How to forget someone you love?

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Ahh I had this problem about a year ago. I thought I met the girl of my dreams. We had been high school buddies since day one and I thought we were going to be together forever, then we ended up in two different colleges, and two different life goals that only lead further away from each other. I was totally crushed knowing this and it hurt me for the longest time. The only care for something (at least that worked for me) was to find something better then them. Thats what happen to me because i'm so in love with my girlfriend right now I have I hardly remember the bad times. So in short, fall in love with another person and you'll forget the pass events

Sisophous agrees with MidnightShadow, you need to make new relationships and just let it go. I take it this person does not share your same feelings and you realize this otherwise would have approached him.

People often have tunnel vision and become preoccupied with one person which often builds frustration and can make us miserable. Such infatuations interfere with our daily activities and are counterproductive to happiness. Get out and meet new people, join clubs, go to parties. Rigorous exercise is also terrific to rest your mind. Go out and jog a few miles or swim laps in an indoor pool.

This special person is not the only one who will capture your heart, there are plenty more just around the corner if you are open minded and give other people a chance. In time, this special guy will eventually fade away, like a distant memory.

Obsess much? Jesus Christ get a hobby.

Once Nodo, always Nodo, huh??
Thank god I know you from that weird website. So I can prepare psychologically. Duh.

Obsess much? Yeah, very, despite millions of hobbies.
And what about you, rude much? YEAH.

f**k off troll

Oh come on, im sure you can get over me eventually.
It just takes a lot of time and will power.

I have faith in you... you can do it!

get rid of all his crap that he gave you (i suggest burning); you dont want to think of him anymore. then get yourself a gallon of choclate Haagens-Daas and watch "The Producers"

alcohol.
lots.

yeah i recently went through a similar situation. It sucks and I'm still not over her but things do get better with time. BTW, sisophous nailed it when he said "Such infatuations interfere with our daily activities and are counterproductive to happiness." So true.

Had the same thing happen to me with a car, once. I thought about it day in an day out. I wanted it so bad. I couldn't sleep at night. I couldn't eat. It tore me apart. I got the car, but it left me. Love sucks, huh? Even today, I wonder what would have happende if I'd only treated that car nicer.

Don't let them fool you, some things you will NEVER get over. I even thought about killing myself. Then I Iound a VW beetle. Now I'm happy.

Jess

I understand where you are comming from, I was with an older woman since I was 17 years old she was 27. We got married 3 years ago but things just don't seem right anymore. We both have a different point of view on everything. I love her so much but we need to let go. I can't seem to get her out of my head and it drives me insane. I was diagnosed with Bipolar and this doesn't seem to help the situation any lol. The thought of someone else being with my true love I think would send me off the deep end. I'm 27 now and still can't deal with losing her.

Try to train yourself not to want what you cannot have. It is not easy, and it takes time, but it is worth the effort.

Sorry but I agree with junker, you can't truly get over someone, in 8th grade I was in love with this girl and now in 10th grade I still think about her a lot, not as much as before but I never really got over her.

show them your c*ck

n ballz

@poster

stop seeing him completely.
delete him everywhere u can on the computer.

destroy every single peace of memory u have of him anywhere.
Even burn it symbolically.

do this and you'll be a lot better of in a month.

Doesn't work, seriously, I was in love with a girl back in middle school, I had nothing to remind me of her yet I never truly got over her.

@poster

Try focusing on something else, I know it's hard but you should try, like do a sport or something that means you won't be sitting around, because that's when your mind starts to wander.

do both what i said and what pringletot said.

and be aware that hes out of your life forever.

and also be aware that this guys is nothing unique,
u just think he is.

I went through the same thing for years. Get away from the person and time heals all wounds.

everytime you think of him, cut yourself across the wrist

this hasnt failed me yet

These other peoples are fools you are always gonna want what you cant have its human nature and u need to realize that you attract people the same way people are a mess especially women who value the almighty dollar more than love or any other value dont let society rob you of what should come natural i once loved a women more than anything in the world and i still think of her almostr evryday and the fact that her mother stole her from me she chose money over love and i hope for the best but something inside hopes she suffers for what she has doine to me

All this medical stuff?
Lies.
Get rid of most of the stuff s/he gave you.
Now, go do something crazy.
Have a one night stand.
Do some drugs, get crazy.
Bet, you'll forget him or her.

I was with a girl 2 years ago and she was rather looking one of my friends and a day she was angry at me but I knew that she was lieing to me. I followed her so I could fix the problem, she has punched me and she has told the principal that I have beaten her. We were about 7 months together. Her mother told me to not talk to her at all and to not approach her. I have respected her mother and four days later, I got an e-mail about something that I must close from my ex-girlfriend. I was so angry that I have e-mailed her back with some big sh*t multiple times. Result? The ex-gf printed all the things and sent it to the principal and it happened outside of school! I got sh*t in school instead of fixing the things correctly. Later, we love each other again but what? Her parents don't allow me to see her or to be with her again. Some months later, we got some tensions then it was ok. She was with another guy that I knew. The guy had to break up because because of his parents who told him that she was too sick. I didn't know it. My ex told me that she loves me again a year later in 2007. We are not at the same school. In 2008 in October, we are in the same school again. I was new at the other school. I haven't seen her for a bit more than a year. She was happy to see me. We are together in secret until she explodes for the reason : I want to see some other friends. It was only an excuse for something that she had against me again. She is in my same math class at the same time so it's hard to forget. So now, I am the guy who is going for her. It was the opposite. I was too much of a whiner according to her. I am a whiner because I want to be with you and told her : Screw the parents, you are an adult and you are almost 19 (now she is 19) and do what you want? Nope. She respects their decisions. A lie that she has done to protect herself? Perhaps but she lied to me so often and she still does. When we know the body language, it tells all. When I talk to her and that we are with my friend (my friend has fallen in the same school as us at the same date), she talks to him and watches him even when I talk to her. I ask her a question, she either doesn't answer or she replies to him. So f**ked up eh? So stupid yeah! I feel just like someone who was used as the last resort nice guy for her. She is a hard working girl while I am thinking about her while I am doing my maths to fix that damn situation. I would like to forget her but it's not easy. I think that she is faking to be my friend at this moment. I am nice with her and I got some mean answers. Ok... Anyway she has some mental problems and watch her parents, they are special. I have seen them. They know how she reacts etc so it seems that I have nothing to fix it. Oh and she is a master for ignoring the stuff and explodes by herself. I would not have the right to have a conversation because she keeps the sh*t for herself? That's not acceptable. I like her and not at the same time. But overall, this is doing more damage to me instead of her. I think that I will be successful at forgetting her but it will take a while.

u piece of sh*t! you dont know how that hurts the other when people does that u stupid piece of crap!!! my gf did that to me! i cant stop crying for months now! she said she would talk to me and at least say hi to me if things did not work out and she did not!
i cant stop thinking about her shes my life shes my everything. too bad i cant discount this rage on u now u so deserve it; for the pain of the others

Jenni is that you? please reply to me if it is for months i been crying cuse of you i cant forget you i miss you really bad; i cant stop thinking about you ever since u abandoned me so unfairly; after that guy told me u were dating him also... i tried to be mad at u so i could forget you...but i couldent i love you jenni your everything in my life...ever since i lost you it feels like i lost my very own meaning in life... i have stoped fearing the thought of death since u left me...i have goten so depressed i cut my self...

I've been there and I know how much it hurts. Sometimes it is just to hard to let go. Time will make it better though you may never be over it it will become bearable with time. Cry when you need to get down and wallow in self pitty if you must but know that there is a world out there when your ready for it. You might try a little trick that helped me. Every time you catch yourself thinking about him force yourself to think of something else. You can also write a short novel about you and him get as wild as you want with it. Let your dreams just flow and write yourself a happy ending!

i kno how u guys feel i always used to be very happy that i could let go of all emots but i meet this girl who i was for the first time in love with but she broke up with me after a week but i cnat stop thing about her and i am changed all together im not shure if she still like me cuz she told me that she wasnt ready to date yet and it has been 2 weeks i wrote her this can some one plz tell me when to give it to her "Lauren I don't mean to sound weird but I just want u to know how I feel about u and how much I care about u I don't care if any other girl likes me I LOVE u when your around me I get the feeling like nothing bad can happen and even if I have the worst day u cheer me up and I always care about how u feel but I think I understand y u said ur not ready to date yet because u just broke up with luke and u didn't want to get hurt at least I think I'm not sure what to think now but I still love u."

nothing is ever impossible.
if you really like someone, go for it.
i know its hard to tell your feelings.
i've had plenty of that in my teen years.

but if you really want to forget...
busy yourself.
do stuff, get active, and be involved.
doing other stuff will help your mind keep away from him.

btw, don't cut yourself.

yeah .. thats very hard question.. i guess the only way is to be with that person again..

damn love hurts yo.. :/

Paula.. :/

Surely I know how much it hurts, it took me so much time to get over the strong and true feelings that I had for a girl I really loved, and thought that I would never ever have such feeling for someone else. Don't make the same mistake as me, during 4 years I was actually down and didn't lived my life fully as I should. DON'T MAKE IT A DRAM as you would only hurt yourself. Hang out with friends, get to know other person, its better. Keep on smiling and enjoy yourself. Remember that people will always move towards new friends that are shining and not down.
U should know that the course for true love did never run smooth and for now what is important is not love but your career/studies. Love can still wait no worry ;). U need emotional support, surely close friends can provide it. Learn to become emotionally strong and independent, because believe me life really sucks... I actually met someone else whom I loved more than my first love, but the relationship does not seem to hold and I don't feel its two-way, but so what! Just get over it, stop hurting yourself, I'm sure I'll definitely meet the One who will love me like I would love her, it just requires patience ;). Hope my story would help those reading it.

Its hard but the best solution to forgeting someone you "love" is to become infatuated with someone else. Although this might bring on a vicious cycle when the next person you have fallen for doesn't feel the same way about you...

OMFG!!!! these are all twats !!

dont jump into another relationship because it will be empty and hollow. you will just have to let time be the healer.

i currently like someone and i messed it up. i had a choice of going out with her or the other one. being nice and thinking this thorough a little bit, i went out with the other one because she had liked me for a longer period of time. by doing this and not relizeing that in the process i had lost her( oh and going out with the other 1 was the worst relationship i have ever had in my entire life for the most part) im not sure what to do? i cant just burn or disconnect myself from her cuz she still wants to be "friends". and on top of that i have 3 classes with her. my situation is not as serious as the other ones by even 1/100th of a millisecond (to put it as an example). but i know what it feels like to love someone and know you cant have them. it really dose hurt. by reading the other comments i will do my best to join or do other activities, i still dont think it will help. this GIRL that im crazy for has covered about everything humanly possible in this world. she runs, plays sports, extreamly nice,we sang about every song made and talked about every movie possible. i have ruiend my only chances with the one and only girl of my life that it seems i will never ever love someone to an extreame like i do with her again.

Guaranteed fix: marry him.
Works overnight.

You just have to go out with your friends have fun and meet other people.

I had been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months when I broke up with him. After i broke his heart he went back to weed, and we stopped talking. He's actaully in my 4th period class. 2 of my best friends also hate me now because of it. We got back to gether after I fuguered out that I still liked him. (and that I was actauklly in love with him) We were back together for 1 day after he broke up with me telling em that he wasn't ready. I also found out that he loved me, but was tired of so much drama and wanted to forget me. So we both love each other but know that we can never be together. I'm finding that works best to heal me is: 1 time. (duh), 2. Knowing that he was the one that made a huge mistake, and is regretting it. 3. Likeing someone else 4. Everytime he enters my head I push him out.
But mostly I know that he will be in pain for the rest of his life knowing that he broke up with me. Just think about that, THEY"RE the one's that made the mistake, not you.

It's hard to say what "normal" is about anything, but I totally have that problem. I'm not going into great depths about it, because I am the only one that knows this and have never told anyone else, but I totally have feelings for someone that I can't get out of my head and it drives me crazy all the time. I'm worse than you though, I've never met the guy in person! :) Also, I am married, hah! Horrible, I know. Trust me, I am madly in love with my husband and have always been and always will be faithful to him, but there is something about this other man that will not rest in my brain. I'm infatuated with him, and it's so funny because I am so busy with my every day activities and with being a mom, and I still find time somehow to think about him all the time. I don't know what it is... I don't think it is love because I love my husband, I do. I wouldn't call it a crush though. I just feel like we have some kind of attachment and I don't know why. Hopefully I am not going crazy. I think about him a lot, probably at least a few seconds every day of my life. The easiest way for me to forget about it, is my kids or husband. I tend to think about him more when my husband is away. I know I have to get him out of my head because I have to continue on with my important day to day activities, so that is my motivation. Also, being an overly good wife to my husband makes it easier. If you find it hard to do every day activities or certain things are hard to concentrate on, then just simply try harder and use "false motivation". Think of a goal in your head of something you want to achieve and just attack it. If you work extra hard towards something that you HAVE to do anyway, he will more likely fade from your mind more during the day. Keep yourself busy. Even if you aren't studying or something, take up a new hobby and get yourself around other people. That's my advice :) Anyone that leaves a bad comment about what you said, or what I just said, can go f**k themselves (in advance, because I know someone is going to say something rude).

this really did happen to me before i really liked this girl that i met a year before we were like best friends we wud give hugs nd stuff but the question never really popped up if we cud ever be together or not we had alot in common and alot of differences and i started to get desperate she looked like she got over me but then i met this girl at da rolerrink and we almost emmidiately became bf nd gf ever since then which was like half a month ago i completely forgot bout the other girl

Denying or repressing your natural feelings is a sure way to becoming an emotional wreck. Accepting and understanding them is the right way.

Well I know this is horrible, having your fellings bottle up inside of you, but my situation is worse than yours because Im in love with my best friend. My advice for you, let him know even though you know he doesnt feel the same way, it takes away this heavy weight from your shoulders and heart. Trust me I told him today and even though we stayed as best friends I feel way lot better.

Your question is itself contradictory, if you love the boy you cannot possibly forget him. I'll tell you what millions others have probably already told you: move on. But of experience it is impossible. If you really love him as you say, but that you have never told him about it, you have to. Go talk to him, confront him with your feelings. Either he will become partt of your life, or you will be rejected. But I promise you it will be easier this way. Eeasy to say not easy to do...
But who said love was easy?
A night off with your friends and you should be ok.

Yes I think this is normal especially if it's a first love/crush. Love comes when you actually know that person well, and when usually when you guys were friends before.

What you said above was exactly what happened to me! I'm actually flabbergasted by the similarities. Anyways... I couldn't stop thinking about this guy for months as well and yes it did interfere with my studies- but not TOO bad. If I really concentrated and said to myself, "Forget it. He doesn't even know me and what I have for him is ALL INFATUATION. What are the chances that he'll be with me anyways?"
If I really did "love" him, then that means that we knew each other very well and I'm accepting his personality.

He's not the only guy in this world and we have more impt. things to be doing as well right? Moreover, when you're daydreaming about him, you're only assuming of "who he may be" rather than "who he really is".

Love is not clingy. Infatuation is. I don't know if it's because of my personality, but after months of crushing on him, I kind of got tired of being so hung onto this guy. Then it's like you all of a sudden just move on. But don't wait for this to happen. Take action now and focus all your energy into FAMILY, FRIENDS, EXERCISE AND SCHOOL. That is a healthier lifestyle. Take yoga. I'm serious; it may help.

look at all the posts its clearley very normal. you just have to wait.

sleep, sleep, sleep.

eeerm get a bf?

i have one. i just sleep when i'm upset.

I am going through the exact same thing right now. Nothing ive read here has personally helped me but maybe it has worked for you. I take 2O minutes everyday and cry about everything [him;life;friends..etc.] and after that Im fine. The best place to do this is when youre taking a shower because then you dont look like you;ve been crying. I also talk to my puppy even though I know she cant talk back but it just helps to talk to someone/something.

I have the same problem.. I actually googled the question "How to forget someone you love".. and this is what came up. I, too, am having trouble forgetting someone I fell for. To make things worse, I am currently in relationship with someone else and live with him.
I was unfaithful with the person I cannot stop thinking about and could have been with him, but my guilt held me to the one I have been with for two years. I know that sounds terrible, and I feel terrible for it. I wonder all the time "what if" I had chosen to go with him. Now he will not speak to me (for good reason) and I am left with heartache, and I just hope one day all of this will make sense. I am a big believer in fate and "everything happens for a reason", but I cannot make sense of this; how could I have had such a great connection and amazing moments with a person, as short-lived as they were, only for them to be gone so quickly? What was the point?? It's frustrating.

Great point on the daydreaming about "who he may be" and "who he really is".. that makes a lot of sense to me. In my situation, I did not have a huge amount of time with the guy ( a few months), and the whole time I had suspicions that he was being who he thought I wanted him to be. Problem is, he did a GREAT job of it.. now he's stuck in my head. :)

budweiser will always love you

ooh. i've like this dude for a year and a half and i knew it was all hopeless. All you have to do is...get distracted. NOt like drugs or alcohol but just have fun with your life and keep it behind things that should be more important...

It's totally normal. For me I had a Crush on this Girl for 4 years now ya hard to get rid off them out of your head unlees u do something that will make u forget about it but again it will come back again lol.Like me right now.

One other way is to turn your love or special feeling into some sort of negative feeling like hate. That helps you to not want the person anymore.

After reading all the comments I'm happy to find that its normal to feel like this. Before I came here I sort of felt... I guess ashamed and like a complete fool to have feelings for a someone who I knew would never feel the same. I don't know why, I guess knowing it could never be and feeling like I'd never be good enough for her do that to you. Unrequited love(or like haha) sucks. I still feel like a complete for having feelings for her but not as much now that I know people have been through it or are in the same boat.

What sucks even more is that I'm a guitarist, band and everything, but the music just keeps reminding me of her because thats what we connected on in the first place, and I guess I keep writing in hopes that she'll finally take notice of me. I guess in a weird way she's also my Muse, how great huh.

let me restate that last paragraph:

What sucks even more is that I'm a guitarist, band and everything, you'd think that would help keep my mind off of her, but the music just keeps reminding me of her because thats what we connected on in the first place, and I guess I keep writing in hopes that she'll finally take notice of me. I guess in a weird way she's also my Muse, how great huh.

Hi Everyone!

Thank you very much for all your feedbacks, makes me feel better. I am facing the same problem. I have a girl friend who has been in love with me since the past 9 years. We had a great relationship until I travelled abroad for work away from her. I met a girl here and after sometime I started liking/crush/love towards her. I had lots of work to do and I was not able to concentrate on my work/ finish my projects/get sleep/eat food etc.
I finally informed both of them about this and my girlfriend got really upset about this. The girl never had any feelings for me, but still its been really really hard to forget her. Its damaging my work life and I have a totally messed up life. I have no idea how long this will go on its already been some months. Hope to get on with my life and true love soon and be happy forever.

Maybe ask him on a date. Or do anything that would make it a real relationship. See if he is really the guy you think he is. Probably not because it is something you mainly imagine.

hi lovebug...
i found myself in the shoe of your ex gf... i've been in love in someone for 7 years... i gave myself to him... the bastard recently dump me for someone else who he just met some 3 weeks ago... i'm not here to judge you.. perhaps you are different from my ex bf... i just wanna tell u it hurts a lot to see someone you love so deeply falling out of love with you for other people... well its life... we deserve better people as well as you... someday we'll all look behind and we'll say well it was just some sort of infatuation...

Hi strongmind...

I'm really sorry to know you had the same problem as my gf. I totally agree with you and I would not like to hurt any sentiments of my gf anymore. She is not my ex but I'm lucky I still have her since 9 years and still going stong. Yes she is hurt very much by my liking towards other person. I hope I forget everything about this new girl in my life and give all that I can to my gf.

Thanks Again....

its very simple find some one you like even more :d

i have the same story, i want to get over a guy who i had crush on since day one but i cant cause hez with me in classes and we had this camestry which it lasted 2 weeks..
i cant get him out of my mind.. and i tried everything to get over him even i had a bf but still hez in my mind..
what should i do??

love bug im in same boat & it sucks!!. Im still w/ a guy ive been w/ for 10 yrs. 5 yrs in i told him i wasnt happy , he didnt care, so i fell madly in luv w/some1 else, i told him & he didnt care. So now im pissed cuz i still love the other 1 but wish i had the same feelings for the 1 who is with me. So yes i think its normal to obsess over some1 to the point that it gets on your nerves. But i advise something different. Getting distracted is much like running away. Think about y your thinking about him/her & youll realize its all in your head. The love & passion is all in your head u just need to project on some1 who is receptive & willing to love u back. Lovebug, i was really busy too so i think thats y this happen .u need to finish 1thing b4 u start something else. Also, dont settle with some1 just bcuz ur afraid to be alone if u dont fall madly in love w/gf let her go. I learned my lesson- if the man i love cant give me the same or make me feel the same im not gonna settle, or cheat, im out.

I have the same problem so I smoke weed on the reg. Pills are good too

Hi everyone. I just want the normal life but i can not. My family are so up high. I love a girl and i love her so much. Me and her will get marries in 30 days. But i am fcuk it up. I was not good to her. After i have been through i know she is so importance to my life. but i am lost her out of my hand. I don't know what to do. She wont let me back. I am try so many things. I just want her back for love her more and protect her. She is lovely girl. I never love someone like her. She is my life.

Can everyone tell me how to get her back. I am willing to do everythings. I will give up my life for her. I will do it. I will fix my problem to love her more and her family more.

Please help me.

Love u 'L'

What are you, 12?

well...Im going through the same thing..i was with my ex for 4 years. When we broke up, i had only wanted it to be a break but he didnt want it so we ended it and a month or two later he is going out with someone else. My heart is broken, but dont listen to those people that tell you to jump into another relationship to forget him. I promise you, it will not work if you do it that way because all youre really doing is fooling your self and the other person you jumped into the relationship with.
Love hurts, but dont close yourself to new things. Always remember that all things shall pass...time is your number one friend.

do some drugs
(: yeyaaha!

Hey I am into same situation.i love a guy who was my best frd. He told he loves me but i m not the one. I am crazy about him. now he has stopped talking to me. i got insane because of him. i try to call him,ping him, meet him. but he dont want to meet me anymore. I tried not talking to him, goin to gym, painting, cooking. meeting some frds. but nothing worked and I call him after a week. but he dont respond correctly. i feel i lost my best frd too. I am not able to forget him. we used to talk to each other everyday. Now i m mad at myself because i dont talk to him. I feel life sucks. I want to get out of this situation. someone plz help me get out of this hell.

i tried this before...doesn't work.
i tried everything to stop thinking and loving him but, still nothing ever worked.
he was muh first true love, you dnt stop loving your first true love no matter what they did to you. infact you can never stop loving someone you truley loved. but i think that you should jst ask the guy out and see what happens, if it's meant to be than its meant to be.

I its not one thing its another when it comes to some prime time suffering over love. For me I think it was wanting and waiting to meet "the one for me" that when I thought I did Ikinda went overboard and gave my heart to quick. this coupled with that charm/kindness a woman can generate it is a potent mix. for me it did not last long as she had such a bad temper that eventually surfaced I think now perhaps she has bipolar. You know being super productive for 18 hours a day and then kapowi - a venom and temper that is just kinda shocking, accusations over non existant other girlfriends etc...so it ended and none of that makes it any easier. I kind of got over it, I thought and even met someone else, but u know some meetings/relationships they leave a strong presence. So she called after amost 9 months and of course I tell her my situation and she tells me all the things i wanted to hear all that time ago - i her heart etc. i wish she never called, or i wish it was resolved more before as it is like going through it all again now. I can rationalise it all, but it just amzes me of the ridiculous thoughts of wanting to leave my current gf etc and think itwould be great. i think on a deeper level even if i did, it would not work. My partner keep asking what is wrong but i don wan tell her. I just want it to pass. i tend to each rock bottom on these things before i climb out again. my gf going ed of month for a long trip and you know it is not the best time. many times like this in life - hard choices, knowing if the moment passes it is not just gone, but gone forever, weighing up what i want, who i want and all the damage it would create one way or another. It is true you can never forget, never not be in love, an irish friend of mine tells me unrequited love or love that can not be fades over time. Well its only been a week so i guess the wound reopened is still fresh. leave my gf and try u think? i am married and she is pregnant. don judge me, i hate myself. i wish she never called. how dare she

How can you be so sure you wont ever be with him, you never know. Unless hes gay or like your sisters husband or something and even then he might be your soul mate. Never know....maybe

have u forgotten about person yet?

the msg is to person who posted story. must hav clicked reply on sum1 elses comment ...

i wish i was that guy..atleast 1 girl will fall in love...

It's drastic measure but you have to physically move a considerable distance to get over this person, make new friends and just have a different life than you had before. I have had to do this two times to get relief.

Yes some of these ppl are right about ctting the other person off completely, yes it does help but its extremely hardd especially if you really care bout this person, you dont wanna hurt them but doing this hurts them most, ive been inlove wit my bestfriend for over a year now, she doesent wanna risk our friendship. we both mean the world to each other and many times i have tried to take her out of my life, just thihnkin bout it makes me breakdown, i am still bestfriends wit her, she has other bfs but im still inlove and it kills me inside but i cant stand the thouhgt of hurting her. so its really hard to choose you may end up getting over this person yes, but youd be urting this person very much (if you are good friends) but not doing it will bring lots of pain as well, but it helps knowing you didnt hurt the person you love...

i get how ur feeling. I don't think deletig everything about him will work. Just wait, im sure you'll feel better soon. Or Get a new boyfriend ;)

I want to forget about my ex too

how about telling him how you feel. embarrassment will keep you away from him thus more chance of getting over him. haha. and telling him about your feelings will make all the crush situation less exciting don't you think? XD

mm I don't think that getting a new boyfriend would work.. Tried it.. and It never let me forget about my ex.. I even found myself comparing between them and of course I ended up confused and troubled.

I broke up and now I'm talking again to the guy that I've always loved and it seems fine.. I don't even find myself falling for him like before (like from 2 years ago)

Hope it works for you.. Give it a shot.. know him better if you're not that close.. maybe you'll find something that would pull you away for him or brings you closer.. you never know unless you try!

well ! HOW TO FORGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE ! i had the same Qeustion ! i know someone its been for more then 10 years ! and we dont have contact for more then 3 years ! but i still LOVE her and think about her ! i wanted to foeget her ! but i think i dont have to foeget her ! because she is been a nice part in my life ! but the problem is that , i cant move on ! i cant love someone else because i still think about her ! and deep inside i want to get with her one day in the future ! ... anyone any suggetion :) ? thank you guys !

lol thats what im sayin ;)

Marijuana.. makes you forget anything and everything :)

I have had this problem a load of times I hid the feelings by learning new things like my latest one was hungarian before that chineese but you can do other things aswell take up a sport I done different thigns to get my mind off the person so just try that =) if you like them or broken up which ever there is a difference if you like them tell them how you feel better to be crushed and lose the feelings that way if you were together and he broke up with you etc. then sorry I can't help we all deal with it in different ways mine was hiding my head in books yours could be different try fishing it is a good sport =)

askkk him outt jeez
its not immpossible, and you never no wat could happen! theirs no way you can get over him unless you know what could reallly happen.... if he says, so you'll be crushed for a little bit, but you WILL get over it eventually and move on to someone even more wonderfull

You cant get over him
Get over that.
And your gold.

Yeah, getting over someone you love so much is a very difficult situation, that I'm currently in. I just keep telling myself that I'm the best and it's his loss, and when I truly get over him. He will be sorry he messed it up, because I wanted to make him happy. And by the time he comes back around if ever. My feeings will be gone (hopefully) and he'll feel like a loser. Life goes on. Just know it will be hard at times, but it will make you stronger.

i managed to read everyone's previous posts.. and i was inspired to share my own story...

back in 2007, i was introduced to a guy that eventually became my best friend and someone i found myself falling in love with. for a while, i thought it was just lust or infatuation but i ended up genuinely caring for him and found myself growing even more as an individual thanks to our friendship. a few months after we were introduced to each other, my feelings grew and i confessed how i felt towards him. at that time, he told me that he saw me as a sister. knowing that, i was shattered but we stayed as really good friends. i often reminded myself that this was a one-sided deal for me and i tried meeting other people while keeping my friendship with him.

he met my family and i eventually met his... as we became closer friends, we often hung out with the same group of people.

it was a bit odd since the majority of the people who knew us didn't believe he saw me as a sister. i was pretty confused about how he truly felt and questioned whether he was being honest with me. there's times where he's given me mixed signals... we talked on the phone almost every night and he was closer to me than any of his other friends. we did plenty of things together.. hiking.. rock climbing.. poker n movie nights... i even loved to cook for him and bring him food all the time... we hung out 1 on 1 often and there was plenty of playful flirting...to add on.. i didnt even see him acting this way with any other girl. so i went through that stage where i thought... maybe this guy needed more time to figure out his feelings.

time went by and later on... a girl from his past comes around trying to revive the past they had together. (in the past, they didnt work out since long distance didnt work for him...) somehow, i eventually met this girl and she was a great person. i found it sad that we naturally got jealous of each other b/c we both knew we liked the same guy and i was scared of losing any chance to ever be with this guy. anyhow, there's times where this guy compared me against her and it totally broke the core of my own self-esteem as a woman when he told me about it.

i tried distancing myself away from him before completely becoming self-destructive but i couldn't cut him off. he was there for me at the time when my family issues were the most critical and falling apart . when the time came for him to graduate from college, i tried so hard to help him find a job around our area (norcal) so that he wouldn't move back south. the other girl lived down south and for some reason, i felt scared that he would no longer be around.

he eventually found a job up here... and as time passed, i did myself a favor and went out to meet more guys. i dated one guy but things didn't last longer than 2 months since my family issues hit me hard & he wasn't the kind of guy that supported me. my mistake at this time was.. i slept with that guy. i told my best friend (the person i liked for a long while) about it and he was there to support me when everything was falling apart. my parents were about to divorce and my relationship with them wasn't too great. my emotional health was very unstable at the time and my best friend was the only person who gave me the greatest comfort.

one time, we stepped out and he told me that he felt crushed to find out that i slept with the guy i dated. he brought up "friends" (tv series) and used this one episode about ross and rachel.... in that ep, ross and rachel are broken up and ross meets rachel's sister who tries to sleep with him. rachel starts to think ross slept with her sister but by the end of the episode, he tells her he never slept with her sister because he never wanted to eliminate the future chance of getting back together with rachel

so keep that story in mind.... my best friend basically told me that since i slept with someone i dated, it ruined any potential chance between him and i. at this point, over a year and couple months have passed since ive started liking him. and here he tells me.. it's like him as a mentor being disappointed in the person under him. from there, i royally gave up and moved on.

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my best friend introduced me to a coworker who i got to know for a couple months. it turns out that his coworker and i hit it off well and ended up dating later on. my best friend then decided i was moving on too fast and being too easy... then he distances himself away from both his coworker and me. he started giving us both the cold shoulder and i started feeling like a total stranger who wasn't welcomed to be around him anymore. i vented about this issue to a mutual friend of me and my now ex-best friend. later, my ex-best friend got upset that i vented and told me that if i ever had to mention him at all, that i should only talk about it with him and no one else.

i told this story to the coworker i dated who is now my current bf for over a year... i was happy to know he was very understanding... he basically said.. if you want to talk to someone, go talk to them. no one tells you who to vent to but yourself. and if your so called best friend cuts things off this way, that's not a friend to begin with.---- i agreed with this viewpoint.. and yet i found it hard to forget my ex-best friend because he just flipped 180 after all the times he's been supportive of me

our group of friends eventually split because of this awkward separation and things are no longer what they used to be. i miss the good old times and it's depressing to know you can't go back.

i no longer talk to my ex-best friend since his actions have told me that he doesn't want to be around me. i often reminded myself that this same ex-best friend wasn't exactly a good friend at the end when things split... in one of our final conversations... i can tell he was looking out for me and telling me i didn't know his coworker too well... but then he went off physically measuring up the guy as if it was his place to compare. The last few times i communicated with him... things didn't make sense and i sensed more jealousy out of his actions rather than a friend who was supporting me...around this time, he told me he didnt believe in my capabilities of dating and said to prove him wrong.. n show him that his coworker and i would blossom into a great couple

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It's been a little over a year since this split has happened. I'm still with my bf (my ex-best friend's coworker) and still disturbed till this day on why things turned out this way... I have older brothers.. and if they were ever disappointed in me, they wouldn't give me a cold shoulder. If my best friend was disappointed in me like a mentor was, I don't think he would have been cutting off the entire friendship this way.

i tried to put myself in his shoes and think... what if he was distancing himself for my sake as well? but the next question becomes, why did he need to get so dramatic about me dating his coworker?

when it comes to my bf... ive been happy with him and he treats me well... i do wonder whether ive reached that point where i can say i love him... i feel that it's still growing... and i think to myself... what if my feelings towards this bitter end with a person i used to love is the thing that is slowing down my progression from moving forward? its odd because i have dreams of the past and i feel this whole grudge that im dying to get rid off... as much i hate what happened in the past, i can't bring myself to say i truly hate the person i loved.

i want my relationship to work... and i no longer want to hold on to something in the past... so i wonder, what's the best way to forget my ex-best friend? i deleted his sn... got rid of pictures.. and no longer associate myself with his family... i avoid even talking about him if possible... at least a year has passed and my mind is still driven crazy with him... somehow, my feelings are bottled up and i want it gone.

I'm actually going throught the same thing rightnow. I just can't stop thinking about someone almost every minute of my waking hours. And there can never be a future 4 him & I its a complicated situation. I'm slowly getting over him though I think, I hope so. I can't go on like this.

I heard a saying "to get over someone is to get on top of another." I have to find somebody else to occupy my mind or find a new hobby, meet new people. Another saying "action is the enemy of thought."