he wants porn instead of me

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I guess he wants something you can't provide maybe its a certain fetish he has... Communication is key here and I think you guys are lacking. Do not aggressively confront him try talking sex with him and asking what he likes etc.

that tis frightfully upsetting

yes like cruel said try talking to him about it

no i doubt its a form of cheating

It's not cheating for a boyfriend to be viewing porn. If the porn bothers you, then I suggest you find another boyfriend, one who does not view porn. If a guy never initiates sex and you've known each other for some time, then something is very wrong, that should be your main concern. I don't know if the boyfriend is the problem or you are the problem, but something is not right for a guy to not initiate sex. Life is about finding people who are compatible and who are a good match for each of us.

Don't try to change him and don't give him any ultimatums. Women try to change guys and they end up frustrated and angry when it doesn't work. The best thing you can do is just find another boyfriend. Pick and choose a mate very carefully and you will find yourself happier in life. Don't ignore the red flags and don't become too attached to anyone early on.

tell him about it...talk to him and tell him whats bothering you.

well i looked at lots of porn too-UNTIL I experienced the real thing then porn was never the same.I cant imagine a guy who'd rather look at naked chicks on a screen instead of actually be touching one.

Id be looking for another guy.The one you got has troubles.

Murder him.

What you need to do is find out what he likes, maybe ask him to show you, or talk about it. One of the things that women do when they get a friend is that they often forget that not only are men visual on all levels, they fantasize quite often. In short, men don't like the same old bolonga sandwich everyday. Buy a new piece of lingere, play "doctor" etc. and then the biggest point is to "make" time; in this world everyone can't be spontaneous or on cue, especially a hard-on. Make a call to him at work early in the day to get the ball rolling and if all else fails, cook something in kitchen "NAKED".

The problem is he spends all day whacking his willy and when you want to have sex hes spent.You two need to watch the porn together that way when you both get hot you can have sex together.

hack his computer and found as much information u get on every site he visits and u will know what he want>? take care

He is GAY. Get a new boyfriend and send him along to me lmao

Have you seen that episode of sex and the city when Mirander's bf has to have porn on while having sex, well in the end she makes him choose her or porn. This suggest two things outta a possible 100 other things you can do. Have sex with him while porn is on or make him choose. Other things may suggest talking to him about his possible fear of intercourse!

Sneak up on him while he's watching it and grab his cock and shove his face in your tits.
B-E aggressive!

That's a tough one. Men can find any kind of woman or sex act they are in the mood to see online. That's why it's so addictive. Talk to him about it, but if it doesn't look like he can give it up, it's probably a good bet to leave him.

look at the type of porn... look at your sexual ways.... whats different......there you go. If he's watching anal... chances are he wants anal.... if hes watching nylon fetish... wear some stockings....if he's watching asian, and you are black (and not the tiger woods 'black') then i dont know what to tell you. My man watches porn... but i think he does it just because he's used to it, and the more intercourse i give him the less porn he watches.......
Maybe you should do him?