I CANT handle compliments, is this typical?

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many perfectionits feel this way, they never feel a job has been good enough to warrent a praise, they say a good way to snap out of this is to spend some time with children, they are really easy to praise you can say well done to them for silly things like burping...

But it is normal for perfectionists to feel like this

Well, I feel awkward getting compliments, but not really to the extent you seem to. Do you have low self esteem or anything like that?

no im pretty egotistical and narcissistic...

yea i hate compliments too

yeah im never satisfied with my work, I guess that could be an explanation

I'm kinda opposite, i love being complimented and compliment people as often as possible for silly little things from keeping the little brother entertained to having a cute nose, i guess we're on the different sides of the extremes

P.S. i expect a compliment for giving such a mature comment =P

It's because you have low self esteem. Are you shy? Maybe they're just trying to start a conversation w you

Yeah I can't take compliments either. I think its cos my friends have been making fun of me for so long I dismiss it as being sarcastic so when a compliment is genuine it gets awkward.
Anyway, when someone gives you a compliment, try to give one back. That way it will be something you will get used to.

You're the judge so use your judgement.

Compliments can be insincere and manipulative - i.e. flattery. The world is full of pricks and schemers. You could be hanging out with or just stuck with the wrong people, and you are staying sane.

But the world is also full of decent people, so if the compliments are sincere then you are being an ingrate and bonehead if you can't even say "thank you."

I'm exactly the same. When someone compliments me, I'd think they must be lying. I'd get all nervous, say thank you, I GUESS, and then laugh to cover my nervousness up (No, hun, I'm not even shy. I'm kind of that person who loves to joke and laugh a lot). So I honestly don't accept the compliments. I always give compliments though. It's obvious I have low self esteem. You might too. A lot of people have it, but for you, I think perfectionism plays a big part here simply because you don't give compliments.

If you want a stop to this, I think you probably would have to lighten up and believe no one is perfect. Imperfection is beauty. If perfection, it'd be all boring... like robots. Don't you think so?

I hate compliments too...especially on how one looks...

why must everything be the result of low self esteem, child abuse or some sort of unpleasant sexual encounter? why is it that anything that can be argued as abnormal automatically makes someone a victim of something heanous? I do find it somewhat ironic that a narcisistic egocentric person would dislike compliments. Perhaps its because the compliments lack merit and seem patronizing to you.

you must not like attention, im the same way, i HATE,no i DESPISE people and their god damed compliments

I used to be this way. Because I had low self-esteem, I thought someone who complimented me was either crazy or joking around.

I once told a guy (I'm bisexual) to go f*** himself when he said "Nice body!" to me. Turns out, he was being sincere, but it never crossed my mind that he was serious; I thought he was just making fun of me. That's how I interpreted it due to a poor self image.

These days, I feel awkward and bashful at receiving compliments, but I no longer automatically view them as sarcastic or a crazy thing to say.

People don't just give you compliments for the sake of it. They actually mean what they say most of the time anyway. So take the compliment and realise its because you deserve it because they cared enough to say it. Try doing something poorly or completely wrong and see if they compliment you then. They wont. Maybe at least you'll realise that the compliments they give you are for a reason.

I think it's normal... I am a perfectionist in what i like to do... If i screw up or its the tiniest bit wrong when i finish ill get pissy about it and destroy it all; starting again.

heh. i learned that i have O.C.D. so thats why im like that. i can spot any imperfection in any way.

I'm the same, i hate getting compliments, which is reaaly difficult for me to avoid because i do really well at school and someone is always saying great stuff about it or how i look. I never know what to do or say i hate it so much

I know it has something to do with the fact that i am extremely shy and don't like to draw attention to myself.

you are not normal

I'm the same. I get very uncomfortable when people compliment me, but I think it's due to the fact I used to get sarcastic compliments. Never really got any heart felt one's...might be the same for you?

lol, i've been saying that for years ; )

I AGREE WITH YOU. I don't like it. It probably depends if i can sense that the complement is sincere or a way to manipulate me. If a person is sincere no problemo.

---> bobsyruncl

i agree with you!!! i wonder about that as well. when something is wrong, ppl will assume its something subconscious or what. you know what because of that i ended up thinking oh mabe i really don't have a self esteem! its facken annoying!