost out because I wasn't agressive enough on the phone (hey, wasn't looking for sex, just a relationship). So, if he is the quiet-shy type, try to understand it from his perspective... hey come out and ask him why he hasn't called and let him know it IS ok to call you and that you would like it.. you might be surprised at the results!!

Hey my boyfriend was the quiet type too!! I had dated three guys before him because he could never work up the courage to ask me out! and one day out of the blue after i had become single and was tired of dating assholes I asked him if he liked me and he was like uhhhh and i was like "dont be shy i like u too" and we have been dating for over two years now. and i always tease him and say we could have been going out for three years now if u werent so shy lol. Well he got over that shyness phase cuz i made him lol. I made him spill his guts about things and he hated it. but now hes not shy at all and i love it! So try not to be so shy!!

No, I definitely DO NOT think that he doesn't care about you; Rather, go by what some of the others have said--some guys are shy. I'm dating a shy guy, too. But he's kind and sweet and considerate. In short, he's every man's friend. He's also the contemplative type who talks a lot less than most guys. On the other hand, he is always sincere. You know your boyfriend better than anyone--don't try to change him. If you think this needs to improve, then talk it out with him. Good luck. It's not words that matter, but how he acts!

blah blah to the other people i have been with a guy that did the same thing long story short after a year he still never called me! he was not shy he was a player.i have a boyfriend now that calls me many times a day and i have been with him for a year now-but my point is that if does not call you and if you want a guy to call you drop him now before it is to late and you are stuck he is most likley with other girls and does not have time for you all. leave him!!!!

i think you should tell him how you feel im sure he'll understand and start to call you more, arrange to go somewhere special im sure it will all work out :)

Generally speaking i think guys are just bored by the thought of chatting on the phone for long.
Itīs a really boring thing to do.

I barely ever call women, and when i call men itīs "meet me at x at y oīclock".
I almost always manage to finish the conversation in under 30sec.

I'm sure it's not a refelction of you. I hate using the phone but I understand it is nice to have someone you love call you up at random sometimes. Maybe you could call him and start it off.

personally. i would rather go over to my gf's house & talk & more instead of calling her... she's says she wants to chat i'd say i'm coming over.

maybe he just doesnt like to use the phone, I'd ask him why he doesnt call.

This is not really seen as a potential problem...I have 1 question for you, does he have prepaid or a plan?

You can hazard a guess that he's run out of credit to make a call.

You can also try calling him and then he might do the same after a while!

How can he call you on the phone when he is out fucking your best mate ?? He cant do two things at once.

I THINK SOMEONE ELSE WAS THINKING THE SAME THING I WAS THAT THE GUY WAS PROBABLY DOING HER BEST FRIEND AND NO ONE WANTS TO TELL HER! BELIEVE ME IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME SHE WILL FIND OUT ONCE SHE DUMPS HIM THAT HER BEST FRIEND WAS DOING HIM WHILE SHE WAS CHATTING WITH HIM ON LINE AND WITH HIM WHILE SHE WAS TRYING TO CALL..LOL...LMAO

its time to get tmobile

i am a guy who never calls anyone, because i just find phones akward, my conversations are mostly like Humers, and i would MUCH rather talk in person, and in my experience in talking to other dudes, most of them also dont like long phone convos and most of the ones that call all the time are just trying to get laid, but thats just my take on things, if hes sweet and considerate and good at listening i dont see the problem

It is absolutely normal with some guys to call a lot less than us women do. Mainly, because most men are not so chatty, and do not know what to say if nothing happened meanwhile that excited them so much that they feel the need to share it with us. And asking men to share their feelings, especially on the phone, is almost hopeless.

My husband was a quiet guy on the phone before we got married, and I did about 70% of the calling, but we ended up being married and had almost 20 good years together before he passed away. My boyfriend now, that I date for almost a year, is just like my hubby.
I still didn't figure men out, but I know that a lack of calling has really nothing to do with their feelings for us, as long as they call once in a while.

When my boyfriend neglects me on the phone for too long, and I realize that I called him the last three times, I stop calling. After 3 days tops, I get a call from him, asking: "Are you okay? I wondered, have not heard from you in 3 days." And then we talk as usual. After that, usually he calls me the next two days in a row, but that slags off again once I dial first and we are back in the same routine, until I think again that I did too much of the effort to stay in touch, and put in a communication break again.
Just try to stop calling him for a view days and see if you hear from him. If a week goes by and he did not call back after you stopped calling him, then there is a real issue and maybe you invest too much into this relationship with too little in return.