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I think you should get a divorce, your wife sounds like a right manipulative cow.

Divorce? At the age of 55? What am I to do after the Divorce? Same thing for her too? What would she do without me?

Wth... is divorce the answer to EVERYTHING in this world??? Ignore this retard who obviously has never been in a serious relationship or ever been married... By your response, I think you know this, too, and that makes you a very smart man.

There are worse things in this world than submitting to your wife. It just means she has a very strong personality. There are men out there with very strong personalities that wives must adjust to. It happens in every marriage. It's unfortunate that your wife is unwilling to compromise, but have you tried talking to her about how you feel? If she's good at reasoning, then she must see that your feelings are not healthy for a good marriage.

If there are no problems in your marriage from your wife running the house, and you don't have a problem with it (or just a very little problems), then I don't see why anything's wrong with it. There are marriages out there that are severely damaged out there far more than yours. If you love your wife despite her demanding ways, then I consider your marriage completely normal and fine. Just keep trying to talk to her that you want to make some of the decisions too. Choosing battles is an important part of a successful marriage.

I have never thought or will think of a divorce.
While my wife runs the house her own way she always makes sure all my personal needs are met. And when all my needs are met what more could I want?
It is just that both of like a good fight and she beig the smarter one she always wins. No point in resenting that.
I must learn to accept after all these years, 27 to be specific, the fact that she is smarter than me where the household is concerned.
Also I should not forget all the load that she has taken off my shoulders.
And it so happens that I know I love her inspite of her wanting to be the boss of the home. I know she too loves me though she considers me clumsy at the home front. And she knows I can't be that clumsy or else where would the money to run the house have come from?
With all this self analysis behind me I still am silent after the fight that would have broken out if I hadn't kept mum.
But is the right way to live a life, I wonder.

Are you his fucking wife or something?

Of course divorce isn't the answer to everything, but if someone is unhappy and the other person in the relationship clearly won't change, what is the point of continuing with a failing relationship?

Staying in a relationship because they don't know what they would do afterwards is not a good reason to stay married. Staying in a marriage because you love your partner is paramount I would say. Incidentally, I am married so that just goes to show what you know, doesn't it.

I will take you into confidence. I am somewhat enjoying the silent breaks.
In solitude I get time to reflect on the past years, their turbulence, how better I could have managed them and above all I have started thinking about God seriously. The presence of my wife in the house in no way affects my solitude.
I even think my wife's policy of 'let the sleeping dog lay' is helping.
One thing I am certain. She will never want a divorce from me. She is happy in her own way the busy bee that she is.
I am a diabetic. My tablets appear as if by magic every time I finish eating. My favorite brands of mens items are always in stock.
So why not consider that I have an unpaid live in housekeeper rather than a wife? This way things can continue as per the present arrangement.
Is it normal of me to think of my wife as an unpaid servant without her knowing what I am thinking of her?

As long as your both happy.

She will be happy as long as I don't let her know what I am thinking. But for me it will be just pulling along.

you've probably turned Gay after all these years it happens all the time.

Yes. Whatever is left of my hair is gray. I should be wiser for my gray hairs - Yes?

He said gay, I think he means happy.

27 years of marriage? I doff my cap to you, good sir. You've been married as long as I've been on the planet - not a trivial achievement.

And when someone says I have turned Gay I so straight that I understand it as my hair has turned gray.
Thanks for the compliment. My elder son is only 2 years younger than you.
And mind you I propose to continue with the same marriage because I have somehow got used to being married no matter what handicaps it has imposed on me.
And I am glad to announce that the silent spell got broken sometime yesterday noon.
I will announce the arrival of the next silent phase which should be due within a fortnight.

You see when I said gay i ment older,that's what it means were I come from.Thats life and you probebly like cock now.

I see now that you meant well. Just see how a single word can get interpreted in different parts of the world? I thought being not straight is gay. Gay also means happy as Brothershamass pointed out. Now you tell me Gay also means older.
I have gone into my cocoon for yet another round now. Lets see how it turns out this time.

I am sorry but after reading your posts you appear to be VERY unintelligent and I don't mean that to offend you in any way but the way in which you speak and interpret things is clearly not that of a well-educated or well-articulated person. It sounds to me like your wife has had your balls since day 1 and after 27 years it's NEVER going to change if you remain the way that you have been, so you either need to accept that and move on or you need to get your balls back and let your wife know what is going on.

You say that you don't consider divorce because your wife needs you. It sounds more to me that you need her than she needs you considering the only thing you do is provide the money, she controls everything else including where that money goes and what it is spent on. It's almost like you are a baby or young child and that is how she treats you because it is the way you act.

Going silent for days at a time is rather immature and perhaps you have just been depressed for so long that your mind is shutting down (as you stated yourself that you are not articulated enough to win against your wife in a verbal argument). The way BOTH of your views on your relationship has been only goes to show how neither one of you truly understand what it means to be in a HEALTHY relationship. COMMUNICATION, LOVE, DEVOTION, ROMANCE, UNDERSTANDING etc.. are ALL key components to keeping a relationship healthy and happy. I'm sorry to say that it sounds like there are NONE or very few of these aspects in your relationship and probably never have been.

Of course divorce isn't the answer, it's not your wife's fault that you have allowed her to do this to you for so long and she's gotten used to it for so long that she doesn't need to change because things are working out for her just fine.

My best solution for you would be to attempt COMMUNICATING with your wife, let her know what your concerns are without getting into an argument over it (write it in a letter to her if you must to prevent her from rebutting what you have to say and throwing you off-point). Find out if SHE has any concerns or worries or anything that she feels is missing or needed in your relationship. Let her know that the way she uses her superior intelligence against you hurts you and makes you upset and that is the reason you go into these silent-treatment modes for days at a time. If she loves you then she will understand and be willing to work on being a better wife to you and perhaps she can give you some hints on how you can be a better husband and perhaps a better father as well.

Write us on here and let us know what you do and how everything works out :)

Unless going silent is just a passive-aggressive thing, maybe you are on your way to a new level in your relationship realizing that petty "win-lose" power struggles are unsatisfying.

Maybe look at going to couples counseling as life-mates to discover new & respectful ways of communicating.

Why does it always have to be about who is right! I would think after being married that long and the kids are gone you both could finally do some things that you would like to do together. Marriage is not about fighting or a compitition, it is about choosing to love that person doing what is best for them. I have been married for 17 years we have 2 grown children gone and 2 children still at home, I would never treat my husband like that and if he tried that with me he would be out the door. Good luck!

:T i think its a bad idea :T she shouldnt want everything her way she should take u opinions too... ._.; thats not respecting but owelz :[ ithink no dont stay silent, having some fight is prety fun too its normal u guys can talk :< right? iono