I don't know how to let people get close to me. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-know-how-to-let-people-get-close-to-me-30413/ seeing a professional psychologist will really help you to separate feelings from ur childhood and feelins towards ur potential lover. and the more time u spend with him and the more relaxed u feel around him the more you will open up. and may be a good idea to let him know about wot ur going through so he can help u =) http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-know-how-to-let-people-get-close-to-me-30413/#comment-320078 2009-10-30 22:52:17 I think it's normal. I have the same problem. I married a woman, loved her with all I had but she was poison to me. She became my worst enemy and the legal system helped her to victimize me further. Now i am afraid to marry my gf who loves me alot. I don't believe any words of love, since actions speak louder. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-know-how-to-let-people-get-close-to-me-30413/#comment-309451 2009-09-07 17:32:43 I think this is normal. Everyone needs trust to develop in a relationship to get close. So take your time and trust yourself as well. Having been victimized before you may be more guarded in some ways, even though you have largely dealt with it. That is very understandable. If you are not sure where this brick wall of emotions is coming from, consider talking with a pastor or counsellor. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-know-how-to-let-people-get-close-to-me-30413/#comment-297653 2009-06-30 08:44:02