I am a 30 year old virgin

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try going on a dateing website. there is somebody out there that is your perfect match. but dont let your insecruity come over you. DONT WORRY theres someone out there who was meant for you!

Hi, well you might die alone if you don't do something about it. I'm guessing from your post that you are around women, so whats the problem? If you are waiting until your comfortable around a girl to ask her out you may die a virgin! I don't mean to sound crule but grow a pair and ask a girl out. If she goes out with you for Gods sake don't tell her everything that you posted here. Good luck let us know how it turns out.

No offence, but try to slim up a little =/. Like iwondered, though, try a dating websight. Or even a newspaper! My mom got a divorce from my dad, and she found her new boyfriend in the newspaper. Opprotunity is all around you!

P.S. Or you could just look for the "Teddy Bear" type.

It appears it is too late for you I suggest you become a closet homosexual

Wait until you're married. You will appreciate your partner more, and you will not incur God's wrath.

I doubt your looks are the problem. Most girls go for personality (or social status aka money). It sounds like you feel very self conscious when you talk to women, and they can sense that. If you feel good about yourself, you are far more likely to attract a woman. My suggestion is to join a group of some kind - perhaps a volunteer organization or a club of some kind where you can meet other people who share your interests. That will help you socialize better and make friends. And even if you don't meet the right woman through the group, you'll have the skills you need to do so in another setting.

If you never try then it is your own fault.You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself,No woman wants a man who is complaining or suggesting his weight is a issue.If you never try then you will never get any thing but once you do you wioll kick yourself in the ass for doing it sooner.After all i consider sex to be one of the best if not the best ever to pick you up or just give you a purpose in life other than being a drone robot working and barely living in this miserable world we live in.....

maybe you should try to find a girl who had never been out on a date and is close to your age. if you like some one ask them out, its worth a try either way.

whatever you do...when you meet a girl and you 2 dont know each other...dont be afraid to be yourself.. Be 100% honest and just "be yourself" if you two dont like each other..you dont ever have to talk again.. but at least you were completely honest. as opposed to if you made up a peachy story hoping that she would like you better if you had a more interesting life...b/c later on down the road if you two get together on lies.. its not gonna work out b/c either you are gonna have to continue lying to her til the end about these things..or eventually tell her the truth and its gonna hurt her and possibly ruin the relationship.. there is someone out there for you. All you have to do is go about it right. and im EXTREMELY proud of you for still bein a virgin. It shows you have character. And you will respect yourself even more when you finally lose it to the "right" girl. So keep it up and dont give up. and be confident with who you are. Just because the majority of the world is stuck up bitches...doesnt mean they all are ;). you will find someone who wants you for your personality more than anything.. And those are the best relationships.

go on a dating website and get this software called photoshop and then make yourself look good looking on your photos then all the women will love you

go to vegas get a legal hooker spend a week there getting a crash course in sexuality come back and be a pimp or you could be gay either or its up to you.

I voted that it was not normal but only cause your already 30 years old. Im 23 years old and I still havent found the girl I want to be with so I dont think theres anything wrong with the not having sex part. Did you grow up with a father or atleast somebody that could show you some pointers and guidence? If your not getting anywhere because you dont have the confidence too. I recommend to go and workout at a gym and if your masturbating, too stop. the gym is perfect to looking and FEELING great. You have no idea. workibg out is like the best drug anybody can ever invent for you. Infact its so good, it should be illegall, hahaha. In my experience, im more CALM, more energetic, and I think less about saying something. In other words, im not self consious, but instead im actually more TALKATIVE. I highly recommend this for you. trust me, your never going to have a situation where you dont know what to say when your talking to a woman, its just going to come to you naturally. Also I would highly recomend to stop masturbating because it seems to make you less agresive when your next to a woman. You see, what attracts a woman to a man is a man who takes the lead and makes his moves. but If you lost your appepite for a woman becase you masterbated the night before, then your not going to be that willing to chase the woman you want, and infact will more likely want the woman to make a move on you.

There is no straight cut answer to this, it either does or doesn't happen. If you want ADVICE there's ALOT to find, hehe.

listen mate I was in the same posision as u at one point but I got over the herdle asked that one girl to come back tomine and after that I was like woooaaaw I'm so confident now I can't get a girl out of my bed so u just need toget past the first barrior :)

I can really relate to your situation. I'm 32, and a virgin too.

I know exactly how you feel about talking to women. Reading your story makes me feel like I'm not the only one.

If it makes you feel any better, I'm jealous that you have kissed a girl... I never have.

I think that if you don't rush it, wait for the right person, you'll be glad you waited.

I hope you can gain confidence in your decision; you know that it's not your looks or anything personal, but maybe it's just lack of confidence. You won't get a date if you don't ask :) Girls love strait forward guys. An internet dating sight might be a good idea, or some sort of 30 second dating. Even just joining a club or something to meet new women. Good luck!

hey dont worry about it, really. this society makes it seem like we need to have sex to be accepted, but just ignore all of those people suggesting that you should go to vegas or whatever. just wait for the right girl. and your definately not running out of time. i know this guy who never got married till he was 50 and he is so happy with his wife and family. just work on getting some self confidence and everything else will fall into place.

If you want to have someone to share your life with your going to have to take the plunge and start asking girls out. Try asking them out for dinner and then just chat to them about anything, you will soon realise that its not all that difficult,yes you will get a few rejectios along the way but what guy hasn't i've had loads but then i've had a lot of successful dates too.
The trick is to not let it get to you if your rejected its their loss not yours and if you get a date don't come on to strong like your expecting anything other than a nice meal and good company.Get a book on body language it will help you gauge how your doing and wether its worth asking a particular girl at all (never ask a girl out who folds her arms in front of herself when your talking to her) that's a sure sign she's not interested in you, look to see if her stance is relaxed.

statisically speaking if you just walked up to 1000 women and asked them for a fuck at least one would say yes so asking them out for dinner on you has got to have a much mcuh higher success rate.

Lets face facts here.You need a good shag...
A woman wont make you happy,[not unless you find nagging and credit card debt a turn on].

Knock back a glass of scotch ,march on down to a reputable brothel ,and they will make you a very happy man indeed.
The best thing about working girls is they do all the work!!!! bless em

If you were smart, which you seem to be in the least reasonably smart, you would simply take Ilovesmellybox's
advice, forget a relationship, it's a stupid concept, go get a shag if that's really what you need.

You could be like me and not realize it, not wanting anyone else in your life is normal enough to me, then again I'm emotionless so, maybe you like the whole "love" idea.

Ask yourself honestly why you haven't had a sexual relationship. Are you a workaholic/shy/etc?

The fact that you described your physical appearance but not your personality says a lot. Focus on developing yourself from the inside out. Work on your people skills, stop being complacent if you are, spot your communication weaknesses and work on them.

Get over your fear of dying alone. We can smell desperation from a mile away and it's a big turn off.

Just find a shy mormon chick who wants to wait until marriage to have sex. Then get married and you will feel more comfortable having sex because your married! sounds good to me?

Hello there,

There is something you need to understand. Ever since the beginning of mankind, man has always taken the initiative to woo the woman rather than the other way around. Automatically, this means that by default men have to be more prepared to take rejections. If you are willing to accept that, then I would like to think that it will help you gain more confidence. This is just the fact of life. From your posting, it would appear to me that you just don't have the confidence of asking girls out and this could be it.

I totally agree with other posters that you could try a dating website. There is such a large pool of girls there that even if one turns you down, it will be comforting to know that there are always others.

Despite all this advice, it still doesn't explain why I'm a 30 year-old male virgin myself.

homie you cant weigh 290 pounds and expect to be picking up hoes.
hit a spin class my nigga

good for you

dont worry man i know a few guys that are in there late 20's and still virgins. i'm 26 and i've only had sex with one girl. she was my g/f for about 3 years. the whole thing was a freak accident. i just got drunk one night and she put the moves on me. we ended up dating after that. however, we broke up like 2 years ago and its been back to same routine. i just don't have the balls to ask a girl out. its definitely a confidence thing. plus i'm totally retarded around girls. so if it makes you feel better you're not the only one. i guess the only thing people like us can do to is just go for it and say fuck it. shit i should take my own advice.

it only means u know how to control ur self.. nice man!

Get it sorted out. The longer you leave it the more difficult it'll be. You really don't want to live your entire life without knowing the beauty of sex, do you?

dont worry if your nice and respectful to girls then you'l find someone. remember most girls dont like asking guys out so if theres a girl you like, compliment her and just go for it! im sure you wont die alone, theres someone out there waiting for you.

Dude, if you're a white guy, head on over to someplace like japan or thailand. You can be confident that whatever the hell you say will be greeted with open arms. Most of what you say they won't understand, but your being white will make it oh so interesting. And if you have no confidence at all, you can have confidence in that.

White nerds and asian girls go together like locker rooms & funk, and the reason ain't that these guys are smooth or confident or rich or handsome. Try it, you'll see.

It sounds that maybe u gotta be more comfortable and love yourself more. It's harder than it sounds but if u can't truly love yourself, who can you love?

Well let me tell you. I'm the guy and I'm sure I'm not alone when I say this I'm not attracted to beautiful women I'm attracted to unique women and women with a sort of crazy or gipsy like attitude. Its not what on the outside its what on the inside. Be proud of who you are and you feel find your soul mate when you least expected. It took me 3 marriages to find mine and now I am happy. I also don't know how to ask a girl out and if I do what to say on the date, luckily my wife and I are the same so it was easy we met and there was no acting just be ourselves and it was strange and easy. I knew she was the one the first time we met. So don't worry she is waiting for you out there and you will find her one day.

Sorry but you lack initiative and confidence on a lot of different fronts and that is why you're a lonely virgin, unhappy & companionless guy - not just at the moment - but all the way through to age 30.

You've "never even tried" -well how's that working for you? You feel "pervy" and "uncomfortable" - what are you, a prude?

I agree with most of the posters here - get off your butt and DO something - almost anything. Here's a tip - you pretty much can't fail any worse than you are now.

I'm sure you can find a nice weirdo girl on here who would be willing to sleep with you.

become a wedding photographer!

You really should be trying harder and try to gain some confidence first of all. But don't let this drag down your self-esteem. Remember this; comparing how many girlfriends or how much sex with other men is a bit like comparing the size of your muscles/penis: it may make you envious or insecure or both, but it's hardly the true measure of a man...

hey man keep your chin up high dude get on a dating website i feel the same abit pervy but i talk to girls anyway jus try your best and block out emotions they r probs whats slowing you down and yes u r defenatly normal

dude girls like getting talked to as long as you do it in a respectful manner. and when you do get together take some time before you start getting all grabby feely. you most know shes gonna like it. do it slowly at first and then use your instincts.

Dateing websites, there are almost 7 billion other people in the world, someone is bound to like you.

don't worry. There are over 6 billion people on this earth there has to be at least one person for everyone.
You just need to walk up to the next beautiful girl you see and ask her out. Don't worry about the consequences either she says yes or no. what do you have to lose.

Most people find it hard to hide the fact that their gay.

Some of his weight could be from muscle..not everybody is made up of tons of fat you know. And muscle weighs more than fat. I am 145 bs at 5 feet 4 inches, but I know a girl who weighs 130 at the same height and she is bigger than me.

Spend a month in Thailand. You'll be beating them off with a shitty stick.

i am a 31 year old virgin myself, i know how difficult it is.
i too wish i didn't have any problems and could find someone right for me.

that IS intense. i don't know man. women are out there.

what about one of those blow-ups? get yourself started

Make friends and hang out with them, and then their friends. Youll find the person eventually. And you dont have to open up right away. You'll meet somebody who you feel comfortable talking to and all will be fine.

I must admit 30 is a little late to still be a virgin...but that doesn't mean anything. If you're sick of not having a girlfriend (and I suspect you are), then there are tons of books out there on how to pick up women. I know this industry has been stigmatized as being some misogynistic scam, but the truth is that many principles in some of those books really do work. There is also no 'definitive' book or author on how to get dates with women. Just shop around and read and study and think and plan and sort out the scammers. Anybody can get a date if they set their sights on getting one. If you just sit around, you'll maybe get one date every 10 years. Get off your ass and do something!

Dude i am in the exact same persion as u accept i am only 18 never had sex or a gf :( it sux.

I dont understand why it happens people are always saying that there is some one out there for u but some times maybe its just not true