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i feel guilty for drugging my bf
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ok, so my bf tends to get depressed a lot. i love him dearly and have been drugging the smoothies i have been making (for both him and me). it's nothing horrible, just some flax seed oil and st. john's wort, but i feel kind of guilty, because he hates pills and refuses to take them if i hand them to him (i think it's mostly out of his negative self-image and the fact that he doesn't like himself very much. he never does anything that he knows is going to be good for him).

his mood is way better since i've been doing this though. he's really happy and not snapping at the roommates. it's not like these things make you high, they just make you slightly less pissy/depressed.

should i feel guilty and is there anyone else out there doing the same thing?
Do you think it's normal?
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Comments (15)
Um, there is probably nobody else doing this. But I think that you should probably tell him and if he gets mad just say you are really sorry.
The stuff you are putting in his food is not changing his mood. It's all a psycho-somatic delusion on your part.
my brother gets really depress thoughts of suicide i cant stand his pain so i started getting anti depressants and giving them to him with out his consent i started feeling so bad even tho they were helping i eventually told him and told him why and he agreed to go see someone for his problems just try talking to him about it
you have two problems now,

A. your BF needs to talk to someone.
B. you have a communication problem with your BF
The stuff you're putting in his food is not psychoactive in any meaningful way- If you were tipping him tabs of oxycontin or putting weed in his butter, or PCP in his weed, then it would be reprehensible.
just be aware of the side effects ...
I say stop doing this because if he has a reaction to it or something goes wrong you will be to blame.
Are there any side effects to these drugs? Anyway, if i were you i'd dump his depressed hump and move on.
As long as it is just flax seed oil and st. john's wort do not feel bad. You are helping him and the flax seed oil and st. john's wort is only what any of us might use.
na if it makes him feel better then go for it would you rather have him depressed and mope around?

your a good girlfriend

i'd do the same thing for my girlfriend
if he decides not to take the pills then it is his decision, entirely. you shouldn't be making it for him. quite frankly, you do not have the right. i advise you tell him that you've been putting stuff into his drinks, even if they are harmless.
Turn the tables.... you may somehow be helping him but how would you feel if you found out he was putting ruffies in your midnight snack. It's his body and you have no right to make decisions for him on that matter unless he is trying to hurt himself or has a mental disordar. You need to discuss it with him and def. tell him what you are doing and did. A lie is a lie no matter how small or goodwilled and you shouldn't have that in a relationship that means something to you.
oh and another thing.... I would have more sympothy for you if it was for his own good. But it sounds to me like your drugging your boyfriend to make YOUR life more enjoyable. Maybe he's happy being an asshole.
you cant keep doing this forever. tell him to get help.
they just consider that stuff food anyway