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I am a boy not entertained by the idea of cheating
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I am somewhat young (20) and have been in a relationship for a couple of years now. The idea of cheating has never even crossed my mind. I flirt with other girls, joke around, drink with them, w/e...but the traditional male conquest needs and all the other million reasons men cheat has never once appealed to me. It is just too easy to cheat, I know it won't fulfill me in the end, and seems pointless to actually go down that road. I just read an article recently on how to develop an anti-cheating "toolbox" that you can call upon when you are tempted and thought it was the most insane thing ever. Help...?
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Comments (14)
Jim_Pfoss (19247)
2009-03-24 21:56:23
I don't understand your use of the word "cheating." If no one is married, it's just fornicating, and if you don't want to do it, don't.
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lovequestions (21099)
2009-03-25 01:54:10
@: Jim_Pfoss
To me cheating is not being faithful to my girl, married or not. And I know I am not going to do something that I don't want to do, that's not the problem; I just want to know if I'm normal b/c it seems that the pressure to "cheat" brings down a lot of relationships on the male side
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JoeyAnne (21868)
2009-04-12 06:00:21
so whats the problem hun?

you want help to feel satisfied when you cheat?
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justadude247 (22001)
2009-04-15 13:57:57
You are very lucky to meet someone you love at a young age. most people do not, so they end up cheating. If your girlfriend make you feel that good, DONT EVER CHEAT ON HER!!! It will take you years to find someone like her again. Sluts come around everyday. Just ask your friends that want you to cheat. They probaly do not have a good girl like you so they are sleeping with the sluts. Don't give in to them unless you want to be like them.
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ZiShu (23039)
2009-05-15 11:48:22
I dont see the problem here, are you tired of "not cheating" and want to cheat?
I myself hate cheating, it's betraying someone close to you. If you know its wrong and love your girl, just don't do it. Stay away from temptation. The only girl you should be around msot of the time is your girlfriend. Keep positive energy around you and her, and hopefully you both will always please each other.
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Stryker (23243)
2009-05-21 00:09:37
You sound like an admirable guy, and remind me of my boyfriend, but I always ask him this and NEVER get a straight answer - do you feel attracted to other girls?

I mean obviously you do, it's completely normal for humans to be attracted to a good looking person. But I honestly don't look at "attractive" guys and think "oh he's fine" or even get that feeling, like you want to know more about them...
maybe I'm just weird too.
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lovequestions (21099)
2009-05-28 15:48:44
@: JoeyAnne
Haha no I just have trouble relating to my friends when they talk about hooking up with other girls that they aren't dating and stuff like that. I want to understand but I just can't see the "cheater's" perspective, ya know?
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lovequestions (21099)
2009-05-28 15:50:36
@: ZiShu
The problem is that I am a philosophy/psychology nerd who gets bothered when I can't understand or see both sides of an argument. I just want to be able to understand where some of my friends are coming from when they talk about their struggles to remain faithful...
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lovequestions (21099)
2009-05-28 18:01:41
@: Stryker
I meet other girls, and if we are compatible think that maybe we would be good together, but it stops there. I guess it is a form of attraction. But that is where it stops. I have no motivation to pursue anything else, even when things aren't going well with my sig. other.
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cool59 (26490)
2009-08-02 15:58:55
Thanks God there are guys like you;) Just keep at it. I guess that's perfectly normal and an indication of a good healthy relationship.
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alzy19 (26659)
2009-08-05 17:36:56
I feel the exact same way. Nothing feels right. Society is so contrived and I can't understand anything.
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alzy19 (26659)
2009-08-05 17:41:12
@: alzy19
Oops. I botched the previous comment because I couldn't keep track of my tabbed windows. I think your view on this subject is very admirable and your girlfriend is very lucky.
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lovequestions (21099)
2009-08-10 13:04:32
I am worried I am going to get blindsided though somehow :-/
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-09-20 14:57:16
You are over thinking a non-issue.
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