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Husband Must Smoke Weed
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When my husband is smoking weed, or has just finished a nice big joint, he's so nice and happy, and he treats me so well. He says I'm beautiful, he loves me, etc.

When he's not on weed, he's a total JERK. I mean he yells at me, puts me down (along with my family), and says he wants to split up. He also breaks my stuff.

He's a totally different person when he's high. I don't like my sober husband anymore cause he's so mean.

What should I do? I hate to think the only time he's nice is when he's on drugs. It hurts so much. This has only been going on a few months, but it seems to be getting worse.

Probably not normal...

Thanks. in advance, for your opinions.
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In_Your_Dreams (28414)
2009-09-12 09:35:51
i think you should leave him. you be better off and happier with out this person. he is treating you badly and no1 deserves that.
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sansimage (27771)
2009-09-12 15:25:56
What's your question? Is it normal for a weed addict to be nice when he's stoned and mean when he's not? YES!

Are most people addicted to weed? no. But most people are addicted to something, and usually they're not content without it. Don't you know anyone who is just in a bad mood if they don't have they're coffee?
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lawlawl (28433)
2009-09-12 22:33:42
You married a piece of shit
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cassie_07 (28342)
2009-09-13 00:54:35
girl leave him, asap or go for mairrage counceling...
He is abusive!
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cookiegirl (27489)
2009-09-13 07:02:09
have you tried talking to him about it when hes sober? how about when hes high? well, im thinking no woman deserves to be treated that way, i dont know if there are kids in the middle or not but if there are this must be awful on them. if you try talking to him and you dont suceed, try to get out of that situation before its too late and remeber to stick to that plan, i mean as sweet as he might be when hes high dont go back to him cause of something he says when he is, or if he wants to get you back and he says hell change... love yourself, you deserve more, im sure.
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telewheels2001 (28523)
2009-09-15 08:02:16
The weed is covering up something else .. likely it has Zero to do with how he feels about you.

I am not a believer in addiction hocus pocus ... just talk to him.
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usedtorunalotnowieatcake (28464)
2009-09-15 17:09:00
if you can fall in love with a jerk then you can fall in love with a nice guy.
it isn't impossible to find one, the world is practically full of them.
you only get one life to live, why spend it on an asshole who treats you like dirt?
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Anonymous (Story Author)
2009-09-15 17:29:09
Hi all. Thanks for your comments. He's been a little better lately, thankfully. I've talked to him and we're trying to work things out. Though he knows I don't deserve to be treated like crap and knows if he does treat me that way, I will be gone. And don't worry, there are no kids in the picture, and won't be until he smartens up. Just a couple cats, and they're okay. He would NEVER hurt them.
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watermaniac (28888)
2009-09-23 17:36:31
Get yourself to a Nar Anon meeting ASAP!!!!!!!!!
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kennacoconut (28889)
2009-10-10 21:23:27
I have a similar situation. My boyfriend had been smoking since before I met him, and I tried to get him to stop. He tried REALLY hard, but always ended up smoking because he said "it calmed him down". I thought it was just an excuse, since I had been in another relationship like that before until I saw him a day when he knew he had no money for weed, and he was crying and shaking and talking about dying and stuff! Weed apparently DOES chill him out enough to be functional. I mean, since I fell in love with him when he was high it is only normal that I do not like the sober one as much. We figured something out though- he always has weed on him so he doesn't have to worry about waiting for someone to smoke him up, which gives him more time with me. Maybe you and your husband should find a balance too.
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