So, my best friend and I never, ever fight. But it's only because I'm so dominant and she is insanely belittled by me all the time. She's also very sensitive which gets on my nerves a lot. I just can't stand her most of the time so I try to avoid her. But I just don't know what to do.
So, is it normal to not want to be friends with someone I was just best friends with about two weeks ago?
So, is it normal to not want to be friends with someone I was just best friends with about two weeks ago?
And second thing after reading all your replies i think not everyone could be wrong in understanding the way you described. Your friend is sweet and kind and cute but the way you described it made everybody think that you are dominant which you are not i suppose and would just like to say appreciate her for who she is (if you don't know how it feels when someone ignores you for what you are), understand her as you already know every human is different. Communicate more share your lives it will be fun for both to exchange your worlds.
Thank you and everyone in here were and are here to help you out but just describe exactly what is on your mind if people misunderstand being aggressive won't take you anywhere.
And say hello to your friend on my behalf i think we don't have much people like her left on this planet atleast.
If only closed minds came with closed mouths
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No one should be friends with someone they can't stand and wants to talk shit behind their back like this. Now if you're worried about her I understand why you want to talk about this but you don't seem to be at all.
She needs to find someone better.
You guys all pretty much suck at this.
Just talk to her thats the grown up thing to do. If she still continues it tell her that you don't want to be friends with her anymore if she doesn't change that because it hurts you. It ridiculous to avoid someone and not talk about it. If she cares about you that much she'll change that and if you care about her that much you say something about it.
Plus don't say your not sensitive because this obviously hurts you, nothing wrong with that. just say something, you don't deserve a friend like that if she doesn't do anything about it and she doesn't deserve you if you don't explain whats going on.
everything's settle.
thanks, bye
Sorry if it sounds mean, though, but if you are in a position of relative power, use it responsibly. Otherwise you're just lame.
Gosh, I wish you guys would be more open minded.
I don't think people are judging you specifically, it's just that the information we got (i.e. the way you typed it, the words you used) made it *seem* like you were intentionally and quite unashamedly belittling her. Communication online is difficult sometimes, and is most likely to blame here.
If what you say is the case... the more irritated you get when you unintentionally offend or belittle her, the more she is going to feel awful - because if she truly is sensitive, and a good friend, she probably hates making you feel unhappy. I used to be very similar. I would suggest subtly trying to build her up and project a positive mood and energy around her, and see if this changes her behaviors. It may be that if she believes she is making you happy (based on how you act) that she will change what she's doing and genuinely start making you happy again.
Negativity snowballs, getting bigger and building up when it bounces back and forth between two people. So does positivity. Start putting that kind of energy into your interaction with her just to see what it does, like a little test-run :)
thank you a lot.
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