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I can't get over my miscarriage
Hi all.
I am back again, and NEED opinions.
Some several months ago I learned I was pregnant and was Overjoyed. So was my present boyfriend, a guy I Thought was my soulmate.
Then... I have a medical condition, long story short, pregnancy is/was difficult for me to begin with and would have caused major health and life risk for me. I didn't mind because I really wanted my baby.
Unfortunately I miscarried, my body is not prone to motherhood, and I was (and Am) devastated. I have been severely depressed for some time, to the point of being in hospital.
I got out (again) three weeks ago, and came home to a nightmare.
My boyfriend, who I hadn't seen much of during my depression (he didn't visit me or anything) was waiting and furious. He was mad about my miscarriage and told me that I had Better get pregnant again and not screw it up this time, and if I do we were done.
I don't mind letting him try and get me pregnant again, but odds are very good that I could miscarry again, or lose the baby during birth.
Odds are also better than average that childbirth could kill me. I am willing to take that chance, but I am not sure I am willing to risk the life of another baby (I am catholic)
Things have been cold between my bf and me and I feel I am sinking back into a deep depression, so after thinking about it I thought I would ask my friends here as to their opinions. Am I normal for being worried about losing my bf and being scared about getting pregnant again, or am I over reacting and being over emotional and selfish as he tells me I am?
October - Returning Princess
I am back again, and NEED opinions.
Some several months ago I learned I was pregnant and was Overjoyed. So was my present boyfriend, a guy I Thought was my soulmate.
Then... I have a medical condition, long story short, pregnancy is/was difficult for me to begin with and would have caused major health and life risk for me. I didn't mind because I really wanted my baby.
Unfortunately I miscarried, my body is not prone to motherhood, and I was (and Am) devastated. I have been severely depressed for some time, to the point of being in hospital.
I got out (again) three weeks ago, and came home to a nightmare.
My boyfriend, who I hadn't seen much of during my depression (he didn't visit me or anything) was waiting and furious. He was mad about my miscarriage and told me that I had Better get pregnant again and not screw it up this time, and if I do we were done.
I don't mind letting him try and get me pregnant again, but odds are very good that I could miscarry again, or lose the baby during birth.
Odds are also better than average that childbirth could kill me. I am willing to take that chance, but I am not sure I am willing to risk the life of another baby (I am catholic)
Things have been cold between my bf and me and I feel I am sinking back into a deep depression, so after thinking about it I thought I would ask my friends here as to their opinions. Am I normal for being worried about losing my bf and being scared about getting pregnant again, or am I over reacting and being over emotional and selfish as he tells me I am?
October - Returning Princess
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I have an Autistic son who I miss every day. I truly feel bad because I cannot see him but I wish I could help him. It was an outcome from a relationship I was in when I was extremely obese (A page shown in my profile, please excuse the mess in the background.) and didn't care.
I would have stayed with her but she was older by far and a complete wackjob so when my asian "girl as a friend" decided to become close, I left. I do not miss the mom at all and I regret being with the asian/black girl. (Loved Vietnam though.)
Well, to break the story short, the mom was a completely controlling person and I lost the weight to feel better and break the control. I had to prove to myself I was better than others said and I ahve done quite well with this reguard. Then, when I became thin and left, she denies me any access to seeing my son and absolutely refuses to let me get a paternity test to "force" the state to letting me have control to see him.
I love the little guy but like I said he is autistic and all my money is wrapped up in schooling and I have nothing to help him with and I am afraid I would hurt him more since he doubtfully remembers me. I will fix this later and bust my butt to see him when I have money, so please let me do this my way.
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SOrry for the long story. Anyways, my Autistic son will always be autistic and nothing I will ever or could ever do will let him live a happy and successful life. When I can, I will be raising this kid until I die. I have accepted that but it doens't mean I have to accept the mom.
Your boyfriend is acting like an ass. I think that one comment before about a guy wanting to sleep with the girls sister might have been yours and if so, then he was always a jerk.
A miscarrage hurts the potential mom so much and if he is an ass to you afterwards then serious, you deserve better. Reading your post, you are an intelligent and talented writer, miles ahead of a lot of the trash I read here. Your advice is genuinely golden and you should be proud that you are helping others.
Back to my story, when she was pregnant, even knowing I didn't like her much I still pampered her non stop and worked two jobs to support the house, its what a man should do.
Lastly, I'm not trying to kiss your butt or suck up as I will probably never meet you but I truly want to be honest because hoenstly you kind of need it. I love my fiance and she is by far the best person I know. She is sweet and caring and when I was suffering from Vertigo (MS related) she was the only one there to help me. I am truly happy with her by my side and I will never leave her. However, I wish she was half as pretty as you are and you are truly a good person. (She isn't ugly and I think she is pretty but lets be honest, I will never have another man jealous of me based on her.)
Good guys are out there and if you have kids, just let the guy know ahead of time. Lastly, if the dude was this bad, then perhaps being attached via a child isn't the best thing that could have happened. You deserve better.
If you need someone to write to, as a friend only, my email is in my profile. If you want to laugh or at least see some different pictures, look under one of the links in my profile.
Have a good life. I am sure I will comment on your post again as there is so many of them but I doubt they will ever be as strong as this one is.
In the third paragraph when I am talking about my sons mom. I stayed with her because I was overweight and felt I could not do better. Not because I have a thing for older women. (Although my past would state other) My current relationship is with someone almost 22 and I am 29. I met her at work three years ago so she was far out of the creepy age of being a young miner when I am an adult.
Odds are also better than average that childbirth could kill me. I am willing to take that chance, but I am not sure I am willing to risk the life of another baby (I am catholic)
and lets break this down logically as I understand as Bethany (Fiance) is Catholic and I am more of a nonbeliever, sorry for that.
If she failed to have a child and she really does want one, she will be distraught and sadden for a long time. She will feel unloved and hate herself. HOWEVER, she would not give up because...
If you never try again, no child will ever come from it. If you try and failed and the child dies, you did everything you could do to have him/her and life denied you of this. However, if you try and it is born, you will feel so much better that you didn't give up. Isn't the chance to become a mother more important than "what ifs?"
I'm an athiest, not by choice but I wish I had your faith, but if god does exist - he will grant you a child. You seem like a good person and far above and beyond the trash that get that gift of a child for free and do not respect it.
However, if you are denied after trying again and again, then could you really keep your faith in "Him" and would you still waste time in church when you see white trash people doing a piss poor job with their children while you are struggling in your chair?
I think, honestly, your not afraid of trying and failing, I think you are afraid of losing your faith in something you hold dear. I can respect that and I wish I had your faith, I truly do. However, you have to ask yourself, if I am right, which is more important to you?
Paul
budthewise
budwise_thefirst@juno.com
although i am male if i was in your situation no matter how much i loved someone i would be either stupid or dead to have to stay with him.
oh and the comment about Liverpool in:
http://isitnormal.com/story/i-regret-marrying-my-husband-i-want-someone-rich-24523/
that was harsh
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