I find that most people, even people who are my supposed friends and buddies, usually don't return calls or text messages. Or sometimes, with new friends, they would but woulds stop in a few weeks or months.
I don't know if I'm rude or inconsiderate in some way, but I really do put inordinate effort to try not to be. I try not to bore people, too.. But I don't know what's wrong.
Everyone in question is in his mid-twenties.
i have friends that do that to me and to be honest, its annoying
but every once in a while its not bad
- How often are you calling them? Every day or maybe once or twice a week?
- How important are your phone calls? Do you routinely call for unimportant things?
I don't call about trivia, I call to ask people out. I don't like idly yacking on the phone. But I don't have many friends, and I need fresh blood among them so to speak. More active, friendly, life of the party people. Lots of my friends are random individuals not a part of any friend GROUP.
My suggestion? start trying to meet people using craigslist or myspace and such. Yeah it's kinda lame but it's a start and you never know who you'll meet.
Good luck to you my friend, I sure hope we're normal.
A lot of the 20-somethings seem to live on Facebook now, and use it as a substitute for real social interaction. With some people, it's the only way I can ever get a response.
I've been tempted to say that I've offended someone or I've been a total douchebag, but I really don't think so... I don't think it's me. A lot of people just seem to want to hole up and hide from the world and be by themselves.
Oh, and for what it's worth, I have NOT had this problem with older folks... not that I have many older friends, but the 40-plus types I know are always reliable about communicating.
Perhaps it comes from watching too much TV... who knows?