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How to forget someone you love?
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I really like/love/have a crush on somebody. Pick whatever.
Anyway, I'm getting desperate and I can't seem to function properly ever since I met him. I can't stop thinking of him and I don't know what to do but it is really annoying when I have to study and do other necessary things. I'm also in a bad mood all the time and am constantly day-dreaming. This is going on for about four months and it really burdens me.
I know we will never be together yet I can't prevent my feelings for him.
So I just wanted to know how can you stop loving/strongly liking someone? Is there anything that helps??
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Surely I know how much it hurts, it took me so much time to get over the strong and true feelings that I had for a girl I really loved, and thought that I would never ever have such feeling for someone else. Don't make the same mistake as me, during 4 years I was actually down and didn't lived my life fully as I should. DON'T MAKE IT A DRAM as you would only hurt yourself. Hang out with friends, get to know other person, its better. Keep on smiling and enjoy yourself. Remember that people will always move towards new friends that are shining and not down.
U should know that the course for true love did never run smooth and for now what is important is not love but your career/studies. Love can still wait no worry ;). U need emotional support, surely close friends can provide it. Learn to become emotionally strong and independent, because believe me life really sucks... I actually met someone else whom I loved more than my first love, but the relationship does not seem to hold and I don't feel its two-way, but so what! Just get over it, stop hurting yourself, I'm sure I'll definitely meet the One who will love me like I would love her, it just requires patience ;). Hope my story would help those reading it.
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@: Lee999
hi..
am in the same boat..help me yar..ur words are pleasing but .. i need some more things to make me forget her..
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same here dude ...
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@: Lee999
awesome dude .. wish i'll be lik u one day ...
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Atlantis34
@: Lee999
Thank you, Mr. Your comment definitely helped me. I really appreciated your beautiful story.
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People flirt to get attention most of the time,and if they make you fall in love with them, that really boosts their ego. So...this person probably had the intent to make you think about him, even if he wasn't interested in a relationship with you, perhaps he gazed at you, or flirted with you...or maybe you sensed him some how , so it's surely a two way street. This person drains you. If you really think about it,a person's most precious gift is attention. A person can give you many things, but if they don't give you their attention, they don't mean much , do they? Attention is the most precious thing we have, so we must direct it towards the things that help us grow.
What you have is a terrible unbalance. It happened to me many times, and the best way to cure this is to focus on your life purpose. Be so engaged in this that you won't have time for people that wish to drain you (take your attention). Give your attention (love) only to those that truly deserve it.
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Hi everyone
I think you like it when you think about this other guy because you feel good when you're in your imagination world.. You like it because you're the one who created it to go and hide there whenever you want a nice moment, to escape from life and problems even when they're not that bad.. I did that all the time.. I was a professional daydreamer..
Pay attention to what I will tell you because it may help you stop in months what I tried to stop for years..
GET OUT OF THERE !!! and as fast as possible.. It's like when you take drugs, you feel good at the moment but the consequences are baad.. really bad.. You ll feel desappointed because the imagination you have doesn't take place in the real life, you start to believe your dream and it ruins you.. GET OUT !!
My advice for you is a little bet bizar: Dream ! Yes, dream, and dream a lot, but about other things, things to achieve in your life.. Keep dreaming about them and start achieving them.. while dreaming you will believe you can do it.. And well, you will do it at last.. Just focus on something you like to do and start digging: what can I make of this passion.. Be stronger than your old imagination, be strong and insist on dreaming about your career, your kids future, your couple, about some passion, even a forgotten one that you lost over years.. Be courageous and DREAM .. start by dreaming about that espacially after you realise you were thinking about thiq person, and after that whenever you think about him, force yourself to dream about yourself.. one day you will realise that you re no more thinking about him and that you started achieving amazing tings..
Dreaming is a wonderful tool and a dangerous weapon, try not to use it against yourself.. You deserve the best dreams and achievements of the world, so go for it !!!
Sorry for the bad english, and I hope it will help.. Good luck :)
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@: Ruku
you are the best thank you very much i was in need to hear something like that
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@: Ruku
amazing v strong v good support not bad english ..really i got some kind of support from u i wish i can stick on it...
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@: Ruku
good advice, but its not easy.. not easy at all...
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@: Ruku
thanks a lot!
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@: Ruku
WOW :)
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@: Ruku
Thank you dear :) you really helped me to kind of correct my way of Thinking. Your words are powerful for me. Thanks
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Yes I think this is normal especially if it's a first love/crush. Love comes when you actually know that person well, and when usually when you guys were friends before.

What you said above was exactly what happened to me! I'm actually flabbergasted by the similarities. Anyways... I couldn't stop thinking about this guy for months as well and yes it did interfere with my studies- but not TOO bad. If I really concentrated and said to myself, "Forget it. He doesn't even know me and what I have for him is ALL INFATUATION. What are the chances that he'll be with me anyways?"
If I really did "love" him, then that means that we knew each other very well and I'm accepting his personality.

He's not the only guy in this world and we have more impt. things to be doing as well right? Moreover, when you're daydreaming about him, you're only assuming of "who he may be" rather than "who he really is".

Love is not clingy. Infatuation is. I don't know if it's because of my personality, but after months of crushing on him, I kind of got tired of being so hung onto this guy. Then it's like you all of a sudden just move on. But don't wait for this to happen. Take action now and focus all your energy into FAMILY, FRIENDS, EXERCISE AND SCHOOL. That is a healthier lifestyle. Take yoga. I'm serious; it may help.
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Great point on the daydreaming about "who he may be" and "who he really is".. that makes a lot of sense to me. In my situation, I did not have a huge amount of time with the guy ( a few months), and the whole time I had suspicions that he was being who he thought I wanted him to be. Problem is, he did a GREAT job of it.. now he's stuck in my head. :)
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i know exactly what your saying. my first love and first boyfriend first kiss. was so special to me. this is probably going to sound pathetic but its been four years and i still think about him he is always in my mind. everytime i see him i feel like im melting. when he looks at me it hurts because i know i will never get another chance with him. i was so young and immature back then and really messed things up. now i have a new boyfriend but its not the same. its not him. it just isnt right with anyone else. when he talks to me it hurts to. i cant even talk to him in person anymore but i want to be around him and have him in my life so badly. i just want things to go back. i cant help but think about the past. all the things we thought wed do. i truelly thought he was the one. and i think he thought i was. it sucks how one person thinks that and the other doesnt. i kind of wish everyone was born with there own soulmate. the one. i hate looking or waiting. i just want that special person... i have other things to do. alot actually but i just need that person at the end of the day that makes everything better and not worse.
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This is the exact same thing happening to me, when I Dreamed that he is standing there and smiling at me, I felt like I was in the cloud, and they always made my day, I would become so delightful the next day. And it has been four years, thinking, dreaming. And I remember every single dream I dreamed of him, and his name all over my note books, erasers, desk, text book, etc. I have to write down his name or I will be emotionally overwhelmed, and I am really painful
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Yeah, getting over someone you love so much is a very difficult situation, that I'm currently in. I just keep telling myself that I'm the best and it's his loss, and when I truly get over him. He will be sorry he messed it up, because I wanted to make him happy. And by the time he comes back around if ever. My feeings will be gone (hopefully) and he'll feel like a loser. Life goes on. Just know it will be hard at times, but it will make you stronger.
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I am going through the exact same thing right now. Nothing ive read here has personally helped me but maybe it has worked for you. I take 2O minutes everyday and cry about everything [him;life;friends..etc.] and after that Im fine. The best place to do this is when youre taking a shower because then you dont look like you;ve been crying. I also talk to my puppy even though I know she cant talk back but it just helps to talk to someone/something.
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am crying in my ooffice infront of my computer..daily
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I have the same problem.. I actually googled the question "How to forget someone you love".. and this is what came up. I, too, am having trouble forgetting someone I fell for. To make things worse, I am currently in relationship with someone else and live with him.
I was unfaithful with the person I cannot stop thinking about and could have been with him, but my guilt held me to the one I have been with for two years. I know that sounds terrible, and I feel terrible for it. I wonder all the time "what if" I had chosen to go with him. Now he will not speak to me (for good reason) and I am left with heartache, and I just hope one day all of this will make sense. I am a big believer in fate and "everything happens for a reason", but I cannot make sense of this; how could I have had such a great connection and amazing moments with a person, as short-lived as they were, only for them to be gone so quickly? What was the point?? It's frustrating.
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When I was in high school I've met a boy and I've never imagine that until now I cant stop thinking and wondering about him. The funny thing is that we never had a chance to be together but still I cant get over him . I never had a chance to kiss or hug him. Some kind a weird but its true. When I finished college and I ask God "Please send someone whom I want to spend the rest of my life" And God sent me this person and he is currently my husband.
Sometimes you have to let go the person you truly love. Maybe you were better without each other. But who knows, You can never tell what the future lies ahead of you. Maybe in the future when both of you are free your destiny will create a bridge, for you to be together.Maybe you should watch the movie " Letters to Juliet" I know you might somehow relate in this movie.
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Even if you love somebody you can't have, you can still learn to function and even live a good life loving other people.

If you're like me, supressing one love will hinder your ability to love another, while learning to live while being in love will enhance your ability to love another.

Probably most posters here are too young to know this, but you can't really tell if you'll never be together, even if the odds are very bad. Strange things happen in a long life.

The other thing is that we allow people to go to pieces when they lose their loved ones to death, but when a loved one just walks out of their lives, we expect them to suck it up and carry on, even though it's almost as bad.
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@: Boronx
Thank you for your post! what you said was very helpful.
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@: Boronx
i lose whome i love can someone help me what i should do al others got what they wanted enjyoing with thare mates not me its 8 years now i got 2 daughters hubby is not good i dont no how to spent life plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz any one can help me?
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@: Boronx
yeh i think i can't just resign so simply, i love her too much... what you say seems logical, but how do you learn how to live while being in love, when you're a great procrastinator?
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Try to train yourself not to want what you cannot have. It is not easy, and it takes time, but it is worth the effort.
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look...I'm still lovin' my very first true love...we had just 1 month together...but I was very happy with Her...but..she had an 8 month relation before our relation...he can't forget her old boyfriend...and she decided that we must break up...now,she is with her old boyfriend...Well..if you feel,that you must cry..just cry..but when you have an occasion to be happy..?BE HAPPY..SING..DANCE..LAUGH..SAY JOKES..DO YOU FAVOURITE HOBBY..AND IF YOU'RE NOT ENGAGING YOUR MIND TO CIRCLE...YOU'LL FORGET HER/HIM...I know..it needs time...For boys..i recommand..Alie-Only One Woman..it's a very nice power ballad...and if you'll keep the refren in your mind,it will help you;)...I know..memories will kill you...but listen,guys..girls..! JUST THINK THAT YOU CAN BE HAPPY WITHOUT HER/HIM!..this is love..it's like a death..when someone that you loved dies..you must cry for him..
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Denying or repressing your natural feelings is a sure way to becoming an emotional wreck. Accepting and understanding them is the right way.
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After reading all the comments I'm happy to find that its normal to feel like this. Before I came here I sort of felt... I guess ashamed and like a complete fool to have feelings for a someone who I knew would never feel the same. I don't know why, I guess knowing it could never be and feeling like I'd never be good enough for her do that to you. Unrequited love(or like haha) sucks. I still feel like a complete for having feelings for her but not as much now that I know people have been through it or are in the same boat.

What sucks even more is that I'm a guitarist, band and everything, but the music just keeps reminding me of her because thats what we connected on in the first place, and I guess I keep writing in hopes that she'll finally take notice of me. I guess in a weird way she's also my Muse, how great huh.
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Hey I am into same situation.i love a guy who was my best frd. He told he loves me but i m not the one. I am crazy about him. now he has stopped talking to me. i got insane because of him. i try to call him,ping him, meet him. but he dont want to meet me anymore. I tried not talking to him, goin to gym, painting, cooking. meeting some frds. but nothing worked and I call him after a week. but he dont respond correctly. i feel i lost my best frd too. I am not able to forget him. we used to talk to each other everyday. Now i m mad at myself because i dont talk to him. I feel life sucks. I want to get out of this situation. someone plz help me get out of this hell.
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@: san05
Hi.... Dont worry yar ,,,.e too in the situation.. let us pray god.... to help us
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nothing is ever impossible.
if you really like someone, go for it.
i know its hard to tell your feelings.
i've had plenty of that in my teen years.

but if you really want to forget...
busy yourself.
do stuff, get active, and be involved.
doing other stuff will help your mind keep away from him.

btw, don't cut yourself.
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You just made me laugh and cry.
Just a few minutes ago I was about to cut myself.
I Didn't.
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This is very normal. You'll get over him eventually, even if you don't think you will.
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Sisophous agrees with MidnightShadow, you need to make new relationships and just let it go. I take it this person does not share your same feelings and you realize this otherwise would have approached him.

People often have tunnel vision and become preoccupied with one person which often builds frustration and can make us miserable. Such infatuations interfere with our daily activities and are counterproductive to happiness. Get out and meet new people, join clubs, go to parties. Rigorous exercise is also terrific to rest your mind. Go out and jog a few miles or swim laps in an indoor pool.

This special person is not the only one who will capture your heart, there are plenty more just around the corner if you are open minded and give other people a chance. In time, this special guy will eventually fade away, like a distant memory.
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Here's a very good quote:

Trying to forget someone you love is just like trying to forget someone you never knew. Useless and impossible.
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Your question is itself contradictory, if you love the boy you cannot possibly forget him. I'll tell you what millions others have probably already told you: move on. But of experience it is impossible. If you really love him as you say, but that you have never told him about it, you have to. Go talk to him, confront him with your feelings. Either he will become partt of your life, or you will be rejected. But I promise you it will be easier this way. Eeasy to say not easy to do...
But who said love was easy?
A night off with your friends and you should be ok.
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drunkpeopll
The only way is to find some one you like more
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I went through the same thing for years. Get away from the person and time heals all wounds.
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It's hard to say what "normal" is about anything, but I totally have that problem. I'm not going into great depths about it, because I am the only one that knows this and have never told anyone else, but I totally have feelings for someone that I can't get out of my head and it drives me crazy all the time. I'm worse than you though, I've never met the guy in person! :) Also, I am married, hah! Horrible, I know. Trust me, I am madly in love with my husband and have always been and always will be faithful to him, but there is something about this other man that will not rest in my brain. I'm infatuated with him, and it's so funny because I am so busy with my every day activities and with being a mom, and I still find time somehow to think about him all the time. I don't know what it is... I don't think it is love because I love my husband, I do. I wouldn't call it a crush though. I just feel like we have some kind of attachment and I don't know why. Hopefully I am not going crazy. I think about him a lot, probably at least a few seconds every day of my life. The easiest way for me to forget about it, is my kids or husband. I tend to think about him more when my husband is away. I know I have to get him out of my head because I have to continue on with my important day to day activities, so that is my motivation. Also, being an overly good wife to my husband makes it easier. If you find it hard to do every day activities or certain things are hard to concentrate on, then just simply try harder and use "false motivation". Think of a goal in your head of something you want to achieve and just attack it. If you work extra hard towards something that you HAVE to do anyway, he will more likely fade from your mind more during the day. Keep yourself busy. Even if you aren't studying or something, take up a new hobby and get yourself around other people. That's my advice :) Anyone that leaves a bad comment about what you said, or what I just said, can go fuck themselves (in advance, because I know someone is going to say something rude).
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@: cd3921
Hi cd3921 (20070)
I was reading your comment. I think out of everyone you might be the one to really HELP me. I loved someone , I screwed up and lost him. Few years later we met again ( he lived out of the country)He again promised to marry me after I told me how sorry I was that I would be a better person etc etc. Then we hooked up but once he left the country 6 months later he broke my heart again. He wanted to be friends I cut him off for some time and jumped into a arranged marriage. Was happy to be a wife but then the man I married turned out to be negative minded about people, abusive verbally and we are not even sexually compatible. He has nothing to say to me besides "I don't know" "Nothing" and "What's going on ?" Now I am stuck with a man I do not love. I fight with myself every day to try and love him BUT I FEEL NOTHING FOR HIM. DISGUST IS WHAT I FEEL. I am currently living in a different state from my hubby due to my work and I feel so peaceful. I pray to GOD to always keep me away from him coz whenever he shows up I end up by the second day hating him and thanking God that he lives away from me. I want to turn my feeling around for him. I WANT MY MARRIAGE TO WORK. CAN u PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me some advice on how I could change myself to be a better wife. And to cap it all I think nonstop of my ex coz he was a much better person Atleast we were both similar with a lot of shared interests. My hubby and I don't share anything in common. I am almost completely sure I don't want a divorce . I don't have kids. I want to improve my situation. I REALLLY need your help
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@: cd3921
is this you selfish woman?
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@: cd3921
I love you, cd3921. i totally understand what you are saying, I, too, have an attachment to someone that I do not understand. I cannot stop thinking about this person. I just want to feel normal again!
I especially love the comment about others " can go fuck themselves". Yep, I often think everyone can go fuck themself.
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I've been there and I know how much it hurts. Sometimes it is just to hard to let go. Time will make it better though you may never be over it it will become bearable with time. Cry when you need to get down and wallow in self pitty if you must but know that there is a world out there when your ready for it. You might try a little trick that helped me. Every time you catch yourself thinking about him force yourself to think of something else. You can also write a short novel about you and him get as wild as you want with it. Let your dreams just flow and write yourself a happy ending!
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get rid of all his crap that he gave you (i suggest burning); you dont want to think of him anymore. then get yourself a gallon of choclate Haagens-Daas and watch "The Producers"
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yeah i recently went through a similar situation. It sucks and I'm still not over her but things do get better with time. BTW, sisophous nailed it when he said "Such infatuations interfere with our daily activities and are counterproductive to happiness." So true.
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hello folks...I saw that most of the members are active in this site...hope you guys can give me some advice...

I met a girl like 2 years ago...and we were very close since then. we used to chat a lot...talk over the phone for hours...miss each other so much..she said that I was the best person to happen in her life...we had feelings for each other and I know that..we both take care of each other so much...so i just went ahead and told her my feelings...she said she likes me and that's it..she said she cant be with me due to some reasons.I felt so lost....it has been 6 months now and there hasn't been a day that i dint cry at my fate. No matter what i am doing i always think about her. She takes care of me so much that she feels bad when I am down and says that she cant see me like that. She says i need to move on. I feel even worse when she asks me to move on. someday suddenly an old friend of her met her and they started talking to each other.She said she likes him and his family and have no problem with him.I was so helpless...I don't know what to do. She isn't talking or calling me as much she used to do initially. I am in the most important phase of my life applying for jobs and studying...and i don't find any interest in doing anything..She is even helping me finding jobs. She wants to see me in a good position in life without her. all i in my life is her love and how can I be happy without her..its so sickening..I cant avoid her for she is a true sweetheart...she says everyone person has a different importance in her life...even now she cares for me....please help me overcome this problem of mine...I know I cannot have her in my life...
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Tell her straightforward to either leave you alone or at least give you a chance. She can't just keep riding the fence to spare her own feelings and sense of goodness when she's tearing you apart.
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Hi, Boss she is playing around your feelings just forget her forever , yeah i can understand not easy but here in your situation she is making you to fell in love with her just for being good hearted gal , if she feels you definitely she would understands your feeling too !!!!

Or else you need to change yourself , see you just concentrate on your own stuff rather than thinking about her , She is having her boy he takes care for her , you better go away from this situation , make your life proper . As times heals everything so be patience wait for the right moment , till then love your family and friends , spend more time with them .
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It's not healthy at all to think like that, it's like constant worrying , because you can't act on it, so discipline your mind , relax , find some activities that bring you in a relaxed state, and slowly turn your focus upon what you want in life, and commit to that. Love isn't supposed to drain us. If it drains us , then the relationship is unhealthy and you must get rid of it.
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Guaranteed fix: marry him.
Works overnight.
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If you really loved a girl and she broke your heart, jus think about her and masturbate or if ur conscious allows have sex with someone. I know its very stupid and I know most of you will be opposing this but trust me you do it and you ll forget her quickly.
Second thing remove all her messages from your cell
Thirdly Dont vist her profile on social websites
And the last but not least whenever she comes in front of you ignore her and if she is ur frend then tell her u hav different feelings for her and cant proceed with frendship
Trust me you do it and u ll see the result. I have done it and I forgot her.
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troubledchild
The only thing I can say is. It won't be easy.
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well ! HOW TO FORGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE ! i had the same Qeustion ! i know someone its been for more then 10 years ! and we dont have contact for more then 3 years ! but i still LOVE her and think about her ! i wanted to foeget her ! but i think i dont have to foeget her ! because she is been a nice part in my life ! but the problem is that , i cant move on ! i cant love someone else because i still think about her ! and deep inside i want to get with her one day in the future ! ... anyone any suggetion :) ? thank you guys !
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Well i am going trough this right now ( he is my best frend which makes it worse ) so i can tell you that NOTHING HELPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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seriously! when best friends are in the scene, things become worst and we really dont understand what to do....even i am facing d same situation....loong story though, but the girl i like/love/have a long(about 6 years now) crush on, was a very very good friend earlier, but i screwd up some things so not soo gud, bt yeah a gud friend now...and my best friend also loves her...they were actually together for a couple of years, but had a harsh break up....after that, i asked her out(this was the worst mistake of my life!!!!!), she refused, and this spoiled our friendship:( :(...after few months, things seemed to come to normal, (but are not actually) three of us are in the same friend circle...he still loves her and wants her back...and i am helping him this time...things are goin on so wierd... well and i guess she is unaware that both of us still like her...! everything is screwd up....dont understand what to do....:( whenever we guys meet, i force him to go and talk to her, and i walk away, even though i want to be there...they both were really very good together, i also wish they come back toghether, but how i remove her from my mind??? seems impossible!
and yea...me too, always keep daydreaming....even though i know that it is not going to happen, somehow daydreaming makes me feel better...but indeed it really causes problems when studying...
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budweiser will always love you
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I once wasted 2 years chasing some dude around who didn't want to give me the time of day. I was furious.I knew I could have had him but since we worked together & I really needed the $$$. We both had issues that we needed to work on as well. I have major family drama as so does he. He had other bigger problems that he needed to care of. I decided not to go totally berserk & really throw myself at him. I finally got tired of the situation & decided to quit my job & moved to a new area. It's been almost 3 years now since I've had any contact with him but the feeling is still there for him. It is so HARD to just stop having feelings for someone you once cared for. I don't know if I can believe time heals all wounds. I'm still trying to cope with the loss. I'm hurt over losing him & never being able to contact him. So I feel for your pain as well. I wish I could take a pill so I could just forget....Usually going to the beach, exercising, & going to bookstores help me but these days it's getting harder to get myself wired for the day. I hope you can get over your loss as well as mine too.
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i wish i was that guy..atleast 1 girl will fall in love...
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I'm actually going throught the same thing rightnow. I just can't stop thinking about someone almost every minute of my waking hours. And there can never be a future 4 him & I its a complicated situation. I'm slowly getting over him though I think, I hope so. I can't go on like this.

I heard a saying "to get over someone is to get on top of another." I have to find somebody else to occupy my mind or find a new hobby, meet new people. Another saying "action is the enemy of thought."
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NEVER give up on what you feel, your the only one saying you can't be together and do whatever it takes
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He is 16 years younger, and I am not JLO. I love him like crazy, not because he is young. I just love him. We had a short relationship during the summer and it was all beautiful. He lives in a different country. Nothing will ever help us be together and nothing seems to be helping me forget about him. I try but I can't. I find myself crying all the time. It is nonsense but I don't know how to get him out of my mind. He keeps telling me he loves me that he wants to marry me and all of this is just torture. There is no way this will happen as I am aware of age difference, but I love him. I am being transformed to a different person, i understand that but I don't know what to do. BTW I am 40 and he is 24. There is no money involved here as i don't have any. Sometimes I wish I have never met him, and than i feel i needed the happiness he gave me. It is not about sex, it's about everything we have. He talks to me like he is much older. As I need some opinions over this, I wouldn't appreciate offense. I wasn't the one who started this and I always hated to think of meeting younger guys. He knew about my age since day one. I feel in love but not comfortable in this situation. What should I do? My heart really aches.
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Hi , In Love there is no age bar itseems but in your case you are so matured enough to think about this matter , as i feel even i am young age gal so ,Is this love or affection or infatuation ... bit confused you are so elder to us nothing is impossible to forget him... There are many ways to find happiness in life . Sometimes more caring or likings we consider it as a love please don't fall in love each other , i mean understand the situation don't think only your happiness , life means sacrifice something .. So you are elder to us it shouldn't be happen with others also you should teach us what is relationship and all , please don't make us to support for this situation ,i really don't why i am saying like this i really feel what you going to do is wrong , yeah Love means we can find many kinds of love Parents love towards their children , teachers love towards their students even lovers love so if there is no physically attraction means you should be well wisher for him always ... Sorry but please don't call it as lovers love
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Ahh I had this problem about a year ago. I thought I met the girl of my dreams. We had been high school buddies since day one and I thought we were going to be together forever, then we ended up in two different colleges, and two different life goals that only lead further away from each other. I was totally crushed knowing this and it hurt me for the longest time. The only care for something (at least that worked for me) was to find something better then them. Thats what happen to me because i'm so in love with my girlfriend right now I have I hardly remember the bad times. So in short, fall in love with another person and you'll forget the pass events
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OMFG!!!! these are all twats !!

dont jump into another relationship because it will be empty and hollow. you will just have to let time be the healer.
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kamilion
i have had this problem too. finally i had to admit that i was obsessive and the cause of the whole problem. its a pattern/habitual behaviour. you're brain automatically goes there out of habit/boredom.

imho, if someone doesn't want you thats their right and you have to accept that. and if they think they're to good for you, f them anyway.

i disagree that its as easy as finding someone else. that is part of it, but you need to really try to stop being obsessive and to realize that you don't need him and just stop feeling emotionally towards him as much as you can.
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itz not so easy....
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I have had this problem a load of times I hid the feelings by learning new things like my latest one was hungarian before that chineese but you can do other things aswell take up a sport I done different thigns to get my mind off the person so just try that =) if you like them or broken up which ever there is a difference if you like them tell them how you feel better to be crushed and lose the feelings that way if you were together and he broke up with you etc. then sorry I can't help we all deal with it in different ways mine was hiding my head in books yours could be different try fishing it is a good sport =)
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as a guy you should talk to his friends and see wat he says about you and if nothing or that your his friend than try to tell him and go from ther.good luck
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Wow Congrats!!!! you have done great job falling love with another gal , yeah life comes only once past events just spoiling our present life so looking out with another chance is not at all bad thing , and finally you have landed with your true love ....

Keep rocking , All the very best forever !!!!!
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do both what i said and what pringletot said.

and be aware that hes out of your life forever.

and also be aware that this guys is nothing unique,
u just think he is.
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ziggyonly717
These things take time. I know it seems like it'll be forever, but trust me it's not
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Dear, i am stuck in sth that is worse but so close to you. i didn't even know the guy, just met him once by coincidence, and truly frankly i am not a freak, and i still don' tunderstand why am i so attracted to him, i just cant forget him, however, don't spend time alone, and try to distract yourself on purpose whenever your remember him. i will keep my fingers crossed that you go over it.
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We should try to never fall inlove in our young teen years. In that age we are going through alot and love is just the thing we don't need. I had a girlfriend and when she said "lets be just friends" i was crushed.... i was crying like a baby every day and every night, i couldn't think about nothing else but her and i was listening depressing music or music about a lost love.. So don't do that! It's only going to get worse. When i say try to think about something else or about someone else you love, i know it's hard to think about something else but your love, and maybe there is not an another girl that you love, but TRY IT! We had so much things in common... you have exactly no idea.. Like i was looking in my own self, but in a female form.. the most beautiful female form. Everything fucked up, but life goes on with or without the girl you love :/
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Always try to have fun and go out with your GUY friends.. ;) Go to the gym train a little. And try to not fall in love lets say in 8th grade.. maybe some years later but in 8th grade it really hurts the heart when she breaks up with you. Trust me i know how it feels, and the pain isn't going to leave you. But for me i was out with my guy friends most the time and we had a great time :P (all my friends are such idiots, it's hard not to have a good time with them. Maybe just the first week i was off mood but i told my self "She isn't the only one! Stop crying like a baby and get over her! Life goes on, so just have fun and don't fuck up your mind with dumbass things! and it worked but when you say it you must mean it!)
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oh and when the girl you love so hard says something like that "I see how deep do you love me and your love gets deeper. I don't want when the "Moment" comes to hate each other, so it will be best to stop here." listen to her. You dont want to love her more and more because when the "moment" comes.. the pain will be much much BIGGER! and you won't get over it that easyly (sry for my bad english i hope you understand me :/)
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The best thing is to replace him/her with something else. Not someBODY else cuz that WILL NOT work, trust me. Instead, every time you miss him/her, immediately start reading a book or watching a movie or gaming etc and allow yourself to get really into it. You might end up addicted to the game/book or whatever afterwards, but it will keep your occupied, instead of preoccupied. Personally, gaming works really well, but don't play sims, that one doesn't work. Oblivion or some other adventure is best ;)
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I am having the same situation like you. I never one to try to forget it, I just hope that I can be there for him whenever he needs me, whenever he happy, he sad, he troubles...I just want to be with him.
We are best friends and colleagues as well. We tend use most of the time together but this feeling since when it appears so strong until i cross the boundaries as a good friend. I confessed to him, as what he said "because we are too close, u have think too much"...it was not hurt at that moment, but it is damn hurt after the night is silence...so pain!!!
I have to face him daily and daily, and i have try to get away from him, not dare to look upon him, stay away from any conversation about him...the more i stay away, the more suffer I am...when he sad, i cant comfort him...i have spoiled the privileged that bond between us...
So, i pray and prayed to God, that He will make me stronger...somehow, the wounds came back again, when time is being spend by both of us although it was a group...but "even though we r close yet we seems so far"
What can I do now is, just put this hope into my dreams, only dreams we can create and control it...
He aint a good man nor a strong man, somehow he just capture my heart. Sometimes i feel im stronger than him. Add on, he aint a normal guy...so mine, totally no hope at all...
God Bless u, u shall went through...
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@: Debug
Quite interesting!!!! you have expressed your feelings towards him , might be he is the unlucky one to find a true love from your end . Yeah you are stronger than him bec you going to do what you feel to do so don't think about him much in your life.. always be hopeful everything depends on our mindset then fate as well . Time teaches everything one by one.. Keep smiling and enjoy your life
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Find things you hate about him and blow it out of proportion and tell yourself that he's annoying. Find refuge in another persons heart. Good luck! I'm riding the same boat and I'm so head over heels for her but I'm slowly start to see her as friends only.
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MisterGee81
These other peoples are fools you are always gonna want what you cant have its human nature and u need to realize that you attract people the same way people are a mess especially women who value the almighty dollar more than love or any other value dont let society rob you of what should come natural i once loved a women more than anything in the world and i still think of her almostr evryday and the fact that her mother stole her from me she chose money over love and i hope for the best but something inside hopes she suffers for what she has doine to me
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its easy, get a new hobby ,lets say a yoga class , read some self-help books , dont drink too much to forget him or you will get more wasted,

just believe in yourself , there are still guys can love you. :) ...you just need to move on... i know its hard , but trust me nothing will happen if you still think of him
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My girlfriend broke up with me after 6 months of dating. When the relationship started we were so in love, everything we did together was amazing. I was trying to make a transition in my life and changed schools hoping for a better future. But the school is about hour drive from home so I moved in with my grandparents. So we had a long distance relationship for about 6 weeks (i came home on the weekends) and I moved back. She was happy to hear the news, but whenever we hung out things seemed different, Whenever I tried to set up a date before she would accept and make room in her schedule in a heartbeat, but now I was no longer a priority she spent more time with guy friends than me, and 2 weeks after I came back home she broke up with me. I don't understand, she says she met someone else and that she's happy. I went to her house to try an talk to her, she slammed the door in my face. So I left with a broken heart and a crushed motivation. I need help...
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i can understand your situation "superflyred". It hurts the most when you don't even know the reason behind the distance between you and your girl. It is really unfair that with all of your efforts and sacrifices for the relationship to work,still, you are left behind for someone he/she is not sure to be faithful or happy to be with.
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Hii, actually sometimes we have cope with the situation , Yeah you loved her so much you cared her a lot but now everything has changed in your life , probably she is busy with life stuff it everything same as you think .

Yeah we can understand your current situation , see everyone having their unique nature so what i am suggesting you that is as everyone says Time heals everything whatever it might be , so you will be dishearted for few days afterwards even you busy with your stuff , now already too late to reply i am in ,now you in enjoying life with new things probably . Soo think in that way like she is not the right one for you , as God may be found an angel in your future life so just be patience !!! if anything hurts you just leave it bec World too big you have more and lot of options to get rid off ..
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hi evryone let me tell to all of u somthing. this LOVE is sacrifice it may not be the thing that u think. what i mean is i also am in the same situation but i really love her and even can not stop thinking of her. The thing that u should all know is this is not love this is selfishness. i mean u want someone always with u and always care about u, calls u, say baby and dear all the time to u. but u cant be selfish all the time. i mean i had to leav her but i can not wast her time becuse of myself. if % 100 u know u will one son day meet her . ok go ahead but dont be selfish gus. As i said LOVE is sacrifice it is hard but u should do it becuse even if u remeber things despiting that it wont hurts u even it make u fell a good boy. U will tell to urself(omg i really did the best thing
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@poster

stop seeing him completely.
delete him everywhere u can on the computer.

destroy every single peace of memory u have of him anywhere.
Even burn it symbolically.

do this and you'll be a lot better of in a month.
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i tried this before...doesn't work.
i tried everything to stop thinking and loving him but, still nothing ever worked.
he was muh first true love, you dnt stop loving your first true love no matter what they did to you. infact you can never stop loving someone you truley loved. but i think that you should jst ask the guy out and see what happens, if it's meant to be than its meant to be.
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Doesn't work, seriously, I was in love with a girl back in middle school, I had nothing to remind me of her yet I never truly got over her.

@poster

Try focusing on something else, I know it's hard but you should try, like do a sport or something that means you won't be sitting around, because that's when your mind starts to wander.
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u piece of shit! you dont know how that hurts the other when people does that u stupid piece of crap!!! my gf did that to me! i cant stop crying for months now! she said she would talk to me and at least say hi to me if things did not work out and she did not!
i cant stop thinking about her shes my life shes my everything. too bad i cant discount this rage on u now u so deserve it; for the pain of the others
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please tell us how u feel now, 2 yrs later.
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U have such a great advice. I really hope I can be as strong as u. People around me said m strong and smart so I can do it. But m really scare! It's been a week and yet I cried all the time :-(
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I went through the exact same thing, and I don't know that you ever really can stop thinking about someone you truly love and care about. Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never met.
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Sorry but I agree with junker, you can't truly get over someone, in 8th grade I was in love with this girl and now in 10th grade I still think about her a lot, not as much as before but I never really got over her.
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I was going through your exact thought process and feeling... except that was a 6 year die hard Love.... i talked about it and she just.... Dissapeared from my thoughts
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I understand where you are comming from, I was with an older woman since I was 17 years old she was 27. We got married 3 years ago but things just don't seem right anymore. We both have a different point of view on everything. I love her so much but we need to let go. I can't seem to get her out of my head and it drives me insane. I was diagnosed with Bipolar and this doesn't seem to help the situation any lol. The thought of someone else being with my true love I think would send me off the deep end. I'm 27 now and still can't deal with losing her.
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omg....i am in the same position as what u are in. im 19 shes 25 and i love her dearly. i have bipolar also! this is odd, have u found ways to deal with this ordeal?? i am in pain over it...
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Hey maan, you never know what will and is going to happen.

Why don't you just tell him and get it over with and then maybe after this you will be able to move on.

I have done this before and if they do not happen to like you back you get disillusioned and eventually move on, if it worked on me from personal experience I highly recommend it.

Don't try to date other people if you DO NOT LIKE THEM, you know why? Because you are going to end up breaking up with them and it really makes no sense doing that.

You are supposed to date people when you do not like anyone and are searching for love.

You may be in love, sometimes you have to take chances.

People talk about high school as kids who are not capable of love, well im here to tell you this is not true, my sister married her high school sweetheart and they are together now for 12-13 yrs total.

If you still want to get over him, do not think about him anymore, deal with your feelings within inside resolve to move on and do not look back.

Your mind will not always be busy so you have deal with it and give it time, time tells everything, and if he is the one he will be with you and if not then he will not be it.

Do not just resolve to move on if you decide to move on but, act on it.
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You just have to go out with your friends have fun and meet other people.
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Picture/imagine him pooing... :D Good luck!
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Marijuana.. makes you forget anything and everything :)
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sleep, sleep, sleep.
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eeerm get a bf?
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i have one. i just sleep when i'm upset.
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i currently like someone and i messed it up. i had a choice of going out with her or the other one. being nice and thinking this thorough a little bit, i went out with the other one because she had liked me for a longer period of time. by doing this and not relizeing that in the process i had lost her( oh and going out with the other 1 was the worst relationship i have ever had in my entire life for the most part) im not sure what to do? i cant just burn or disconnect myself from her cuz she still wants to be "friends". and on top of that i have 3 classes with her. my situation is not as serious as the other ones by even 1/100th of a millisecond (to put it as an example). but i know what it feels like to love someone and know you cant have them. it really dose hurt. by reading the other comments i will do my best to join or do other activities, i still dont think it will help. this GIRL that im crazy for has covered about everything humanly possible in this world. she runs, plays sports, extreamly nice,we sang about every song made and talked about every movie possible. i have ruiend my only chances with the one and only girl of my life that it seems i will never ever love someone to an extreame like i do with her again.
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Hiii , your story is fully confusing us first u should know whom you loving and with whom you wanted lead rest of your life ... always go with one decision and with one gal , don't ruin life sailing two boats together.. Always hope for the best who knows your future you might have get better than anything so be patience and act according to the situation !!!

All the best
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It's been a little over a year since this split has happened. I'm still with my bf (my ex-best friend's coworker) and still disturbed till this day on why things turned out this way... I have older brothers.. and if they were ever disappointed in me, they wouldn't give me a cold shoulder. If my best friend was disappointed in me like a mentor was, I don't think he would have been cutting off the entire friendship this way.

i tried to put myself in his shoes and think... what if he was distancing himself for my sake as well? but the next question becomes, why did he need to get so dramatic about me dating his coworker?

when it comes to my bf... ive been happy with him and he treats me well... i do wonder whether ive reached that point where i can say i love him... i feel that it's still growing... and i think to myself... what if my feelings towards this bitter end with a person i used to love is the thing that is slowing down my progression from moving forward? its odd because i have dreams of the past and i feel this whole grudge that im dying to get rid off... as much i hate what happened in the past, i can't bring myself to say i truly hate the person i loved.

i want my relationship to work... and i no longer want to hold on to something in the past... so i wonder, what's the best way to forget my ex-best friend? i deleted his sn... got rid of pictures.. and no longer associate myself with his family... i avoid even talking about him if possible... at least a year has passed and my mind is still driven crazy with him... somehow, my feelings are bottled up and i want it gone.
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Hi to everyone...When I saw ur writings I immidiatly signed up just to write my comment about how to forget someone you love....I love some1 for 7 years and since that time I never thinked or even loked at anyone else.... That boy didn't even know that I loved him we were just frieds and talked sometimes...I knew everything about himm even his thoughts...one day he discovered that I love him very much ...but he was 4 years older than me and like a boy he had his own adventures of which I didn't like...So I find out that he isn' the right for me ...I tried alll the methods to forget himm(just didn't try the method of going out with some1 else because Im SURE that wouldn't work because I love him so much)...I tried the mothod of doing other stuff,doing sport everything...it lasted for 3 years but DIDNT' WORK ..When I saw him after 4 exapmle 2 weeks my feelings were still more stronger...I tried the other method ,by turning into his friend and discovering his bad side ,trying to find a negative view of him...but Im still loving himm,I turned into more sensitive and loving him like before....HE KNOWS I LOVE HIM,we're talking in the msn ...he told me he likes me ...but nothing more ...it just hurts me more ...Maybe he has some1 else and he dosen't want to hurt me ...I need to go away from him ... maybe he's not writen from GOD to be mine.....BUT I THINK IT;S IMPOSIBLE TO FROGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE (I never went out with him,If I would It would be even more imposible than imposible to forget him ).....:S
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Im actually going through exactly and exactly the same things. I think if you have the chance to tell him that you love him and if there is even a small posinility of you getting together you should tell him. however on the other hand I am aswell finding it extremely difficult to forget the boy I love, it feels like its him that I only need and want and he is just what I am aiming for. The thing is my relationship is more than impossible, I just wish there was a chance of being with him again. Its just wanting something so much putting your life, feelings, family, friends everything aside just one person - him, but its impossible. my biggest advice to you would be time, seriously time does heal alot of things, time changes a lot too.
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it depends on how old you are:
0-10=obviosly your too young,drop it
10-15=just a hormone missunderstanding
15-20=highschool love,you got somethin goin,keep at it
20-...=if it hurts to breathe when your not with him/her GET THEM AS FAST AS YOU CAN!...
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how about 30, 40, 50, and 60 ?
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The best way to get over someone is to get under someone;) if u catch my drift(;
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move on there is so manny guys out thereee!
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I thought i'll never get to the bottom
to post a comment..i'm also
undergoing the same thing,there's
someone i can't get over with who i
keep on thinking abt everyday,we're
not friends,he's one of my
officemates.i don't feel this way for
him before.i used to not care if he's
around or not.i even find him
conceited so i guess it's also bad when
you are not expecting too much from
s0meone because if later on you find a
good,affectionate side..you're dead!
which happened to me.i used to be
indifferent abt his presence ,i
also find him tactless but then there
was a sudden change in my
perception when i needed help on
something and he was there to help
me out (it should be nothing
special because he's our coach and it's
his job) i really can't understand what
happened to me that day, i said thank
you,he didn't react but there's a look
on his face that i can't describe that
got me.from that day on it hasn't been
the same.i felt something for him.then
i felt the symptoms.suddenly i can't
approach him as easily as i used
to,suddenly i don't want to approach
him anymore.he had issues with work
and eventually resigned.he's no longer
on the same company as i am but i still
can't forget him.and i don't want to
force myself to forget him because i
know that won't work.
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best way is simple: tell him. Or ull always wonder. If nothing good hapens, move on.
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It is so familiar :)
There are several ways to forget and stop dreaming cycle. Imagine another person you like when you dreaming. Every time the "movie" returns make it only black+white colors and shrink the picture as small as possible. Repeting this will cancel the cycle in a month but depression will stay for a long time. I seriously recommend you to do fitness and start to look for other proper person as soon as you can.
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if u don't mind just wanna no Where do u work?
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you'll be ok
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Ollieo
Maybe ask him on a date. Or do anything that would make it a real relationship. See if he is really the guy you think he is. Probably not because it is something you mainly imagine.
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You cant get over him
Get over that.
And your gold.
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Hi to everyone...When I saw ur writings I immediately signed up just to write my comment about how to forget someone you love....I love some1 for 2 years and since that time I never thinked or even loked at anyone else.... That boy didn't even know that I loved him we were just frieds and talked sometimes...I knew everything about himm even his thoughts..But, i duno i don't thim that he had even thought of me even once.
ts been from 2 years and i still think about him he is always in my mind. everytime i see him i feel like im melting
when he looks at me it hurts because i know that he doesn't love me , or maybe he forget me , perhaps he fall in love wiz another girl and just dumped me ! I rly duno its just that.. he was my first true love and until now i cant't forget him , and i think now that he doesnot even think of me ! He's older than me for 2 yrs ! But u know what rly rly SUCKS that he is my cousin i see him every year cuz i live in a country aslo him and we see each other obly one month a year.But before when we were kids GOD ! its was rly the LOVE that month that we see each other every day every day can u beleive that just everyday from 10:00 a.m until midnight and sometimes until 4:00 am. the next day , but still our love spented 2 years , well to be more acurate 4 months but we were talking alot in the net or da phone, and iam not stupied that iam dreaming or something , i was feeling it that is intersted but just a sudden he stared to walk away ! Its true that there was nothing serious between us , but stil there was feeling & when just stared to walk away at first i thought that he was mad on me or something but then i duno i think he was playing with me or something or maybe it was rly true love but when we grow up ... it disappeared.
iam rly tired from the net cuz i intered alot of websites in order how to forget ur love ! But still it didn't make any sence !
I just wish that someone tells me what to do and not to say to me ... Oh, all people like that ur gona forget him don't worry ! I hate that sentence !
Well, hope that someone will read my story and give me his/her opinion ! =D
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Hi , Can i say something Love is not everything in life , see if you want forget him completely you can't you never ever going to forget him like you start thinking him more as before , So just keep quite do your work on daily routine go with your hobbies spend more time with your family friends and all !!!

Very tough to forget someone we love but there are ways so you can reduce thinking about him , Even i am in the same boat i was totally mad i was thinking no more love in my life but thing has really changed now , I am into too busy with my professional things so hardly getting time to think about my love!!!! yeah sometimes now also rarely used to cry like a baby but nothing is in my hand , Love means its connection of two not with one sided , thats why i thought i have to live up my life for my Parents , relatives and of course friends soo ,

See i am not in love with anyone , being alone , leading an independent life making myself telling that if time comes everything will be going to rock , Now i am not even thinking about past memories it hurts a lot n lottt , Time heals everything this is my personal experience sharing with you , Nothing is impossible as days passes we will be busy with our one or other stuff so time makes you to forget one by one slowly so be patience , if you are in starting stage means it will take some time to recover no one else wouldn't do anything just you only have to face it!!! But damn sure in this stage you are becoming more hard and you build your career bec it truly happened with me so what i am suggesting you that don't over react to situation be calm , cool , be smily and friendly to everyone , help others a lot , be socialize , make new friends , go for dance or singling or gym or yoga whatever you feel happy ,,, As my experience yeah i used to remember him daily but not getting hurt while thinking about him , he made me to live strongly in this wicked World so be always happy to receive problems bec we are going face those problems in our life and making our life path more clearer !!!

All the very Best to you my Friend !!!!!
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Oh come on, im sure you can get over me eventually.
It just takes a lot of time and will power.

I have faith in you... you can do it!
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1. Find a nice hobby( a really nice one)$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$. 2. Do it everytime you can24/7&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&. 3. Forget your love
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my favourite method is to eat chocolate as much as possible or to play online web games all day.
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jbf
In my eyes you can't if you love them you can't help it, they might have fo something that pisses you off or something xx
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yeah .. thats very hard question.. i guess the only way is to be with that person again..

damn love hurts yo.. :/

Paula.. :/
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look at all the posts its clearley very normal. you just have to wait.
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ooh. i've like this dude for a year and a half and i knew it was all hopeless. All you have to do is...get distracted. NOt like drugs or alcohol but just have fun with your life and keep it behind things that should be more important...
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Hi everyone. I just want the normal life but i can not. My family are so up high. I love a girl and i love her so much. Me and her will get marries in 30 days. But i am fcuk it up. I was not good to her. After i have been through i know she is so importance to my life. but i am lost her out of my hand. I don't know what to do. She wont let me back. I am try so many things. I just want her back for love her more and protect her. She is lovely girl. I never love someone like her. She is my life.

Can everyone tell me how to get her back. I am willing to do everythings. I will give up my life for her. I will do it. I will fix my problem to love her more and her family more.

Please help me.

Love u 'L'
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Hi , what happened between you to , why she has left with you ??? Any personal reason , you just go and talk to her clearly what made her to leave you , then act according to the situation if you need to change , change yourself sake of your love... Yeah probably she might have struck up with any problems who knows so now communication between two is very important , you meet her directly talk openly heart to heart then solve your problems !!1
God bless you , all the very best
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well...Im going through the same thing..i was with my ex for 4 years. When we broke up, i had only wanted it to be a break but he didnt want it so we ended it and a month or two later he is going out with someone else. My heart is broken, but dont listen to those people that tell you to jump into another relationship to forget him. I promise you, it will not work if you do it that way because all youre really doing is fooling your self and the other person you jumped into the relationship with.
Love hurts, but dont close yourself to new things. Always remember that all things shall pass...time is your number one friend.
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If you are absolutely sure he wont take an interest, your best bet is to try and forget and move on. Although this may hurt and take a long time, it will work eventually. If you want to get over him, take active steps to socialize with others and if you catch yourself dreaming about him, tell yourself to stop and re-evalutate what you have been thinking. But are you sure he wouldnt take an interest, tell me what are your reasons for this? :) Take carex
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hey, I know exactly how you feel but you can't forget someone you love, you know? You just move on. Life is full of pretty things and someone out there admires you and you have no idea. I hope you get over it and enjoy life as it is intended!
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Some of the earlier posts really made me chuckle!! Pick a fight with them, play out their worst features, life is miserable to the end, get high, get drunk....thanks for the laugh you guys. I really needed that. :)
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Does it feel as if there isnt ever going to be anyone like him? He is a challenge but not exactly unattainable so that you would give up. It feels as if you two would be perfect together, and there are so many signs that he might like you as well.

I dont mean to sound harsh, but what you are feeling at the moment is probably not love. The above were all signs of infatuation, a build up of hot air.

A useful remedy is time. Give yourself time to let some steam off. Avoid seeing him or things that remind you of him. Give yourself some YOU time. Go out,meet people, live life. Through the process, time will allow him to fade and let in someone new!

It will be difficult at first, but if you persist, it will be easier as time passes. But remember, stay motivated! You probably wont forget this person, but sooner or later, this person will not mean much to you. Just think, when you look back in 20 year's time, will this person still matter?

Hope that helped, and good luck! =)
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Hi All i am 22 3 motnhs back i fell in love with this girl i love her so badly that i cant live with out her when i told her my feelings she denied on me stating that she had just broke up with some fool who fukin told her that he loved her cause he wanted to sleep with her so i stopped talking to her some how we contuined to be frnds and i kep on trying one fine day after a month the golden day when she said yes to me today after 3 motnhs she told me that the old guy smsd her and she also replied to him she says she hates him but am so confused id so why did she even reply back to him i dnt know wht do i do i mean i know she loves me a lot but then i dnt wnt to ruin our lives as i feel she is not able to get out of her past i lover her like hell and m ready to do ny thing to help her out but it scares me thinking that what would be our life if we get married and later these issue come in between us she know i love her a lot but also i dnt wanna spoil our lives please some one advsie me ...
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Hi all,

I am 22 yrs old guy i fell in love with this female who works with me we met 3 months back and i fell in love with her within a months time when i told her my feeling she denied on me stating that she had a past relationship of 3 months and that she is not yet out of the trauma of loosing some one she loved so i stopped talking to her completely however i kep on trying to some how know thing about her by asking to her friends after a month the day comes when she tells me that she feels even she loves me i was like in heaven its the thrid month going on now she tells me one day that her ex bf called up as he was feeling bad tht she did not wish him this fucker who left her as she did not allow him to sleep with her he told her on her bday that i cant live with u as u were just a sex play toy for me which i could not get a fukking apportunity to sleep with so back to the story she say i dnt wanna reply but she does reply back to him she says she loves me a lot more then any thing nd she hatest hat guy so why is she replying back to that fuckker i love her so much that i cnt live with out her wht to do some one plzz help
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kamilion
also, thinking or obsessing about someone is like giving a figment of your imagination life like characteristics. the memory can take on a life of its own....
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just like everyone else on here i have the same problem too. there this girl that ive known for some time now and at first i didnt really have much feelings for her but we started hangin out more and talkin more and i just grew on her and now shes all i think about. for almost a year ive been liking her and i did everything a guy should do get a girl, pay for movies, dinner, dances, alway be nice to her been there when she needed me and when i told her that i liked her she didnt feel the same way about me. i thought by telling her that i liked her, and just finding out the truth about how she feels would help me move on but it didnt i still like her and think abou her all the time and i just want to move on but i just cant forget. its like every day it gets worse and i like her even more and i think lower of myself for just not being good enough. im breaking down and i feel like im going insane i cant workout the way i used to cause i cant focus. im always miserable i cant open up to anyone at times caue it feels pointless. i see her at school everyday because she is in my class and it just makes the sitiuation harder. i think the only way to forget aobut her is to just stop being friends with her and stop talking to her completley. but idk i wish i could just know what to do im falling apart
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hey everybody are telling the problems and none of them had given the suggestions how to deal that is the most important in our discussion....
now let me tell my story my profession is doctor after 1yr of sincere studying for ms and md exams i did not a seat of my choice now i have joined a nursing home with a decent salary.i meta girl who also work in the same hospital intially i never found her attracting as we used to see only for a brief period .once we both were on same shifts where the patient inflow was little less.so we had lot of time to talk in the mean time we became close .i know more about then she knows me .she never bothered to ask me what i am .but on the other hand she told everything about her like and dislikes .she also told that some one hadfallen for her with whom she was not intrested in her that infact he was torturing her by physicaly .now some how every thing settled.she also told that she was engaged to some one and it was broken for some reason 7 days before the marriage.from my observation she is jovial and out going she spaks tom everyone with same amount respect and dignity .some times i feel that when ever she speaks to me she give much importance .we used to msg a lot latter on from some reason msgs has reduced.but during work time we talk a lot .once her mother came to our hospital thet moment see saw me she told to her i am perfect to their family .it was nice feeling but friends told she would have told in genral not to take it seriously .next day all of sdden that i came in her dreams when everyone was there .this knocked me out on the spot i was flying high untill next day that she told some people had come to ask for an alliance that their birth charts matching she doesnot know much about that and she had told me that whom ever her parents like she is ready to marry .but it hurt me lot i wanted to tell her thatd i am intrested in her but i did not .all this days i did not tell because i just wanted to know her completely andalso let her know about me.but right now iam running out of time should i tell her that i love her . iam confused i really like her but i dont know whether she likes me or not? but atleast her behaviour made me feel that she is interested in me but i never asked about it because i did not want prejudge things wat if she had different meaning to it for her behaviour all in all confused.......
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@: Rahul
NOW SOLUTION TO THOSE WHO WANT TO FORGET
1.sit and think negative points about her and magnify to out proportion
2.when ever u disscuss a topic try to oppose their view no one likes to be criticised
3.indulge in some extreme sports where adrenaline rush is more
4.meet ur friends as often as possible discuss with them and see the response they start abusing her fr making u like this.like this people these are the one who really think about ur happiness not love .love is only to satisfy their need.because friends are the ones whom always be with you forever and their relationship never changes.love doesnt stay for a long some day it has change to some other things either you marry or not.so dont worry if you are not getting the person u like think that god wants u bigger and better.
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@: Rahul
hi.. u know what before it's too late, be honest to what u feel for her, when u really love a person you did not actually beg nor ask or somewhat expect anything in return, we can never tell if she is waiting for you to tell her that u love her, girls actually do not express what they feel because as of my principle it is not really proper for a girl to show affection to a guy. But u know what it is my greatest regret that i wasn't able to express my feelings to the man i love becuse of my pride, what happened is he enter into a relationship and i was left behind with all of those regrets and self blame. I am still moving on, eventhough it hurts a lot to see him with other girl, i have no choice now but to accept the fact that he will never come back to me, and it hurts a lot even if i do not show it, a great pretender indeed.
so if you really love her go for it, atleast you try to express what you feel before it's too late. goodluck!
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joolia22
wow that is the story of my life ! woooow i almost felt like i forgot i wrote this lol but damn that pretty much happens to me with most guys. Huge distractions leading you to being unbelievably unproductive its so annoying i need help with that too just glad to see im aint the only oneee =] ahhh
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mix some garlic and prunes in ginger beer and put the lot in a blender. pour into a pint glass, and down it. that should do the trick.
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I had that same problem. And the only way I got over it wuz to get a hobbie, like I started skateboarding
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but what can we do for let her go?
i really love her, and till now, i cant forget her.
every day i always met her.and it make me sick. when i think about her, and when i met her, i always nervous. i hope someone can help what happene of me now.
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Tell him. It helps. Believe me.
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kmtb95
Im in a very similar situation. I met a guy at a camp i went to. We became very close but know that the 9 hours seperatin us would prevent us from dating. Its hard on both of us but were makong it work. I agree with those who say find someone else to love. It helps. I have a bf now and he makes me happy and takes my mind of of the other guy.
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I'm going through the same thing but instead of 4 months it's been bout 3 yrs now
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It is hard to forget someone you love, maybe the hardest thing you have to do in your life.First of all, there are many types of love and I personally don;t believe you love someone you saw for first time and wanna be with that person but you have never talked or met.There is not such thing as love at first sight, but more like a physical attraction and sometimes a feeling of deja-vu due to what that person inspires us.
To love someone you need gestures, words, reality.
And I guess it becomes very hard to forget someone after you had a good connection with that person, when you shared opinions, dreams, hopes and future plans.
I will tell you that being surrounded of friends might work or get into new hobbies, but it didn't actually work for me, because I couldn't focus my attention that much.
We all need to accept that we need some time to cry over that lost love.It is normal and nothing to fight against.It is better than to keep your emotions inside until they explode one day.
After a separation, try to spend some time all alone when you can think about what that person did wrong to you, what you did wrong and try to avoid some mistakes in the future.People are very vulnerable after a separation, some think being with someone else will heal the pain.That is so false!I have tried it before and you only bring frustrations to that new relationships and one day you get to ask yourself what the hell didn't work.
If the pain is too big, I suggest going to therapy and talk to a person that can see things differently, but if that problem becomes too expensive, try to get to know yourself better.
Write, yes try to write down what you want from yourself, your life and a future person.Make a full analysis of your best and weak points, even go digging into your family members and see what they have #offered# you.Us, people we get into a relationship with expectations, past pain and things we didn#t achieve before and we tend to act like we saw in our family.Try to get rid of that family behaviour and do things like you really want and accept the other the way he or she is.This comes the help from writing down.It makes you see things more clearer, but for that your need to be really honest with yourself.If you have any doubts about something, try to understand why and what you can do about it.
As a conclusion, focus a little bit on your person, try to understand why sometimes you act the way you act, be realistic but don;t forget to dream from time to time and get your yourself involved in new activities that can make you feel ok.
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Go, stand in an open place, take a deep breath and say out loud, "I hereby relieve 'name' of his position as my love/crush. It's been a good journey but alas, it must come to an end."
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It s so easy
U should find another love
Have sex
U forgot
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When i was 17 a women who was 22 messed with my head. She didn't mean to and i messed with hers too. We were in completely different situations, she was in her last year of Uni and i was in my last year of A-levels. She distracted me from my studies and i regret it now. She was a bit of a 'good time girl' experimenting with a variety of boys and it made me sick. Its because i really liked her, there was something about her. She had this amazing personality and i loved her strong will. I completely fell for her. She also had outer beauty. Other boys couldn't get past that. I tried to show her that i had. I gave her jewellery that metaphorically was so strong in meaning. She was flattered, no boy had ever done what i did to her she told me. One day, I saw her kissing another man, i panicked and told her my feelings for her. We talked. She hinted that i was to young, she said if i was her age she would snatch me up. She told me no-one had ever done what i did giving her that jewllery and that note. she ended up kissing me and walked away saying i was amazing. I thought i had a chance.

On her facebook a week later pictures of her and this other boy came up. I cried. We met up, and i stupidly made a move mainly because of this picture. She made me look a fool and completely rejected me. Cancelling all the special things i ever did or said to her. Saying that i was disgusting for persisting to advance.

I felt so embarrased, i felt so stupid, i felt so hurt, i felt so angry. She texted me, said that she would only see me again because she was friends with my brother , saying that i scared her, when i literally tried to kiss her on the cheeck to say goodbye at the end of a trip. She was 22 i was 17. She made me feel so so young. She made me feel a rat for taking up all those other boys. What was wrong with me?

But i was so young. I couldn't get her out of my head. I persisted to chase a girl who obviously wasn't interested, who when thinking back wasn't even that special. She threw something so good away. She regrets it now. She has never found anyone as good as what i offered. I have hurt her mentally because i simply walked away, and no one has every done that to her before. She said i didn't know what loved meant. She was wrong, she had forgotten what love meant.

Sometimes you have to forget because something better always turns up. It makes you stronger, she was strong, thats what i liked about her. You can get strong, but you need to remember what love is. Don't end up jumping into bed with everyone who pays attention to you. We never had sex, but i know that she remembers me to all those other boys because i was different and she threw me away. im grown up now. I still remember her. I haven't seen her again, but i know she regrets me because of my brother. He said that once when they had a night out and slept in the same house he could hear her calling my name when she was sleeping. My full name. I am in her head. She is in mine. We were both lessons to each other. It could have been more if i waited. I wasn't strong enougth. Now i am. She would snatch me now. If i had waited. It would have destroyed me which is why i walked away to get stronger. She loved my family as well.
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Its hard but the best solution to forgeting someone you "love" is to become infatuated with someone else. Although this might bring on a vicious cycle when the next person you have fallen for doesn't feel the same way about you...
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If you're really that crazy about him, then you need to pluck up the courage and tell him at some point. Contrary to what most girls think, it's perfectly acceptable to do that. I once had a girl call me and tell me that she liked me. I was shocked as hell obviously. If we weren't living on opposite sides of the Atlantic, I might have gone for it. The whole point is while men may find that desperate, I found it very admirable. This is a woman who really knows what she wants and is willing to go out for it. My point is there's nothing wrong with telling him. Go for it and find out!
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Well, I also had the same experience one and a half week before.. I did a mistake by just checking her mail, she got so angry that cut all contact. Not even a phone call or sms.. I sent more than 300 sorries, nothing.. After 1 week i got an sms, stop txting me.. I dont want you anymore. Well, that shit hurt.., Real hurt.. So i'm still in my healing process though it is hard koz i see her, think of her all time, remember of things.. This kills, I die everyday, a simple death is better than a broken heart. Plus forgetting someone you love is just like trying to remeber someone you never met..
I really think it never goes, but it does diminish a lot with time, plus when you will find someone who will love you like you do. That's it!! You'll just think He/she did not deserved you!
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Why would u want to stop thinking of me?
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The love of my life hurt me more than I ever imagined possible. When a couple bottles of bourbon did nothing for the pain, I turned to the needle. It is NOT the answer but I know that without heroin, I certainly would have committed suicide by now. For whatever it's worth, it has only prolonged the inevitable as I no longer use and plan to commit suicide soon. In a way, it wasn't useless because it bought me more time, but it's also terribly destructive. The same is true for nearly any substance employed for this purpose. The truth is, there is no real solution except maybe time. Unfortunately, time does NOT cure all wounds. Most, not all. So you can wait and hope, I guess. I know that's not what you want to hear. The people who recommended getting involved with someone else are probably the closest to offering a "right" answer. This can lead to a very unhealthy emotional situation and, like one poster said, even a vicious cycle/pattern can emerge, but if you can bring yourself to look at/kiss/touch someone other than the one you love (I know I can't, personally), you are almost guaranteed to find powerful distraction with them. I'm not saying it won't come at a price but when you're desperate, you're desperate.

Good luck.
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get a combination lock name the kids name and then beat the shit outta it with a hammer . it works
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Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never knew.
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One other way is to turn your love or special feeling into some sort of negative feeling like hate. That helps you to not want the person anymore.
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Love is everything guyz, widout love life is sucks...huh
how much v can make us buzy wid work or wid frds, but unfortunately daily v remind those times v spend wid our lover...hw cud i forget my lover never... maybe i cant live anymore...
Without love v cant do anything ...this is fact of life..who believe n love...

Ashika bhasin
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yes u r ryt love is everything when nobody will cheat you..
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alcohol.
lots.
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Eat a small piece of them and they will be with your forever so you don't really have to forget or yearn to have them.

I did this with my pet hamster. he was good.
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My best friend has the exact same problem. R u sure ur not my best friend?
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Hi Everyone!

Thank you very much for all your feedbacks, makes me feel better. I am facing the same problem. I have a girl friend who has been in love with me since the past 9 years. We had a great relationship until I travelled abroad for work away from her. I met a girl here and after sometime I started liking/crush/love towards her. I had lots of work to do and I was not able to concentrate on my work/ finish my projects/get sleep/eat food etc.
I finally informed both of them about this and my girlfriend got really upset about this. The girl never had any feelings for me, but still its been really really hard to forget her. Its damaging my work life and I have a totally messed up life. I have no idea how long this will go on its already been some months. Hope to get on with my life and true love soon and be happy forever.
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@: Lovebug
hi lovebug...
i found myself in the shoe of your ex gf... i've been in love in someone for 7 years... i gave myself to him... the bastard recently dump me for someone else who he just met some 3 weeks ago... i'm not here to judge you.. perhaps you are different from my ex bf... i just wanna tell u it hurts a lot to see someone you love so deeply falling out of love with you for other people... well its life... we deserve better people as well as you... someday we'll all look behind and we'll say well it was just some sort of infatuation...
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Hi strongmind...

I'm really sorry to know you had the same problem as my gf. I totally agree with you and I would not like to hurt any sentiments of my gf anymore. She is not my ex but I'm lucky I still have her since 9 years and still going stong. Yes she is hurt very much by my liking towards other person. I hope I forget everything about this new girl in my life and give all that I can to my gf.

Thanks Again....
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its very simple find some one you like even more :d
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What are you, 12?
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i get how ur feeling. I don't think deletig everything about him will work. Just wait, im sure you'll feel better soon. Or Get a new boyfriend ;)

I want to forget about my ex too
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don't spend time with them!
pick out there bad features and overplay them!
cause an argument with them!
Get with a random!
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I'm sorry to say that I don't have the answer to that question... I still think about the first guy I fell in love with - just about every day. I am right back in that confusing and moody state of mind whenever I see a picture of him on Facebook. And it's been years! You see, I was SO in love with this guy and he pretty much just let me believe whatever I wanted to in order to keep me around (and I naturally chose to think that he was into me). And he broke my heart - of course. Now I have the best boyfriend in the world, and still I think about that douche. So I guess most of us have one of those "the one that got/ran away" people in our past, and we just learn to live with it.
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i had this same problem. sorry got nothin for ya it just kinda goes with time.
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Well that sucks. I hope you can live and forget and soon after move on with your life.
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with_a_broken_heart
She wants just to be friends. And should i be her friend or should i tell her that she can't be my friend, either we are together, or we are not :? I'll be very greatful
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Once Nodo, always Nodo, huh??
Thank god I know you from that weird website. So I can prepare psychologically. Duh.

Obsess much? Yeah, very, despite millions of hobbies.
And what about you, rude much? YEAH.
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wtf i dident know abou the name Elise O.O
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I have the same problem so I smoke weed on the reg. Pills are good too
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for women, it is normal, it might not be fixed. i m a guy, and i have LOVED this girl, Holly Hankenson since 4th grade, i m in 8th grade, and i still love her, but her twin sister Bailee is just as hot, and they are always close to me, and i think holly kinda likes me, i m soooooo distracted, i m still on the honor roll, but just bearly, and i m just holding on to a passing grade in Algerbra, i just deal with it
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I had been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months when I broke up with him. After i broke his heart he went back to weed, and we stopped talking. He's actaully in my 4th period class. 2 of my best friends also hate me now because of it. We got back to gether after I fuguered out that I still liked him. (and that I was actauklly in love with him) We were back together for 1 day after he broke up with me telling em that he wasn't ready. I also found out that he loved me, but was tired of so much drama and wanted to forget me. So we both love each other but know that we can never be together. I'm finding that works best to heal me is: 1 time. (duh), 2. Knowing that he was the one that made a huge mistake, and is regretting it. 3. Likeing someone else 4. Everytime he enters my head I push him out.
But mostly I know that he will be in pain for the rest of his life knowing that he broke up with me. Just think about that, THEY"RE the one's that made the mistake, not you.
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demonspirit17
just a lil obsesion dont worry u find some1 new ;)
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You know what, for everyone to know on this website, Nodo_TheRanter is a joke. All his comments are rude and try to make everyone feel worse. Maybe if we wasn't so unhappy with himself he wouldn't be such an a**hole to everyone else. If you can't say anything nice, don't say it at all. Now . . .
I know exactly how you feel. I broke up with "the love of my life" in my senior year of high school. And from 2005 to a couple of months ago she's always been in the back of my head. I'm married now and it took me a long time to realize that was just a stepping stone to where I'm at now. However, it did help me to talk to her again and ask her why we broke up and if she still ever had thoughts of us. I needed closure. I got it and now I'm a better person for it. So maybe you should talk to him. Tell him, how you've been feeling and ask him if he's ever felt that way. Be prepared for the worst or the best. Either way you will know where he stands and you can move on with or without him. If he doesn't see what's special in you, then he's not for you.
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georgito619
this really did happen to me before i really liked this girl that i met a year before we were like best friends we wud give hugs nd stuff but the question never really popped up if we cud ever be together or not we had alot in common and alot of differences and i started to get desperate she looked like she got over me but then i met this girl at da rolerrink and we almost emmidiately became bf nd gf ever since then which was like half a month ago i completely forgot bout the other girl
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Well I know this is horrible, having your fellings bottle up inside of you, but my situation is worse than yours because Im in love with my best friend. My advice for you, let him know even though you know he doesnt feel the same way, it takes away this heavy weight from your shoulders and heart. Trust me I told him today and even though we stayed as best friends I feel way lot better.
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i am wondering if you can share some tips and advice me of some things...i have been in love with my best friend since we were 15 years old and we are both 23 yrs old now the last time i told her i really love her was about 4 years ago..but i just let her know and did not ask her to be my gf...and its just becoming unbearable now..we are still really close until now
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let me restate that last paragraph:

What sucks even more is that I'm a guitarist, band and everything, you'd think that would help keep my mind off of her, but the music just keeps reminding me of her because thats what we connected on in the first place, and I guess I keep writing in hopes that she'll finally take notice of me. I guess in a weird way she's also my Muse, how great huh.
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i have the same story, i want to get over a guy who i had crush on since day one but i cant cause hez with me in classes and we had this camestry which it lasted 2 weeks..
i cant get him out of my mind.. and i tried everything to get over him even i had a bf but still hez in my mind..
what should i do??
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love bug im in same boat & it sucks!!. Im still w/ a guy ive been w/ for 10 yrs. 5 yrs in i told him i wasnt happy , he didnt care, so i fell madly in luv w/some1 else, i told him & he didnt care. So now im pissed cuz i still love the other 1 but wish i had the same feelings for the 1 who is with me. So yes i think its normal to obsess over some1 to the point that it gets on your nerves. But i advise something different. Getting distracted is much like running away. Think about y your thinking about him/her & youll realize its all in your head. The love & passion is all in your head u just need to project on some1 who is receptive & willing to love u back. Lovebug, i was really busy too so i think thats y this happen .u need to finish 1thing b4 u start something else. Also, dont settle with some1 just bcuz ur afraid to be alone if u dont fall madly in love w/gf let her go. I learned my lesson- if the man i love cant give me the same or make me feel the same im not gonna settle, or cheat, im out.
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I its not one thing its another when it comes to some prime time suffering over love. For me I think it was wanting and waiting to meet "the one for me" that when I thought I did Ikinda went overboard and gave my heart to quick. this coupled with that charm/kindness a woman can generate it is a potent mix. for me it did not last long as she had such a bad temper that eventually surfaced I think now perhaps she has bipolar. You know being super productive for 18 hours a day and then kapowi - a venom and temper that is just kinda shocking, accusations over non existant other girlfriends etc...so it ended and none of that makes it any easier. I kind of got over it, I thought and even met someone else, but u know some meetings/relationships they leave a strong presence. So she called after amost 9 months and of course I tell her my situation and she tells me all the things i wanted to hear all that time ago - i her heart etc. i wish she never called, or i wish it was resolved more before as it is like going through it all again now. I can rationalise it all, but it just amzes me of the ridiculous thoughts of wanting to leave my current gf etc and think itwould be great. i think on a deeper level even if i did, it would not work. My partner keep asking what is wrong but i don wan tell her. I just want it to pass. i tend to each rock bottom on these things before i climb out again. my gf going ed of month for a long trip and you know it is not the best time. many times like this in life - hard choices, knowing if the moment passes it is not just gone, but gone forever, weighing up what i want, who i want and all the damage it would create one way or another. It is true you can never forget, never not be in love, an irish friend of mine tells me unrequited love or love that can not be fades over time. Well its only been a week so i guess the wound reopened is still fresh. leave my gf and try u think? i am married and she is pregnant. don judge me, i hate myself. i wish she never called. how dare she
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How can you be so sure you wont ever be with him, you never know. Unless hes gay or like your sisters husband or something and even then he might be your soul mate. Never know....maybe
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the msg is to person who posted story. must hav clicked reply on sum1 elses comment ...
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It's drastic measure but you have to physically move a considerable distance to get over this person, make new friends and just have a different life than you had before. I have had to do this two times to get relief.
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Yes some of these ppl are right about ctting the other person off completely, yes it does help but its extremely hardd especially if you really care bout this person, you dont wanna hurt them but doing this hurts them most, ive been inlove wit my bestfriend for over a year now, she doesent wanna risk our friendship. we both mean the world to each other and many times i have tried to take her out of my life, just thihnkin bout it makes me breakdown, i am still bestfriends wit her, she has other bfs but im still inlove and it kills me inside but i cant stand the thouhgt of hurting her. so its really hard to choose you may end up getting over this person yes, but youd be urting this person very much (if you are good friends) but not doing it will bring lots of pain as well, but it helps knowing you didnt hurt the person you love...
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mm I don't think that getting a new boyfriend would work.. Tried it.. and It never let me forget about my ex.. I even found myself comparing between them and of course I ended up confused and troubled.

I broke up and now I'm talking again to the guy that I've always loved and it seems fine.. I don't even find myself falling for him like before (like from 2 years ago)

Hope it works for you.. Give it a shot.. know him better if you're not that close.. maybe you'll find something that would pull you away for him or brings you closer.. you never know unless you try!
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askkk him outt jeez
its not immpossible, and you never no wat could happen! theirs no way you can get over him unless you know what could reallly happen.... if he says, so you'll be crushed for a little bit, but you WILL get over it eventually and move on to someone even more wonderfull
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my best friend introduced me to a coworker who i got to know for a couple months. it turns out that his coworker and i hit it off well and ended up dating later on. my best friend then decided i was moving on too fast and being too easy... then he distances himself away from both his coworker and me. he started giving us both the cold shoulder and i started feeling like a total stranger who wasn't welcomed to be around him anymore. i vented about this issue to a mutual friend of me and my now ex-best friend. later, my ex-best friend got upset that i vented and told me that if i ever had to mention him at all, that i should only talk about it with him and no one else.

i told this story to the coworker i dated who is now my current bf for over a year... i was happy to know he was very understanding... he basically said.. if you want to talk to someone, go talk to them. no one tells you who to vent to but yourself. and if your so called best friend cuts things off this way, that's not a friend to begin with.---- i agreed with this viewpoint.. and yet i found it hard to forget my ex-best friend because he just flipped 180 after all the times he's been supportive of me

our group of friends eventually split because of this awkward separation and things are no longer what they used to be. i miss the good old times and it's depressing to know you can't go back.

i no longer talk to my ex-best friend since his actions have told me that he doesn't want to be around me. i often reminded myself that this same ex-best friend wasn't exactly a good friend at the end when things split... in one of our final conversations... i can tell he was looking out for me and telling me i didn't know his coworker too well... but then he went off physically measuring up the guy as if it was his place to compare. The last few times i communicated with him... things didn't make sense and i sensed more jealousy out of his actions rather than a friend who was supporting me...around this time, he told me he didnt believe in my capabilities of dating and said to prove him wrong.. n show him that his coworker and i would blossom into a great couple

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It's definitely not easy to forget someone you once loved. But time does heals all wounds. No matter what, never give up as you'll find another love, perhaps a better one. Breaking up doesn't mean the end of everything. You can store the happy memories you once had together, forever in your heart <a href="http://www.puretravel.com/Guide/Africa/Eastern_Africa/tanzania">holiday tanzania</a>
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2 words!
Jack Daniels
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@: ImAvPD
AMEN TO THAT!
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Oh God, it's the worst feeling! I once sort of accidentally semi-stalked someone because of this.
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well I guess it was kind of more like stalking than "semi-stalking".
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Time. It heals all.
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I go through that phase whenever Im in a relationship. I dont know if it's normal, but I hate how I obsess thinking about them & always want to hang with them. I guess ppl love differently, just like how ppl have different interest.
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I hope is it normal to love someone go and ask that person is he also love u Even if u know that That person to whom u love also feels the same for u than what happen if u can't gate him believe me only the feeling that the person to whom u love also love u will give u a great relief It will work because what exactly i had gone through If u can't dare to say him directly then first try to know is he love u or not By simply seeing are u important to that person are u somewhat more special to him then his others friends true love can't be hide and if u get it never let it go....
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I have this problem now and I now we won't ever be together but I will love her forever even if I get married but I can't stop thinking of her
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I've heard people say they will never be with someone they are in love with and will never bet over them with them...

those are some strong and absolute statements

I have found from experience that Perception is reality

why do you feel so strongly about this person...

is it truly them or the Idea they represent?

Most of my Love(s) were almost completely unexpected and i'm almost positive from the outside looking in seemingly impossible match up but i have always been persistent and when i want to be with someone i don't give up easily...

say don't give up on LOve if it is actually love you are feeling
be the best you can be for yourself and be positive things will work themselves out,

ultimately forcing someone to feel or not feel something that they can't or won't is only going to end up in sadness.... even if that person is you.
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The question is, does he like/love/have a crush on you back? If not, the guy isn't worth it. Just tell yourself you don't love him and FORCE yourself to move on.

If you wanna take a risk, just come right out and tell him. The results could be either amazing, or devastating.
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or go get laid
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I'm also in the same situation, I met this girl and we talked a lot together for a week, and we made plans for what we could to together for many days ahead. But after the day we both got drunk and made out, she wasn't interested anymore, and now she barely talks to me. It really hurts to think about that she only talked to me because she wanted to make out with me, not because she wanted to be my friend. She's the prettiest and coolest girl that's ever been interested in me, and now I've been thinking about her every minute for 5 weeks, and I dream about her every night. I talked so much to her, that I messed up the studying for my exams. I can't forget her because we talk sometimes, and I'm just horrified that time may not heal.
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I also have the same story with you all
I have been dating a guy for three years, and a long distance relationship because separate college,
currently we broke up, and for the second time, after breaking up, he immediately got a new girlfriend within two weeks. And the girl who became his girlfriend is his best friend who is always make me jealous.
And now I still cant forgive them. they have cheated me, I hate him and his girlfriend, I always pray to God that I can get through these bad times
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xGrim
tell him
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xoxolostxoxo
well....I have the same problem as you do right now....when I was five I moved to a new city and my grandparents decided to take me to church with them. My second week there, they took me to the Sunday school room. I hate being in a room filled with lots of people I keep more to myself, because I don't feel comfy around new people. So I sat in a corner against the wall and all of a sudden I see a pair of feet in front of me on the floor. I look up and there is a little brown haired,brown eyed boy. He smiled and said hi and we were friends for awhile, until he hit Jr. high, and I was still a sixth grader and "too little for him to hang with." So we drifted apart and he formed a band and then started acting like he was better then everyone around him because he was talented. Well, recently we became friends again and I have liked him all that time, even though he forgot about me for a few years. I realized last year that all along I have loved him. I told him before x-mas 09 and he has a gf. He asked why I hadn't told him earlier, because if I had everything would be different. But he has been dating Julia for two and a half yrs. And the only thing i can do now is wait for him. I'm not planning on coming between him and his gf. She and I have gotten to know each other too and she's not half bad. But he will come back to me....it's just like Jr. high:) I hope things turn out all right for you, watever the case may be. Maybe you should try meeting new people too. Who knows, maybe there is someone WAYYY better out there for you:)
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xoxolostxoxo
or if that doesn;t work do wat my friend did when the guy she loved blamed her for something and got her thrown in juvie, she couldnt get him off her mind and she ran two miles, then ran on her treadmill, lifted weights, and did a whole bunch of exercising, then took an ice bath and then went to bed......she was so tired she fell asleep...no thoughts of him and the insomnia she had had from when he left her, was gone it worked for her
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put away the creepy shrine you built in his honor and please stop peeking in his bedroom at night, im sure his neighbors would really appreciate it.


just kidding, just sleep a lot.
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I had this prob me too...look my friends always say to me that love with love goes...;)that's what i'm gonna say to you ;)))
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i agree... anyways everything has it's own reason
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Thanks but i would n0t have the courage to tell him flat on his face haha,he already know anyway,rumours spread quick..i wonder if there's a way to avoid scrolling all the way dow to post a comment..i can't find a comment link at the top and i'm using a mobile phone..
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Correction: it's n0t a rum0ur because it's true but i can't think of a more appropriate word to use (--,)
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I want just to ask something... Can i really love a girl in my teen years ?? I mean like in 8th grade ?? Or this is just bullshit?! And can we rly be together for years and get married or this is some bullshit too ?! Im just asking
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Just wait don't talk to him and go out withfriends don't focus on boys jut hang with your girls and someone better will come
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This happens a lot. Just think that he does things that would gross you out. It helps :)
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i had a affair with my girlfriend atleast 2 years and i was loving her blindly.I wanted to marry her but she ditched me.sha had an affair with a married man who is a father of one child.how strange yar..she had phisical with him and i dont know why and how it happened.
if she didnt like me she could let me know but she was showing that she was very much serious for me.can anygirl let me know why she did this?
or if she wanted break up with me i could do but why she choosed a person who is married ?I laugh on myseft how is result of my first love..
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hi, this is my first time writing.I am so INLOVE with one of my friends, i´ve been inlove with her since im 14, im 17 now and i fell inlove with her the firdt time i saw her. I remember what she was wearing the firdt time we spoke to each other.
Here is the thing, im sure she knows I exist and I know she really cares for me, but she dosent love me and its killing me i cant take it ANYMORE, i love her so much.I cant stand seeing her everyday and not beeing able to kiss her. I have absolutly no idea of what to do!!!!
I dont know if i should tell her, but knowing her she would want some distance and were pretty distint enoughg already, on the other hand i cant stand feeling this way i daydream, fantisize I´m going crazy.What do i do ?
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let her know-what are you afraid of? Life moves fast, don't look back on your life with regrets.

I did that, I was too afraid to tell some girls I really liked them and I know now they liked me too.

I'm nearly 40, but when I was younger (20s) I used to have the kinds of opportunities with women that most guys only dream of...but I just took it for granted.

It's rare that I find girls like that anymore and I'm not as attractive as I used to be given my age.

Anyways now I don't take any opportunity for granted anymore but my standards are still pretty high-but I'm hoping to bag a great girl someday soon.

but get over your fear and just go for it. I wish I could've told myself that 20 years ago cause I would've banged a lot more hotties then. :P
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Find things that makes you happy and in time you will forget the person you had love for. Remember it takes time, do things that distracts you it'll help ;)
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Based on all the comments clearly a lot of people can relate. I used to be that way, I was a huge romantic and I think if I found the right girl when I was in the state, we would've had a great relationship/marriage.

But now I've grown jaded, I think my heart's grown numb and sad. While I still find girls to be attractive, they don't ignite my passions the way they used to.

Although I've date a number of girls, perhaps it's because I haven't found someone to love for many years like my first few loves.

And there's a few girls who like me right now, but they don't interest me that much-perhaps it's because I'm still searching for my dream girl.

Anyways, my answer to you is give it time, the feelings will fade as long as you stop seeing this guy. And if you think it's impossible to get him then give up on him-unless you really want to try to make it work between you two.

However search for a new love, don't let your heart go numb like mine has...from my memory of love (when I found it with one special girl ages ago), it was a great feeling to have. Best of luck.
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Stop loving someone is something that you cant do in a day. It takes time and patience. For me it took three years and unfortunately i am now in the same situation i was three years ago. I gave him all i could and all he did was play and have fun using me. the worst about this is that i was capable of being whatever he could offer me but i just cant anymore.i still love him but i need to move on. I know that i will find love, until then i must continue smilying and pretending im okay although im all heartbroken. :)
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Hold onto your feelings of new love. Mine have all but vanished because with love comes hate.
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Why do you say it will never happen? If that's the truth, then you need to avoid him as much as you can. I've been in this situation and I was led on BIG TIME and it hurt so bad that it still hurts. HOWEVER, it does not hurt near as bad as it did.

Whatever you do, try not to become bitter over it, because that will not benefit you for any further chances at love, but rather harm you.

All I can say is TIME WILL CURE YOU!!! The pain slowly goes away with time. Yes, that includes the sinking feeling in your chest.

Good luck to you.
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Hi, felt soo relieved dat all of us r facing d same situation..i thgt i was over emtional or havng some mental problm.reading others story was indeed a relief.
let me tell my story...
i was sme1 who always laughd and was a happy go lucky kindof girl..a bit naive too..had lots of friends due to my character...in my office der was a guy i likd...he was soo gud dat i thnk everybdy likd him...we had nearly same tastes too..we wer gud friends i luvd him a lot..bt one day i cme to knw dat his marge is fixd with another girl in my office..of coz heartbrokn...it was initially tough for me...i nearly reachd a mental stage bcz i am sme1 who never shares my problm with any1..so bearing everythng to myself was more difficult...den der was another guy in our office who startd being very friendly with me.he always made me laugh dat i startd frgtng d other guy...i even went for his wedding and thanks to dis new guy dat i didnt feel dat much bad..i felt thngs r getting better.den i cme to knw dat dis new guy is already committd..i had a small crush on him bt i thgt i shd avoid him and nt to fall for him bcz i didnt want to get hurt again...bt he kept on coming to me...he likd me soo much bt as a sister...and nw i cnt luk at him lik a brother & i am havng feelings for him...so i try to keep distance frm him and he is always coming to me....dis time i am soo broke dat i feel hell...twice i gt broke...i dnt want to hurt any1..so only i want to keep a distance frm him...i am sure i will take care of him much better dan his present wud b as she is nt soo gud...bt she had luvd hin for 4 years and its nt right of me to break dat relation..currently i just want to b alone and b strong...its hurting me a lot..i keep wondering y did we hav to meet if we wer nt destined toghtr...also i am afraid of marge..i cant tell hw my future husband will b .i am afraid wthr i will startng comparing him with my old lov...mentally also i am quite down..i lost d meaning of life...it hurts me wen i go out with my friends to buy gifts for der lovers...dey dnt knw my situation...i hav even cried at a shop with't my friend knwng wen we went to buy gift...daily nyte i cry soo much dat my eyes will b very much swollen...all i wanted was a very gud life partner who luvs and on whose shoulder i can lean and cry...bcz last 22yrs in my life...i hav bn crying alone...also dis one sided luv hurts a lot...d worst thng is dat my family doesnt knw des thngs and i am venting out my anger on dem..dey r also suffering..plz tell me sme motivating words and pray for me and my married life...i am nw in a very pathetic situation...
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Find things that makes you happy and in time you will forget the person you had love for. Remember it takes time, do things that distracts you it'll help
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Dear friends. I am in the same situation. I have been in deep love with someone for four months I know it sounds not very long but during those months I fall in real love with her. but now there are so many things come out from her background. she always doesn't respect me. now what I realized is she has two men at the same time. I have realized all this but still I love her and don't want to give up just here. I think she also loves money more than love? what should I do? Please give me advise how I can handle this situation. do I need to continue to try to get her in my love or I have to forget about her?
I am waiting for your advise.It hurts me lot. I feel I don't want to live any more..I really need help.
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thank you guys very much
i cant tell you how much it hurts when you realize that all your dreaming about someone doesn't exist in reality .
he may even doesn't think of you.

i am really thinking about finding something that i am really passionate about and focus on it .
i really want to focus on my study, because its not doing well right now.
when i go to study it is like studying and not studying .
i am sitting to study but i am not focusing 100%
so i waste a lot of time thinking about him which is destructing.
my mom told me that it is like a snow ball the more you think about him , the more it become bigger and you enter in a circle of illusion where you can't get out .
so i should stop thinking about him , and i will not give up.
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Find things that makes you happy and in time you will forget the person you had love for. Remember it takes time, do things that distracts you it'll help
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Hello ,
I am going through the same and I need to hear your opinion abou this .

I fall in Love with a woman in the net and we used to spend many hours talking to each other averyday . then time came when I had to go for 3 weeks holidays I then came online still during night times and had a cht with her for sometime everynight .
and just 2 hours before my flight back home I spoke to her and she told me * I love you * we talk later when you reach home.
I reached home 16 hours later and I didnt find her I was like crazy 3 weeks , when i sent her emails I got them bk she bloked her account , when i searchd for her i didnt find her and I didn have her phon number , this was driving me insane.
then I saw her after 4 weeks from my coming bk and she told I am sorry I was very busy ... then she disapeard 4 more days and when I sent her many emails in her new email adresses and out pressure on her to tell me what is happening and why she is holdin bk and keeping distance from me , she said * Lets Be Freinds*
I just want to know why , I am sure she doesnt have someone knew but why did she say she loves me . and why is she not telling me what happen .
I still think about her and I am thinking of going to the city where she lives and ask her .
what do you think people ...shall I do this step ? or try to forget and move on ..I am sure she Loves me but maybe she is scared of being in a relationship ...
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I could,nt believe myself, I am so desperate I have to even googled how to forget someone you love... I dont know how, but I'm kind of hoping if I read something like what you guys had put in writings, it would make me feel better that, at least, I am not alone in that same crappy road... I unfurtunately fall in love with someone who is tied up with the commitment of marriage, but before it happened he never told me he is married, but of course, how can we expect a thief to admit that he had stolen something,then before I know it I am deeply head over heels, can't get out,and then I have to find out he is married... It's too late I can't live without him anymore... But I always think about his family , and the whole time that we are together I have to cry secret for me, for his wife and his daughter....no woman deserves to get hurt, I wish all men knows that... But that's next to impossibility.... I have been si sensitive , which I like , because I am hoping that whenever I'm getting hurt it would lead to do the right thing ... And that is getting out of the relationship for good.... I gave him everything , he has been my world, my life my being ... And it was a mistake... I am not proud of what I did, I never going to be proud of my story... But I hope someone out there would undenderstand it's no good to play with feelings... Because you never know that person your playing around with has a weak heart and might not be able to take all the pain ...... I'm still trying to forget him until now ... And I do hope and pray that one day will come where I don't have to be sad anymore when I think about him .... I'm considering myself victorious on this seeing I know I am doing the right thing forgetting him .... I just wish I can tell him , but I can't trust myself hearing his voice coz it might just changed my mind again.... But I blame myself for it , if I'm hurting now ,it's because I am being cursed for loving someone who is married.....
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My case: he's my senior(but he finished high school now), my friend, and a good friend he is. In fact, probably one of the nicest people I've ever met. He's an intellectual science geek hahahaha , no but really, he's a freaking genius.

I started having feelings for him about one month before hes time in high school ended... After I had this dream in which he appeared in. And gosh did he bother my mind. A LOT.

After 4 months of going through this, I couldn't stand it, it was interfering with my priorities... I told him how I felt by texting him.

a part of his text was "...but I'm afraid I can't reciprocate your feelings. Just ignore it. It's just a phase, you'll get past it, soon enough."

when I read that, I felt nothing.NOTHING. I thought I got over him.
but then it returned, which brought me here to this site.
and after reading a few posts, I actually thought Ive finally past it, I even told him that I successfully past it.

but then, sigh, comes again that geeky boy in my head.
dammit.

well, I actually haven't confronted him personally since he ended high school.
And so I shall have to stick to my priorities, and see what tomorrow brings.
and hopefully, I'll talk to him if I ever see him again.
And whatever the outcome may be, I would know that that's the best for me.
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I. Don't mean to be negative, but if you truly do feel tthis way then try because if you don't you will regret it. I'm 25 and I still have thoughts of a few girls I let slip away because I was a shy teenager, it sucks sometimes, but life goes on and you fill the voids with happy memories. Its hard to control those hormones at that age. But if its too late then you need to hang out with friends and keep yourself busy or you will be crying everynight and be sad which is pointless and doesn't help the situation, well it helps a little but for it to last over a month is too long ya need to compose your seld and keeps going
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Its impossible to forget someone;
just like finding a drop of tear in the ocean.....
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Girl(hopefully..if not, noo-judging) i have the SAME problem!! well actually with about 6 differnet guys, but i am not a whore, and we havent actually dated. i kinda fell for them while we were hanging, their personality just got me! I dnt even have to meet a person in persona nd if u are talking to me online I really like yuh i am one of those easly fallers.
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boredomFTW
Omg, this same exact thing happened to me! The way I got over him (although I don't suggest it) was by getting in a huge fight with him and avoiding him for a month. Also I threw darts at a pic of his face, and chirped him constantly! It made me depressed for a week but in the end it I'd work. Sadly he asked to be friends with me again and we got close again.. And I'm not sure if I'm starting to love him again :'(
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bump ur head on a concrete wall really really hard... haha

the answer is: make urself busy! do anything u like, focus urself on a certain activity... if all else fail, then stop doing anything... do nothing time heals only for those who can wait...
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How to forget someone you love?
Yes this is normal
No this is not?
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Put your joy onto something else. You're unable to remove him in your life because he brings you a certain degree of happiness. For example, day dreaming about him turns you on or say, seeing him makes you smile. That's completely understandable. What you need to do is to shift your focus. And what's that you're saying? It isn't that easy? Well, my friend, IT IS. The key is finding something you'll enjoy MORE. Now, I don't mean finding a different guy. I mean keeping yourself busy. Grab a good book. Do some exercise. Play a fantastic, addictive RPG game. The secret lies in your heart.
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I have a boyfriend already almost two years, my relationship with him was fine although sometimes quarrel. but suddenly I dreamed of my ex, my first boyfriend,my first kiss. you know? now I'm confused because I kept thinking about my ex, even though it has long been about 4 years ago. my ex is a really good person , all the people amazed because he's having personality noble. but before I leave the guilty suddenly, and make it hurt. but he did not do anything wrong. now I'm confused and stressed what should I do with my situation that i have a boyfriend right now: (
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Its normal to have a crush, just don't let it rule you life. You have a mental picture of what you want them to be, and they are never as perfect as you painted them.
it's just a part of life and there are going to be much bigger challanges coming you way in life. you just have to learn to manage them
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Oh sweety I need help too I keep dreaming about mine =( than i wake up and find out it never really happend
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My Name is AUSTINE..I never believed in Love Spells or Magic until I met this special spell caster once when I went to Africa to Execute some business..He is really powerful. The woman i wanted to marry left me 2 weeks to our wedding ceremony and my life was upside down. She was with me for 5 years and I really love her so much..she left me for another man with no reason..when I called her she never picked up my calls and she don’t want to see me around her…so, when I told the man what happened. he helped me to do some readings, and after the readings he made me to realize that the other man has done some spells over my wife and that is the reason why she left me..he told me he will help me to cast a spell that bring her back. At first I was skeptical but i just gave it a try…In 5 days, she called me herself and came to me apologizing..I can’t believe she can ever come back to me again EMAIL:spritspelltemple@yahoo.com
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Stay away from him if there's no way to be with him. I've been through this before, and cutting off all contact is the only thing that worked for me.
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>I just wanted to know how can you stop loving/strongly liking someone? Is there anything that helps??<

This will work: mentally picture the subject on the toilet with a noisy case of the runs, picking nose with one hand and digging earwax with the other. If you do this for 3 weeks, 3 times a day and it does not work, I will give you double your money back after you send in the paperwork.
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have a lot of sex do a bunch of drugs
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It trully really hard to forget someone ... i really loved a boy in my class for more than 3 years and yet no one of us had the courage to make the first step... we both knew that we liked each other but our friends were like opossites cliques ... they though that we didnt fit at all and stuff... and just when i was ready to make the 1st step..it turned out that he fell in love with other girl and they became couple ..it hurted when i saw them back then..but now its okay... it definetely need time to recover .. and you may have to fund other hobby,like music,art or something else that makes you happy and makes you forget about the bad things :)
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Well first how do you know you'll never be together...sounds to me like you have nothing to lose so tell him because you can't feel any worse trust me and once your sure nothing going to happen then move on. I really liked this guy about a month ago and I ended up telling him because I believe in telling people how you feel because you never know, he said we'll see and we never talked again but to be completely honest I'm so glad I told him because that made me realize that he wasn't worth my tears and I should move past this. Best of luck :)
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Hello dear....

All that you said can only be understood by sumone whos gone thru wat u are saying.
I can as i am going thru the same...since last one month...
The person I love is avoiding me...not replying to msgs or mails....I think you have to just accept the fact that hes not into you..dont worrya bout why or whats missing in you...just think that its his problem....
U deserve sumone who loves you wholeheartedly....

Take some time off for urself by reading meditating relaxing or studying....

Hes not the only guy in the world there will be sumone like him ehom you will get ....then u will know it was for the best!!
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typical situation :-(
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simple, look for someone else.
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elephantface
I feel the same way about this guy Vincent <3 but I don't know what to do about it either, so I leave it alone and embrace it
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selena66
just avoid things that remind you of him....try to enjoy your life..hang out with friends...listen to music...do things u lyk..dont think that your sad coz it'll make u depressed...it took me more than a year to get over my ex...i still think about him...but a bit less than before...but its a fact that i'll nvr be able to forget him...n if u rly luv that guy den maybe u also
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selena66
but please dont start drinking,smoking or drugs to get over a guy
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I've been in love with a guy for about three years now I'm always thinking about him and daydreaming to... we used to be close friends, we still talk to each other from time to time but not like we uses to. I'm just in love with the person he was three years ago that person no longer exist and it kills me in side because he truly was one of the most amazing loving guys I have ever met. I miss him so much :(
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i too have the same story .. but what 's different here .. is that the guy who i love is in love with another girl
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gulableloserwife
you shouldnt say you know you'll never be together, honestly you don't know unless you persue him, or somehow let him know you think he's interesting,hot,etc.
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i feel like crying when i read this title. i remember my crush. we had been together, but on last december, i broke up with him bcoz i thought it wouldnt be working between him and me. but sometimes i regret it and miss him so damn much that i wanna cry and scream fucking loudly but i won't make my family wonder what's wrong with me. so i just keep holding my decision and cry sometimes on my bed when i miss him. even if now he didnt love me anymore, i'd still regret bcoz he was a very gud guy and i never met such a guy like him. he is SPECIAL. he taught me to be someone better and more things i could learn from him.
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Don't force it! In other words don't try your hardest to forget the person, eventually you will forget about that person and all will be good :)
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I feel i'm a vry unlucky person coz i have been dumped twice.My second love meant to me even more bcoz i tht he wasnt like the 1st guy who could dump me for some other girl.But i feel pity for myself bcoz i've been dumped even more badly the 2nd time.This guy had used me for his own benefits in every which way he could and has done and is still doing crap which a lover is not supposed to do in a relation.I wonder even now after 2 yrs of relationship if this guy really loved me or not.He is such a mysterious person ever.I know for a fake person like him,he nvr deserved someone like me in his life.Even though he went on fooling me for about 2 yrs,i had still given him hell lot of chances.Even then i still love him.Living with a hope that he'll change as time passes and will realise his mistakes and come back to me forever.That is my only wish and my only dream bcoz i love him like crazy and cant imagine my life without him..:')
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MCA
Ruku your support is great! I am going to apply it to my personal situation.
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You should just get laid by another dude!
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to me its not that easy to forget someone you love even when there not around any more. they are still with you no matter what you do trust me. ive tried.
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Princess__Ruby
That happened to me for about a year or so and I just made up my mind for all the positives and negatives about him and them I stopped liking him.
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I wanted to say thanks to Ekaka and divinity for everything so far. To everyone who doesn't believe or is considering a spell, I was one of those skeptical ones at first. I wasn't quite sure if I wanted to do this since I've tried other so-called spells caster and they did not work and was a waste of my time and money. However, when I read through the testimonials of other people at this website and after I talked to Dr. Ekaka who answered all my questions and was very nice about everything I decided to give it a try. I figured it would be my last try to get my husband back. So my story is that I was at my wits end when the guy I am in love with told me two months prior that he wasn't in love with me and never will be and that he didn't want to speak or see me again, especially since he was talking to this other girl. When I talked to ekakaspelltemple@yahoo.com he let me know which spells would be most appropriate for me and I chose the ones that was to get him back to me and stay with me and want to marry me. As soon as Ekaka started on the spells, my guy came back into my life! It was a miracle to me and I'm so thankful for that. Things have been going well, and pretty much according to what Ekaka said would happen.
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This is perfectly normal! I often times have the same feelings, whenever I fall for a girl I often get in too deep and go too fast for them, and scare them off. Just hang out with different people.
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Check this out, if you dont try youll never know if that shit will happen. You got nothing to loose oohhh yeaaa
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I don't really need advice, but this seems to have become a place where people share their experiences regarding this.

A couple months ago I met a guy. He seemed amazing. We hooked up, and became really good friends, but when he ended up liking someone else more than he liked me, we ended things. I was fine with it at first, but the more I get to know him the more I like him, and I'm worried that these feelings are actually translating into love. I mean, I love him as a friend anyway, and I'm scared that I might be in love with him as well. Here's the worst part: not only is this one of my closest friends, but he's also my roommate. That's right, we moved in together in April. So not only do I see him all the time, but his girlfriend comes to my house and they do coupley things.

To solve my issue I've been trying to get out and meet new people. I've asked my friends to introduce me to their friends and things like that; it's helping, but I can't get over the guy, and every time a new guy likes me I'm just not interested.

But meeting new people always helps. If nothing else, you'll spend so much time with other amazing people that it won't hurt as much. Even if I never get over him (and the thought of that makes me want to give myself a full frontal lobotomy), I know that I will meet many more amazing people. And even if I never see those people romantically, at least I'll know a whole bucket of awesome people to hang out with instead. So anyone reading this: when trying to get over that person, just meet more people. There's a study that says we can only have about 150 friends, or something, so maybe if you make enough friends he'll eventually get pushed out.
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eternal sunshine of the spotless mind much? haha
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jeo
Hello evry1,am of 25 age.i am in very bad situation, if some1 could help me I LL be thankful to the 1. Me n my girlfrnd were in love since 2008 till the day she got married jun 19 2013, even tody I just cant 4get her..i knw that she got married against her will bcoz of some conditions. But I tryed to call her back to me, but she says, how can I come back to u, now am married, what the people n fucking society will say. I knw she still has a feelings for me. But the rules ethics just wont allow. N also we both are saggitarus, we hv so many things in common, but unfortunately we are not united. I loved her truely n she also did. So now what I want is, I just want her. So is thr any possiblity tht I could get her back someday somewhr evn her marrg. Is she going to change her Mind someday after living in this kind of socity. Is it worth to wait for her, after knowing that she is married. Plz girls do reply bcoz girls knws the girls. N boys too drop ur comments, am waiting for an ans plz. Help me out.
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Bicycle. Poll. Ride into it. Really fast.

No, I'm kidding. And yeah, stuff like that sucks but it's part of the human experience. Bad things only exist because
you believe they do. Get out. Have fun. Take the advice of the Strokes, "Why not try it all, if you only remember it once?" See what I'm saying?
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yes there is a way just inorg him
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It's unfortunate when this happens. It's easier when it's just a celebrity you don't have to really be around. But when you are young, your feelings and hormones are just ready to pounce on any person that catches your fancy. Try to be logical about how young you are and how you will have many relationships in your life and not every person you are attracted to will be attracted back. That's normal. Try to be self-suffient with lots of hobbies and interests and do well in school with a good career path. Then you will naturally be attractive to others. You are the right match for certain people, but you have to be out there for them to meet you.
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Why did I find this in the messed up section? Am I missing something? Is it the comments?
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hi everyone i have been fallen in love with a much older man at work for a long time. after my crush developed i realized he is married... he is the type of guy who will try to find ways to get my attention, or touch me, but he would not cheat and i feel like the evil one for wanting him..the thing is the feelings he gives me are so intense, when he touches me i feel like i am swimming in an ocean of bliss and it is the most amazing thing i can think of ...... i am an artist so i made a drawing for him. i hope he will remember me. i hope he could feel the way he made me feel. i dont see him much anymore at work, i am trying to get a new job so i can forget about him.
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do some drugs
(: yeyaaha!
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i kno how u guys feel i always used to be very happy that i could let go of all emots but i meet this girl who i was for the first time in love with but she broke up with me after a week but i cnat stop thing about her and i am changed all together im not shure if she still like me cuz she told me that she wasnt ready to date yet and it has been 2 weeks i wrote her this can some one plz tell me when to give it to her "Lauren I don%%u2019t mean to sound weird but I just want u to know how I feel about u and how much I care about u I don%%u2019t care if any other girl likes me I LOVE u when your around me I get the feeling like nothing bad can happen and even if I have the worst day u cheer me up and I always care about how u feel but I think I understand y u said ur not ready to date yet because u just broke up with luke and u didn%%u2019t want to get hurt at least I think I%%u2019m not sure what to think now but I still love u."
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how about telling him how you feel. embarrassment will keep you away from him thus more chance of getting over him. haha. and telling him about your feelings will make all the crush situation less exciting don't you think? XD
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Find things that makes you happy and in time you will forget the person you had love for. Remember it takes time, do things that distracts you it'll help
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Does he go to your school? Why don't you just talk to him. Chances are he likes you too.
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luigi
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There is a pill: http://www.jurnal.md/en/news/pill-against-love-125433/
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One time, I couldnt get over this girl so I just took loads of drugs and smoked loads of weed for a long time. Did the trick.
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Had the same thing happen to me with a car, once. I thought about it day in an day out. I wanted it so bad. I couldn't sleep at night. I couldn't eat. It tore me apart. I got the car, but it left me. Love sucks, huh? Even today, I wonder what would have happende if I'd only treated that car nicer.

Don't let them fool you, some things you will NEVER get over. I even thought about killing myself. Then I Iound a VW beetle. Now I'm happy.

Jess
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life is miserable, we are all miserable till the end
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yeah i agree its just the same people and objects but i do know how it feels the prrson i was with cheated on me and said sex was diferant for boyfrends and frends lol what a bitch
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Obsess much? Jesus Christ get a hobby.
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only one? i started 5 new things ,quitar, english, painting ,handcrafting etc.NOTHING ....it seams impossible
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no its not imposabli
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have u forgotten about person yet?
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AlexMcG
lol thats what im sayin ;)
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