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I can't let go!!
58% Normal
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I broke up with my boyfriend two months ago. Our relationship only lasted a year, but for some reason I can't seem to get over it. I cry all the time. I've lost about 15 pounds and now I'm actually underweight. I'm a college student and I'm working a summer job, but I've called in sick so many times, I'm at risk for getting fired.

I still have him on MSN. I can't bring myself to delete him even though I know it would be better for me. I check everyday to see if he's online and I always look at his pictures in myspace and check out his new personal message. I'm just so terrified one day I'll discover he is seeing someone else. If he doesn't log on for a couple of days, I automatically think I've been blocked and I actually start to panic. I call mutual friends and ask casual questions hoping I can find out what he is doing and who is hanging out with. If he is hanging around a girl, I automatically hate her because she gets to be with him and I don’t. Then, I feel guilty because I hate someone I don't even know.

Before him, I was in a long term relationship that lasted three and 1/2 years. Our break up wasn’t this hard. I was sad for a few weeks but I moved on quite quickly. So why is this different? I want him to be happy and I don’t want him to know how much pain I’m in so I never call him, message him or e-mail him but I miss him so much. I would do anything just to sit next to him for a minute. This is absolute torture for me. Being single has never felt so lonely. What’s my problem and why can’t I move on?
Do you think it's normal?
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Comments (21)
Anonymous
2006-06-09 09:22:34
Stop torturing yourself! Take him off your MSN list, stop mooning over his myspace pics and don't ask your friends about him.

Get out and see your friends and stop skipping work!, keeping busy is the best thing for you.

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Mimir´ (2180)
2006-06-09 09:26:18
been there done that.

and my advice is.... i don´t have any.
you´re fucked.

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Mimir´ (2180)
2006-06-09 12:30:00
i think you should let him know how you feel.
And not through phone, email, msn or anything but in person.
Just go over there and knock on his door.

After you have truly let him know how you feel then there is nothing more you can do.
THEN, start the process of getting over him.
That involves not listening to love songs or sad songs, doing a lot to meet new people, finding hobbies you enjoy and last but not least, getting totally wasted a lot.
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SociallyVolatile (2308)
2006-06-09 14:29:23
You're problem isn't clear. Why you can't move on. It could be alot of things. For me, it was I had identity issues. When My g/f broke up with me I just couldn't imagine life without her. After months and months me of feeling bad about myself and trying to get her back, I realized that it's impossible. Then I felt really awful. But life goes on. You go to parties you talk to new girls (or guys in your case) and you start getting attracted to them. Even if it feels wrong, go out on dates with them. You don't have to fall in love with them, but they will get your mind off your ex. That's all I can say because it's what I did and it works.
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myspacedork13 (2679)
2006-07-23 23:58:47
then why in the fuck did you break up with him?
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fugnug (2843)
2006-07-24 01:26:57
listen cunt, get over it! have you ever heard 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. that's no sh*t. I'm 22 and I've only had one girlfriend.. it was for a week. she was fat, had poor hygiene, and she was slightly mentally handicapped.

I'm just curious. Why the fyck is this 43% Normal and not 100% Normal?! how many of you tards don't think this stupid "heart break" bullsh*t is normal? or did just one of you jack tards vote no a bunch of times? and you know who you are
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sisophous (3738)
2006-11-03 15:18:43
You sound obsessive and need to drop matter and quit dwelling on them. Young people have misperceptions of friendships, dating and intimacy. It is normal for friendships/boyfriends and girlfriends to come and go, start and end. When one door closes, another one opens, part of life. The purpose of dating isn't just to have fun but to seek out a mate who you can spend you life with. It is healthy to have a number of relationships, move from one to another over time, until you find that person who is most compatible with you. Speak to a counselor if you find you need help. Counselors will not give you any quick fix, but they will help ease your pain. Time is the greatest healer, it conquers all. Good luck.
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kitty26 (4233)
2006-11-10 22:58:06
well im getting over a 2yr relationship myself so i'd say get over it and stop thinking about it and ull move on eventually only time can heal the pain.
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Twiztidk (5325)
2007-01-16 10:34:26
Make new friends
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ipod93 (1493)
2007-01-16 14:59:01
yeh, i got this......


i woz in a 6 moth relation ship, and the last time we met as a couple, she was desperate to date again........

then i got dumped, 3 days later!!!!! i was sad initially, then got over it, but recently i can't stop reminiscing and feelin all lonely, desperate for the good times again......... i even heard dat she want'd to know if i'd date her again if i asked.....but she's in a relationship so probably not what she said.......
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crazyme (4954)
2007-01-16 15:26:08
I've been there. I tried anything and everything to get him back with me because I know I love him and he loves me too. So yes we're back and happy together. Why don't you ask yourself is he still in love with you? Try to contact him as a friend and ask him to go dinner or whatever to see how he is. Then you will know that he's ok or seeing anyone. I know it's hurt a lot because I can feel you. If you love him this much, try to find out if he still love you. If he is, try to get him back. Good luck to you
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devbro (5318)
2007-01-23 10:42:49
move on. delete his msn. go out with your friends. don't be pesemestic. I was like that before but get over it and move on. there are better people out there.
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shawnapaulajoe (5549)
2007-01-29 00:42:12
You need to delete his msn and just get over it. it is for the best.
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RedSpadeMADZ (5596)
2007-02-04 05:52:49
I WANT TO BREAK UP WITH MY GF NOW
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BrokenInside (5867)
2007-02-14 14:41:05
Your in love, and no1 ever realises how much they love someone until they've gone! There's not much you can do, Altho people will say you;ll get over him, Really it's not at all that easy! One day you will have to see him with someone else. It will feel like ur darkest day in your life, and you'll cry and throw things. Wanna kill her and him, but deep down the worst thing is knowing u had him! It's easier said then done to forget your love. All you can do is wait patiently. Nothing you do will make you stop loving him, You can throw away the picture, The presents, The good times but that won't help. You will always love him. Just becareful and talk to him and explain how u feel. Take care and good luck x
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blahblah (6368)
2007-03-06 19:37:03
I was with my boyfreind for a little over a year. we were too young and imature to be able to handle how much we felt about eachother because jealousy took over our lives. So we broke up. Although its almost a year later, and i have a boyfreind of 3 months...it still kills me to see him with other girls. No matter what i do, i will always still have that little feeling for him. There are things you can do to deal with it though...go out with freinds. DO things that you love that will take your mind off of him...and best of all, find a new guy. My boyfreind is better then my ex ever was...he never gets jealous and i trust him always. Just have fun in life. And anytime you see hes with another girl, just remember, hes happy. And you can do the same.
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Kantir (7023)
2007-03-29 14:33:41
Myspace is a gigantic waste of time. I don't mean to troll anyone, but I wouldn't waste 1 second of my personal time on that website.
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herrmeyer (7520)
2007-04-13 09:21:23
I know exactly how that feels. The point is, this is not about him or letting go. It's about you and how you're treating yourself.

You're not exactly being nice to yourself. Actually, you're very creative in torturing yourself. Everything you're doing is aiming at feeling bad.

Start to do things that make you feel good. It's not cheating, it's not a fake. It's the truth.
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ladyoftheworld (4309)
2007-04-13 14:28:35
You must try to let go. He has decided to move on with his life without you, that means that he is not interested in you anymore. I know this is hard to accept and maybe you feel rejected at the moment but it will get easier over time. You need to understand the reality of this situation. He will be with other women and he might even marry someone else and have their children. This is a hard lesson in life but most of us have gone through this only to come out stronger people for it in the end. In a few years from now, you will think differently and be much stronger in yourself. Learn to value yourself and think to yourself you are much to good of a person to be second best. You need to be number one to a man who worships the ground you walk on..
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punkchic2011 (8759)
2007-06-08 01:39:09
well my bf broke up wit me a couple of mnth ago! our relationship on lasted 4 mnths! but i see him like every friday! but we dnt talk! but i cnt get over it i meam i think i stil love him
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hotchick (3358)
2007-07-18 11:11:50
ur bein a bit obssessive. just face it bitch , he dont want you no more hahahha GET OVER IT
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