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I absolutely HATE children...
I am a 24-year old female and I absolutely DESPISE children. Anyone under the age of 13 I think is useless, annoying, and a big pain in the ass. When I go anywhere and I hear some little brat start whining/talking/screaming/crying in that horrible high-pitched voice they all seem to have, I just want to take a baseball bat to them. They make me cringe! I want to get a hysterectomy because I hate them so much, and also the idea of pregnancy is DISGUSTING, whenever I see a pregnant woman, I want to vomit, I think they look like nasty breeding sows, and to me a baby is like a parasite that leeches off you, kinda like having worms or something. I know I will NEVER, EVER EVER have kids, but is this normal, because a lot of women want them, and they all talk about the "biological clock" ticking, and I have NONE of that, all I feel is revulsion, disgust, and contempt for pregnant women or women who want kids. They have NO IDEA how horrible kids are, and i read that 40% of parents regret having kids, so I do not want to be in that boat, that mistake is FOREVER, it's a worse sentence than most murderers, rapists or robbers get! Is this normal?
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Maybe you should look into where the dislike comes from.
P.S. "breeding Sows" made me laugh, in my head a little.
Kids are:
"hi im really stupid and i dont know how to read.. or basically anything, so you can never talk to me about anything, and then i whine and am really needy, dont you love that?".
If there only were a 24-7 kindergarten.
You put them in when theyre born, and get them back when theyre 18 and talktoable.
Hey i probably have a business idea right here!
Somebody needs to get laid, big time.
Little squirming piles of useless human flesh do not appear cute to me. A babies cry makes me cringe and a touch gains a shudder. I go out of my way to avoid children....
Too bad there seems to be a lack of males who share our opinions, ne? Who wants a Child to tie you down and suck up all your money?
I would betempted, except I am already spoken for. And he hates kids also!
Sekhmet-
I think most men don't want kids, they just get pressured by their wives, or trapped by some ho that says they're on the Pill just so they can ensure a monthly check for 18 years. Men don't want to be bothered with that crap, for the mot part, except for having a little one of them running around, but they want to make the woman do all the work. No thank you, I enjoy my freedom, my nice figure, my disposable income, and all the things parents can't have because they made a BIG mistake by not using birth control. And I honestly wouldn't CARE what other people do, but parents just LOVE to share their misery and regret with us childless people, by letting their hellion scream in a restaurant, the movies, and generally just ruin our good time. I am SO SICK of parents dragging their kids to R-rated movies at 12am on a weeknight, or to a nice, upscale restaurant, or any place that SHOULD be for adults-only, thereby ruining everyone else's good time! If you cannot afford a babysitter, then STAY HOME! Stop punishing the rest of us! If you parents had some respect for other people's feelings, then maybe we could stand kids more. There's a time and a place for everything, and that includes children. You know?
Maybe I'll just stick them in the trash can with all the other garbage :)
Your comments are harsh and you do need to chill
As a mom who is the same age as you I find all of your expectation wrong !
You dont have to love kids But you certaintly should not hate them. And whats up with only thinking black babies are cute ??
Not that they are ugly But if your a white girl thats wrong or maybe your just a white girl who wants to be black ? Your post was Immature and you need to grow up .
The one key thing I learned from having to deal with these little assbiters is that being a parent doesn't give you an insane love of all children, it just blinkers you too just how god damn annoying your own child really is.
-Peter Sotos
I was a VERY mature child that couldn't wait to grow up. I hated other children, and i loved to hang out with my parents and their friends. But my parents treated me like an adult, and I'm an only child (thank GOD) so that might explain it some. And if you are so mature, you wouldn't go running around saying you hate people that you don't know. I'm sorry you were abused, but hating me because I hate kids isn't going to make your situation any better, now is it?
baam-
No, i do not want to be black, I just think black babies are cuter because they aren't all gross and fat and pale like white babies are. White babies look like fat worms or maggots, all squirming and wriggling around, they are DISGUSTING. And no, i will NOT change my mind, I am married and my husband is getting a vasectomy so we don't end up with any crotch droppings and ruin our lives. But I want to know, WHY is hating children wrong? I have NEVER, EVER met a child that I could stand, not in 24 years on this planet. Maybe when I meet one that doesn't scream, throw tantrums, and otherwise ruin my every public outing, then I will change my mind, but with the way parents let their kids act, I don't think I'll be changing my mind any time soon. I know you are a mom, and I'm sure you think your kids are just the greatest thing on earth, but not everyone else feels the same. Do YOU let your kids run wild in public, annoying everyone else, because you think that they are just "SOOO CUTE, OMGZ"? If you do, then you are part of the reason why I hate children. Maybe if parents actually made their kids BEHAVE and act like HUMAN BEINGS, instead of wild animals, then my opinion would change. But because parents have to put up with their brats making them miserable, they seem to think that everyone ELSE should have to suffer, too! If I wanted to hear constant screaming, yelling, whining, tattletaling, and all the other horrors that come with being a parent, I'd have had a kid! Hell, maybe if I could go to ONE PUBLIC PLACE without having to deal with somebody's kid, I might change my mind, but I'm in no danger of EVER having a nice, quiet dinner, or going to a movie without some baby screaming through the whole thing, so we'll never know. I can't even go to the dog park without having to put up with some farking kid, even though the dog park's rules clearly state "NO CHILDREN UNDER 8 ALLOWED"! it's just out of control! And I KNOW I'll never change my mind, my husband and I had to live with his brother's kids, and they were the absolute WORST creatures on the face of this earth. After having to listen to them for 10 seconds I was ready to remove my uterus myself, without anesthesia, just so I never had to end up with something like that. Children are just horrible, horrible creatures that are constantly ruining my good time, even though I wasn't stupid enough to have one, and it pisses me off!
Fiascoqueen-
I also see a LOT of breastfeeding women in public, and it makes me want to VOMIT. Besides pregnant bellies, it is the GROSSEST thing EVER! NOBODY wants to see that kid sucking on some saggy, misshapen tit, especially when they're trying to eat dinner in a nice restaurant...take the brat to the bathroom, or better yet, if you have to breastfeed your crotch dropping, STAY THE HELL HOME! It's like parents have NO RESPECT for other, mercifully child-free, people, and they just want to make the rest of us suffer along with them. I cannot tell you how many times I've walked out of a public place because I just couldn't take having to hear some kid's annoying high-pitched voice whining about something asinine, or asking a BILLION idiotic questions, or screaming. If you parents want the rest of us to LIKE your kids, then maybe you should stop shoving them in our faces all the damn time! Absence makes the heart grow fonder, you know (although, if I never saw another kid again in my lifetime, I'd die a happy woman). And I'm not sure how hating kids makes you "not a real woman". Like you HAVE to push out what is basically a big turd, and deal with it for the rest of your life, to be a "REAL woman"? Like the ONLY thing that will make you a woman is becoming a mother? I don't think so, not every woman feels the need to be a breeder, and not all of us have that "biological clock" or that so-called "maternal instinct". Whenever I see a kid, I just want to run away as fast as I can go, it doesn't make me want to ruin MY life by popping out a squalling brat, no freaking way!
hurrl33t-
thanks, I'll DEFINITELY check that out, I hope they let us child-free women get it done because I'll be first in line. The more I see of children, the more I want to rip out my uterus and set if afire, so I never, EVER make that mistake. Is it just me, or do most parents look like they'd rather be dead than deal with their brats for one more second?
Our degenerate society likes to push role models on us of utopia. One of those archetypes is to be the perfect parent with the perfect child in the perfect life. American culture likes to sell us ideas and then sell all the products behind that idea to 'make us happy'. Meaning make everyone feel dissatisfied with their lives unless they do what they see in the advertising world (perfect parent with perfect car) and make us think we have to 'do' that in order to be happy.
I have three kids. I didn't like kids when I was young...not all kids but most kids that I found to be obnoxious and overbearing and LOUD. I became a counselor after I had children and discovered a lot of people who also found parenthood less then satisfactory.
Be thankful for those of you who recognize you don't want kids....that you don't have any and stick to your guns about not having kids. Don't romanticize things and then think in a weak moment with Ms. or Mr. Right that the child will 'add' to your happiness. They don't. They create stress just by being children. It is harder to raise kids now then it was 100 years ago without the temptations out there we have right now telling kids to be unhappy with their lives too.
And if you think young babies are bad...try teenagers. They make their young years seem like paradise compared to the changes they go through the Dr. Jekyll Mr. Hyde teen years. Don't think it gets better. It gets WORSE after the age of 13. And to the person that says how horrible it is when you're old and have all this wealth and no one to leave it to or be comforted by...I say bull!
My husband and I worked in social services for YEARS. We saw how adult children victimized their elderly parents...often raiding their bank accounts (power of attorney gotten when the parent had a weak moment), selling all their possessions right out from under their noses, abusing them verbally and physically and all sorts of horror stories. I hate children takes on new meaning when you REALLY see what children are capable of. Children can be just as abusive as adults and our society doesn't like to hear that. But I know...I've seen it upfront from cradle to grave from first counseling families to counseling seniors.
Frankly if you end up without kids and no one to leave anything to, leave it to a charity or an animal shelter for unwanted pets or some other charitable society you might like and count your blessings your unborn children aren't there waiting for you to die so they can get their greedy paws on what little you might have. Sorry but I have no illusions about children. My oldest made it through college and is supporting herself. My 2nd daughter ran off with her boyfriend at 19 even though she had scholarships at her feet and good grades at college...he became her sun and moon and like Golum on Lord of the Rings...became her Precious. Nothing comes between Golum and Precious. My son is almost through high school and does NOT want kids after watching the antics of his sisters all these years. I don't blame him one bit. This time in our history is not a time for having children in my opinion.
I also HATE children. They are disgusting, repellent little vermin and hearing their whiny high-pitched voices makes me want to throw them against a wall!
Pregnancy is just disgusting...having a little wormy parasite floating around in your body and eating your nutrients, and then shoving that blob of flesh out your vagina is just about the nastiest thing I ever heard of.
Why ANYONE would want to give up their whole fricking life to raise one those holy terrors is completely beyond me and probably a sign of low intelligence.
Don't have a hysterectomy though. It's not necessary. Have an Essure tubal done...cheap, easy, no down time, no major surgery.
I'm 23 and had no problem convincing my doc to do the procedure once I explained to him how much I hate children.
Look into it...you won't regret it.
Regardless of age or maturity, some people are not fit to be parents and should not have children.
If they should happen to get pregnant, the responsible thing to do is have an abortion...an unwanted child should not be brought into the world. Period.
It really pisses me off that people see not wanting children to be something "immature" or indicative of a need to "grow up."
Having babies is easy...almost any woman can do it. Raising them is a lot harder, and it is a very mature thing to acknowledge that you don't like babies and don't want one...the alternative is to become one of the many parents out there who had kids due to accident or societal pressure and now hate them/regret having them. I know a TON of women who say "well I love them, but I wish I hadn't had them..." Seems to me that THOSE people are the ones who needed to "grow up" and decide whether or not they liked babies BEFORE bringing them into the world.
I love my mother and respect her, but I don't think she should have had children. It obviously didn't make her that happy. She seems much happier since I've been out of the house.
I do get a little grossed by the pregnancy thing, but I could always adopt, as I myself was.
The thought of being pregnant was disgusting to me as well.
I love that people call us selfish - I cannot see how not liking them is selfish. You don't like broccoli - oh how selfish.
And these last forty years was the first time where we really had a choice on having children or not. I bet there would be a lot fewer of us now if birth control had been invented earlier or even legalized earlier.
Plus, there is the argument, who will take care of you when you are old? The same people that will take care of most of those WITH kids. The people we hire!
I have one child, a 2 year old. She is the most well behaved child I have ever seen, and I didnt have to beat her to make her that way.
I think that if you are so ungratefull for your own life (since your mom was so stupid and disgusting) then you shouldnt B**** about other peoples kids...just get rid or yourself. The world needs fewer self centered, stupid, selfish people.
I dont take my child to adult places, I pay for a sitter. But if you are going to go watch a G rated cartoon then shut the F up about crying kids. That is a place for children, as is the ice rink and the carnival.
I know from personal experience that kids are not innocent beings, last week I read in the papers that a 4 year old, an 8 year old and an 11 year old mugged an old man in his home. Kids might have been innocent and naive in the past but I don't think that's the case anymore.
P.S. To the 12 year old (BabyMunkey) who posted earlier, if you really are asmature as you say you are, why don't you respect other people's opinions and try being nice yourself, bitch. Oh and to babyangel, if you are also so mature, telling people you don't even know that you hate them certainly isn't proving your point. What is it with all the kids being so hypocritical?
I just came from the Pacific University Luau, and there were 2 families, obviously friends. The older preteen kids were horrible, yammering, bellowing, kicking the bleachers like a rifle shot. The toddlers sat on Mommies laps, yapping & blathering loudly, a running commentary during the whole luau, like they were home watching DVD's. The retard dads couldn't even pull their thumbs outa their rumps enough to do more than Shush the kids. The more hate looks, and people mouthing WTF at them, --the daddies would shush more---but the kids would get worse and more in our faces.
Obviously the Luau had no security to deal with disorderly people.
I know people who have HORRIBLE kids, and they truly believe are Wonderful.
My sis & a coworker, they wax POETIC, gushing over their demon-spawn, it's creepy, sounds like dating talk, not mommy talk. I see both kids as acting predatory & sociopathic, no empathy. I've lost all respect for both Mommies and think it's their fault and they are hurting their kids. Disgusted with them.
I once asked my Mom if she would have kids again and she said no, it's just too much of a price to pay, not just financially. I know horrible kids make it very hard to stay married, seen it break up marriages time & again.
I try to pretend to admire people's babies, but really have lost all interest. If the kid is well-behaved then I'll be impressed--that shows the parent actually put an effort into the kid, more than throwing money at the soccer, music, whatever coach.
RE: pregnant chics ---last thing I want to look at is the former "Hot Chic" who thinks she's "All That" letting it all hangout, poke her bare gut around, especially the protruding belly-button. ICK. Says "Big Attention Ho" desperately.
RE: people dragging their brats to socially inappropriate events--yeah!!! When Superman was getting violently beaten, I could hear a 2-year-old screaming, and the mother just kept snuggling up to her John of the week. Always inappropriate movies or events that kids will hate... And it's not like the rest of us didn't pay good money to be there!
You are all looking at the wrong person. Kids are not born bad....bad parents make them that way. People like you make them that way. People like the mom who tells her own child that she isnt worth giving up her life for....they make them that way.
My child would never dream of making a scene in a public place or causing problems in the neighborhood, she isnt being raised that way. If a child is misbehaved it is the PARENTS fault. Hate the parents who take their kids to rated R movies....would you have sat still at 2? It is not the kids fault.
I am pro choice, however I think only wh*r*s use abortion as birth control. If you dont want kids then dont get pregnant in the first place.
If you dont want to see a pregnant woman's belly, then dont look. When you are pissing yourself in a nursing home you will be damn thankfull that some of us had kids....because they will be feeding you and changing your diapers, while the world talks about how annoying old people are.
I think it is ok to not want children, or even find them annoying. I do not think it is ok to lash out at those who dont think like you. That is exactly what you are complaining about, yet you are all doing it also.
Crying, squalling, drooling, screaming babies and kids are NOT CUTE!! Neither my hubby nor I can even BEAR to be near them in stores, restaurants, etc. and feel they should be barred until they are trained to act properly. At our ages, we've talked to others with grown children and over 90% WISH they never had had them!! They spent all the good years of their lives raising the brats, spending all their money on them, paying their way through college, etc. only to have grown kids who have only moved away and rarely have any contact with them whatsoever. Or they became involved with drugs, etc. and caused parents nothing but grief and distress. So what IS THE POINT in having "rugrats" as people around here call those dreadful "things"?? Plus...the toll on the woman's body is tremendous! Nine months of horrible sickness, body deformity and the pain and torture of giving birth which ruins a woman's body forever. My husband loved me and never wanted me to endure such horror. Um...true....civilization has to go on..hence some type of reproduction...too bad just not in a lab or testtube. lol. Actually, since our generation was the BEST, it's sad to think we can't just exist forever...or become young once again...without ANY new people who will only ruin the earth. Oh well....realistically speaking, we cannot change things, but I am SO HAPPY we did NOT contribute the over-population of the world and SO happy we never had rotten "rugrats". We are VERY content with our fur children....five dogs and seven cats who share our home and have excellent behavior. Hey...I carry their photos in my wallet and when some idiotic "mom or grandma" gets out ALL the photos of her nasty brats, I get out the photos of all my fur children and show her my own precious babies! :-)))
So...to sum it up, I feel not liking or wanting children is very normal for some people...BUT it sure is best for a woman to have a tubal ligation (safer than the pill) and a man a vasectomy. In fact, I am a proponent of tubal ligation WITHOUT parental consent as soon as a girl is old enough to get pregnant. It would prevent the birth and mistreatment of the hundreds of thousands of unwanted children. And yes...tubal ligation should be done only IF a girl requests it.
Oh well...I've had my say on this issue.
Okay, so you hate kids. I got it. So? Don't have them. Have your tubes tied and the problem is gone.
Don't take a baseball bat to Other people's children though, and don't pass your judgements on against pregnant women. What THEY do is THEIR choice and none of your business.
Me, I can't have kids. My bones won't take it. Sometimes when I think about it I get depressed. I know it is a lot of work, but still it would be something I would have liked at some point.
Tobra
I am a 45-year-old man, and the founding 'nonfather' of Conscientious Nonprocreators Contranational (a Yahoo group). At least since I was 18, I resolved never to add another human being to the world's population. (If I could add another panda, I would be delighted.) I am fortunate to say that I know for certain that no woman got pregnant because of me --let alone having a child or getting an abortion.
Rather than dealing with the issue of 'hatred of children', perhaps we should address the question of how early a person can consent to sterilization. If a 15-year-old girl (to pick a number) can 'legally' get pregnant, have a child, and receive health-care all the way, can a girl (or a boy) of the same age consent to a sterilization without the knowledge or approval of the parents?
I believe that motherhood can be a 'wonderful' thing, under the right circumstances. Those circumstances are not here today. If humankind gets serious about reducing the global human population through refusal to have children, perhaps we can create such circumstances for future generations. This may take about 120 years...