I don't like my family! http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/ i know how you feel im living a similar life to all of you who commented. im also the eldest and my dad also left, im not blamed for it but i hate it that my mom keeps telling me that he abandon us, i mean it hurts that he left so i dont want to be constantly reminded. i cant stand living with my family, i feel ignored and forgotten, so i hate coming home, i try to stay out as much as i can and come home late. i barely talked to my family and thats because they are rarely there, the all leave and im left alone at home, and my siblings are all younger than me. i mean usually it would be the oldest thats always out but in my case its all switched-my siblings in middle school n high school are out and im at home. -i go to college, so as much as i wish to leave and hang out with my friends, it doesnt always happen. i rarely see most of my friends-were scatter around, different colleges. :/ http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-323176 2009-11-14 13:07:32 As sad as it is your situation, it is normal. Every family got problems, some more some less but every family has issues... Im the eldest in my family and I have always been the black sheep everything was blamed on me. when my dad left the house my mom and bro blamed it on me.. it was very difficult and can u beleive it i still live with them... sometimes i come home and they are there but its as if im bymyself no1 talks to me because they each got their own reasons... I hate it but what u want its life... ur not alone just know that!! http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-321319 2009-11-05 17:10:43 COMPLETELY NORMAL, Let me guess, you are becoming independent, thinking differently and they don't approve, well fuck that, let them know that you are the man and they are the woman. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-310635 2009-09-13 16:11:35 This is normal in some famlies. I moved out at 16 and became an emancipated adult. Made my mom hate me even more. She admittted on her death bed she ignored me and she felt my sister beating me up all the time was normal. NOT!! I kept my head in the books, worked and back then it was safe to ride your bike at night and I did everything I could to avoid being home more than I had 2. I am glad as I turned ok. Being around all the chaos would have screwed me up. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-307589 2009-08-28 19:07:50 I think that is sad. I like that you are developing relationships outside your home. Good on you. Make other friends too. Having a life of your own makes coping with a difficult family manageable. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-298741 2009-07-06 17:24:47 Okay so I know a lot of people look at the physical side of a person, especially when you're young. But a lot of people go through that. A lot of kids wish they could either change something about themselves, or people would look at them differently. Do you want to change' Do you want to try to change your look' I might be able to give you some ideas.....if not, stay who you are. There isn't anything wrong with being yourself. So the guy ignores you whenever he comes to your mom's store' What a little butthead. lol....I was gonna say to slip him your email address, but if he's going to ignore you whenever he's with his buddies, you shouldn't waste your time with him. He will only hurt you in the long run.....you never told me how old you were. So.....how old are you' And if you don't want to answer that, just tell me this, are you in highschool or middle school' I had braces all through highschool and I hated it, but eventually learned to get over it...they weren't too bad. I didn't really go for all those wild colored bands like some people do. That's screaming, "Look at my teeth!" Or so I felt. Glasses, are they cute' Or do you wear those big bifocals' Glasses can actually add to your look, if you're wearing the right kind. If they take over your face, you prob won't get the look you were going for. There are a lot of different styles out there that are both sophisticated and sexy. Maybe you should check that out online. But stay sophisticated for your age!!! So you have frizzy, wavy hair' Mine is curly/wavy and forever frizzy. I used to wear it like that all the time in school. If I knew then what I know now I might have felt better about my hair. I straighten it now. I wash it, and make sure you use a good shampoo...don't use anything that says frizz control cuz it will make your hair really oily after awhile. I just don't like it for my hair.... So I wash it, I leave it to air dry for an hour or so...unless I wear it wet to bed, then I blow dry it, and I brush it out while I'm blow drying...then I straighten it. I do the bottom layer of my hair first and work my way up to the top. That's another thing, you should ask your hairstylist what style would look good for your face shape. I keep mine long with short layers, sometimes long.... After I straighten it, I curl the ends with a thick barreled curling iron....and my hair stays like that for 2 days. On the second day I might do some touchups, but it still has curl. I know it seems like a lot, but it doesn't take too long. And it makes my hair feel soft and look very healthy. Just some ideas for you....Oh and for the acne...what do you use for your face' Noxema is good if you don't want to spend the money for proactiv....and try drinking more water...for some reason it can make a pimple magically disappear if you drink enough of it. Let me know what you think. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-297949 2009-07-02 08:01:59 and the thing about being pretty, try having glasses, braces, frizzy, wavey hair AND bad acne. ive got no chance at school. i bet even the band geeks wont take me. AND IM ONE OF THEM!! but since i posted awile ago, i have met this guy in my class that i get along great with, we both have the same warped sence of humer. we sit next to each other in almost every class, but now its summer and i dont get to see him except if he comes in to moms store and gets a shake with his friends and completly ignoors me. and i wait on them. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-297875 2009-07-01 21:22:53 Yeah I think about that sometimes. I love him, I truly do. And I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I do try to remind myself that things could change. I don't really like to think about that.....but sh*t happens. Luckily he is my bestfriend....so I have him in my corner...and I'm really close with his family. We already talked about the future in a sense that if he and I didn't work out, we'd all keep in touch. Because with them I have at least 3 new sisters, 2 brothers, a new cousin, and a wonderful mother......I love his mom. I know I treat her better than my own, but she is actually there for me and it makes a difference. My family isn't into drugs.......but they are into alcohol. Someone is drinking everyday...I'm not big on alcohol. I do that once or twice a year thing, and then I sometimes even overdo it then. And that's not good, because I tend to wait until I get frustrated enough to let out all the things I've been holding in.... http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-297744 2009-06-30 21:13:19 It really bugs me what goes on in my family. I used to be so close to my dad, but I don't know how I feel anymore. I'm truly hurt, I can definitely say that. He sided with my mother....never happened before until now. I didn't spend his birthday or Father's Day with him because of my mom and my brother. And when I told my mom that any other parent would tell my brother to deal with it, she told me I was wrong, that she was doing the right thing. My dad doesn't care to talk about it, and when I try to bring it up, it's like he doesn't hear anything I have to say. Same with my mom. So I kinda gave up. They always ask when I'm coming over, and really I just say whenever. Because they are on my schedule now. I'm trying to get stronger. I dread the holidays because I know it will be about me scheduling my time around my brother.....like he is someone special...makes me quite irritated. Luckily my tearful emotional outburst have slowed down. I just don't have anyone in my family I can talk to.....except my half sister. We just don't talk everyday though.....Oh and you know what else helps''' My boyfriend and I are finally going to move in together officially into our own house so now I can get out of there....and take my dog!! She always threatens me.....come and get your dog and get the heck out. Yep.......she meaning my mom http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-297742 2009-06-30 21:08:05 You know something' You sound like you have a really big heart. And if these people who start out as your friend, but then stab you in the back choose to leave, then let them!! Say goodbye because it's obvious you don't need them. You may not think that sewing is a talent, but it is! I can't sew for crap. lol. My mom can though....she makes quilts and curtains, and many other things that always work out to be great presents. So if you have that talent, maybe you should look at it in another point of view. Are you interested in fashion' If you can sew, then you obviously can create, so what about looking at having a wonderful lavish life as a fashion designer' I know it doesn't happen right away, you have many years to practice, but it's something to think about. As far as not being the prettiest, I'm sure that's just your opinion. Looks aren't everything. I was always the fat girl in my group and I got ignored by quite a few people, but I survived....how old are you' http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-297741 2009-06-30 21:02:15 Ok darlin' your family seems really fucked up. Your sisters and brother are not going to do shit with their lives. You seem pretty level headed. You can do something with yourself. My family is really bad at times too. A lot of drugs and drinking on my dad%u2019s side and a lot of fussing on my mom%u2019s but you just need to hang in there and be strong. I now it%u2019s hard. About your boyfriend if he is good to you then that is great. But be careful and don%u2019t put your whole life into one person. Your life needs to revolve around you because if something would happen with you two, like so many couples, you don%u2019t need to feel like you have lost everything and possibly hurt yourself. Remember you are number one. I really hope things work out for you. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-296603 2009-06-23 08:15:39 wow, down to a T , u ave described my living situation except for a few minor tweeks to the story...i live an breath the same hurt. sorry ur in that boat...ive learned to stay away from my siblings and dad i only have my mom, fortunate for that.. but only advice to u treat urself good get ur own place an surround urself with new family an friends... it will never fill that void but trust me it does the job. And come to ACCEPT they r who they r.... an will never change so lookk forward and not to past to give 2nd or 3rd chances or bennefit of the doubts either just do you. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-295722 2009-06-17 22:45:19 thanks, but i dont think you would want me as a freind, nobody else does. i dont have anything im great at, i can sew and people at my mom's store think its great, but i dont think so, ive seen people my age do WAY better than i can do ANYTHING with. i used to have freinds, but every time i would get close to someone, they would stab me in the back, and join the people that hate me, i dont even know why. and what sucks worst of all is that just today i hit a bump and i fell off my bike, now i have a HUGE lump. but coming back to the socail issue, im not the prettyist girl, there are WAY better looking ones at the school, but its the inside right' but nobody cares about that so im pretty much screwed. i dont really talk to anyone, i dont want to give them a reason to hate me, i still cant figure that part out. but i wish that i had at least one freind http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-295629 2009-06-17 15:11:23 I know this may not matter, but he is the first real boyfriend I ever had. I've been mixed with the wrong type of guys that treated me like I was less than dirt. Add them up against my family and no wonder I've always been depressed. After the last guy........well I thought I really cared about him, I thought we were actually starting something real and when I asked him if he was ready to take it further he said huh' I have a girlfriend....I was a bit shocked. Nowhere in the months we had been seeing each other had he mentioned a girlfriend. Either way, things got worse but I won't go into that. I actually prayed about it. I'm not an athiest, but with my family the way they are and they way they've never changed, I just didn't see praying as an answer. But I asked God for him. My boyfriend now. I said if you send me a good guy, I will stick it out....b/c I'm used to the bad ones. And I was sent him, and we just celebrated our 3 year anniversary last week. But I will say this, I'd be completely lost and maybe worse off than I can imagine if I didn't have him. Don't think that you have nothing. There has to be something you enjoy doing, or are great at. Focus on those things. Focus on making yourself a better person. I'm always here if you want to email me. It's nice having someone know what I'm going through. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-295461 2009-06-16 11:09:31 OH MY GOD!!! IM THE SAME WAY!!!! EXCEPT I HAVE NO BOYFREIND, NO LIFE, AND PROBLY NO FUTURE. http://isitnormal.com/story/i-don-t-like-my-family-29860/#comment-295370 2009-06-15 16:33:22