i cannot forget

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What's wrong with enjoying a pleasant memory? I wish I had your problems.

it is true what a problem i have. i met someone who was everything. she was to me the very definition of "soul mate","the one" however you like to refer to your perfect mate. however i will never see her again and this is my dilemma is it right of me to continue a life knowing that i might forget it all to be complete again?

You don't need her, you just need to know that.
I know how it feels, trust me. For somebody to be plastered in the walls of your memories, while all you want to do is be free. Do you really?
Do you really want to be free from her memory? Maybe she's like a safety blanket? Something you can't let go of, because it brings you comfort and hope? If so,
Stop right there.
You have to tell yourself that you don't need her. You don't need the past. You really, really, REALLY don't. Forgive the past for making it hard to forget her. Forgive it, pick up yourself and move on. Because one day you might be strong enough to forget it.

I really, really wish you luck.

I think it is normal. You never want to forget wonderful memories. The thing is that life goes on, and this person has moved on and so have you. Things did not work out for a reason. I don't think you have to ever forget that person. The thing is there is a difference between thinking about them now and then and acting on your thoughts. The grass is not greener on the other side. Cherish what you have.

"however i will never see her again." THat right there is the answer. If you aren't going to see her again, its perfectly reasonable for you to move on. Besides, it sounds like you already have.

Its Not "normal" but its not "abnormal" either. If you are married and this person still consumes your thoughts daily then you have a problem. It would help to know what it is your thnking of when you thnk of her. Is it the sex? The body? The personality? The smile? Or just happy times you shared in friendship? Different thoughts compose different problems and have different methods of handling.

But here is a piece of advice. Never follow your heart. Your heart will try to make you mistake love for lust. You know you're in love when you don't wanna go to sleep at night because that person is better than all of your dreams. When you find yourself praying for the first time to be with "her" you know your in really in love. Lust is only sex - deep, love is limitless. Hope that helps =D sorry to go all poetic on you lol.
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We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. -Ezra Lasure (me).

i have the same problem, i am also a fool but i'm enjoying the feeling.

Well I think you should go back to simply enjoying pleasant memories without the syrupy drama and putting this woman on some kind of marble pedestal. Geez - that "none compare" - what an insult to your wife and life. Bleahhh...

From the smallest things like picking consumer brands to the biggest ones we always wonder what could have been and if it could have been better. But don't let it control your life and destroy you.

The grass is not greener on the other side

whats that saying mean? someone said that to me before.