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I am a 30 year old virgin
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I have never had sex, or had an actual girlfriend.

I did once kiss a girl, but that was 8 years ago.

I am 6'2 290 lbs full head of hair, nicely kept.
I have all of my teeth, good breath, no skin diseases. Not good looking, but not terribly bad looking either.

Now, I have never tried asking a girl out, but I have never been a position where I felt comfortable about it either. I always felt pervy every time I try to talk to a girl.

I am a afraid I am going to die alone. :(
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dont worry man i know a few guys that are in there late 20's and still virgins. i'm 26 and i've only had sex with one girl. she was my g/f for about 3 years. the whole thing was a freak accident. i just got drunk one night and she put the moves on me. we ended up dating after that. however, we broke up like 2 years ago and its been back to same routine. i just don't have the balls to ask a girl out. its definitely a confidence thing. plus i'm totally retarded around girls. so if it makes you feel better you're not the only one. i guess the only thing people like us can do to is just go for it and say fuck it. shit i should take my own advice.
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Do you still know her
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I agree but sorry about u and ur gf
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The bright side: Yes... Cause there is a bright side to being a 30 yo virgin... Here comes objectivity. Most couples nowadays are a real joke. They are hasty to get their relationships to the next level, a level they will never reach cause they are missing the real point: Are we really made for each other... When the obvious no appears in front of their eyes with the fact that and all they had in common to begin with was a sexual urge, they leave each other and on to the next mismatch, quick because if i'm a certain age and still single, I'll be an alien, plus, I don't wanna die alone! What about us? Do we know loneliness? I think we do... thus we're independant, a good point if you ask most people. But mostly: Do we know loneliness enough to value that cherished person more than anything once we find her? Will that knowledge be deep enough to motivate us not to cheat or lie to her? Will we remember it enough to resist the desire of going to someone else the minute anything goes wrong? Or will we tell to ourselves "I don't care about that bitch, there's a million fish in the sea!" like most people? I'll let you guess what I think. We have a problem with making the move, but those 30 years of loneliness will probably be an asset once it is made... cause not many people will agree with that, but being a virgin for such a long time is also a sexual experience... an experience of self centering and introspection that many serial daters do not have... In fact, what do we lack? We never put our penises in a vagina and that's all there is to it! We have to wait for a girl that puts good guy above good lover... when you say it that way, it cannot be that rare. As for looks, I won't assume that you're fat just because you weigh 290 pounds like a lot of people did... I guess if you're muscular that's a point for you... If not though, you should do something about it... Not for getting a girl... for the pride of saying to yourself: Yeah! I made it to 230! I once thought it was sad, but looks are VERY important... Everybody has standards, and it's not about looking like Arnold but about being appealing to the person you love... As much as you cannot take sexual desire as the whole basis of a relationship, a couple cannot exist without it, and while there are people with some might say weird standards, it is still a fact that not many people like fat...
I hope this helped you a little, even if i'll admit that this post was much more about me than it was about you, hope you find something useful in it.
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I was a virgin until I was 21 about 6 months later I had my first gf and things were incredibly rocky I didn't know how to act and my desire to sleep with other women was incredibly strong. I didn't cheat though. Then we broke up and armed with the new confidence of actually being able to satisfy a woman sexually I approached women like I never had before and had over 10 partners in about 3 months then I met my current girlfriend and things are amazing between us. If your 30 and still a virgin I hope that you don't watch a lot of porn. That can seriously affect your ability to get aroused by a woman my best friend was a virgin till he was 26 and when it came time for him to lose his virginity he couldn't maintain an erection. I attributed that to porn. Get out there and do whatever you can to get laid. Forget these notions of it being special with the perfect person you are a guy not some teen girl who watches the notebook religiously
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NO ONE WANTS TO READ ALL THAT
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@: Mark3L
Exept me.
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and me
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I know how you feel, I am a 50 tear old virin, talk about a dry spell, so horny, masterbate a lot,my cock and I are on a personal relationship so much....
I want to have sex sooo bad but I guess my morals might keep me from going after a one-night-stand with a girl, or trying to find a F--k buddy.

So horny that I once and a while even think of a guy wanking me off and sucking my cock...

Yea so not worry about it too much!
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why did you wait until you were 50 to get laid?
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I can really relate to your situation. I'm 32, and a virgin too.

I know exactly how you feel about talking to women. Reading your story makes me feel like I'm not the only one.

If it makes you feel any better, I'm jealous that you have kissed a girl... I never have.

I think that if you don't rush it, wait for the right person, you'll be glad you waited.
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I think he should find one pronto, make it like a mission or some shit.
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they made a movie about it
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Oh, you two should totally date..
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keegan
I dont think theres something wrong with this. Life is about finding love, not about having sex with total strangers.
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@: keegan
you need to make mistakes to learn how relationships work.
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whatever you do...when you meet a girl and you 2 dont know each other...dont be afraid to be yourself.. Be 100%% honest and just "be yourself" if you two dont like each other..you dont ever have to talk again.. but at least you were completely honest. as opposed to if you made up a peachy story hoping that she would like you better if you had a more interesting life...b/c later on down the road if you two get together on lies.. its not gonna work out b/c either you are gonna have to continue lying to her til the end about these things..or eventually tell her the truth and its gonna hurt her and possibly ruin the relationship.. there is someone out there for you. All you have to do is go about it right. and im EXTREMELY proud of you for still bein a virgin. It shows you have character. And you will respect yourself even more when you finally lose it to the "right" girl. So keep it up and dont give up. and be confident with who you are. Just because the majority of the world is stuck up bitches...doesnt mean they all are ;). you will find someone who wants you for your personality more than anything.. And those are the best relationships.
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absolutely lovely response! there is hope, i want to cry
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Get it sorted out. The longer you leave it the more difficult it'll be. You really don't want to live your entire life without knowing the beauty of sex, do you?
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I doubt your looks are the problem. Most girls go for personality (or social status aka money). It sounds like you feel very self conscious when you talk to women, and they can sense that. If you feel good about yourself, you are far more likely to attract a woman. My suggestion is to join a group of some kind - perhaps a volunteer organization or a club of some kind where you can meet other people who share your interests. That will help you socialize better and make friends. And even if you don't meet the right woman through the group, you'll have the skills you need to do so in another setting.
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You respect that they are virgins because you don't understand that in reality they are dogs just like the rest of us they just have no experience for whatever reason and have no confidence. This woman is wrong the only thing women are truly attracted to is confidence most don't care about money looks are mildly important but not in the same ball park as confidence. Initially personality means nothing you could be the sweetest nicest guy and I'd you aren't confident you will never be successful. Confidence! Confidence! Confidence! Nothing else to say
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well said.
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hey dont worry about it, really. this society makes it seem like we need to have sex to be accepted, but just ignore all of those people suggesting that you should go to vegas or whatever. just wait for the right girl. and your definately not running out of time. i know this guy who never got married till he was 50 and he is so happy with his wife and family. just work on getting some self confidence and everything else will fall into place.
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Dreamboat
your story made me cry...(sad tunes playin in the background)...
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Wow. Some people are really insensitive, and I bet they wouldn't appreciate it if you answered some of their questions in the derogatory way that they've answered yours. Others, though, have got the idea. Are you a christian? Do you believe in saving sex for the confines of marriage? I'm an 18 year old virgin (girl), surrounded by a generation of people who are, well... going at it like rabbits. I, like you, think about sex, and (maybe not like you) wonder if my religion will affect my chances of being in a relationship. People have said I am attractive, I am a little overweight, but in proportion, (with quite large assets if you know what I mean haha) but just haven't had a relationship! I'm proud to be someone who has enough self-control to save myself. Believe me, there are a lot of women out there who will respect you for not losing it meaninglessly. Hope I've helped :)
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I haven't heard any of these guys say they were saving themselves
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YOU DONT HAVE TO HAVE SEX!!ITS NOT A WRITTEN RULE THAT SAYS YOU HAVE TO HAVE SEX!!! I HAD SEX WHEN I WAS 21 AND MOST PEOPLE THINK THATS OLD WHEN THEVE STARTED AT 13 AND 14, BUT THINK ABOUT ALL OF THE BAD SEX THAT I MISSED OVER THOSE 8 YEARS, AND ALL OF THE GIRLS WITH STDS THAT I DINT HAVE SEX WITH TOO.......BE FREE WITH YOUR SEXUALITY, AND TRUST ME, BE HONEST YOUD BE SURPRISE TO FIND A FREAKY GIRL THAT WOULD LOVE TO SHOW YOU HOW ITS DONE!!
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I voted that it was not normal but only cause your already 30 years old. Im 23 years old and I still havent found the girl I want to be with so I dont think theres anything wrong with the not having sex part. Did you grow up with a father or atleast somebody that could show you some pointers and guidence? If your not getting anywhere because you dont have the confidence too. I recommend to go and workout at a gym and if your masturbating, too stop. the gym is perfect to looking and FEELING great. You have no idea. workibg out is like the best drug anybody can ever invent for you. Infact its so good, it should be illegall, hahaha. In my experience, im more CALM, more energetic, and I think less about saying something. In other words, im not self consious, but instead im actually more TALKATIVE. I highly recommend this for you. trust me, your never going to have a situation where you dont know what to say when your talking to a woman, its just going to come to you naturally. Also I would highly recomend to stop masturbating because it seems to make you less agresive when your next to a woman. You see, what attracts a woman to a man is a man who takes the lead and makes his moves. but If you lost your appepite for a woman becase you masterbated the night before, then your not going to be that willing to chase the woman you want, and infact will more likely want the woman to make a move on you.
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i am a 31 year old virgin myself, i know how difficult it is.
i too wish i didn't have any problems and could find someone right for me.
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ok i had sex with a virgin and we had great sex the second time. he didn't tell me he was a virgin until later.
he was 25 and good looking. he was sort of a sheltered shy rich kid. being a virgin made him sweeter and more in love with me.
he was emotionally immature though so i had to ditch him.
i think prostitution is fine (legal in nevada). practice makes perfect. but hiv kills.
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Ollieo
Sorry but you lack initiative and confidence on a lot of different fronts and that is why you're a lonely virgin, unhappy & companionless guy - not just at the moment - but all the way through to age 30.

You've "never even tried" -well how's that working for you? You feel "pervy" and "uncomfortable" - what are you, a prude?

I agree with most of the posters here - get off your butt and DO something - almost anything. Here's a tip - you pretty much can't fail any worse than you are now.
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Dude, if you're a white guy, head on over to someplace like japan or thailand. You can be confident that whatever the hell you say will be greeted with open arms. Most of what you say they won't understand, but your being white will make it oh so interesting. And if you have no confidence at all, you can have confidence in that.

White nerds and asian girls go together like locker rooms & funk, and the reason ain't that these guys are smooth or confident or rich or handsome. Try it, you'll see.
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Well let me tell you. I'm the guy and I'm sure I'm not alone when I say this I'm not attracted to beautiful women I'm attracted to unique women and women with a sort of crazy or gipsy like attitude. Its not what on the outside its what on the inside. Be proud of who you are and you feel find your soul mate when you least expected. It took me 3 marriages to find mine and now I am happy. I also don't know how to ask a girl out and if I do what to say on the date, luckily my wife and I are the same so it was easy we met and there was no acting just be ourselves and it was strange and easy. I knew she was the one the first time we met. So don't worry she is waiting for you out there and you will find her one day.
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And now to suite myself...
To all those who suggested the prostitute approach: Not such a bad Idea, depending on what the person wants... But since it is an easy way that anyone can use at anytime, I take it that he concluded, as i did, that this wouldn't solve anything cause the problem is deeper than the plain fact of not having exchanged body fluids... Go to a prostitute... I bet HE didn't think about that! Surely you've helped him a lot!

And to all those who gave destructive comments like indie_bbw, You're the abnormal ones, hurting a guy who did nothing to you while you have absolutely no interests in doing so, just for the fun of... ... ... I don't get where the fun is... if you do I guess you must feel loved by everyone... try thinking some time... The donkey shit swallowing sluts are not the only ones found on the internet... i guess
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Hi, well you might die alone if you don't do something about it. I'm guessing from your post that you are around women, so whats the problem? If you are waiting until your comfortable around a girl to ask her out you may die a virgin! I don't mean to sound crule but grow a pair and ask a girl out. If she goes out with you for Gods sake don't tell her everything that you posted here. Good luck let us know how it turns out.
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maybe you should try to find a girl who had never been out on a date and is close to your age. if you like some one ask them out, its worth a try either way.
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dont worry if your nice and respectful to girls then you'l find someone. remember most girls dont like asking guys out so if theres a girl you like, compliment her and just go for it! im sure you wont die alone, theres someone out there waiting for you.
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Make friends and hang out with them, and then their friends. Youll find the person eventually. And you dont have to open up right away. You'll meet somebody who you feel comfortable talking to and all will be fine.
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i AGREE
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I'm 20, and also still a virgin. I must do something now. Anyways.... Goodluck on finding the right one, I'm sure you'll find her.
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You will get laid soon great user name
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My roommate is 27 and she's a virgin. In fact, she is like the female version of you... completely. Maybe y'all should talk.
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Before anything else, i'd like to say that everything I state in this post is based on my own feelings/experiences, from a guy who recently stopped complaining about being alone while not having the guts to date anyone. 32 and still no sex either... now is that normal... Before we answer that, we should ask ourselves wtf is normal and can we really use such a qualificative to describe human beings... Pedophiles... they've had sex... I guess they're normal... what about a girl swallowing a liter of horse spunk... She's definitely normal: Had sex. Or scathology... it's sex (or is it?) so shouldn't we consider this normal... F$$/"/ YEAH... Those were just a few demented things that we humans do (and that's just about sex)If you gave the ability to any creature on earth to reason and voice his thoughts, he'd probably tell about what a bunch of f%?%&& ups we are compared to everything else... So to me... no, you're not normal, none of us are definable by such an arbitrary concept... But that's far from the point isn't it... this is about the pain of loneliness... I share this... In that regard, by human standards, I guess we're pretty normal. The fear of dying alone, as a bunch of other fears, is something that everybody has... some might not know loneliness enough to notice though...(or just they're being plain dumb) Now the question is "Do you wish to let that fear define you?" Cause if you do you're finished... and when I say finished I mean it will deteriorate your relationships with both guys and girls to the point of nothingness, cause if in your own eyes you're nothing more than a 30-something years old virgin, that's all you're gonna be able to show, thus repelling any woman in a 60 foot radius and always feeling diminished compared to other men... a life ruining experience I tell you. This is probably where the poor self-esteem issue mentioned a lot of times above comes from. The first step to self esteem is knowing yourself... being aware of what you want to show the world about you, and of what you prefer to keep to a select few or yourself. Who am I could seem like a stupid question, but in modern society, there's a lot of interference preventing us from answering it properly.... Do you really want a partner for life... or just blank sex, or none of the above cause I'm not quite there yet on what I want but with all the sex everywhere in our faces and the modern life entirely thought out for couples I guess I should have some just to fit in. (that's the case for most people, good for you you're seemingly not dumb/horny enough to jump in the infinite torrent of shitty relationships)
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Sweetie,I don't think you should listen to these people...actually I KNOW,Most girls aren't sexual,and that's good you're not sexual,you wont die alone..I promise you that,so keep having chances in life,you'll get heart broken,and you'll find someone new,but it's life. Live it up,and get use to it, ^^
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You are like only one of them. There are others out there too who are 30 and havent had any girlfriends! Your tme will come, but you have to work for it. Just try to be more social and less awkward and maybe you feel pervy when you talk to a girl, but I guess you just have to get used to contact with girls.. I think you should show some initiative and GO for it. or else you might die alone.. you wont want that, so just DO it. Go out more, try to have more social contacts that will help I guess.
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I'm 27 never had a girlfriend never had sex and never even kissed a girl or been kissed by a girl. I don't know what the real problem is with me maybe a combination of issues. I was shy all my life and was never good at making friends cause I had problems talking to people. I don't think I'm ugly but I do worry that I'm not attractive enough to get a girl interested, and me being on disability makes it even worse. Ive been on dating sites for a few years and never had good luck with it. I get badly depressed about this issue and I'm worrying every day and night about the possibility of being alone for the rest of my life. :(
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@: BlueMan
being alone is not the worst thing! what about being stuck with someone you're miserable with?
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Hey, Its perfectly fine to be a virgin, to have not kissed anyone or been in a relationship. As you can tell from my name i am aSexual, i have no sex drive at all, totally not interested, my body doesnt make the hormones, there are a very small percent of people who are 'aSexual' im one of them! :)

Im 17 and it doesnt bother me one bit, if you find the right person who understands and loves you for who you are they shouldnt need sex. I agree with above comments, all people want out of relationships these days is sex, its ridiculous really. Youre fine just as you are and you should be proud of it!!
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well..you guys should be happy, I am 39 and still a virgin :( Hope one day I will meet my dream girl! or at-least any girl
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I'm 35 and a virgin. My religion forbids sex outside of marriage and I have no interest in marriage, so that means no sex for me.
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Wow....we've got something in common. Wish i cud meet you.
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Don't worry it's okay I know loads of people with the same problem but were I live women love virgins , haha , you will find the right one soon wish you best of luck :)
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Don't worry! my aunt is 36 and she's still a virgin
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If you want to have someone to share your life with your going to have to take the plunge and start asking girls out. Try asking them out for dinner and then just chat to them about anything, you will soon realise that its not all that difficult,yes you will get a few rejectios along the way but what guy hasn't i've had loads but then i've had a lot of successful dates too.
The trick is to not let it get to you if your rejected its their loss not yours and if you get a date don't come on to strong like your expecting anything other than a nice meal and good company.Get a book on body language it will help you gauge how your doing and wether its worth asking a particular girl at all (never ask a girl out who folds her arms in front of herself when your talking to her) that's a sure sign she's not interested in you, look to see if her stance is relaxed.

statisically speaking if you just walked up to 1000 women and asked them for a fuck at least one would say yes so asking them out for dinner on you has got to have a much mcuh higher success rate.
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Ask yourself honestly why you haven't had a sexual relationship. Are you a workaholic/shy/etc?

The fact that you described your physical appearance but not your personality says a lot. Focus on developing yourself from the inside out. Work on your people skills, stop being complacent if you are, spot your communication weaknesses and work on them.

Get over your fear of dying alone. We can smell desperation from a mile away and it's a big turn off.
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it only means u know how to control ur self.. nice man!
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become a wedding photographer!
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So what are u saying??? that fat men are ugly???? give me a brake you probably have shallow parents so thats why u think that way.
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MisterGee81
If you never try then it is your own fault.You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself,No woman wants a man who is complaining or suggesting his weight is a issue.If you never try then you will never get any thing but once you do you wioll kick yourself in the ass for doing it sooner.After all i consider sex to be one of the best if not the best ever to pick you up or just give you a purpose in life other than being a drone robot working and barely living in this miserable world we live in.....
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homie you cant weigh 290 pounds and expect to be picking up hoes.
hit a spin class my nigga
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You really should be trying harder and try to gain some confidence first of all. But don't let this drag down your self-esteem. Remember this; comparing how many girlfriends or how much sex with other men is a bit like comparing the size of your muscles/penis: it may make you envious or insecure or both, but it's hardly the true measure of a man...
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Holy crap :( I'm 18 and I'm shy talking with chicks cause most of them are bitches & rather go with the dam potheads any way what I did was played online social games I met a few women that changed me by that I mean made me talk more
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try going on a dateing website. there is somebody out there that is your perfect match. but dont let your insecruity come over you. DONT WORRY theres someone out there who was meant for you!
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you all should quit saying "there's someone out there for you." maybe there is, maybe there isn't. some people never find anyone. and sometimes that's actually ok.
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I'm sure you can find a nice weirdo girl on here who would be willing to sleep with you.
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Lets face facts here.You need a good shag...
A woman wont make you happy,[not unless you find nagging and credit card debt a turn on].

Knock back a glass of scotch ,march on down to a reputable brothel ,and they will make you a very happy man indeed.
The best thing about working girls is they do all the work!!!! bless em
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30! You've got to get on that!

I'd save up and get yourself an escort as a birthday treat!
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YOU NEED SEX EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO PAY FOR IT.
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thats so wrong
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Awwww... :( You won't die alone, I promise. Yo will find someone, out there, someone who loves you fr you are. You sound handsome :)
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Awwah! dont worry im sure u wont die alone! D:
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listen mate I was in the same posision as u at one point but I got over the herdle asked that one girl to come back tomine and after that I was like woooaaaw I'm so confident now I can't get a girl out of my bed so u just need toget past the first barrior :)
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It sounds that maybe u gotta be more comfortable and love yourself more. It's harder than it sounds but if u can't truly love yourself, who can you love?
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what about one of those blow-ups? get yourself started
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I must admit 30 is a little late to still be a virgin...but that doesn't mean anything. If you're sick of not having a girlfriend (and I suspect you are), then there are tons of books out there on how to pick up women. I know this industry has been stigmatized as being some misogynistic scam, but the truth is that many principles in some of those books really do work. There is also no 'definitive' book or author on how to get dates with women. Just shop around and read and study and think and plan and sort out the scammers. Anybody can get a date if they set their sights on getting one. If you just sit around, you'll maybe get one date every 10 years. Get off your ass and do something!
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I'm a 27 year old virgin, your problem might stem from a fear of intimacy or fear of physical intimacy. whenever a guy has tried to kiss me, I push them off because I get extremely uncomfortable. Hope I helped.
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Knowing yourself is the key, try things totally unrelated to the fact of getting a girl, you will then find what interests you, what you're good at, discover those few things where you know that you will rock, learning the feeling of pride and assurance, the feeling of being in control of yourself, then cut-paste that feeling into your approach with girls. Cause I didn't know where I rocked till I was 30... (i don't know if that's the case for you, but if it is, normal again, most people don't know and some will never find out) Then life helped a little with someone noticing that I was a pretty good singer and giving me the opportunity to do it in front of an audience. (Nothing extravagant, 500 people is my max) This year's experience: A thousand worries the minute before, but once on the stage with the mike in my hand, no thoughts, no fears of forgetting my words or giving a false note, no concern about what I look like, how I move or what the people in the audience might be thinking...Control! This made me realize two things- Nothing matters but the present- even if I had sucked (and I did last year... nobody noticed but I did) my confidence on stage would not be hampered and my life wouldn't be worse because of it. Second, and mostly- How come I can do this and still be afraid of asking a girl out? My self-esteem can't be that deep in the toilet? Doing stuff only a few has the guts to do and apprehending what everybody does...what a moron! Since then my relationship to girls in general doesn't seem so grim anymore, just because of a little change in my attitude... just opening my eyes to the fact that some girls might find me interesting... they've been there all along, I had just been blinded by my complexes so much that I wouldn't admit they were there... sure half of them might turn away if they find out I'm a virgin, but that still leaves the worthy half, wich is waaay more than before... Now if I can just cut/paste... my asking the girl out is a song and wether she rejects me or not, it won't make my life worse... that's where I am now...
But not for much longer.
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d42
Go see your Doctor and get a blood test.

I could almost exactly write the same story as you - turned out it was a medical problem discovered by accident casing very low testosterone and therefore little or no sex drive.
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No. I'm not gay and I'm only attracted to women. Plus I'm not gonna have sex with a hooker, that's against the law and not safe.
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Holy fuck! What a pathetic reject, and wow look how many other failures there are!! Were animals, were supposed to mate and breed if your not capable of that or if no one wants you then you might as well be dead. Pitiful.
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Potatoepie
HAH have you ever watched 40 year old virgin. You'll be fine for another 10 years. hahaaha or you could just order a hooker?
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dude girls like getting talked to as long as you do it in a respectful manner. and when you do get together take some time before you start getting all grabby feely. you most know shes gonna like it. do it slowly at first and then use your instincts.
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Spend a month in Thailand. You'll be beating them off with a shitty stick.
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technobanana
Dude i am in the exact same persion as u accept i am only 18 never had sex or a gf :( it sux.

I dont understand why it happens people are always saying that there is some one out there for u but some times maybe its just not true
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You are only 18 so stop being a cry baby. I lost my virginity at 18 and didn't whine about it.
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I voted yes.. but I meant to vote no.
You just need to get some self confidence. You shouldn't feel perverted by just asking a girl out. If you were brought up by some religious fanatical parents or something to that effect consider rethinking your views on life
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Oh man. I hope you don't wonder why you've never had a girlfriend. You can't have a girlfriend if you've never actually asked somebody out.
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No offence, but try to slim up a little =/. Like iwondered, though, try a dating websight. Or even a newspaper! My mom got a divorce from my dad, and she found her new boyfriend in the newspaper. Opprotunity is all around you!
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Some of his weight could be from muscle..not everybody is made up of tons of fat you know. And muscle weighs more than fat. I am 145 bs at 5 feet 4 inches, but I know a girl who weighs 130 at the same height and she is bigger than me.
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Why is his comment rated down? It's the truth. The dude is FAT. Being dishonest with yourself will get you nowhere. I guarantee you the No. 1 thing that will improve his situation is to lose weight. The No. 2 thing is to talk to women. I don't understand why so many virgins act like they don't know what's wrong when they are 1) fat, and 2) don't talk to women. Instead they just mope and cry and whine. Oh boo hoo hoo, I'm a virgin. I swear someone needs to slap some sense into that guy.
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go to vegas get a legal hooker spend a week there getting a crash course in sexuality come back and be a pimp or you could be gay either or its up to you.
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If you were smart, which you seem to be in the least reasonably smart, you would simply take Ilovesmellybox's
advice, forget a relationship, it's a stupid concept, go get a shag if that's really what you need.

You could be like me and not realize it, not wanting anyone else in your life is normal enough to me, then again I'm emotionless so, maybe you like the whole "love" idea.
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good for you
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hey man keep your chin up high dude get on a dating website i feel the same abit pervy but i talk to girls anyway jus try your best and block out emotions they r probs whats slowing you down and yes u r defenatly normal
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Dateing websites, there are almost 7 billion other people in the world, someone is bound to like you.
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don't worry. There are over 6 billion people on this earth there has to be at least one person for everyone.
You just need to walk up to the next beautiful girl you see and ask her out. Don't worry about the consequences either she says yes or no. what do you have to lose.
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that IS intense. i don't know man. women are out there.
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Dear Friend , well this is my second post ,and i do hope that mabye you at least concidered my suggestion of seeking 'professional asisstance' to get yourself shagged..
If not then please go...Just about all prostitutes are nice girls [well at least they are nice to me!] ,and you can live out your fantasies ,and then resume your day to day immediately...If love has found you in the mean time, then happy days to you.....
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whats the big deal? Go on a dating site, and meet up with someone if they want to as well, trust me, I know from experience that meeting someone online is muuuuch easier than in person for allot of people =)
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You have to be willing to look in places where women are available. Churches, civic groups, prison, stuff like that. Yes, I said prison. I am involved in prison ministry through my church, and that is how I met my woman. She is 10 years younger than me, she is a Christian, and she is beautiful.

Dude, don't give up hope. I could give you the address of another lady I met via prison ministry who is looking for a man on the outside, if you're interested.
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Lose weight and meet new people.
The only thing I like about you as of now, is that you arent one of the fucks who thinks that they need to have sex constantly.
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Lose some weight men, it would definitely help your confidence and you looks
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I'm 28 and I've never even kissed a girl, or a guy, or ever even had a friend. But then again I'm a emotional traumatized person that might as well have grown up in a cave. Live on SSI in a rented attic. Family brings me food, buys me stuff from time to time. Haven't left here in YEARS!
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If the idea of thinking about sex with a woman makes you feel like a pervert, perhaps you should evaluate your feelings about sex and sexuality before getting a partner.
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Everyone dies alone; having a relationship by thee time you die does not guarantee simultaneously dying.
It's not completely normal to be a virgin at 30, but hey it happens. The thing that no one needs to know you are; with a little bit of confidence you can do anything.
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Like other posters said , it does seem a little late to still be a virgin but I really don't think you are trying enough to get a girl, it seems like a confidence issue but you've just got to realise the worst answer you'll get is no. I'm only 21 , haven't been a virgin since 16, some people find that acceptable , to me I regret it, nothing special unless it's with someone you actually care about, but join a group, head to the gym, and make it a goal to look good , as when you look good you'll feel good and become more confident. Just go for it buddy and good luck
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I was a virgin-by-choice until 27 years of age. However, with my case, I felt the crushing weight of not just betrayal, a child-hood that was subjected to abuse by the parental-units of the time (even into my early 20s), but it got to the point where I felt like there's no longer any reason to reserve myself since girls always seemed to end up with someone else anyway. I was in love with someone for over a decade but later on I forced myself to re-program my mind to regard her as not being worthy (a lot of conflicts of values it turned out).

That combined with several other devastating experiences led me up to having a one-week sexual-affair until she seemed to have disappeared and ultimately losing my virginity to a 36-year-old married woman whom I met at a church during a free dinner service (they probably do this to get converts). I have radically changed my opinion about sex since my early years & now wish I had taken all of the girls who were obviously interested in me throughout my life-time in order to have given them the pleasures of sex that I now realised they deserve.
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Is so bad when married people lie and tells that they are single.:( theres a guy i met online we been dating and just a week i found on the internet he just get married .this freaks me out so much now i have no idea if i have to tell that young. Girl about her husband been cheating on her and not just with me i guess with more girls!!
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Royo101
aww try online dating
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dude, i would so take care of that for you.
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dude i know how you feel kinda, for me talking to girls is easy but as soon as i'm attracted to a girl i turn into a complete retard, i know its scary and you get that dry throat and heart palpitations but you just gotta talk to em like a normal person, just ask about her and say a little about urself as if your making a new friend and then if you hit it off just be like, hey you wanna go for a drink or you wanna chill and watch a movie sometime, or whatever. As long as you're not pervy or gross about it then the worst u'll get is a 'no sorry thanx', which may be a little awkward but u just shrug it off and be like thats cool and just keep repeating this process untill you get a 'yeh that would be great'. also it helps with the nerves if you ask her to hang out without a bunch of people listening in.
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tommythecat
Lose some weight fatty!
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Thats mean
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tommythecat
Is it?
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362led
Fatty get a life have fuck a girl
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@: 362led
Sooo mean
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You should lose some weight
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U need to gain some weight
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You should lose some weight, you're morbidly obese and that can't help.
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Ur not obese u just don't worrie Manet try a dating site and trust me you soon will find that one and don't have sex until you are married plz
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The only thing abnormal about you is that you have put yourself out there and named it. Thats really amazing. So many people think they are abnormal about sex because ..... why - society says so? Its what works for you, what your circumstances are and how you deal with it. I know lots of people who have had sex "later in life" or not at all. Sex is great (and sometimes not so great) and there are loads of people out there having fantastic sex and are utterly miserable. Sex and all its taboos and mixed messages messes with peoples heads.

You have expressed a need to have a sexual relationship. The fact that you haven't had one by a certain age (society says you "should have" by now) is what I think is the real problem. You believe something is "wrong with you' and that keeps feeding your insecurities till they feel insurmountable. Have you thought of getting some really good counselling? Speaking from experience, it equips you with insight and self awareness to have the power to start exploring who you are and how you can feel good about what makes you the unique person you are. You can start loving yourself - not in a narcissistic - I'm perfect way - more in the sense of self acceptance. It gives people permission to relax around you and want to know you. Whether this leads to a relationship or not - it can only make you feel better about yourself knowing you are ready and emotionally available for one. This is what makes people attractive and want to be initmate with each other. Sex is easy - relationships are hard work.

Go on - keep being brave!Get some coucnselling and take control of your life. You are already strong in just posting this question. The first step is always the hardest but you can do it. I did and I've never been happier.
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get laid hooker anything dont be a pussy just get some
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see dude...i feel i m like u...but the most imp problem is that we r lazy and specially me, i like whining a lot more then trying..so stop being a cry baby and remember u r at the bottom now...so u cant be more pathetic...so the only way for u is to go up no matter what u do...so start doing something and do chat with me later...bye and ttyl
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Get a girl, quick!
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No offense, but go out and get some puntang... its really not that big of a deal, but you are 30.
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midnightera1509
You should be glad to be a virgin at this age.
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Why??
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@: noid
sex before marriage isn't good but sex after marriage is great.
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It's nice someone still believes that. Society doesn't.
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midnightera1509
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Thank you kind friend, I do not know of any people who agree with me on this subject. Thanks :)
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Thank you. There are still some who believe, but unless you know them it can seem like no one does. Thank you for posting on this topic.
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What kind of premarital sex have YOU had? I've had nothing but premarital sex, and it's been fucking AMAZING.
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You need respect friend. Do not message me again.
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Hit the gym bro . Get in shape . Just meet girls online and be like yo are you dtf? Works every time
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Who needs swag when you have good grades? #9lives
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That's because you love dicks and cum (especially big ones) and aren't secure enough about it to engage in sex within the bounds of your interests. Your just frustrated. I've got like 9.75"; we should hangout sometime, boi.
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Make her your friend first. Don't think so hard into it. Get high. Don't give a fuck! If you fuck up WHO CARES try again and you'll succeed. My girlfriend is my best friend and it became that way because we are so alike. Girls freak out too. They shit and piss too don't worry
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I'm 25 and a virgin so what who cares i've dated lots of ppl i just havent found the right person so dont feel bad that ur a virgin you will find some one i'm sure thats a lot of ppl out there you just have to get pass your fears and dont listen to these ppl about losing weignt unless you want to you sound nice i'm theres some girl out there for you
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Chicks wait for dudes to ask them out. If a girl smiles are you, she likes you and she is going to wait for you to ask her out. Don't be afraid, a lot of people are in the same boat. If you don't want to be afraid then don't let other people think you are afraid. No one is judging you and no one knows. People usually think, "what are they thinking about me?."
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You should ask girls out And try to look nice and what not, I feel like I would find you attractive but than again I don't really know hat you look like, you just need to be more confident.
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Aw baby boy that's sad :( hmm try going to the gym perhaps. Girls are attracted to muscle. But not to much..
Don't be afraid to ask a girl out, usually they are flattered :) try giving small compliments. Good luck

Ps. Everyone dies alone
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Well.. In Bio-class they say that an average person its virginity at the age of 17,7 so.. youre 30!
So my oppinion is that if youre over 25 and still a virgin its starting to get abnormal to me!
If you feel embarrest to tell anyone just say youre waiting for mariage and if you cant wait, just call a whore or something..
Just go up to a girl and say: ''Wanna hang out tonight, my place?''
Exept if you are Taylor Lautner, a girl wont walk up to you and say: ''Wanna be my BF and have sex?'''
Go out there and go ask out 10 girls.. one of them will say yess!
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I think you should try to definitely work on your confidence, because that seem to be the core of the issue. Not that been a virgin is a problem, but been so extremely shy to your extremes seems unhealthy and excessive for a thirty year old man.
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beansays
I very much respect you and can appreciate a NON-six-packer. =) You'll find someone worth it. Because you clearly are.
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I know the feeling, I'm afraid I'll die alone too :'( but I still believe there is someone for everyone! I am 20ys old, almost 21. Still a virgin. But the hardest part is I'm gay...People tell me I could easily get a guy, but I wouldn't be happy. I guess we'll just know when that person comes.
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i used to be this way, but finally i asked myself would i rather regret being turned down or never being turned down, if your a good guy man your already ahead, thats without adding the fact that your tall which i lack (5'6) and as far as i have seen woman love tall guys. just go for it the worst they can say is no. and if they do move on to the next one.
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shame on u .....
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I can help with that. ;)
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You won't die alone just get out their
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Well Wow. You can't be like this, be scared to ask a girl out. Sometimes it doesn't even have to be a girl you like like "that" but she may like you like that and if you give her a chance you might have feelings for her....
Or just ask any gurl out any one time and see how it goes. It doesn't hurt to date a round and see if you actually like somebody... because chances are you can always say no afterwards if you don't like it or you can go with it if u are interested to see where it goes...experience...and experiment...
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I dont care if a guy its too slime or a little over weight who cares.are human and thats what matter.i know few good looking guys but they are so stupid with no brain on , seriously .so its not just the looking its all the package someone whos sweet ,gentle , romantic, good heart,someone whos fun to be around, likes to talk or at least have a nice interesting conversation, i think smart guys are a turn on lol .this kind of things its what i would look on a guy.
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Get off this site and smash a hoe bruh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Wtf is wrong with you
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My mom is a virgin.
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How?? She had to have sex to have you... Or we're you adopted??
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You Should.Just Join A PorNo Businesses Then You Will Get Laid All The Time.
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Because of the fact that you are a virgin, does that mean you'll have sex with any woman on earth no matter how ugly or creepy she is and even if the she's bipolar?
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I had sex for the first time when I was 26 I was a shy guy When i was in high school girls would flirt with me and id have no clue Im really shy but I'm looking for the woman that not afraid to make the first move part of me doesn't want to make girls feel uncomfortable
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It's okay u are just waiting for the right one.
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Sex is boring. Channel your sexual energy into something you like.
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Go to India those girls crave white dick
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You will find the right person when the time is right, use the internet and its tools, apps, online sites to get comfortable talking to women and that will transcend to the real world.
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This IIN question:

I've never been surfing. Is it normal?

I'm 30 years old and I've never tried surfing but I want to! I must be a totalmloser for not finding a beach and surfboard in my back yard waiting for me!
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Save your virginity for someone you really love
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Unusual perhaps, but certainly "normal." There is one thing to look forward to, assuming you get an understanding female who is supportive or your first time: you will discover what true euphoria is. You will be high for days, better than any drug ever invented. At least I was, at the age of 29 when a wonderful woman came into my shell after me, soon after I had decided I was NEVER going to get laid. Interestingly enough, after the initial reaction, losing my virginity didn't seem important anymore. Just socialize as much as you can, join groups, take adult ed classes, whatever, and stop worrying about it. Easy to say, but when I stopped obsessing about it is when it happened for me.
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I'm going to be 28 years old in 2 month and yes
I never had sex in my life. Abused by parents when
young, pushed around by others in school, the only
friend I had died in car accident. I can't even look
at peoples' eyes.
I just don't have a single bit of confidence to do anything,
I don't even have a driver's license.

I guess people like us are destined to die alone.
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No,nothing wrong. Don't feel pervy at all when hitting on women - they want you to do that, as long as you do it properly. There is a difference between letting a girl know that you are attracted to her and saying/ displaying that you want to have intercourse with her. Seriously, a lot of guys who lose their virginity at an early age are just at the right place at the right time - a matter of chance/luck, really. Being at the right party, hanging with the right people etc. No one really plans when they will lose it, it happens as per circumstances. I lost it a bit late too, mostly because I was very shy and insecure (and most women find me cute. I'm not bragging, just pointing out that even "attractive" guys have troubles approaching ladies, besides, I have a giant nose and an average IQ. Smart people make me feel inadequate from time to time)...besides, from your description of yourself you sound like an ideal partner to me. A 6 feet 2 guy with decent looks would be ideal for a tall model, right ;)

Also, have you ever thought that there might be women in their late 20s or early 30s who are virgins too?
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try going on those online dating sites, maybe you can find some pretty girl in the same situation :)
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are you gay?
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wow I now want to give you pity sex .. for a low cost of $500 and you supply the paper bag
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cabinet70
It appears it is too late for you I suggest you become a closet homosexual
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dont listen to this asshole!
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NinjainmyCereal
You have done well
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Wait until you're married. You will appreciate your partner more, and you will not incur God's wrath.
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@: beckz
In my opinion, I don't believe in a wrath of god. for example... how do people honestly believe Jesus is the son of god? oh i know, because that's what SHE said.. well back then, if you cheat or have sex before marriage you get stoned to death, i bet she was just protecting her butt from the stones..

but that's just my opinion, I went to church, I don't believe in any god, I'll believe Jesus was alive, but I will not believe he's gods son.
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There is no straight cut answer to this, it either does or doesn't happen. If you want ADVICE there's ALOT to find, hehe.
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I hope you can gain confidence in your decision; you know that it's not your looks or anything personal, but maybe it's just lack of confidence. You won't get a date if you don't ask :) Girls love strait forward guys. An internet dating sight might be a good idea, or some sort of 30 second dating. Even just joining a club or something to meet new women. Good luck!
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Hello there,

There is something you need to understand. Ever since the beginning of mankind, man has always taken the initiative to woo the woman rather than the other way around. Automatically, this means that by default men have to be more prepared to take rejections. If you are willing to accept that, then I would like to think that it will help you gain more confidence. This is just the fact of life. From your posting, it would appear to me that you just don't have the confidence of asking girls out and this could be it.

I totally agree with other posters that you could try a dating website. There is such a large pool of girls there that even if one turns you down, it will be comforting to know that there are always others.

Despite all this advice, it still doesn't explain why I'm a 30 year-old male virgin myself.
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You know I'm a 29 year old virgin and love how people tell you that it will all work out. That some one is out there for you. This is nice but its bull shit and it dus not mater how nice bull shit is it still is shit and it stinks.

This is the same shit people said when I was a kid( life will get better) (those kid that pick on you will work for you some day because good things come to good people) (one day you will fined a girl who will like you for who you are). Life has not goten better, in fact it has got a might site worce. Those kids that where sapoce to work for me now almost to a man have beautiful homes, beautiful wives, baeutiful kids, a collige digree and a six figer salery. I live in my mothers basment can't keep a job and contomplait suaside 3 times a week (I don't plan on doing it but the thought comferts me). And if one more girl tells me that I will make SOME GIRL vary happy (they allways leave out "but not me") I'm going to beet her to death with her perce. The point is if I was told the truth, that good thing hapen to those that make them hapen, my life would be difrent.

So you need to fined out why you can't be your self arrowed women. This edvice about just be your self is foolish. It is like telling someone that can't walk if you wish to win the basten marithon all you need to do is run. You can't be your self if you could you would have a girl and not be on hear. I have had girls throw piches so slow that quorky from life goes on could hit it out of the park and I still miss.

So the first thing you need to do is find out what emotionly kripoled you. Mine was I was piked on from grade school to high school, my was/is a nrarsist my fother was/is a alcaholic and the school wrote me off because they got extra funding(I know this because the tharipist that gave me my the IQ test was a famly freand and told my me and mother that my IQ was borderline genius but I had a mentol block when it came th reading and wrighting.) In short I have no one to blame but my self since I had no one but me to gide me.

Once you have that you need to chang your emotions towords
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It's not really normal to be a 30 year old virgin.. but then again I do live with a lady that's about 55 - 60 that's still a virgin.. (she's rude to everyone and all my friends says she should find a boyfriend and get laid, lol) but it is normal to be nervous about asking a girl out. try the dating site idea or go to a bar and find yourself a pretty one, don't rush into a relationship and move moderately in life, keep a positive mood and always remember, Rome was not built in a day!
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fuck the bullshit. if you like drugs, go to a rave. or a good club. pop a X pill and open up to someone you like. im 24 and ive only recently started to understand women. that has worked and shown me a lot and no it didnt make me an addict nor did it make me dumb. its worth a shot. and im not into party girls either but it gives u insight, and it seems that is what you seek.
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awwwh i find tht cute :) hve confidence ask a gurl yu know out for a drink hi the bar,strip ckub anything btw sex is awsowme yu need to tryy;D
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That is sad
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go on a dating website and get this software called photoshop and then make yourself look good looking on your photos then all the women will love you
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Most people find it hard to hide the fact that their gay.
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Hello! being a virgin at that age doesn't mean one is gay!!!
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Just like you!
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Just find a shy mormon chick who wants to wait until marriage to have sex. Then get married and you will feel more comfortable having sex because your married! sounds good to me?
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Call this girl, she's very lonely and isn't that bad looking 778 242 3512
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@: 2cool4U
country code... I am in India
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Maybe women avoid you because you look like a monkey man
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Solution to your problem is

Masturbate at least 4 times in day you will never need any girlfriend....... GF sucks so leave them use ur hand and if possible marry to some 60 year old MALE.......and ask him to rub your dick for you.....
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P.S. Or you could just look for the "Teddy Bear" type.
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Maybe you like boys?
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