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How to forget someone you love?
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I really like/love/have a crush on somebody. Pick whatever.
Anyway, I'm getting desperate and I can't seem to function properly ever since I met him. I can't stop thinking of him and I don't know what to do but it is really annoying when I have to study and do other necessary things. I'm also in a bad mood all the time and am constantly day-dreaming. This is going on for about four months and it really burdens me.
I know we will never be together yet I can't prevent my feelings for him.
So I just wanted to know how can you stop loving/strongly liking someone? Is there anything that helps??
Do you think it's normal?
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Ahh I had this problem about a year ago. I thought I met the girl of my dreams. We had been high school buddies since day one and I thought we were going to be together forever, then we ended up in two different colleges, and two different life goals that only lead further away from each other. I was totally crushed knowing this and it hurt me for the longest time. The only care for something (at least that worked for me) was to find something better then them. Thats what happen to me because i'm so in love with my girlfriend right now I have I hardly remember the bad times. So in short, fall in love with another person and you'll forget the pass events
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Sisophous agrees with MidnightShadow, you need to make new relationships and just let it go. I take it this person does not share your same feelings and you realize this otherwise would have approached him.

People often have tunnel vision and become preoccupied with one person which often builds frustration and can make us miserable. Such infatuations interfere with our daily activities and are counterproductive to happiness. Get out and meet new people, join clubs, go to parties. Rigorous exercise is also terrific to rest your mind. Go out and jog a few miles or swim laps in an indoor pool.

This special person is not the only one who will capture your heart, there are plenty more just around the corner if you are open minded and give other people a chance. In time, this special guy will eventually fade away, like a distant memory.
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Obsess much? Jesus Christ get a hobby.
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Once Nodo, always Nodo, huh??
Thank god I know you from that weird website. So I can prepare psychologically. Duh.

Obsess much? Yeah, very, despite millions of hobbies.
And what about you, rude much? YEAH.
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Oh come on, im sure you can get over me eventually.
It just takes a lot of time and will power.

I have faith in you... you can do it!
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get rid of all his crap that he gave you (i suggest burning); you dont want to think of him anymore. then get yourself a gallon of choclate Haagens-Daas and watch "The Producers"
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alcohol.
lots.
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yeah i recently went through a similar situation. It sucks and I'm still not over her but things do get better with time. BTW, sisophous nailed it when he said "Such infatuations interfere with our daily activities and are counterproductive to happiness." So true.
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Had the same thing happen to me with a car, once. I thought about it day in an day out. I wanted it so bad. I couldn't sleep at night. I couldn't eat. It tore me apart. I got the car, but it left me. Love sucks, huh? Even today, I wonder what would have happende if I'd only treated that car nicer.

Don't let them fool you, some things you will NEVER get over. I even thought about killing myself. Then I Iound a VW beetle. Now I'm happy.

Jess
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I understand where you are comming from, I was with an older woman since I was 17 years old she was 27. We got married 3 years ago but things just don't seem right anymore. We both have a different point of view on everything. I love her so much but we need to let go. I can't seem to get her out of my head and it drives me insane. I was diagnosed with Bipolar and this doesn't seem to help the situation any lol. The thought of someone else being with my true love I think would send me off the deep end. I'm 27 now and still can't deal with losing her.
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Try to train yourself not to want what you cannot have. It is not easy, and it takes time, but it is worth the effort.
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Sorry but I agree with junker, you can't truly get over someone, in 8th grade I was in love with this girl and now in 10th grade I still think about her a lot, not as much as before but I never really got over her.
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@poster

stop seeing him completely.
delete him everywhere u can on the computer.

destroy every single peace of memory u have of him anywhere.
Even burn it symbolically.

do this and you'll be a lot better of in a month.
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Doesn't work, seriously, I was in love with a girl back in middle school, I had nothing to remind me of her yet I never truly got over her.

@poster

Try focusing on something else, I know it's hard but you should try, like do a sport or something that means you won't be sitting around, because that's when your mind starts to wander.
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do both what i said and what pringletot said.

and be aware that hes out of your life forever.

and also be aware that this guys is nothing unique,
u just think he is.
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I went through the same thing for years. Get away from the person and time heals all wounds.
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MisterGee81
These other peoples are fools you are always gonna want what you cant have its human nature and u need to realize that you attract people the same way people are a mess especially women who value the almighty dollar more than love or any other value dont let society rob you of what should come natural i once loved a women more than anything in the world and i still think of her almostr evryday and the fact that her mother stole her from me she chose money over love and i hope for the best but something inside hopes she suffers for what she has doine to me
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u piece of shit! you dont know how that hurts the other when people does that u stupid piece of crap!!! my gf did that to me! i cant stop crying for months now! she said she would talk to me and at least say hi to me if things did not work out and she did not!
i cant stop thinking about her shes my life shes my everything. too bad i cant discount this rage on u now u so deserve it; for the pain of the others
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I've been there and I know how much it hurts. Sometimes it is just to hard to let go. Time will make it better though you may never be over it it will become bearable with time. Cry when you need to get down and wallow in self pitty if you must but know that there is a world out there when your ready for it. You might try a little trick that helped me. Every time you catch yourself thinking about him force yourself to think of something else. You can also write a short novel about you and him get as wild as you want with it. Let your dreams just flow and write yourself a happy ending!
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i kno how u guys feel i always used to be very happy that i could let go of all emots but i meet this girl who i was for the first time in love with but she broke up with me after a week but i cnat stop thing about her and i am changed all together im not shure if she still like me cuz she told me that she wasnt ready to date yet and it has been 2 weeks i wrote her this can some one plz tell me when to give it to her "Lauren I don%%u2019t mean to sound weird but I just want u to know how I feel about u and how much I care about u I don%%u2019t care if any other girl likes me I LOVE u when your around me I get the feeling like nothing bad can happen and even if I have the worst day u cheer me up and I always care about how u feel but I think I understand y u said ur not ready to date yet because u just broke up with luke and u didn%%u2019t want to get hurt at least I think I%%u2019m not sure what to think now but I still love u."
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nothing is ever impossible.
if you really like someone, go for it.
i know its hard to tell your feelings.
i've had plenty of that in my teen years.

but if you really want to forget...
busy yourself.
do stuff, get active, and be involved.
doing other stuff will help your mind keep away from him.

btw, don't cut yourself.
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yeah .. thats very hard question.. i guess the only way is to be with that person again..

damn love hurts yo.. :/

Paula.. :/
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Surely I know how much it hurts, it took me so much time to get over the strong and true feelings that I had for a girl I really loved, and thought that I would never ever have such feeling for someone else. Don't make the same mistake as me, during 4 years I was actually down and didn't lived my life fully as I should. DON'T MAKE IT A DRAM as you would only hurt yourself. Hang out with friends, get to know other person, its better. Keep on smiling and enjoy yourself. Remember that people will always move towards new friends that are shining and not down.
U should know that the course for true love did never run smooth and for now what is important is not love but your career/studies. Love can still wait no worry ;). U need emotional support, surely close friends can provide it. Learn to become emotionally strong and independent, because believe me life really sucks... I actually met someone else whom I loved more than my first love, but the relationship does not seem to hold and I don't feel its two-way, but so what! Just get over it, stop hurting yourself, I'm sure I'll definitely meet the One who will love me like I would love her, it just requires patience ;). Hope my story would help those reading it.
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Its hard but the best solution to forgeting someone you "love" is to become infatuated with someone else. Although this might bring on a vicious cycle when the next person you have fallen for doesn't feel the same way about you...
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OMFG!!!! these are all twats !!

dont jump into another relationship because it will be empty and hollow. you will just have to let time be the healer.
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i currently like someone and i messed it up. i had a choice of going out with her or the other one. being nice and thinking this thorough a little bit, i went out with the other one because she had liked me for a longer period of time. by doing this and not relizeing that in the process i had lost her( oh and going out with the other 1 was the worst relationship i have ever had in my entire life for the most part) im not sure what to do? i cant just burn or disconnect myself from her cuz she still wants to be "friends". and on top of that i have 3 classes with her. my situation is not as serious as the other ones by even 1/100th of a millisecond (to put it as an example). but i know what it feels like to love someone and know you cant have them. it really dose hurt. by reading the other comments i will do my best to join or do other activities, i still dont think it will help. this GIRL that im crazy for has covered about everything humanly possible in this world. she runs, plays sports, extreamly nice,we sang about every song made and talked about every movie possible. i have ruiend my only chances with the one and only girl of my life that it seems i will never ever love someone to an extreame like i do with her again.
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Guaranteed fix: marry him.
Works overnight.
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You just have to go out with your friends have fun and meet other people.
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I had been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months when I broke up with him. After i broke his heart he went back to weed, and we stopped talking. He's actaully in my 4th period class. 2 of my best friends also hate me now because of it. We got back to gether after I fuguered out that I still liked him. (and that I was actauklly in love with him) We were back together for 1 day after he broke up with me telling em that he wasn't ready. I also found out that he loved me, but was tired of so much drama and wanted to forget me. So we both love each other but know that we can never be together. I'm finding that works best to heal me is: 1 time. (duh), 2. Knowing that he was the one that made a huge mistake, and is regretting it. 3. Likeing someone else 4. Everytime he enters my head I push him out.
But mostly I know that he will be in pain for the rest of his life knowing that he broke up with me. Just think about that, THEY"RE the one's that made the mistake, not you.
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It's hard to say what "normal" is about anything, but I totally have that problem. I'm not going into great depths about it, because I am the only one that knows this and have never told anyone else, but I totally have feelings for someone that I can't get out of my head and it drives me crazy all the time. I'm worse than you though, I've never met the guy in person! :) Also, I am married, hah! Horrible, I know. Trust me, I am madly in love with my husband and have always been and always will be faithful to him, but there is something about this other man that will not rest in my brain. I'm infatuated with him, and it's so funny because I am so busy with my every day activities and with being a mom, and I still find time somehow to think about him all the time. I don't know what it is... I don't think it is love because I love my husband, I do. I wouldn't call it a crush though. I just feel like we have some kind of attachment and I don't know why. Hopefully I am not going crazy. I think about him a lot, probably at least a few seconds every day of my life. The easiest way for me to forget about it, is my kids or husband. I tend to think about him more when my husband is away. I know I have to get him out of my head because I have to continue on with my important day to day activities, so that is my motivation. Also, being an overly good wife to my husband makes it easier. If you find it hard to do every day activities or certain things are hard to concentrate on, then just simply try harder and use "false motivation". Think of a goal in your head of something you want to achieve and just attack it. If you work extra hard towards something that you HAVE to do anyway, he will more likely fade from your mind more during the day. Keep yourself busy. Even if you aren't studying or something, take up a new hobby and get yourself around other people. That's my advice :) Anyone that leaves a bad comment about what you said, or what I just said, can go fuck themselves (in advance, because I know someone is going to say something rude).
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georgito619
this really did happen to me before i really liked this girl that i met a year before we were like best friends we wud give hugs nd stuff but the question never really popped up if we cud ever be together or not we had alot in common and alot of differences and i started to get desperate she looked like she got over me but then i met this girl at da rolerrink and we almost emmidiately became bf nd gf ever since then which was like half a month ago i completely forgot bout the other girl
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Denying or repressing your natural feelings is a sure way to becoming an emotional wreck. Accepting and understanding them is the right way.
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Well I know this is horrible, having your fellings bottle up inside of you, but my situation is worse than yours because Im in love with my best friend. My advice for you, let him know even though you know he doesnt feel the same way, it takes away this heavy weight from your shoulders and heart. Trust me I told him today and even though we stayed as best friends I feel way lot better.
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Your question is itself contradictory, if you love the boy you cannot possibly forget him. I'll tell you what millions others have probably already told you: move on. But of experience it is impossible. If you really love him as you say, but that you have never told him about it, you have to. Go talk to him, confront him with your feelings. Either he will become partt of your life, or you will be rejected. But I promise you it will be easier this way. Eeasy to say not easy to do...
But who said love was easy?
A night off with your friends and you should be ok.
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Yes I think this is normal especially if it's a first love/crush. Love comes when you actually know that person well, and when usually when you guys were friends before.

What you said above was exactly what happened to me! I'm actually flabbergasted by the similarities. Anyways... I couldn't stop thinking about this guy for months as well and yes it did interfere with my studies- but not TOO bad. If I really concentrated and said to myself, "Forget it. He doesn't even know me and what I have for him is ALL INFATUATION. What are the chances that he'll be with me anyways?"
If I really did "love" him, then that means that we knew each other very well and I'm accepting his personality.

He's not the only guy in this world and we have more impt. things to be doing as well right? Moreover, when you're daydreaming about him, you're only assuming of "who he may be" rather than "who he really is".

Love is not clingy. Infatuation is. I don't know if it's because of my personality, but after months of crushing on him, I kind of got tired of being so hung onto this guy. Then it's like you all of a sudden just move on. But don't wait for this to happen. Take action now and focus all your energy into FAMILY, FRIENDS, EXERCISE AND SCHOOL. That is a healthier lifestyle. Take yoga. I'm serious; it may help.
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look at all the posts its clearley very normal. you just have to wait.
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sleep, sleep, sleep.
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eeerm get a bf?
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i have one. i just sleep when i'm upset.
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I am going through the exact same thing right now. Nothing ive read here has personally helped me but maybe it has worked for you. I take 2O minutes everyday and cry about everything [him;life;friends..etc.] and after that Im fine. The best place to do this is when youre taking a shower because then you dont look like you;ve been crying. I also talk to my puppy even though I know she cant talk back but it just helps to talk to someone/something.
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I have the same problem.. I actually googled the question "How to forget someone you love".. and this is what came up. I, too, am having trouble forgetting someone I fell for. To make things worse, I am currently in relationship with someone else and live with him.
I was unfaithful with the person I cannot stop thinking about and could have been with him, but my guilt held me to the one I have been with for two years. I know that sounds terrible, and I feel terrible for it. I wonder all the time "what if" I had chosen to go with him. Now he will not speak to me (for good reason) and I am left with heartache, and I just hope one day all of this will make sense. I am a big believer in fate and "everything happens for a reason", but I cannot make sense of this; how could I have had such a great connection and amazing moments with a person, as short-lived as they were, only for them to be gone so quickly? What was the point?? It's frustrating.
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Great point on the daydreaming about "who he may be" and "who he really is".. that makes a lot of sense to me. In my situation, I did not have a huge amount of time with the guy ( a few months), and the whole time I had suspicions that he was being who he thought I wanted him to be. Problem is, he did a GREAT job of it.. now he's stuck in my head. :)
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budweiser will always love you
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ooh. i've like this dude for a year and a half and i knew it was all hopeless. All you have to do is...get distracted. NOt like drugs or alcohol but just have fun with your life and keep it behind things that should be more important...
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It's totally normal. For me I had a Crush on this Girl for 4 years now ya hard to get rid off them out of your head unlees u do something that will make u forget about it but again it will come back again lol.Like me right now.
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One other way is to turn your love or special feeling into some sort of negative feeling like hate. That helps you to not want the person anymore.
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After reading all the comments I'm happy to find that its normal to feel like this. Before I came here I sort of felt... I guess ashamed and like a complete fool to have feelings for a someone who I knew would never feel the same. I don't know why, I guess knowing it could never be and feeling like I'd never be good enough for her do that to you. Unrequited love(or like haha) sucks. I still feel like a complete for having feelings for her but not as much now that I know people have been through it or are in the same boat.

What sucks even more is that I'm a guitarist, band and everything, but the music just keeps reminding me of her because thats what we connected on in the first place, and I guess I keep writing in hopes that she'll finally take notice of me. I guess in a weird way she's also my Muse, how great huh.
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let me restate that last paragraph:

What sucks even more is that I'm a guitarist, band and everything, you'd think that would help keep my mind off of her, but the music just keeps reminding me of her because thats what we connected on in the first place, and I guess I keep writing in hopes that she'll finally take notice of me. I guess in a weird way she's also my Muse, how great huh.
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Hi Everyone!

Thank you very much for all your feedbacks, makes me feel better. I am facing the same problem. I have a girl friend who has been in love with me since the past 9 years. We had a great relationship until I travelled abroad for work away from her. I met a girl here and after sometime I started liking/crush/love towards her. I had lots of work to do and I was not able to concentrate on my work/ finish my projects/get sleep/eat food etc.
I finally informed both of them about this and my girlfriend got really upset about this. The girl never had any feelings for me, but still its been really really hard to forget her. Its damaging my work life and I have a totally messed up life. I have no idea how long this will go on its already been some months. Hope to get on with my life and true love soon and be happy forever.
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Ollieo
Maybe ask him on a date. Or do anything that would make it a real relationship. See if he is really the guy you think he is. Probably not because it is something you mainly imagine.
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@: Lovebug
hi lovebug...
i found myself in the shoe of your ex gf... i've been in love in someone for 7 years... i gave myself to him... the bastard recently dump me for someone else who he just met some 3 weeks ago... i'm not here to judge you.. perhaps you are different from my ex bf... i just wanna tell u it hurts a lot to see someone you love so deeply falling out of love with you for other people... well its life... we deserve better people as well as you... someday we'll all look behind and we'll say well it was just some sort of infatuation...
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Hi strongmind...

I'm really sorry to know you had the same problem as my gf. I totally agree with you and I would not like to hurt any sentiments of my gf anymore. She is not my ex but I'm lucky I still have her since 9 years and still going stong. Yes she is hurt very much by my liking towards other person. I hope I forget everything about this new girl in my life and give all that I can to my gf.

Thanks Again....
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its very simple find some one you like even more :d
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i have the same story, i want to get over a guy who i had crush on since day one but i cant cause hez with me in classes and we had this camestry which it lasted 2 weeks..
i cant get him out of my mind.. and i tried everything to get over him even i had a bf but still hez in my mind..
what should i do??
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love bug im in same boat & it sucks!!. Im still w/ a guy ive been w/ for 10 yrs. 5 yrs in i told him i wasnt happy , he didnt care, so i fell madly in luv w/some1 else, i told him & he didnt care. So now im pissed cuz i still love the other 1 but wish i had the same feelings for the 1 who is with me. So yes i think its normal to obsess over some1 to the point that it gets on your nerves. But i advise something different. Getting distracted is much like running away. Think about y your thinking about him/her & youll realize its all in your head. The love & passion is all in your head u just need to project on some1 who is receptive & willing to love u back. Lovebug, i was really busy too so i think thats y this happen .u need to finish 1thing b4 u start something else. Also, dont settle with some1 just bcuz ur afraid to be alone if u dont fall madly in love w/gf let her go. I learned my lesson- if the man i love cant give me the same or make me feel the same im not gonna settle, or cheat, im out.
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I have the same problem so I smoke weed on the reg. Pills are good too
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Hi everyone. I just want the normal life but i can not. My family are so up high. I love a girl and i love her so much. Me and her will get marries in 30 days. But i am fcuk it up. I was not good to her. After i have been through i know she is so importance to my life. but i am lost her out of my hand. I don't know what to do. She wont let me back. I am try so many things. I just want her back for love her more and protect her. She is lovely girl. I never love someone like her. She is my life.

Can everyone tell me how to get her back. I am willing to do everythings. I will give up my life for her. I will do it. I will fix my problem to love her more and her family more.

Please help me.

Love u 'L'
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What are you, 12?
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well...Im going through the same thing..i was with my ex for 4 years. When we broke up, i had only wanted it to be a break but he didnt want it so we ended it and a month or two later he is going out with someone else. My heart is broken, but dont listen to those people that tell you to jump into another relationship to forget him. I promise you, it will not work if you do it that way because all youre really doing is fooling your self and the other person you jumped into the relationship with.
Love hurts, but dont close yourself to new things. Always remember that all things shall pass...time is your number one friend.
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do some drugs
(: yeyaaha!
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Hey I am into same situation.i love a guy who was my best frd. He told he loves me but i m not the one. I am crazy about him. now he has stopped talking to me. i got insane because of him. i try to call him,ping him, meet him. but he dont want to meet me anymore. I tried not talking to him, goin to gym, painting, cooking. meeting some frds. but nothing worked and I call him after a week. but he dont respond correctly. i feel i lost my best frd too. I am not able to forget him. we used to talk to each other everyday. Now i m mad at myself because i dont talk to him. I feel life sucks. I want to get out of this situation. someone plz help me get out of this hell.
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i tried this before...doesn't work.
i tried everything to stop thinking and loving him but, still nothing ever worked.
he was muh first true love, you dnt stop loving your first true love no matter what they did to you. infact you can never stop loving someone you truley loved. but i think that you should jst ask the guy out and see what happens, if it's meant to be than its meant to be.
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I its not one thing its another when it comes to some prime time suffering over love. For me I think it was wanting and waiting to meet "the one for me" that when I thought I did Ikinda went overboard and gave my heart to quick. this coupled with that charm/kindness a woman can generate it is a potent mix. for me it did not last long as she had such a bad temper that eventually surfaced I think now perhaps she has bipolar. You know being super productive for 18 hours a day and then kapowi - a venom and temper that is just kinda shocking, accusations over non existant other girlfriends etc...so it ended and none of that makes it any easier. I kind of got over it, I thought and even met someone else, but u know some meetings/relationships they leave a strong presence. So she called after amost 9 months and of course I tell her my situation and she tells me all the things i wanted to hear all that time ago - i her heart etc. i wish she never called, or i wish it was resolved more before as it is like going through it all again now. I can rationalise it all, but it just amzes me of the ridiculous thoughts of wanting to leave my current gf etc and think itwould be great. i think on a deeper level even if i did, it would not work. My partner keep asking what is wrong but i don wan tell her. I just want it to pass. i tend to each rock bottom on these things before i climb out again. my gf going ed of month for a long trip and you know it is not the best time. many times like this in life - hard choices, knowing if the moment passes it is not just gone, but gone forever, weighing up what i want, who i want and all the damage it would create one way or another. It is true you can never forget, never not be in love, an irish friend of mine tells me unrequited love or love that can not be fades over time. Well its only been a week so i guess the wound reopened is still fresh. leave my gf and try u think? i am married and she is pregnant. don judge me, i hate myself. i wish she never called. how dare she
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How can you be so sure you wont ever be with him, you never know. Unless hes gay or like your sisters husband or something and even then he might be your soul mate. Never know....maybe
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have u forgotten about person yet?
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the msg is to person who posted story. must hav clicked reply on sum1 elses comment ...
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i wish i was that guy..atleast 1 girl will fall in love...
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It's drastic measure but you have to physically move a considerable distance to get over this person, make new friends and just have a different life than you had before. I have had to do this two times to get relief.
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Yes some of these ppl are right about ctting the other person off completely, yes it does help but its extremely hardd especially if you really care bout this person, you dont wanna hurt them but doing this hurts them most, ive been inlove wit my bestfriend for over a year now, she doesent wanna risk our friendship. we both mean the world to each other and many times i have tried to take her out of my life, just thihnkin bout it makes me breakdown, i am still bestfriends wit her, she has other bfs but im still inlove and it kills me inside but i cant stand the thouhgt of hurting her. so its really hard to choose you may end up getting over this person yes, but youd be urting this person very much (if you are good friends) but not doing it will bring lots of pain as well, but it helps knowing you didnt hurt the person you love...
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i get how ur feeling. I don't think deletig everything about him will work. Just wait, im sure you'll feel better soon. Or Get a new boyfriend ;)

I want to forget about my ex too
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how about telling him how you feel. embarrassment will keep you away from him thus more chance of getting over him. haha. and telling him about your feelings will make all the crush situation less exciting don't you think? XD
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mm I don't think that getting a new boyfriend would work.. Tried it.. and It never let me forget about my ex.. I even found myself comparing between them and of course I ended up confused and troubled.

I broke up and now I'm talking again to the guy that I've always loved and it seems fine.. I don't even find myself falling for him like before (like from 2 years ago)

Hope it works for you.. Give it a shot.. know him better if you're not that close.. maybe you'll find something that would pull you away for him or brings you closer.. you never know unless you try!
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well ! HOW TO FORGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE ! i had the same Qeustion ! i know someone its been for more then 10 years ! and we dont have contact for more then 3 years ! but i still LOVE her and think about her ! i wanted to foeget her ! but i think i dont have to foeget her ! because she is been a nice part in my life ! but the problem is that , i cant move on ! i cant love someone else because i still think about her ! and deep inside i want to get with her one day in the future ! ... anyone any suggetion :) ? thank you guys !
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lol thats what im sayin ;)
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Marijuana.. makes you forget anything and everything :)
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I have had this problem a load of times I hid the feelings by learning new things like my latest one was hungarian before that chineese but you can do other things aswell take up a sport I done different thigns to get my mind off the person so just try that =) if you like them or broken up which ever there is a difference if you like them tell them how you feel better to be crushed and lose the feelings that way if you were together and he broke up with you etc. then sorry I can't help we all deal with it in different ways mine was hiding my head in books yours could be different try fishing it is a good sport =)
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askkk him outt jeez
its not immpossible, and you never no wat could happen! theirs no way you can get over him unless you know what could reallly happen.... if he says, so you'll be crushed for a little bit, but you WILL get over it eventually and move on to someone even more wonderfull
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You cant get over him
Get over that.
And your gold.
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Yeah, getting over someone you love so much is a very difficult situation, that I'm currently in. I just keep telling myself that I'm the best and it's his loss, and when I truly get over him. He will be sorry he messed it up, because I wanted to make him happy. And by the time he comes back around if ever. My feeings will be gone (hopefully) and he'll feel like a loser. Life goes on. Just know it will be hard at times, but it will make you stronger.
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my best friend introduced me to a coworker who i got to know for a couple months. it turns out that his coworker and i hit it off well and ended up dating later on. my best friend then decided i was moving on too fast and being too easy... then he distances himself away from both his coworker and me. he started giving us both the cold shoulder and i started feeling like a total stranger who wasn't welcomed to be around him anymore. i vented about this issue to a mutual friend of me and my now ex-best friend. later, my ex-best friend got upset that i vented and told me that if i ever had to mention him at all, that i should only talk about it with him and no one else.

i told this story to the coworker i dated who is now my current bf for over a year... i was happy to know he was very understanding... he basically said.. if you want to talk to someone, go talk to them. no one tells you who to vent to but yourself. and if your so called best friend cuts things off this way, that's not a friend to begin with.---- i agreed with this viewpoint.. and yet i found it hard to forget my ex-best friend because he just flipped 180 after all the times he's been supportive of me

our group of friends eventually split because of this awkward separation and things are no longer what they used to be. i miss the good old times and it's depressing to know you can't go back.

i no longer talk to my ex-best friend since his actions have told me that he doesn't want to be around me. i often reminded myself that this same ex-best friend wasn't exactly a good friend at the end when things split... in one of our final conversations... i can tell he was looking out for me and telling me i didn't know his coworker too well... but then he went off physically measuring up the guy as if it was his place to compare. The last few times i communicated with him... things didn't make sense and i sensed more jealousy out of his actions rather than a friend who was supporting me...around this time, he told me he didnt believe in my capabilities of dating and said to prove him wrong.. n show him that his coworker and i would blossom into a great couple

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It's been a little over a year since this split has happened. I'm still with my bf (my ex-best friend's coworker) and still disturbed till this day on why things turned out this way... I have older brothers.. and if they were ever disappointed in me, they wouldn't give me a cold shoulder. If my best friend was disappointed in me like a mentor was, I don't think he would have been cutting off the entire friendship this way.

i tried to put myself in his shoes and think... what if he was distancing himself for my sake as well? but the next question becomes, why did he need to get so dramatic about me dating his coworker?

when it comes to my bf... ive been happy with him and he treats me well... i do wonder whether ive reached that point where i can say i love him... i feel that it's still growing... and i think to myself... what if my feelings towards this bitter end with a person i used to love is the thing that is slowing down my progression from moving forward? its odd because i have dreams of the past and i feel this whole grudge that im dying to get rid off... as much i hate what happened in the past, i can't bring myself to say i truly hate the person i loved.

i want my relationship to work... and i no longer want to hold on to something in the past... so i wonder, what's the best way to forget my ex-best friend? i deleted his sn... got rid of pictures.. and no longer associate myself with his family... i avoid even talking about him if possible... at least a year has passed and my mind is still driven crazy with him... somehow, my feelings are bottled up and i want it gone.
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I'm actually going throught the same thing rightnow. I just can't stop thinking about someone almost every minute of my waking hours. And there can never be a future 4 him & I its a complicated situation. I'm slowly getting over him though I think, I hope so. I can't go on like this.

I heard a saying "to get over someone is to get on top of another." I have to find somebody else to occupy my mind or find a new hobby, meet new people. Another saying "action is the enemy of thought."
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yeah i agree its just the same people and objects but i do know how it feels the prrson i was with cheated on me and said sex was diferant for boyfrends and frends lol what a bitch
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Does he go to your school? Why don't you just talk to him. Chances are he likes you too.
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You know what, for everyone to know on this website, Nodo_TheRanter is a joke. All his comments are rude and try to make everyone feel worse. Maybe if we wasn't so unhappy with himself he wouldn't be such an a**hole to everyone else. If you can't say anything nice, don't say it at all. Now . . .
I know exactly how you feel. I broke up with "the love of my life" in my senior year of high school. And from 2005 to a couple of months ago she's always been in the back of my head. I'm married now and it took me a long time to realize that was just a stepping stone to where I'm at now. However, it did help me to talk to her again and ask her why we broke up and if she still ever had thoughts of us. I needed closure. I got it and now I'm a better person for it. So maybe you should talk to him. Tell him, how you've been feeling and ask him if he's ever felt that way. Be prepared for the worst or the best. Either way you will know where he stands and you can move on with or without him. If he doesn't see what's special in you, then he's not for you.
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If you're really that crazy about him, then you need to pluck up the courage and tell him at some point. Contrary to what most girls think, it's perfectly acceptable to do that. I once had a girl call me and tell me that she liked me. I was shocked as hell obviously. If we weren't living on opposite sides of the Atlantic, I might have gone for it. The whole point is while men may find that desperate, I found it very admirable. This is a woman who really knows what she wants and is willing to go out for it. My point is there's nothing wrong with telling him. Go for it and find out!
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Well, I also had the same experience one and a half week before.. I did a mistake by just checking her mail, she got so angry that cut all contact. Not even a phone call or sms.. I sent more than 300 sorries, nothing.. After 1 week i got an sms, stop txting me.. I dont want you anymore. Well, that shit hurt.., Real hurt.. So i'm still in my healing process though it is hard koz i see her, think of her all time, remember of things.. This kills, I die everyday, a simple death is better than a broken heart. Plus forgetting someone you love is just like trying to remeber someone you never met..
I really think it never goes, but it does diminish a lot with time, plus when you will find someone who will love you like you do. That's it!! You'll just think He/she did not deserved you!
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If you are absolutely sure he wont take an interest, your best bet is to try and forget and move on. Although this may hurt and take a long time, it will work eventually. If you want to get over him, take active steps to socialize with others and if you catch yourself dreaming about him, tell yourself to stop and re-evalutate what you have been thinking. But are you sure he wouldnt take an interest, tell me what are your reasons for this? :) Take carex
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It's definitely not easy to forget someone you once loved. But time does heals all wounds. No matter what, never give up as you'll find another love, perhaps a better one. Breaking up doesn't mean the end of everything. You can store the happy memories you once had together, forever in your heart <a href="http://www.puretravel.com/Guide/Africa/Eastern_Africa/tanzania">holiday tanzania</a>
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life is miserable, we are all miserable till the end
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1. Find a nice hobby( a really nice one)$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$. 2. Do it everytime you can24/7&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&&. 3. Forget your love
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look...I'm still lovin' my very first true love...we had just 1 month together...but I was very happy with Her...but..she had an 8 month relation before our relation...he can't forget her old boyfriend...and she decided that we must break up...now,she is with her old boyfriend...Well..if you feel,that you must cry..just cry..but when you have an occasion to be happy..?BE HAPPY..SING..DANCE..LAUGH..SAY JOKES..DO YOU FAVOURITE HOBBY..AND IF YOU'RE NOT ENGAGING YOUR MIND TO CIRCLE...YOU'LL FORGET HER/HIM...I know..it needs time...For boys..i recommand..Alie-Only One Woman..it's a very nice power ballad...and if you'll keep the refren in your mind,it will help you;)...I know..memories will kill you...but listen,guys..girls..! JUST THINK THAT YOU CAN BE HAPPY WITHOUT HER/HIM!..this is love..it's like a death..when someone that you loved dies..you must cry for him..
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hey, I know exactly how you feel but you can't forget someone you love, you know? You just move on. Life is full of pretty things and someone out there admires you and you have no idea. I hope you get over it and enjoy life as it is intended!
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as a guy you should talk to his friends and see wat he says about you and if nothing or that your his friend than try to tell him and go from ther.good luck
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don't spend time with them!
pick out there bad features and overplay them!
cause an argument with them!
Get with a random!
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I once wasted 2 years chasing some dude around who didn't want to give me the time of day. I was furious.I knew I could have had him but since we worked together & I really needed the $$$. We both had issues that we needed to work on as well. I have major family drama as so does he. He had other bigger problems that he needed to care of. I decided not to go totally berserk & really throw myself at him. I finally got tired of the situation & decided to quit my job & moved to a new area. It's been almost 3 years now since I've had any contact with him but the feeling is still there for him. It is so HARD to just stop having feelings for someone you once cared for. I don't know if I can believe time heals all wounds. I'm still trying to cope with the loss. I'm hurt over losing him & never being able to contact him. So I feel for your pain as well. I wish I could take a pill so I could just forget....Usually going to the beach, exercising, & going to bookstores help me but these days it's getting harder to get myself wired for the day. I hope you can get over your loss as well as mine too.
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Some of the earlier posts really made me chuckle!! Pick a fight with them, play out their worst features, life is miserable to the end, get high, get drunk....thanks for the laugh you guys. I really needed that. :)
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Eat a small piece of them and they will be with your forever so you don't really have to forget or yearn to have them.

I did this with my pet hamster. he was good.
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This is very normal. You'll get over him eventually, even if you don't think you will.
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Does it feel as if there isnt ever going to be anyone like him? He is a challenge but not exactly unattainable so that you would give up. It feels as if you two would be perfect together, and there are so many signs that he might like you as well.

I dont mean to sound harsh, but what you are feeling at the moment is probably not love. The above were all signs of infatuation, a build up of hot air.

A useful remedy is time. Give yourself time to let some steam off. Avoid seeing him or things that remind you of him. Give yourself some YOU time. Go out,meet people, live life. Through the process, time will allow him to fade and let in someone new!

It will be difficult at first, but if you persist, it will be easier as time passes. But remember, stay motivated! You probably wont forget this person, but sooner or later, this person will not mean much to you. Just think, when you look back in 20 year's time, will this person still matter?

Hope that helped, and good luck! =)
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for women, it is normal, it might not be fixed. i m a guy, and i have LOVED this girl, Holly Hankenson since 4th grade, i m in 8th grade, and i still love her, but her twin sister Bailee is just as hot, and they are always close to me, and i think holly kinda likes me, i m soooooo distracted, i m still on the honor roll, but just bearly, and i m just holding on to a passing grade in Algerbra, i just deal with it
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Hi All i am 22 3 motnhs back i fell in love with this girl i love her so badly that i cant live with out her when i told her my feelings she denied on me stating that she had just broke up with some fool who fukin told her that he loved her cause he wanted to sleep with her so i stopped talking to her some how we contuined to be frnds and i kep on trying one fine day after a month the golden day when she said yes to me today after 3 motnhs she told me that the old guy smsd her and she also replied to him she says she hates him but am so confused id so why did she even reply back to him i dnt know wht do i do i mean i know she loves me a lot but then i dnt wnt to ruin our lives as i feel she is not able to get out of her past i lover her like hell and m ready to do ny thing to help her out but it scares me thinking that what would be our life if we get married and later these issue come in between us she know i love her a lot but also i dnt wanna spoil our lives please some one advsie me ...
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Hi all,

I am 22 yrs old guy i fell in love with this female who works with me we met 3 months back and i fell in love with her within a months time when i told her my feeling she denied on me stating that she had a past relationship of 3 months and that she is not yet out of the trauma of loosing some one she loved so i stopped talking to her completely however i kep on trying to some how know thing about her by asking to her friends after a month the day comes when she tells me that she feels even she loves me i was like in heaven its the thrid month going on now she tells me one day that her ex bf called up as he was feeling bad tht she did not wish him this fucker who left her as she did not allow him to sleep with her he told her on her bday that i cant live with u as u were just a sex play toy for me which i could not get a fukking apportunity to sleep with so back to the story she say i dnt wanna reply but she does reply back to him she says she loves me a lot more then any thing nd she hatest hat guy so why is she replying back to that fuckker i love her so much that i cnt live with out her wht to do some one plzz help
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Hi to everyone...When I saw ur writings I immidiatly signed up just to write my comment about how to forget someone you love....I love some1 for 7 years and since that time I never thinked or even loked at anyone else.... That boy didn't even know that I loved him we were just frieds and talked sometimes...I knew everything about himm even his thoughts...one day he discovered that I love him very much ...but he was 4 years older than me and like a boy he had his own adventures of which I didn't like...So I find out that he isn' the right for me ...I tried alll the methods to forget himm(just didn't try the method of going out with some1 else because Im SURE that wouldn't work because I love him so much)...I tried the mothod of doing other stuff,doing sport everything...it lasted for 3 years but DIDNT' WORK ..When I saw him after 4 exapmle 2 weeks my feelings were still more stronger...I tried the other method ,by turning into his friend and discovering his bad side ,trying to find a negative view of him...but Im still loving himm,I turned into more sensitive and loving him like before....HE KNOWS I LOVE HIM,we're talking in the msn ...he told me he likes me ...but nothing more ...it just hurts me more ...Maybe he has some1 else and he dosen't want to hurt me ...I need to go away from him ... maybe he's not writen from GOD to be mine.....BUT I THINK IT;S IMPOSIBLE TO FROGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE (I never went out with him,If I would It would be even more imposible than imposible to forget him ).....:S
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only one? i started 5 new things ,quitar, english, painting ,handcrafting etc.NOTHING ....it seams impossible
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I'm sorry to say that I don't have the answer to that question... I still think about the first guy I fell in love with - just about every day. I am right back in that confusing and moody state of mind whenever I see a picture of him on Facebook. And it's been years! You see, I was SO in love with this guy and he pretty much just let me believe whatever I wanted to in order to keep me around (and I naturally chose to think that he was into me). And he broke my heart - of course. Now I have the best boyfriend in the world, and still I think about that douche. So I guess most of us have one of those "the one that got/ran away" people in our past, and we just learn to live with it.
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2 words!
Jack Daniels
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hello folks...I saw that most of the members are active in this site...hope you guys can give me some advice...

I met a girl like 2 years ago...and we were very close since then. we used to chat a lot...talk over the phone for hours...miss each other so much..she said that I was the best person to happen in her life...we had feelings for each other and I know that..we both take care of each other so much...so i just went ahead and told her my feelings...she said she likes me and that's it..she said she cant be with me due to some reasons.I felt so lost....it has been 6 months now and there hasn't been a day that i dint cry at my fate. No matter what i am doing i always think about her. She takes care of me so much that she feels bad when I am down and says that she cant see me like that. She says i need to move on. I feel even worse when she asks me to move on. someday suddenly an old friend of her met her and they started talking to each other.She said she likes him and his family and have no problem with him.I was so helpless...I don't know what to do. She isn't talking or calling me as much she used to do initially. I am in the most important phase of my life applying for jobs and studying...and i don't find any interest in doing anything..She is even helping me finding jobs. She wants to see me in a good position in life without her. all i in my life is her love and how can I be happy without her..its so sickening..I cant avoid her for she is a true sweetheart...she says everyone person has a different importance in her life...even now she cares for me....please help me overcome this problem of mine...I know I cannot have her in my life...
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i had this same problem. sorry got nothin for ya it just kinda goes with time.
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Tell her straightforward to either leave you alone or at least give you a chance. She can't just keep riding the fence to spare her own feelings and sense of goodness when she's tearing you apart.
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my favourite method is to eat chocolate as much as possible or to play online web games all day.
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@: ImAvPD
AMEN TO THAT!
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i know exactly what your saying. my first love and first boyfriend first kiss. was so special to me. this is probably going to sound pathetic but its been four years and i still think about him he is always in my mind. everytime i see him i feel like im melting. when he looks at me it hurts because i know i will never get another chance with him. i was so young and immature back then and really messed things up. now i have a new boyfriend but its not the same. its not him. it just isnt right with anyone else. when he talks to me it hurts to. i cant even talk to him in person anymore but i want to be around him and have him in my life so badly. i just want things to go back. i cant help but think about the past. all the things we thought wed do. i truelly thought he was the one. and i think he thought i was. it sucks how one person thinks that and the other doesnt. i kind of wish everyone was born with there own soulmate. the one. i hate looking or waiting. i just want that special person... i have other things to do. alot actually but i just need that person at the end of the day that makes everything better and not worse.
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Oh God, it's the worst feeling! I once sort of accidentally semi-stalked someone because of this.
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well I guess it was kind of more like stalking than "semi-stalking".
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Time. It heals all.
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I go through that phase whenever Im in a relationship. I dont know if it's normal, but I hate how I obsess thinking about them & always want to hang with them. I guess ppl love differently, just like how ppl have different interest.
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Im actually going through exactly and exactly the same things. I think if you have the chance to tell him that you love him and if there is even a small posinility of you getting together you should tell him. however on the other hand I am aswell finding it extremely difficult to forget the boy I love, it feels like its him that I only need and want and he is just what I am aiming for. The thing is my relationship is more than impossible, I just wish there was a chance of being with him again. Its just wanting something so much putting your life, feelings, family, friends everything aside just one person - him, but its impossible. my biggest advice to you would be time, seriously time does heal alot of things, time changes a lot too.
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it depends on how old you are:
0-10=obviosly your too young,drop it
10-15=just a hormone missunderstanding
15-20=highschool love,you got somethin goin,keep at it
20-...=if it hurts to breathe when your not with him/her GET THEM AS FAST AS YOU CAN!...
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NEVER give up on what you feel, your the only one saying you can't be together and do whatever it takes
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I hope is it normal to love someone go and ask that person is he also love u Even if u know that That person to whom u love also feels the same for u than what happen if u can't gate him believe me only the feeling that the person to whom u love also love u will give u a great relief It will work because what exactly i had gone through If u can't dare to say him directly then first try to know is he love u or not By simply seeing are u important to that person are u somewhat more special to him then his others friends true love can't be hide and if u get it never let it go....
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Why would u want to stop thinking of me?
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Picture/imagine him pooing... :D Good luck!
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I went through the exact same thing, and I don't know that you ever really can stop thinking about someone you truly love and care about. Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never met.
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@: cd3921
is this you selfish woman?
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@: Rssngrl
how about 30, 40, 50, and 60 ?
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I have this problem now and I now we won't ever be together but I will love her forever even if I get married but I can't stop thinking of her
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I've heard people say they will never be with someone they are in love with and will never bet over them with them...

those are some strong and absolute statements

I have found from experience that Perception is reality

why do you feel so strongly about this person...

is it truly them or the Idea they represent?

Most of my Love(s) were almost completely unexpected and i'm almost positive from the outside looking in seemingly impossible match up but i have always been persistent and when i want to be with someone i don't give up easily...

say don't give up on LOve if it is actually love you are feeling
be the best you can be for yourself and be positive things will work themselves out,

ultimately forcing someone to feel or not feel something that they can't or won't is only going to end up in sadness.... even if that person is you.
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The question is, does he like/love/have a crush on you back? If not, the guy isn't worth it. Just tell yourself you don't love him and FORCE yourself to move on.

If you wanna take a risk, just come right out and tell him. The results could be either amazing, or devastating.
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i have had this problem too. finally i had to admit that i was obsessive and the cause of the whole problem. its a pattern/habitual behaviour. you're brain automatically goes there out of habit/boredom.

imho, if someone doesn't want you thats their right and you have to accept that. and if they think they're to good for you, f them anyway.

i disagree that its as easy as finding someone else. that is part of it, but you need to really try to stop being obsessive and to realize that you don't need him and just stop feeling emotionally towards him as much as you can.
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also, thinking or obsessing about someone is like giving a figment of your imagination life like characteristics. the memory can take on a life of its own....
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The best way to get over someone is to get under someone;) if u catch my drift(;
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My best friend has the exact same problem. R u sure ur not my best friend?
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People flirt to get attention most of the time,and if they make you fall in love with them, that really boosts their ego. So...this person probably had the intent to make you think about him, even if he wasn't interested in a relationship with you, perhaps he gazed at you, or flirted with you...or maybe you sensed him some how , so it's surely a two way street. This person drains you. If you really think about it,a person's most precious gift is attention. A person can give you many things, but if they don't give you their attention, they don't mean much , do they? Attention is the most precious thing we have, so we must direct it towards the things that help us grow.
What you have is a terrible unbalance. It happened to me many times, and the best way to cure this is to focus on your life purpose. Be so engaged in this that you won't have time for people that wish to drain you (take your attention). Give your attention (love) only to those that truly deserve it.
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It's not healthy at all to think like that, it's like constant worrying , because you can't act on it, so discipline your mind , relax , find some activities that bring you in a relaxed state, and slowly turn your focus upon what you want in life, and commit to that. Love isn't supposed to drain us. If it drains us , then the relationship is unhealthy and you must get rid of it.
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Here's a very good quote:

Trying to forget someone you love is just like trying to forget someone you never knew. Useless and impossible.
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Hi to everyone...When I saw ur writings I immediately signed up just to write my comment about how to forget someone you love....I love some1 for 2 years and since that time I never thinked or even loked at anyone else.... That boy didn't even know that I loved him we were just frieds and talked sometimes...I knew everything about himm even his thoughts..But, i duno i don't thim that he had even thought of me even once.
ts been from 2 years and i still think about him he is always in my mind. everytime i see him i feel like im melting
when he looks at me it hurts because i know that he doesn't love me , or maybe he forget me , perhaps he fall in love wiz another girl and just dumped me ! I rly duno its just that.. he was my first true love and until now i cant't forget him , and i think now that he doesnot even think of me ! He's older than me for 2 yrs ! But u know what rly rly SUCKS that he is my cousin i see him every year cuz i live in a country aslo him and we see each other obly one month a year.But before when we were kids GOD ! its was rly the LOVE that month that we see each other every day every day can u beleive that just everyday from 10:00 a.m until midnight and sometimes until 4:00 am. the next day , but still our love spented 2 years , well to be more acurate 4 months but we were talking alot in the net or da phone, and iam not stupied that iam dreaming or something , i was feeling it that is intersted but just a sudden he stared to walk away ! Its true that there was nothing serious between us , but stil there was feeling & when just stared to walk away at first i thought that he was mad on me or something but then i duno i think he was playing with me or something or maybe it was rly true love but when we grow up ... it disappeared.
iam rly tired from the net cuz i intered alot of websites in order how to forget ur love ! But still it didn't make any sence !
I just wish that someone tells me what to do and not to say to me ... Oh, all people like that ur gona forget him don't worry ! I hate that sentence !
Well, hope that someone will read my story and give me his/her opinion ! =D
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do some drugsss
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or go get laid
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I'm also in the same situation, I met this girl and we talked a lot together for a week, and we made plans for what we could to together for many days ahead. But after the day we both got drunk and made out, she wasn't interested anymore, and now she barely talks to me. It really hurts to think about that she only talked to me because she wanted to make out with me, not because she wanted to be my friend. She's the prettiest and coolest girl that's ever been interested in me, and now I've been thinking about her every minute for 5 weeks, and I dream about her every night. I talked so much to her, that I messed up the studying for my exams. I can't forget her because we talk sometimes, and I'm just horrified that time may not heal.
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just like everyone else on here i have the same problem too. there this girl that ive known for some time now and at first i didnt really have much feelings for her but we started hangin out more and talkin more and i just grew on her and now shes all i think about. for almost a year ive been liking her and i did everything a guy should do get a girl, pay for movies, dinner, dances, alway be nice to her been there when she needed me and when i told her that i liked her she didnt feel the same way about me. i thought by telling her that i liked her, and just finding out the truth about how she feels would help me move on but it didnt i still like her and think abou her all the time and i just want to move on but i just cant forget. its like every day it gets worse and i like her even more and i think lower of myself for just not being good enough. im breaking down and i feel like im going insane i cant workout the way i used to cause i cant focus. im always miserable i cant open up to anyone at times caue it feels pointless. i see her at school everyday because she is in my class and it just makes the sitiuation harder. i think the only way to forget aobut her is to just stop being friends with her and stop talking to her completley. but idk i wish i could just know what to do im falling apart
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hey everybody are telling the problems and none of them had given the suggestions how to deal that is the most important in our discussion....
now let me tell my story my profession is doctor after 1yr of sincere studying for ms and md exams i did not a seat of my choice now i have joined a nursing home with a decent salary.i meta girl who also work in the same hospital intially i never found her attracting as we used to see only for a brief period .once we both were on same shifts where the patient inflow was little less.so we had lot of time to talk in the mean time we became close .i know more about then she knows me .she never bothered to ask me what i am .but on the other hand she told everything about her like and dislikes .she also told that some one hadfallen for her with whom she was not intrested in her that infact he was torturing her by physicaly .now some how every thing settled.she also told that she was engaged to some one and it was broken for some reason 7 days before the marriage.from my observation she is jovial and out going she spaks tom everyone with same amount respect and dignity .some times i feel that when ever she speaks to me she give much importance .we used to msg a lot latter on from some reason msgs has reduced.but during work time we talk a lot .once her mother came to our hospital thet moment see saw me she told to her i am perfect to their family .it was nice feeling but friends told she would have told in genral not to take it seriously .next day all of sdden that i came in her dreams when everyone was there .this knocked me out on the spot i was flying high untill next day that she told some people had come to ask for an alliance that their birth charts matching she doesnot know much about that and she had told me that whom ever her parents like she is ready to marry .but it hurt me lot i wanted to tell her thatd i am intrested in her but i did not .all this days i did not tell because i just wanted to know her completely andalso let her know about me.but right now iam running out of time should i tell her that i love her . iam confused i really like her but i dont know whether she likes me or not? but atleast her behaviour made me feel that she is interested in me but i never asked about it because i did not want prejudge things wat if she had different meaning to it for her behaviour all in all confused.......
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@: Rahul
NOW SOLUTION TO THOSE WHO WANT TO FORGET
1.sit and think negative points about her and magnify to out proportion
2.when ever u disscuss a topic try to oppose their view no one likes to be criticised
3.indulge in some extreme sports where adrenaline rush is more
4.meet ur friends as often as possible discuss with them and see the response they start abusing her fr making u like this.like this people these are the one who really think about ur happiness not love .love is only to satisfy their need.because friends are the ones whom always be with you forever and their relationship never changes.love doesnt stay for a long some day it has change to some other things either you marry or not.so dont worry if you are not getting the person u like think that god wants u bigger and better.
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@: cd3921
Hi cd3921 (20070)
I was reading your comment. I think out of everyone you might be the one to really HELP me. I loved someone , I screwed up and lost him. Few years later we met again ( he lived out of the country)He again promised to marry me after I told me how sorry I was that I would be a better person etc etc. Then we hooked up but once he left the country 6 months later he broke my heart again. He wanted to be friends I cut him off for some time and jumped into a arranged marriage. Was happy to be a wife but then the man I married turned out to be negative minded about people, abusive verbally and we are not even sexually compatible. He has nothing to say to me besides "I don't know" "Nothing" and "What's going on ?" Now I am stuck with a man I do not love. I fight with myself every day to try and love him BUT I FEEL NOTHING FOR HIM. DISGUST IS WHAT I FEEL. I am currently living in a different state from my hubby due to my work and I feel so peaceful. I pray to GOD to always keep me away from him coz whenever he shows up I end up by the second day hating him and thanking God that he lives away from me. I want to turn my feeling around for him. I WANT MY MARRIAGE TO WORK. CAN u PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me some advice on how I could change myself to be a better wife. And to cap it all I think nonstop of my ex coz he was a much better person Atleast we were both similar with a lot of shared interests. My hubby and I don't share anything in common. I am almost completely sure I don't want a divorce . I don't have kids. I want to improve my situation. I REALLLY need your help
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its easy, get a new hobby ,lets say a yoga class , read some self-help books , dont drink too much to forget him or you will get more wasted,

just believe in yourself , there are still guys can love you. :) ...you just need to move on... i know its hard , but trust me nothing will happen if you still think of him
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I also have the same story with you all
I have been dating a guy for three years, and a long distance relationship because separate college,
currently we broke up, and for the second time, after breaking up, he immediately got a new girlfriend within two weeks. And the girl who became his girlfriend is his best friend who is always make me jealous.
And now I still cant forgive them. they have cheated me, I hate him and his girlfriend, I always pray to God that I can get through these bad times
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wow that is the story of my life ! woooow i almost felt like i forgot i wrote this lol but damn that pretty much happens to me with most guys. Huge distractions leading you to being unbelievably unproductive its so annoying i need help with that too just glad to see im aint the only oneee =] ahhh
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i am wondering if you can share some tips and advice me of some things...i have been in love with my best friend since we were 15 years old and we are both 23 yrs old now the last time i told her i really love her was about 4 years ago..but i just let her know and did not ask her to be my gf...and its just becoming unbearable now..we are still really close until now
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tell him
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xoxolostxoxo
well....I have the same problem as you do right now....when I was five I moved to a new city and my grandparents decided to take me to church with them. My second week there, they took me to the Sunday school room. I hate being in a room filled with lots of people I keep more to myself, because I don't feel comfy around new people. So I sat in a corner against the wall and all of a sudden I see a pair of feet in front of me on the floor. I look up and there is a little brown haired,brown eyed boy. He smiled and said hi and we were friends for awhile, until he hit Jr. high, and I was still a sixth grader and "too little for him to hang with." So we drifted apart and he formed a band and then started acting like he was better then everyone around him because he was talented. Well, recently we became friends again and I have liked him all that time, even though he forgot about me for a few years. I realized last year that all along I have loved him. I told him before x-mas 09 and he has a gf. He asked why I hadn't told him earlier, because if I had everything would be different. But he has been dating Julia for two and a half yrs. And the only thing i can do now is wait for him. I'm not planning on coming between him and his gf. She and I have gotten to know each other too and she's not half bad. But he will come back to me....it's just like Jr. high:) I hope things turn out all right for you, watever the case may be. Maybe you should try meeting new people too. Who knows, maybe there is someone WAYYY better out there for you:)
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xoxolostxoxo
or if that doesn;t work do wat my friend did when the guy she loved blamed her for something and got her thrown in juvie, she couldnt get him off her mind and she ran two miles, then ran on her treadmill, lifted weights, and did a whole bunch of exercising, then took an ice bath and then went to bed......she was so tired she fell asleep...no thoughts of him and the insomnia she had had from when he left her, was gone it worked for her
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just a lil obsesion dont worry u find some1 new ;)
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put away the creepy shrine you built in his honor and please stop peeking in his bedroom at night, im sure his neighbors would really appreciate it.


just kidding, just sleep a lot.
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ziggyonly717
These things take time. I know it seems like it'll be forever, but trust me it's not
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I was going through your exact thought process and feeling... except that was a 6 year die hard Love.... i talked about it and she just.... Dissapeared from my thoughts
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Well that sucks. I hope you can live and forget and soon after move on with your life.
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move on there is so manny guys out thereee!
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@: _Elise_
wtf i dident know abou the name Elise O.O
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My girlfriend broke up with me after 6 months of dating. When the relationship started we were so in love, everything we did together was amazing. I was trying to make a transition in my life and changed schools hoping for a better future. But the school is about hour drive from home so I moved in with my grandparents. So we had a long distance relationship for about 6 weeks (i came home on the weekends) and I moved back. She was happy to hear the news, but whenever we hung out things seemed different, Whenever I tried to set up a date before she would accept and make room in her schedule in a heartbeat, but now I was no longer a priority she spent more time with guy friends than me, and 2 weeks after I came back home she broke up with me. I don't understand, she says she met someone else and that she's happy. I went to her house to try an talk to her, she slammed the door in my face. So I left with a broken heart and a crushed motivation. I need help...
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i can understand your situation "superflyred". It hurts the most when you don't even know the reason behind the distance between you and your girl. It is really unfair that with all of your efforts and sacrifices for the relationship to work,still, you are left behind for someone he/she is not sure to be faithful or happy to be with.
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really complicated and still injuring my senses. I can't i understand my situation, i need help of what i feel, but i still don't know whom to call with
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I had this prob me too...look my friends always say to me that love with love goes...;)that's what i'm gonna say to you ;)))
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i agree... anyways everything has it's own reason
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