how to stop being so obsessed with my boyfriend...

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I know how you feel there I'm the same XD All you can do is keep yourself busy as possible to keep your mind off him. Have you other people you can spend all your time with when he's not around, or a sport you play, or anything like that?

Alright I'm a guy and I have to tell you obsessing over a boyfriend is a bad thing. I knew a girl I was interested in who was an obsessive though I found that out later. It only developes to being worse and worse as the obsession progresses and makes you more likely to obsess should you break up or you may do something rather drastic should such an event occur. Anyways this girl actually let her boy friend control her life and when he told her to burn his name into her arm she did. I'm not saying it's a given that your boyfriend will be abusive but I'm just trying to show you a worst case scenario that happened to a very good friend of mine. She wound up driving most of her friends away because he told her to do so and she could not give up her obsession. Hell to break her of her fear of entering another relationship with the worry of it being abusive that when I dated her I had to show such unconditional love and care that it strained me to the breaking point before she finally felt secure in herself and in others to be trusting again. Don't let it happen to you and I have a big thing with people who do this to themselves and even though you may be a complete stranger I have to say that you are not alone and that if you need help there are always people to turn to. Listen to your friends and if the relationship turns unhealthy drop it immediately and take solace in friends and family. Also it may be wise to ask your boyfriend for a break in the relationship so that for yourself you can break the obsession and go over your feelings and see what exactly caused the overwhelming feeling of need and see if it is really him you care about or the emotional anchor and the need to feel for someone. Please take this into consideration and be careful I hate to see people hurt themselves in such a manner.

god................i wish that was my problem............my bf is overly insanly crazyly an very scarily obsessed with me.

Aaaawww, so cute

you gon' endup scaring that dude away, get some hobbies that you enjoy or hangout with your friends or jst do anything to take your mind off him, we all need our space sometimes

Same here.
If you can't help thinking of him all the time, you may try doing things 'for his sake'. Like sports to look better and to amaze him, cooking to surprise him later, learning things to have interesting conversations with him etc. Thus, you don't force yourself to forget about him but you also develop yourself. This works for me though I tend to be obsessed too:)
For example, when I feel I'm weak without him, I remember that he'd like to see me strong and happy, and so I try to change my mood with this thought.

This is the kind of post that knowing an age would help. I'll guess teen.

It is nice you have such strong feelings for this fella, but they are overwhelming you. And being sad & depressed - well you can't go on like that.

So do your best to to maintain all the things you did before he was in your life - your friendships, family, school, hobbies, interests and so on. In time things will settle down.

If you were older & in a different stage of life I might ask how he feels & have you considered living together?

You're lovesick. Meaning, you're experiencing strong feelings of affection but you're too young and probably too naive to deal with them.