I DESPISE SEXISM

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Well, to be totally honest with you, I agree I feel that both genders are equal when it comes to mentality but when it comes to things like "hard physical labor" women just can't cut the cake. Most men are just physically stronger it is just a fact.

I believe that men and women currently more than ever need to work together (both have a job) to raise their families and the old way of thinking that women are here to bare a mans child and do the womanly chores like taking care of the home and raising the kids while the man provides the "bread and butter" is bullshit. Those days are gone.

Hell my wife makes more money than me and between the two of us, we get by okay. I see where women are starting to pass on having children because they would rather focus on their careers times are changing that's for sure.

@poster not quite sure why you don't ever want to get married or have a relationship you can still be a "crusader for gender equality" and have a relationship.

I think the recent appointment of Obama for president of the United States goes to show that America is getting past the problems of racial and gender equality issues.

Thanks, and yeah, I agree about the hard physical labor scenario, although there are many women who are stronger than many men. :) And vice versa. It's all random lol.

Well I am still interested as to why you dont want a relationship with a nice girl or guy for that matter if you happen to be gay.

Hey heres a question for you what are your thoughts on the huge ongoing debate on same sex marriage?

Guys naturally have more muscular strength than girls but on the other hand girls have more muscular endurance than guys do. For a girl to beat a guy in strength either the guy doesn't work out or the girl lifts weights for a lot longer than the guy. For a guy to beat a girl in endurance we need to work at our endurance muscles a lot longer than girls do. We are different, guys and girls, but neither is necessarily better.

I'm not actually sexist but I do make sexist jokes, same with racism.

@Gizz

LOL

I despise racism, so I can understand your direct hatred for sexism.

The way I look at it, women and men are different, but this difference is good, because why would anybody (unless you are gay; nothing wrong with that either) want to be in a relationship with someone who thought like you did, and did things like you for the most part? Women and men do think differently, because women do naturally tend to think more with emotions then men do. Again there is nothing wrong with that. This is how the human race is still possible, because of gender differences.

This world is changing as Gizzie pointed out. Women are getting more recognition for their work, and getting higher paying jobs. I think it's a good thing that women don't want children so young, or at all in some cases, because our population is on the rise. As a women I can't complain because throughout history women have been treated terrible. Women did nothing but stay at home and take care of the children. Sometimes I wonder if this is why women aren't as successful as they could be because locking them up for so long could have caused them to never gain the mental ability to retain a higher IQ score because they were never allowed to explore their talents, and so this passed on through genetics. Then again I think being a genius is a blessing and a gift from God, so I don't really know.

It's just a state of mind, men think they are better than women because of their strength, and to be honest no matter what we do to make women equal with men there will always be people (mostly men but not always) who believe men are superior to women.

So what I'm saying is don't be afraid to meet a girl and fall in love, because what better way could you stand up for women then by treating your girlfriend or wife the way you think all women should treated? You shouldn't let sexism bother you so much, just don't associate with ignorant people who use stereotyping as their trademark in life, and you will be fine.

"Women and men do think differently, because women do naturally tend to think more with emotions then men do. Again there is nothing wrong with that."

I strongly disagree. In actuality, that is just a very outdated notion. It depends on the INDIVIDUAL. :)

I can see the humor in those jokes, but they're just not appealing to me. Sorry. :) I hope you understand.

I understand every mind is different and unique and you are right but generally speaking this is the case. If it wasn't this way I think men wouldn't have an attraction for women and vice versa.

Hey, no problem I am glad you could see the humor in those remarks. LOL

@violent10dency
I do believe there are a lot of women out there that would actually prefer to stay at home take care of the house and let their husbands make the almighty dollar. In fact where I live relgion is predominantly LDS and that is exactly what they want married couples to do they believe children should be raised by their mother not a day care center.

I can see this as being okay as long as it is financially feasible. What are your thoughts? (hypothetically speaking) would you rather be a stay at home mother and let your husband make the money or would you rather go out and work not because you have to, but because you want to? Just seeking a female point of view on this subject.

The only thing that's burns my ass about gender equality is that in certain jobs that require some pretty difficult physical labor, I have seen women working side by side with men but can't quite do the job because they are not physically able to, they just aren't strong enough, but yet they feel they deserve the same pay. I find a problem with that in my opinion equal pay means equal work.

Now I know that may sound mean but I feel it is only fair. Of course those big strong guys are going to pick up the slack for the girl because in their male head, they are thinking they might get some pussy. lol

LMAO! Those are good ones.

What sort of attraction? Sexual? How does that relate to different mentalities between the genders?

Not all attraction is physical you know. Some men are attracted to a women who are intelligent, wordy and sophisticated. Even though women can be just as intellectually compatible with men doesn't mean they think and act the same way. So what I am saying is the difference between both sexes may attract each other to one another.....If that makes sense....in other words Opposites attract for the most part.

I actually really don't know what I would prefer. I would like to have a serious career, and to be a strong and sucessful women with power and also have a husband and children. However I would also like to have the white picket fence, 3 kids, a dog, a cat, and a husband who financially supported me and who loved me and cared about me. I dream about cooking all day, and making my family happy by doing little things around the house for them, but I just don't think I could be that suburban, soccer mom; it just wouldn't be me.

i got up to the point when he called himself a crusader for gender then it pissed me off sexism not even that bad anymore

I'll agree with you that there should be equality, but to pretend and deny what makes the genders different is every bit as bad as exploiting those differences.

We're different from each other. Get over it. That much being said, it is also clear that you lack the ability to differentiate humor from serious ideas.

Not normal.

"but to pretend and deny what makes the genders different is every bit as bad as exploiting those differences."

Sorry, but the only differences are physical. It's the TRUTH. I am what you should consider high conscience, one who seeks only the truth and doesn't dare deny it. You just believe in mental gender differences because it's how you were brought up, so therefore I don't blame you for that.

As for the humor, laughing at it would deem me a hypocrite, as I endorse utter equality. This is pretty simple logic, and whoever doesn't comprehend it really worries me.

Well, it's not just a matter of upbringing that decide your views on gender difference. It's pretty much undeniable that there are neurological and hormonal differences between women and men, which would almost definitely affect their behaviour, however slightly you care to argue that effect would be. Disparity in the behaviour of infants before they've really been exposed to society's views on gender would support this.
The main argument is about the extent to which these differences affect a person in comparison to societal influence. Given that it's near impossible to measure the two factors seperately as people's actions are a result of a mix of them both together, there's no conclusive answer to debate, how much you think gender affects somebodies personality is mainly a matter of opinion.
My view is that gender gives a person a bias towards a certain set of traits, but environmental factors decide the final outcome. I also don't think any gender differences that there might be between the sexes make women any less than men, or vice versa, and they should still be treated equally : )

sorry if that was a bit long, just finished somethin for uni and am still in essay mode lol

"It's pretty much undeniable that there are neurological and hormonal differences between women and men, which would almost definitely affect their behaviour, however slightly you care to argue that effect would be."

Hormonal, yes, neurological, NO. Every brain is different, and gender has no effect on how a brain develops.

Actually, there are differences in the brains according to gender. For example, women tend towards larger Wernike's (sp?) areas, which is an explanation for why many women often find language and communication easier than men. Men tend towards having larger left interior parietal lobes, generally improving their spacial navigation, etc (there may or may not be more, but I just don't know them, I'm not an expert on the subject :L)
Of course, when you weigh in enviromental factors and variance within genders of course the will be men and women who differ from the trend, but you can't deny that there are neurological differences when there ARE. They don't affect either gender's lives negatively, and nearly any traits that a person is predisposed to biologically are affected by their surroundings, so it shouldn't affect your feminist ideals to admit they exist. (sorry if I sound a little pedantic XD)
On a different note, I also don't understand you not wanting a girlfriend :S surely one of the best ways to pioneer gender equality is find a woman you love and treat her with the respect she deserves?

Those supposed brain differences "according to gender" are nothing but falsifications. Every brain is different and doesn't develop according to gender whatsoever. As well as that, the brain is constantly changing and rewiring itself If they were as rigid as the idiotic researchers claim, I would not be able to be forming this sentence coherently.

"On a different note, I also don't understand you not wanting a girlfriend :S surely one of the best ways to pioneer gender equality is find a woman you love and treat her with the respect she deserves?"


It's a very difficult concept to explain. Yet case in point, my ideas are too innovative and pioneering, and having a girlfriend would be hypocrisy on my part.

We'll just have to agree to disagree then : )
And as for the second part, whatever makes you happy :L

But there's an objective truth to all of this, and that is the fact that every brain is different and gender has no effect on this. All of the research you've ever come across about the supposed "gender" brain differences are biased and based upon a few samples.

Well, any research I have read and research I have carried out on animals have supported what I have said, so to believe you would mean I was going against the vast majority of evidence and then I would be a very bad scientist, which would suck for my degree : ) but like I said, believe what you like, you have as much right to draw your own conclusion from what work you've seen and done.

Every type of science related to brain study is nothing but infant. We still know very little about how the brain operates overall.

You come across in a quite abrasive fashion. It's also amazing that without being familiar with the research buriedalive may have read, you instantly dismiss it as incorrect or made up as if you yourself are more knowledgeable than any scientist who disagrees with what you want to be true.

Look: Wanting something to be true is not the same as it being true. It doesn't matter how bad you want it to be true. If it isn't then it isn't. 'Nuff said.

Your arguments don't make a lot of sense, but I agree with you that women are marvelous. My ex could fit a whole packet of wotsits in her mouth, I wish I could do that...

Classicalman114:
An impressive post submission. I am new to this forum - had read through some of the posts and began to fall into a bit of depressive state at how people interract and disrespect each other as well. Please don't feel like you're alone in your line of thinking, however. You just sound like are a very emotionally concerned type of person. That is very commendable.
I do agree with some of the other people's responses here though. In that, there are overall differences between the sexes; physically, emotionally, etc. That doesnt make for inequality, as I'm sure you are aware.
Smart and intellectual responses goin' on in here too. (So far it's maintained for the most part, a level of civility.) We'll see how long it lasts. (smiles)

Because it is. 'Nuff said. -_-

Gender has no relevance with greatness.

No, there are no mental or emotional differences due to gender, just physical. Mental and emotional differences are unique due to each individual, not gender.

"Wanting something to be true is not the same as it being true. It doesn't matter how bad you want it to be true. If it isn't then it isn't. 'Nuff said."

BTW You come across in quite a close minded fashion. I understand you have been brainwashed by society to believe that there are mental gender differences, but it's just not true. GET OVER IT.

Well, you yourself agreed the hormonal differences earlier, which do lead to emotional/ mental differences i.e. that women are more susceptible to depression due to lower serotonin levels. Also, estrogen and testosterone levels, which as I'm sure you're aware differ dependin on gender, affect men and womens behaviour.

"Also, estrogen and testosterone levels, which as I'm sure you're aware differ dependin on gender, affect men and womens behaviour."

No they don't.

Sure, we may experience different mood cycles at different times. However, moodiness to a woman in menopause is the same form of moodiness men experience, just from a different cause. Again, physical differences only.

Er, yes they do. Testosterone makes people more aggresive. It's widely accepted that one of the contributing factors to why men in their teens and early twenties perpetrate most violent crimes is because this is the time when tesosterone is at it's highest levels in men (in conjunction with as societal influence, poverty etc).
Also, when female animals such as rats are injected with testosterone, they start to act more like their male counterparts (and vice versa).
It's pretty hard to deny that our hormones to an extent dictate our behaviour, and that levels of hormones tend to be different in men and women, and I really can't think of any reason to deny it either. None of the differences make women any less than men, or vice versa. Difference doesn't make for inequality.

overall, men are physically stronger than women, and women are faster learners than men. but of course the worlds strongest woman could beat the weakest man to a pulp and the worlds fastest thinking man could beat a slow women at.. ermmmm... thinking fast ^_^

Then no overall difference.

i think ur overly conceited and just cant get a girl because u lack the social skills to do so. Get over urself and get a girlfriend do somthing different than over thinking males and females

MARRY ME!! i love a man who respects the other sex!

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wow, reading the part "in which my mind is neither male, nor female, but just ME "
i think that. exactly. thats really weird!
Im bi-sexual, well, I love is a better term. I hate sexism as well. i see myself as just me, and if i have somebody to love then i have somebody to love! i dont care who they are.
"ew, two guys!" like, who gives a damn what gender they are!? LOVE is what they have.
anyway, I agree with your statement. I always wondered how unique my thoughts were. Not very... >.>
And women dont have roles. My dad says "you should do more housework for when your a house wife," and to my brothers "you should do more sport like normal guys!" urgh, annoys me so much... (heh, public toilets are sexist ^^)

You and I would be amazing friends. :)

I do think that the mind and soul are not sex-typed, but it's pretty interesting how scientists have proven there is a biological reason why women prefer pink colors and men just don't. Well, I suppose that's just physical, huh?

Physically, males are generally stronger, however that is not the case in ALL scenarios. Mentally, women develop quicker, and even out with men as they get older. Sexually, men are more oriented to have sex earlier on, but once again, I am generalizing here. In utter truth, there are MANY differences between males and females both mentally and physically, and your going to have to learn to except that. However, that does NOT under any circumstances mean that one gender is better/stronger/more important than the other. What I can't stand is when somebody proclaims that men or women are better or smarter than the other gender! It absolutely infuriates me! I want to smack the fools that say things like that! Such as when a man will proclaim that because his brain is larger, (males brains are generally larger, but only because they are generally bigger than females, and that doesn't make them smarter) so that must make him smarter! Or when women put down all men by taking an example of some bastard fool who cheats on them, or something like that, and says that ALL men are like that.

The point I'm getting to here is that there are differences, mentally and physically, in the sexes, but that doesn't make all men physically stronger than all women, or all women smarter than men.

That's my views, hope I helped.
(oh, and for the record, yes, you ARE normal.

No, I disagree with bull**** research like that. Most of it is.

"The point I'm getting to here is that there are differences, mentally and physically"

Physically, yes, but mentally, NO. I'm sorry, but there is no way I will ever accept that there are mentally any differences. It drives me up a wall to even merely think of the laughable idea that they do. I agree with you 100%, except on that part.

I AM A UNIQUE SENTIENT.

I AM NOT MALE NOR FEMALE IN THE MIND.

I AM K.L.G.

YOU CAN'T LABEL ME WITH GENDER.

UNTIL THE DAY I DIE, I WILL PROSPER WITH THESE UNDENIABLE TRUTHS.

(They're applicable to everyone).

well you sound a rigth idiot to me . "stick to my opinions to the end" wars have ben fought and millions of lifes lost because someon " stuck to their opinions to the end".

surely you can see common sense and change your opinion accordingly... you will never have a gf or get married with stupid childish attitude like tha, come back here and re-read your story when your 40. boy will you feel a dick.....

HAHAHAH Wow, how come no one gets the hint? NO MONKEYS ALLOWED.

Well, there are lots of reasons to get pissed off at people. I would guess that the degree to which you get upset about this particular issue is because of your own confusion regarding your own identity, and anger at the world and yourself for trying to push you into a gender role that you don't think defines you.

I think you're a complex young person who is angry and hurt by a culture which you feel fails to make room for you or appreciate your uniqueness. I think the "advanced consciousness" thing is a combination of anger, pride, and a backlash against the feelings of inferiority brought on by these conflicts, and an awareness of your own intelligence.

You sound like a sensitive and good person. Go easy on yourself. There are LOTS of people who feel just like you about this stuff, many of them academics and spiritual leaders.

You'll find people who appreciate everything about you, and many more people who only appreciate some. Just like everyone else!

I hope you find happiness!

Thank you very much, my friend.

having a distaste for sexism is compltely normal...who would wish for having this trait added to their character?
but having an extreme hate for anything would bring an unbalance to anyones point of view.
its quite obvious that alot of people who have posted are attacking, and you hvae defended yourself very maturely, I applaud you.
I also think that this is the exact reason that so many young people, and humankind in general, have 'identity crisis'...there is so much negativity in asking questions or exploring what 'identity' means.
i have felt like love, beauty, and attraction can be said for any relationship between any sexes, and this type of 'higher' thought process can be lost on alot of individuals, cultures, and society rules.
from your reaction, it seems in the end your real point is not that you are above it all, but that you feel trapped beneath it all.
i hope your days will bring much more enlightment, and that you meet individuals that ill have you asking more questions, and not only giving you answers, but making you answer them yourself.
overall, very normal feeling, and thank you for taking the time to post such an honest story

Thank you for your wonderful reply, my friend. :)

i cannot stand people with the 1940's views that 'women belong in the kitchen' and so on.
why do women belong in a kitchen?
WHY?
because it's 'traditional' or 'its happened since we were cavemen'
well when we were cavemen, men were out killing mamoths and shit not wanking over asian porn.

people that think like this are weak.
they forget they rule out half the population of this planet. x

Its good for a guy to be taking gender issues & equality seriously - but doing so doesn't mean getting all humourless, ridiculous and twisted up about it. Besides, who will take you seriously? Just be principled, balanced reasoned and advocate. Don't take yourself so seriously. The world isn't going to change at the threat of you imploding.

You have no idea what's going inside me, my friend.

Thank you my friend. What I mean though when I state that "I'm above it all" is that I have the conscience to comprehend the truth of these matters, which many lack. I have no difficulty in admitting the inevitability of my superiority to those who think in contrasting patterns (which are negative) to me.

"people" like that deserve to be sent off the planet, as they're doing nothing good for humanity and only dragging us behind.

I believe there is a difference between male and female.

It's how most sexual animals survive.

As long as it isn't used to unnecessarily judge anyone e.g. silly jokes and slip second choices I'm fine with it.

Why do you think you feel this way about the human race?

*split

Because it's disgusting; it makes me feel caged; inside something I despise. It makes me feel pain. I can't stand it. I know I'm right; I'v3e experienced it.

I'm a girl and I find the "kitchen" jokes pretty humorous now & then. The whole unequal sex thing is all in your head. Its just knowing your true self. I just don't see how people can take offense to things that you know that you are not.

Because they're still entangled within the etheric atmosphere and causing damage to many psyches and influencing others to take the wrong path. If something is solidified, promoters of the opposite of it would be non-existent.

You're never gonna get any chicks with that attitude about sexism being wrong. Women love the ultra-macho Bogart type male. Be an Alpha Male, and ignore the feelings of women. Then you will get laid, unless you are gay. Actually you are gay. So ignore my advice.

Also, sex is 1.5% of my life, it's quite overrated. And again, kill yourself. I'd rather eat dogshit than endure seeing your face.

well what I believe is...

Bitches aint shit but tricks and hoes suck on the dick and get the fuck out when you done

-_- Yawn. No ape-like humanoids on my pages such as you, okay?

if u have never have had a girlfriend how do you know if their brains work differently

Yeah, every mind is unique, you have feminine men and masculine women. However there are different hormones in men and women that make them different in ways. However women can do what men can do if they wanted too. You just need to know that there are differences in men and women

I think there is no problem with this to an extent. I hate sexism and I am a female. So from my perspective, however, I find it unfortunate that you don't plan to get married because women could need men like you. And as a feminist (humanist) I hate the idea that men shouldn't believe in equality and it appears that they often don't which makes marriage feel bleak for people like me.

"You just need to know that there are differences in men and women"

Only by society.

I can relate to everything you've said here. I too see people as being first and foremost a PERSON rather than being defined as male or female.

Hell, even the idea of two distinct sexes isn't really right. Some people are born not fitting cleanly into either, but society says (it's always "society says", isn't it?) that they should.

Sexism makes me so angry and depressed. Even my parents are sexist because they clearly treat me differently to my brothers. They don't mean it of course, but it just goes to show how deeply ingrained sexism is. My elder brother does mean it though. He mocks me about it sometimes (generally kitchen stuff - yeah, my mum starts it off by telling me to clear up and he latches on to that) and I want to tell him to fuck off. But I don't have time for that crap. I hate it. I hate how your percieved gender can make all the difference to how other people see you and act towards you. It's so detrimental to everyone. Only when we can let go of our predjudices (not just sexism) can we truly be free.

Oh, there are way too many comments to read, but I scanned through (more like rolled the mouse quickly up the page) and I'd just like to add: some people like the stereotypes and actively exploit them. That's their choice. It's just like any other thing really. A bit like when people like a certain subculture and take on the characteristics associated with it. That's how I see it anyway. It just angers me when my worth is judged on the same criteria. I dislike that it's gotten to the point that this binary system has become ingrained into peoples' psyche.

Until we get rid of all the double standards, there will always be things such as sexism, racism, and the sort. I would just get over it, because nobody really cares, and nobody should, because if we didn't care or pay attention to it, it would go away. Also, there will always be people who see themselves as better than another human being, like a white supremacist or an abusive husband/wife. Christianity solves all of these problems, but nobody wants to listen anymore.

I agree, and yet I disagree. Of course, neither gender is better or worse, because without the other one, we simply would not be. But, from the way we are built physically and mentally, most of the time, its to do different things. I read an article once about this kinda thing. If I find it, ill post it.

maybe your just on the rag, or have a little too much sand in your vagina, have you gone to the beach recently? do you get what I'm doing? I'm making fun of you AND women at the same time by saying that you are one and that they are overly emotional :3

Dude i fucking hate sexism this dude in my sceince class kept being really racist to the girl i love and i told him to shut up he just swore at me and kept on calling her [censored] names so i told him to stop he did not so i GOT UP AND BEAT 7 SHADES OF TURD OUT OF HIM !!!!!!!! HE NEVER SAID ANYTHING AGAIN :D and i did not get in trouble for it :D
Ye sexist dudes should be castrated !

HAHAHAHAHAHHA Wowww, so pointless and stupid. -_-

Your absoluteness is faulty.