I can't cum during sex.

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Hi, you are not the only one like this. Many women cant cum having sex. Infact I think majority of women cant cum just having sex. They need foreplay or oral sex first. If you wanna cum during having sex, ask you boyfriend to rub his fingers on your clit whilst he is having sex with you, this way you will have your orgasm whilst having sex

Perhaps if you were to continue when it "feels too good" you would cum while having sex.

i know quite a few girls that cant even orgasim when they have sex this is perfectly normal and what she said lol

Yes, I've tried that before. When it "feels too good" I try and keep going to see if that helps. But nothing happens, and it gets to the point where I'm like ahhh and I still have to tell him to stop.
And it also takes a while for me to cum. If he's just rubbing my clit, I'm not so sure if that would work. I have to have it rubbing my clit and close to the hole. It's really weird, I don't know.

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Alot of woman never orgasm

I DO orgasm though.
I just can't when something is going inside me, like in and out.
ahhh idk.
I guess it's normal.
I honestly didn't think it was, but I'm glad I know now.

Rub your clit while he's thrusting inside you. Or let him keep going when it feels "too good". That's probably your G spot.

Wow, I'm glad I don't have this problem.

Orgasm via penetration is the most satisfying experience in the world. Clitoral orgasms are too light-weight, and leaves more to be desired. Also, I'm tired of seeing other women, who suffer with this malfunction, attempt to pass it off as "normal for most women". For the record... it's NOT & IMO, such females are simply closet lesbians.

One of my ex-girlfriends had the same problem it is incredibly common. Alfred Kinsey reported that as high as 70%% of women do not cum durring sex some not at all. However with my ex girlfriend who had slept with many guys before me we tried the masturbation durring sex thing. It took a while but then it worked. From then on very quickly masturbation was not needed durring sex. Now she has multiple orgasms with squirting from just sex. Unlike with men a womans cumming is triggered from the mind. You just have to convince your self you can and how.

Lesbian? You're calling her a lesbian?

Just checking.

Not my fault due.

Perfectly normal. Less than 10%% of women can climax with penetration. Most of those who say they do belong in the theatre and not the bed.

Some women can only climax when alone. This points to a psychological block, not physical. Try relaxing, try mixing it up, and most importantly-don't be afraid to touch yourself when he is in there! Plus, it's a major turn on for the guys...

yeah, i have the same problem, i was just surfin the net to see if its normal, i had sex for the first time 4 weeks ago, and so far i havent came through sex, i feel the pleasure...just nothin to show for it. lol. i have also came through oral sex but thats it...glad to know im not the only one who feels like this. i'll take some of the help from the other commenters on board and see wa happens.

Maybe its not THAT good.

c*ckCrazyGirl4Life: You're an idiot.

It's definitely a common occurrence that many women can't achieve orgasm during sex. I can't either, so I usually try to incorporate my partner into my own tried and tested masturbation techniques... getting him to penetrate me from behind while I masturbate in the way I normally would. It gets me off a hundred times faster, and makes the guy go crazy to a)Witness a woman masturbating b)Be inside her at the time and c)Feel every bit of her orgasm.

Good luck!

Try a change of position first. Doggystyle is a good one to hit the G-spot, or you could get on top and adjust the position until you hit the spot.

Also, you could try a little fingering first. Just tell your boyfriend to lay next to you, on your left side, while you are on your back. Then ask him to put one (or two for twice the pleasure) finger(s) inside and make him do the "come here"-move upwards. If he is right-handed, he should use his left hand because he can go on considerably longer that way. Orgasm guaranteed.

The first orgasm is always a barrier, you just have to find the spot.

A female friend of mine had the same problem and my advice pumped up her sex life incredibly.

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I have the same problem! It doesn't work when he's inside and tries with my clit because I can't have anything inside on the same time! And I can't cum if anything has recently been inside of me.

I also have experienced this problem...i cum with vibrators and have before from oral sex but i cant seem to cum during sex..

thats crazy that you explained EXACTLY what happens to me. i personally think its because i masturbated a lot when i was younger and know what i like

Dr.kimber i have the same problem but, i can only cum when i am alone. even during phone sex i can not cum . no guy has ever made me cum. is it me ? or what can i do about it ?

i have tht problem.... i can't cum during sex or oral.... it feels gud .. but gets too good when i have to say no more cant handle it. but if i masterbate i have to rub my vagina to cum. doesnt even work fingering. now thats wierd. im looking for help also if anybody can help please?

the SAME exact thing happens to me!! i thought i was weird cuz my partner thinks its weird i don't cum lol...i do though when i rub my clit though. w/ past partners i've always cum when i was riding him while he was sitting down because it rubs the clitorious at the same time. so glad i'm not the only one having this problem lol

I too have never experienced an orgasm with sex. Ever since i was in preschool, or before i can even remember, i have been masturbating. I don't know if that has impacted my ability to climax during sex, but all i know is it is impossible for me to cum during sex. I have climaxed twice with another man during oral sex, and i have had many partners in my past, I am a very sexual woman. I just don't understand why i can't climax! It's very, very, VERY, VERRRYYYYYY frustrating!!!!! I have no problem climaxing on my own, considering i have been active ever since i was two, but with a partner...it's an issue, plus it's no fun faking an orgasm, it gets old and tedious. Don't get me wrong, the sensation feels AMAZING, i could do "it" all day long, but i long to climax with his member inside me. I have read all your comments and not one comment actually has a solution or suggestion, i mean, it's quit obvious to rub your cl*t during penetration, but what if that doesn't work? I have had this convo with all my lady friends, i am a very open woman, and most of them experience the same thing or say they climax but in reality they%%u2019re lying. I'm just hoping/praying someone out there has a suggestion or THE solution. I have experienced big, small, curved and all! Nothing works!!!! ITS MAKING ME CRAZY!!! Also, does anyone get dry quickly often? I am the queen of lube, but still, it gets expensive, and kind of like a chore! There should be a doctor that specializes in this professionally, like a gynecologist, but a sexologist for females. Anyone know of such thing? HELP!!!!

i have the same problem. i cant cum during sex either. also when i masterbait, or my hubby plays with my cl*t it feels so good but i cant cum that way either. how can i make my self cum masterbaiting?

I heard a dotor on TV say that there's no such thing as a vaginal orgasm, anal, nothing. They all come from the clitoris. So all you lucky chickies out there that can cum from intercourse, the guy's causing friction with your clitoris somehow. I too, can't come unless its from direct clitoral stimulation

Don't Worry, its perfectly normal not to cum during sex.
as you get older sex will get better.
but if your desperate to have a proper orgasium try rubbing your clit and thinking about things that turn you on while having sex also make sure your comfortable with the personal your having sex with, and your not stressed or unhappy about something.

um.. NO you are severely wrong, and actually angered me with your comment by saying "Also, I'm tired of seeing other women, who suffer with this malfunction, attempt to pass it off as "normal for most women". For the record... it's NOT & IMO, such females are simply closet lesbians. "

i understand its your OPINION but its a very accusing opinion.
1) it is normal. and if its not normal than at least 10 women i know are abnormal. Its normal.
2) lucky you, doesnt mean you need to accuse other people, you were not being helpful. . .

its normal... it happens... some people need DIFFERNT kinds of stimulation than others...

I have that same problem, and also even if I'm alone masturbating I don't cum or even have an orgasm. If i'm doing it myself, it only feels good with a vibrator. I don't like fingering, it doesn't feel good at all to me, actually, it's uncomfortable. But anyways, sex feels great, but I never cum or orgasm. My ex partner thought it was weird, and i'm worried to have sex with any other guy because they'll think i'm weird or their doing something wrong.
Any help?

OMG!
THAS is EXXACTLY wut i go thru!
I swear i cudnt have explained any better myself!
so its normal then huh?!
kinda disappointing...

Totally agree with 'whatsnormal325' no questions answered just obvious technics. I have been having sex for many years and but only had 4 serious relationships. I am a highly sexual woman and am not shy in the bedroom. I have never cum, during sex, oral and sometimes I find it dificult during masturbation, I have no idea what is going wrong. It is really embarrassing....but I think that your partner must play a huge part in this....mine at least. My theory, is tell your partner what you like, what works for you....mine at times gets inpatient or just plain selfish, I give him exactly what he wants and more, I find it hard to tell him consistantly, no...he finds it hard to not think about himself. I now masturbate with a male friend of mine, using cyber-link! Its crazy fun and surprisingly thrilling! I'm working on what makes me cum....finding the right spot.

If he can't give me the pleasure i need, i'm not cheating....just experimenting! No harm there right???