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I don't know if I actually have real friends or not..
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I've always felt like I don't have any real friends, but lately its gotten worse. It seems that all of my friends ignore me and are getting closer with each other and farther away from me. Sometimes it feels like we're getting closer, but it's really rare. And what's worse, my two best friends (i'll call them Mara and Claire) just started dating, so I feel even more excluded. They tell me to go away because they need private time, though they're usually kidding, it still hurts. And Mara is getting really close to our other friend (i'll call her Kori) and Kori is trying to wedge me out it seems. She's now saying that she's Mara's other half when that was me and Mara's thing.. It just seems like no one really cares enough to be a real friend to me, like those I know other people have.

Is it normal to feel this way?

Sorry if I rambled a little, I just don't know how else to say it.
Do you think it's normal?
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ToBeLoved (8939)
2009-04-27 15:11:47
I feel the same, but that is because I don't know how you really define what a 'friend' is.

Sure, I know lots of people from when I used to go to school. I'd say hi to them if I saw them again but I would never make an effort to go see them. Do they count as friends, or just acquaintances?

The people who I did used to make an effort for have now all moved away. But...they still seem to see each other a lot, but none of them contact me...

So, I can kind of see where you coming from with the 'been pushed out whilst their getting closer' feeling.

If I was to count the number of people I personally class as a 'friend', I could do it using one finger. Although I only see them every few weeks...

In short: I think it's normal, because you're not the only one.. :(
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chiefrocka (23258)
2009-05-20 21:06:56
@: ToBeLoved
I do understand how you feel too. In my situation though deep down inside I a know that I am better off with different friends. I mean don't get me wrong, they are wonderful people for where they are in their life. I just need some friends for where I am at in mine. - - Somewhere in there I am saying to you (and myself), "Don't feel needy". Maybe it is best that they go one way and you another. Change is not always fun but worth the experience.
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bookworm006 (23351)
2009-05-24 10:26:13
Are you in a situation where you cant leave the area you are in? If not MOVE! I mean a big move! My brother (25) used to live in the extremely western part of Montana and when he lived with us he had no "real" friends so instead he moved to Minnesota. Now he has 2 of the best friends! I think you should move and go back to college or something.
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karlastar (23742)
2009-06-01 15:51:26
I feel the same way. Just that my friends aren't dating. They just keep bringing people over to where we hang out, making it seem that it's their hanging out place and that we're just there for decorations.
Honestly, you'll only find one true friend in life. Besides your mom that is. Don't sweat it, try to enjoy life. Although it sounds cheesy, by not stressing over social problems, you'll feel more relieved. Try to find friends who value you, for who you are. :)
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