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I don't care about other people
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Really, I don't care about anyone at all. I am very happy and appreciative of my upper-middle class family who keeps paying me money every month etc but I really don't care about them or any of my friends. I can act as if I care but in all honesty, if any one of them died today, I won't get affected (apart from that my monthly expenses might get affected which might make me unhappy!)

I am 23 yrs of age and I have never cried over any other person. I only care about myself and being as happy as possible.

What confuses me is that most of the other people seem genuinely concerned about others but I really do not give a f**k. Are they better at faking than me?

Cheers!

P.S. - No one thinks I am "weird", just a little self-involved, so I think I pass off quite well...
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I'm basically the same, despite having been brought up in a poor family.
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Most people here are missing the point or are being downright dishonest. Apart from Mother Teresa & the Dalai Lama, perhaps, everyone else on the planet is motivated by self-interest although this plays out differently. People give to charity, such as Cancer Relief, not because they're philanthropic but because it's insurance for the future. People like having partners and friends because they validate self worth and give assurance. Think about it. How many people makes self sacrifices for others benefit? There've been many social experiments to see how many people go to the aid of someone being assaulted or who'll help a 'lost' child. The shocking reality is that very few people do. Most look away and walk on by pretending not to notice. That is fact.
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Mother Theresa is the Devil. Her Missionaries of Charity is basically the last stop before death comes crawling. Money goes to waste and they don't treat shit.
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@: Zone
You right
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I identify to a large extent with the original poster. That said, I would and DO often cry when I see suffering (for example, in videos that show suffering, or in videos of US service members being reunited with family, animals that have been rescued, etc. to this extent, I feel very deeply. I also would go out of my way to help someone I know), and would try my best to help a stranger in obvious need.

But I don't THINK about people, in general. That's not to say that I actually think about MYSELF, either. I just don't ruminate on anyone's lives or struggles, other than the immediate and obvious needs of myself (can I pay my rent? food? car? etc).

I like my friends (the few I have) and would do what i could for them, if they were in need. but i can go weeks or months, and in some cases, years, without talking to or thinking about them. when i DO see / hear from them, i pick up right where i left off, with the obvious exception that i feel awkward that so much time has passed. i feel the absence of connection more than the loss of that connection itself.

is THAT normal?
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Are they faking? Or are you?

Some people are capable of faking emotions and believe me, some are good at faking emotionless. So try to ask yourself if you are trying to fake to yourself.

So you might have a personality disorder >.>
But as seeing that you realize yourself and are bothered enough to ask it here . . . it's a pass. Afterall , people are selfish by birth. You are kinda-normal. You just need time and someone to show you lots and lots of love.
Happy learning love =) [i can't believe i said it o.o!]
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You should think about caring about other people. Just think, if nobody cared about you, then you would have to get off your lazy ass and make your own money instead of people giving it to you.
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You sound like a sociopath (look it up)
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Perhaps it's just that you haven't had the right experiences yet to trigger the feeling of caring about, loving, or missing other people. "Good" and "Bad" are man-made ideas that rely on one another to exist. If you haven't had enough bad experiences - such as losing a loved one, being abandoned, etc - then perhaps that's why you don't feel the good feelings about what you already have.

Be careful what you wish for, 'cuz you just might get it. My advice would be to find reasons to be thankful, - truly and honestly thankful. That may help kick-start your karma so that you don't lose what you've got.
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I signed up mainly to say I feel the same exact way as the OP. I have a fairly different situation as I work for a living and probably older (mid-twentys). I am probably one of the most outgoing people you would ever meet in person.

I love my mother dearly (never met my father) so I can probably say she is the only person I truly "care" about in my life.

All others, just a guise really. In the end of the day, I really don't "care" about anyone else. Sure people grow on me, but for how long? Not long after I don't have to see you anymore.

I truly enjoy being alone, there is nothing better to me than being able to be alone with my thoughts.

I understand the terror and horror in this world, and I am grateful I live in a country where I am essentially free, but I don't care about the lives of those people. Its not like im happy when there is a disaster, but I am not sad when things like this happen. That's life for you.

In my honest opinion, there are way too many people on this world now, if there was a plague that wiped out 60-70%% of the population the human race would be better off for a thousand years or so. Regardless if I was in that 60-70%%.

Now, the next time someone says have a nice day while getting off the elevator, think to yourself, would this person feel anything if the cable snapped and you fell to your death. Probably not, other than glad it wasn't me ;-)

BTW, I am in my opinion one of the happiest people I have ever met because I don't carry the burden of other peoples worries/cares/sadness/or hopes. I am in this game for myself til' the end!
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I'm the same way. Furthermore, I just don't like most people that I meet.
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Wow, you sound like my domestic partner's daughter. Out for yourself and use everyone around you. At least you're honest about being a useless bloodsucker who expects everything in return for nothing from you. I'll give you credit for that. It's just unfortunate that you'll probably breed, contributing further to global overpopulation and parasite redundancy.
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amen.
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Im the same way, except for two things... I have 3 kids and 6 grand kids that I absolutely adore. I would die without them and I would happily kill for them.

And... I allow no one to do anything for me that I didn't work for or earn in some manner.....

But as far as CARING about someone... Its rare that someone outside of my kids affects me in any way. Tho older homeless people makes me want to help...

For me i think its a disdain, a contempt, that I have for lack of integrity, lack of personal responsibility, or the NEED people have now to judge others and feel its all about them. I have no faith in people. Im the first to stop for someone on the side of the road and see if i can help, but that's just my self respect.... Knowing that everyone else is whizzing by.... What the hell is wrong with people?
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Wow. Your entry just helped me a lot. I have been struggling with this recently and I just couldn't understand myself. I personally have learned that it stems from unforgiveness that I am really working hard on. But, when I read your entry, it made me care about you. Wow. I didn't think I had the capacity to really be concerned or care about anyone until I saw that someone else was going through the same thing....thanks.
I think those that are criticizing you need to work on their own compassion. Doesn't seem like they care much about what you are struggling with...huh?
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Very NOT normal. You could have narcissistic personality disorder, or schizoid personality disorder.
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You are normal. If you are happy the way you are then thats okay. The reverse of your situation are all those stupid people who give their lives to others, the martyrs who are being used and abused. You will feel that your relationships with others is shallow and worthless, and others may react with similar treatement to yourself, this in turn impacting on your self image. As longs as you are okay with this, then the world is yours to take.
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lonely lonely lonely
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ya little git
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You asked is your attitude normal...not if it was natural. In my experience, your 'I don't care' attitude is becoming the new normal in the 21st century. More and more it seems people are becoming desensitized and don't care about anyone but themselves. Now if you had asked, 'is this natural?' My reply would be no it's not. The reason being even animals care. Animals love. Love and caring comes natural to animals. The difference between us and them is we have a developed intellect with which we can discriminate and choose. Their intellects are not developed so they move with their heart, with their feelings, instinct and senses. Something else I've noticed is people who don't care develop physical heart problems as they go through life. Their blood circulation is not so good since there is a constriction in the heart. Something to think about...
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I DON THINK THIS IS FAKE. really, it sounds like SPD - Schizoid Personality Disorder. it occurs in less than 1%% of the population. but these people avoid social relationships and/or do not care about them. People to them mean nothing. if you associate yourself with someone it's most likely because you're getting something out of it.

this is not schizophrenia nor is it like it. but yeah. im just a psych student who likes to hear about this kind of shit. hope this answers you and you read this.
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@: enabled
I'm a psych student as well. I'm also the daughter of a psychologist and I completely agree.
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youre going to be sad and alone for the rest of your life
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No sadly an ass like this is going to end up with some other lowly type and due to their cutthroat manner probably prosper and make little babies just like them. These peopl have and will always exist. They lead most countries and companies. And while they have all they need and are in all viable means happy. They dunno what real happiness is. This is attributed to the fact that they cannot have any real connection with anyone. They experience the joys of this digimaterial age. Which are comparatively shallow and meaningless joys. Revile in their precious stuff. STUFFFFFFF!
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Honestly, everyone likes to think that everyone likes each other and is nice, but the truth is, no one gives a sh*t. I'm a very loving person, but I'm practical. If a little girl was being chased by a pedophile (sp?) in a busy street with her screaming for help, no one would pay attention (that's why when I was a kid I was always taught to scream "FIRE!").

Not caring about people is who you are, and although it's not a good thing, you can't change it. Maybe one day you'll meet someone you love and start feeling for people, but whatdaya gunna do?

Piece of advice, many people are doing to think your just a rich bastard, so you might want to make an effort to find a way to be nice. Find your passion i helping people!

~Hekate
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To that end about being outgoing, that is the guise. I find being an outstanding and outgoing person when in public places/at work opens doors for me.

Also, obviously I am not religious, and find that to be a waste of time.
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being normal is not always the best for you.
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Yeah...you're a sociopath. It's ok...doesn't mean you'll do horrible things but you won't sympathize with other either. For all of you that think this is survival of the fittest....YOU ARE WRONG. We are social animals and we are wired to feel for others so that we can relax and be assured they feel the same for us. We're mean to survive as a species...in social groups...not alone. If everyone felt (or didn't feel) like this person, the species (and every individual) wouldn't survive. Just like lions and other social animals, they form bonds and FEEL what the others are feeling so they can be much stronger as a group than as a bunch of individuals.
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You're better off then others really. You clearly know what you enjoy and have the decency to logically examine your role in your society. As long as you don't harm anyone and you can still enjoy your life hell! you are set to go.
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It seems to be a common thing with money, I too am from upper-middle class and can be incredibly manipulative. Luckily, or maybe unluckily, my parents split and I'm on my own, sans money, so I've learned to care about people.
I babysit a girl who's father has money, and she is the same, even at such a young age.
You're normal.
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Your a self centered person,and I suppose when you finally DO care about someone your bad karma may come back to haunt you and they won't CARE about how YOU feel.Doesn't seem to be to cool hugh?No one else matters? Then your life is pointless,vain and outright not worth even this comment IMO.God bless you to make you a BETTER person.That STUFF won't go with you when you die.Seems your a troll.I hope so.
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wow, you suck as a human being.
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Oh my god...we're the same -__-", I don't really care about if anyone died too...unless if they benefit me in any way that is...but never cried too...
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You seem to have a very odd sence of emotion, my mother tends to avoid being sympathetic, but she still cares. I think what you need to do is sit back, think of one person, and think of the good times you and they have had together. Think really, wouldn't it be depressing that you lost everyone around you, and you had no one just to talk to? You may not see things this way, but I belive many people do.
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Congratulations, you have just won douche bag of the year award. Most psycologist consider you a psycopath. Unfortunately, i know that either something you don't remember happened to you to make you so un-empathetic. You are too young to know but life has a funny way of teaching you a lesson. I'm not a bible beater and do not believe in God. But you are in for a big surprise, you are either a really sad human or a serial killer, when your brain is depleted of an emotion like empathy, sadness or the feelings needed to cope with society, a job will be impossible to keep, a family will eventually see through you and you will end up either homeless or killing someone for financial gain. get a grip or I might be watching you on Dateline either picking up young girls or on an episode of a murder mystery. Either way, you future looks dim.
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@: stingr
Well, at least you're the biggest asshole in the world and good luck coping with that.

Psychopaths really don't have horrible lives. They actually always find things to do to enjoy themselves in life. They're normally very social and see a challenge in everything in life. The world is their playground, and they always see themselves as better than others.

Some of them become obsessed by violence and horrible things, but others find joy in smaller things. The feeling of getting control and manage to achieve things are mainly what they urge for. They don't care much about others, but that counts for most people in today's society. We're all assholes.
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@: stingr
Wow, you're a sad and pathetic person. I wonder if you have ever taken a moment to actually look w/in yourself!? If so, you would probably find that you were simply addressing your own statement to yourself! Ouch.
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You are normal infact i think you are the start of our evolution
people do not care about people
"its all about me"
my land my money my power fuck every1 elce is what i get from most people
no1 recycles no1 stops to help people
if some1 goes into a restorant an makes a mess they leave it for some1 elce, people spend there time praying instead of doing.
people are lazy an selfish,
there is a backstabbing jean that sevives because all the caring people have been
killed over time.
The real question you sould be asking is...
"do i want my kids to be like this or treated by others like this."

if not, then only you can do somthing about it m8.
try caring about people you dont know or showing people you love them, not with words or money, but with actions.

eg if a homless person was on the street. dont walk past or give him/her money stop speak to them put up with the smell ask them if they want something to eat get them food chat with them find out how this has happend an work out what can be done to stop this, an most importanty do somthing about it even if it means somthing simple like increasing others awarness of this.

its true you know we realy do make the paths for our children to follow

just remeber if you tell them they wont listen or learn.
if you show them, then maybe some will learn.
but if you involve them, then not only will they learn, they will teach
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i think people like you are put on earth in order to make comparisons to good people. I mean... what good is good when there is no bad
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it kinda actually bothers me because seems that people care about each other so much, yet i don't. hmm
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you will learn the hard way green horn life just does not work that way you can't check out for ever I know your scared to care because your afraid of being hurt but if you keep going down this road your on something bad will happen to you life will smash you 'you will understand and won't forget my words I promise you cause I know what I'm talking a bout I'm older then you and lived longer and I'm gifted I would take the next exit off this highway your on trust me your still young you got this idea from someone or something you read burn it fast or you will be so sorry I say this only to help you you won't hear from me a gain I'm only a messenger I came to this page for some reason do what you will but you were warned find another way to acted cool posting this type message will spread bad karma to you and those you love its your choice

good luck
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i kinda am like this except i just dnt feel for anything, yes i could be with someone but ive never loved them and never got into an actual relationship with them ive never had a bf/gf and yes i do like intimacy. i feel like my life and everything around me is pointless and just want to die. you may find me ungrateful but i cant help it. ive had my nan die and my best friend die and didnt feel a thing i didnt care and i still dont. im not all lonely and everything because im probably the most weirdest kid u will ever know if you met me in person as i do have a lot of fun but :/ i just dnt feel, i havent cried in years and years not even out of pain :(
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no. try to meditate over compassion.
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well aftr 2 years is it worth bothering, probably a piece written to "stir it up" there's a lot of it about. Ignore it. It takes practice but it's worth it in the end.
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i have a question thuogh..how can you be happy without spending ur time with people u really care about ..at laest for a little bit?
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Sounds like you are depressingly average. These days most people are self centered, entitled, border-line sociopaths. That's why they write stories, make movies and celebrate people who care and even call these people heroes. Because most people are like you and are basically bores. Perhaps you will mature into something better than you are now?
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Im almost the same as op, but its nice to care for friends and your loved ones. Especially if you love another person, you will become less selfish and want to care. Things will change for the better. But for those that says op has a disorder or what not, its all bs. Everyone thinks differently from different backgrounds, views and opinions, you can't just base it off whatever disorder test just because their behavior does not match that of the so called 'norm'. You are who you are
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I hear all the posts in here, and I identify. I feel that I only act in my own self-interest as well, and that is the problem. I say it is a problem because when I look around, I see people every single day acting in the interests of others, be it friends, family, co-workers, etc. If you are a Harry Potter fan, the main message of the series was loyalty to friends and putting them before yourself. I believe that is a valid point. If you do not think so, then ask yourself about the movies "Troy" and "Braveheart". Could you rush into battle like that knowing that you will most certainly die painfully, and for a cause that you will not be around to witness the fruition of? I didn't think so. Neither could I. And yet, they somehow did it for family and country. Someone please explain to me how their bravery can be reduced to "self-interest" (If you are dead, then you are not around to soak in the praises for bravery).
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Keep it up! Cheers!
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I care because I need them. So essentially, I care only to make them stay in my life. I'm just a needy person, I need the people in my life right now. Do I actually care about them, like would I take a bullet for them? Probably not, but would I pull them out of the street if a car came? Yeah definitely. I don't I guess I'm not sure what I would do, I definitely don't feel the need to protect my loved ones. I actually feel a need to be protected. So I'm just needy. I don't care about very many people though, it would take awhile to get me to care. I am usually very interested in people, but do I care? No, not for everyone.

My mom whom I love very much, I think I take for granted. I unleash my anger at her, because I know she will be always be there no matter what. But I don't want to hurt her, it's not my intention to hurt her. It's just that I am very self centered, self focused. I am the most important person in my life.

I would say if anything, my behavior is a little more narcissistic than normal, but even then I am aware of it and can admit to a lot of people actually. I'm not proud of being selfish all the time, but at the same time, you gotta watch your own ass, or else people will just step all over it.
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If you care enough to post this question in the public space then you still have hope.
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I can relate, tonight i googled " i dont care about anybody" and this is what i found, I am relieved to see i'm not alone, I turn on anyone who doesnt do what I want, when I want, my mother refused to cosign an auto loan for me today and I told her never to contact me again, Who does that?? That cant be normal.
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I feel the same way, I have emotions, but I'm narcissistic to the point of sociopathy. If my friend were to die, I would be annoyed that I don't get to talk to them any more and I have one less friend, I wouldn't really care that a person had died. I've learnt to pretend by working at a supermarket, but I evaluate situations as how they affect me.
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I do not understand this way of viewing life. I think I am an emotional person and my heart tends to feel things too intensely so I really cannot understand why you feel nothing. When I see others suffering and grieving I also get sad and I cannot help but care. I guess this is called mercy and compassion. Does this make me a weak person, NOT AT ALL. I feel the fact that someone can feel things genuinely is a strength and means you have the guts to make a difference in the world. Life is not about making money, or having a lot of sex or being the most popular…Life is about having meaning and purpose, and if you are able to help others and give them happiness than you will feel much more complete. At the end of the day if you continue living your life deprived of genuine human concern, you will slowly develop a void in your life. All I am saying is life needs meaning and life cannot have meaning if we do not consider other people in our perception.
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You should read about Objectivism. I wish I could reach your state of not giving a damn about others. Well, to some extent I don't care. But caring what they think is hard to shake. I think you have just never known anyone worth anything to you selfishly. If you knew someone that you utterly loved being around and they were irreplaceable in your life, then you would feel sad if they died because you liked them selfishly. I don't think it's normal, but the world is not sane. People care too much about others, what they think of them, what they think, what they do, what they are doing, what they will do, how they are, how they will be, whether they are happy, whether they are poor. Life is about living it and being happy. You might have a problem, but I think you might be one of the only sane people in the world left.
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You don't have to be like others. As long as you are self-content and don't bother others that much, then it's not a big deal, even if this really bothers some people. Whatever~ Probably they are just people who hold the value "only being the same means being right" and like imposing it on others...
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georgito619
get over urself and get to kno ur family and get out there and live ur damn life before its too late
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yah men i know what you mean! its like all you care about is yourself. i mean like friends are important but its just you men, am i getting what you mean? maybe someone who thinks the same like i do will capture my interest. hmm.
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I'm the same like you. I only care about myself, and not the others. But i don't think it's SPD, i think it's evolution. Survival of the fittest. Caring only for myself I insure my survival.
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